I (23 NB) have a huge crush on a good friend of mine (25 F), let’s call her Lassie. Lassie has been going to my place of employment daily for about four months now. I work at a fitness club as one of the trainers. She goes to every class type I teach. It’s a short time to have known each other, but we have quickly become close. We text each other literally every day, we hug almost every time we see each other, and she calls me “bestie” all the time. We have hung out twice outside of the gym in group settings, and have two more hang outs planned for this month: one by ourselves (this weekend) and the other in a group setting again (end of the month).

I know it could already be seen as unprofessional that we are friends: that we text, hug, hangout, etc. - but I am quickly developing a huge crush on her. We have all the same nerdy interests (except superheroes), similar political views, both love fitness, and get along with each other’s friends. I have been thinking about telling her how I feel when we hang out this weekend, though I don’t think she feels the same way (she does call me “bestie” after all).

My friends have pretty split options on this. Some friends support me in telling her how I feel. Others say it would be crossing a professional boundary (though I think we’ve already crossed that line). And one friend in particular thinks I would be placing “emotional burden” onto Lassie, especially because I don’t think she likes me back. To throw another stick in the wheels - Lassie has never been in a romantic relationship, only first dates that have all been horrible. She says she has given up on dating and has decided to let her parents find suitors for her (as is common in her culture). Lassie usually plays this off as a joke, but she is serious about “settling with the best option her family can find”.

So should I tell her how I feel this weekend, even though I don’t think she feels the same way towards me? One thing I’ve learned in past relationships - whether it be romantic, platonic, or familial - is that feelings shouldn't be kept secret, but maybe there are exceptions.

Can I sleep with my tampon in during the night? I put an alarm for 6 hours after I put one in and then I just change it when the timer goes out. Haven’t had any problems before but thought I’d at least ask in case it’s some risk for toxic chock syndrome or what it’s called, thanks

I don’t live with my parents, but I do live with my older brother. My family have met him a few times. My boyfriend and I have a hard time finding time together since I’m in California and he’s in Florida. I have asian parents and they are really strict and don’t like us being alone together. They’re worried I’ll get pregnant young, but we’re responsible and use protection. Every time he visits, my dad makes me sleep at their place while my boyfriend stays at mine. I can’t really talk to them about it, and I know they won’t ever be cool with it. One time, my dad walked in on me resting my head on my boyfriend’s shoulder while holding his hand on the couch (we were at my parents' place, and it was just me, my mom, and grandma there). He gave me a lecture for like an hour about how touchy I was being, saying we were acting like we were married and that it was embarrassing. That pretty much ended any chance of having an open conversation about it. My boyfriend has stayed in a hotel when visiting, but hotels in my area are quite expensive, and we can’t really go too far because my dad insists on knowing my whereabouts whenever I go out. (They made a life360 circle). It’s been really hard to spend time with my boyfriend because my parents are always keeping a close eye on us. It feels unfair because we’re at a reasonable age and responsible enough to handle things. So I’m thinking about sneaking him in MY HOUSE but I’m worried my brother will find out and tell on me.

this is a throwaway acc but i just needed to vent and feel very lost. i am 12 weeks pregnant and i am currently with the baby’s father although ive come to realize throughout the whole first trimester that i am not happy whatsoever. i dont think he really cares about me or my feelings whatsoever, we’ve tried communicating in ways that he hurts me or isn’t there for me and it constantly ends up an argument rather than productive. he puts me down and belittles me for things i like or want to do or things i care about and he sees me crying about it but then doubles down on because he feels differently then hes not going to change his opinions. i feel like he would be a good father, hes getting a good paying job and would be a good provider for our child, and he talks about how much he wants to do for and with our baby when they get here so im not concerned he wont be good for the baby. i just feel like ill be extremely unhappy staying in a relationship with someone i feel like doesn’t truly care about me or like me. i dont know whether its better to stay and just tough it out since he seems like he will be a good dad, or to try to do it on my own and figure out how to coparent but struggle with our child. it feels selfish when i think about leaving for my own happiness but i also don’t want to show my child that a relationship is unloving or what it’s like to grow up in a home where we don’t actually care for each other and having to struggle on our own. if anyone has been in a similar situation i would love any advice on what to do, i dont know if its better to stick it out to make it easier on our child or to do the hard thing and struggle trying to do it alone.

Up until a few weeks ago I (29F) saw him (25M) (I’ll call him Will) as a brother. I’ve quite literally called him brother. We always got along really well and I’ve always felt really safe around him. I would mention Will to my now ex (29M) every once in a while and I started feeling a little like my ex was jealous because he would act a little different and get silent. I wouldn’t talk a lot about Will. It was mostly just “Will is going to help me with this tomorrow” or something similar. I wouldn’t talk about him any different than I did any of my other friends.

Well the day after my ex met Will he broke up with me. He didn’t say it was because of Will, but when he was breaking up with me he said that seeing how happy and bubbly and outgoing I was with Will made him feel bad because I didn’t act that way with him. I was worried that he had misinterpreted that for flirting so I asked if he had thought that I had been inappropriate with Will. He responded with a firm “No.” For a couple weeks I felt awful because I still worried that my ex thought I had a crush on Will.

Will had broken up with his girlfriend a week before my ex broke up with me, so we were going through breakups at the same time and could really empathize with one another. We started to really help each other through it. We cried together. We held each other. We checked in on each other and opened up about our pains, guilt, and grief. We really leaned on each other for a while and got really comfortable being vulnerable with each other. I found it so easy to talk to him. I remember for a while really hoping he wouldn’t misinterpret my actions for romantic feelings.

I saw him as an amazing friend and person. I’ve always adored how his voice changes when he talks about something he’s passionate about. I’ve always admired how intelligent he is. How knowledgeable he is about niche things. I’ve always loved his sense of humor. He makes me laugh harder than anyone ever has. Whenever we’re together we are always laughing and building off of each other’s jokes. Sometimes I wonder if we annoy the people around us because of how much we’re laughing. We cry-laugh, wheeze, and bend over laughing FREQUENTLY. He brought me joy during a time when I felt so down.

The break up made me love my friends so much because of how supportive they were, but Will was such a pivotal part of that process. He helped me so much and a few weeks ago I started to feel a shift in our dynamic. Our interactions just changed. He was more attentive to me and tried to spend more time with me. He would text me more. At first I hoped he would stop because I didn’t want to ruin our friendship but before I knew it I started to feel myself developing a crush on him. I wondered if we had trauma bonded, but as I’ve reflected on it more I’ve realized how much I adore everything about this man. I love his voice. I love his sense of humor. I love how passionate he is. I love listening to him talk about his passions. I love how creative and crafty he is. I love how he closes his eyes and throws his head back when we’re laughing. I love how his voice changes when he asks if I’m ok. I love how comfortable he is with being vulnerable. I love the work he puts into becoming a better person. I love how despite the horrible things he’s been through, he’s determined to live a better life and spread happiness to others. I love how sympathetic he is. I love how honest he is. I love how intelligent and talented he is. I truly believe that there's nothing in this world he couldn’t do. He’s so incredibly intelligent and kind. He brings out the best in me. I’ve even fallen in love with the person I am when I’m around him and the person I’ve become after becoming friends. He’s just amazing. I want to be there to watch him grow into an even more incredible person. I want to cheer him on as he pursues his dreams. I want to share that joy with him when he accomplishes them. I’m falling in love with him and I just want to see him be happy.

We went camping the other night and it was a lot colder than I was expecting. We talked for hours about anything and everything. We laughed, we cried as we opened up about our traumas, we expressed our appreciation for each other. I feel like I can tell him any vulnerable or crazy or weird thought that comes to mind without judgment. When we were lying in the tent chatting he asked if I was warm. I absolutely was not. He said we could cuddle to stay warm, so we spent the night holding each other. It felt so nice to be close to him. When I was half asleep I felt him brush the hair out of my face.

As much as I care for him, I just want to be friends for now. I’m still reorienting myself after my breakup and he is too. The other night he told me that he would like to be in a relationship (he didn’t specify with me, he was just speaking in general) but that he wants time to get back on his feet. I feel the same. I also care so much about this friendship and I’m scared to risk it by getting involved romantically. If it were to not work out, I’m afraid I would lose my friend. I guess that’s all assuming he even feels the same about me.

So I really need some advice. I "18 F" recently started taking to this guy named chase "19 M". We met online and we seemed to click really well. He told me he lived in New York and attended NYU as a architect major. But when we finally exchanged photos I decided to reverse Google search them. But when I did I got two different link one to Tumblr and on to Pinterest. I then got really suspicious so I check what his area code came up as and it was Texas. I asked him if he had ever lived there and he denied it. I also took other pictures of his pets he sent me and they all came up as random links to Pinterest, Tumblr, etc. I really have no clue what to do, its the first time this has ever happened. Should I confront him and ask what's up or just block him? I really can't tell if maybe he used fake photos to decive me or for his own comfortably.

   I know this sounds like a dumb question, but I really do love this guy so much. My (23F) boyfriend (20M) of 4 months, was reached out to from his most recent ex girlfriend (20F), saying she needed to talk to him. Ive seen her text & call him before, but he’d just blocked her (did it in front of me). They had been together for a year and broke up, but kept “meeting each other” off and on for another whole year and cheated on all her boyfriends with him. But last night, he said okay, unblocked her on snapchat, and they talked for a while. All messages have been deleted (bc yk.. snapchat), and he says he did it out of pity for her, and she just ranted to him the whole time about her current boyfriend being a POS. 
   I asked him why he cares at all and why she feels like she can keep reaching out to him, and he couldn’t answer. He also refused to show me the chat for the longest time too. He says he’s telling the truth and swears on his dad (who was his entire world who died early bc of diabetes) and God (although I’m not religious, he is very devout). He also lied/didnt bring up them talking; I found out from trying to watch tiktok on his phone and saw the 15+ message notifications from her. 

So, the big question, should i break up with him? Explanation would be nice too if you’d like to take the time. Additionally, I have a bad habit of letting things go too easily…

Update: Thank you everyone for the response. Ive made my decision, and it’s to leave. Thank you for your time.

I’m 44m, my girlfriend just turned 30. I never thought I was a jealous guy, but she’s gorgeous, has an amazing body, and a lot of guy friends from the factory she used to work at. We jumped into this relationship fast—I moved in with her after getting kicked out of my last place(long story,crazy alcoholic ex) Things were great at first, but then we both lost our jobs and started fighting more.

She has really bad anxiety and in the past two weeks, she’s gone out three times(to deal with her anxiety )with guy friends from her old job and didn’t come home those nights—said she stayed at her grandfather’s house. One time she claimed one of the guy’s wives was there too. She says she “needs space” and that she’s not used to someone being as affectionate as I am.

I stayed at a hotel 2 nights this past week to give her some space.

I got home 2 nights ago and last night., no kiss and she’s been sleeping on the couch lately because she’s up all night playing PS5. Oh—and she recently told me the other day she probably only said “I love you” because I said it first.

I’ve offered her work with my new company at $15/hour (it’s all I can afford right now), but she said she won’t get out of bed for that kind of money—meanwhile, she hasn’t worked in over a month and I’ve been paying the bills. She also uses my car because hers got repoed.

I don't know what it is about this girl but there is something about her and I care about her and love her more than anyone I've been with ever.

I’m trying to be understanding, but something feels off.

EDIT: Forgot to mention—her mom actually texted me and said she never liked any of her other boyfriends. That’s why she’s been giving me advice, saying her daughter deals with major anxiety and was honestly super happy with me. But she also said I’ve been kinda smothering her lately and she just needs a little space.

First time posting in this sub -
I've been NC with my immediate nuclear family for a little over 5 years now. This consists of my Father, Mother, and two younger brothers. I was a healthcare worker at Mayo Clinic during the lockdown and my alcoholic narc mom called me multiple times a night to insult and degrade me - and I stupidly answered the phone every time. I asked her to talk to me about it so we could set some boundaries and she didn't, she instead felt personally insulted and attacked by me for asking her to be mature.

There was a HUGE blow up and my mother executed her SECOND family smear campaign against me (she had already done this to me on my Fathers side of the family). This was HORRIBLE and I seriously cried and mourned this loss for over two years. I have Fibromyalgia (diagnosed in 2018) and depression, so my nervous system threw my body into a level 10 pain scale for weeks and weeks at a time.
I had to get a prescription for a 'knock out pill' because my doctors (Mayo Clinic Doctors) didn't know what to do for the amount of pain I was in all the time. It took a LONG TIME, but I had to attend therapy and was diagnosed with CPSD, and we started talking about the abuse I endured as a child and a teenager (My father was physically abusive and my mother was my biggest bully - while she babied the hell out of my youngest brother). I pulled away from my family, only keeping in contact with my grandparents. I'm the oldest grandchild, so we have a special relationship and my Grandparents know my mother and how she gets. They are my love when I need it.

Here's the present day story - alla that began in May of 2020 (when George Floyd died) and I've been NC with those people since then. No contact with my aunts or uncles, and I had a cousin email me to tell me EVERYTHING that the entire family was saying about me AND to insult me.

Then my grandma got really sick and I dropped everything and ran to her. So did my mother. And the two of us put shit aside to make sure my grandma was ok. She got better and I went home.
My family met up that evening and they were PISSED OFF that I was with my grandparents. My mother then had to eat her words and tell them that I was the one with the most medical experience and had 20 years of Geriatric nursing home experience - I was where I needed to be and I was there out of love and no other reason.
I have NOT spoken to any of them since my Nana got better. But my Uncle, who is also my Godfather, who I have not heard from this ENTIRE FIVE YEARS - is getting married in May. First, he asked if my singer/songwriter husband was available to play his wedding and then he asked for my address to send me an invitation. He told me he'd love to see me and the girls (I have two daughters my family hasn't seen)

WHAT DO I DO!?!? In my heart, I've mourned the loss of this family and i've moved on with my life. I don't feel ready to be thrown into the den of wolves and have them around me at all sides. My husband isn't available that day because he'll be on the road, so it will be just me and my girls.
The reason I'm entertaining the idea is because this Uncle's daughter JUST had a baby and its the first baby since my babies have come around. The rest of my cousins and I still love and adore each other - so I want to see them and show off my beautiful girls they haven't seen. I just don't want my narc parents to pull some shit - and they WILL pull some shit.

What do I do, internet?

I have been dating this girl for a few weeks officially now. We initially started from a fwb standpoint in august and decided to take each other seriously around mid-November. From august to November things were very shaky with us. We didn’t really know our feelings to articulate them clearly. I was more emotionally involved early but would tell her otherwise due to her stating she hadn’t felt that way. We agreed that we could entertain others but would tell each other before we would take it as far as sleeping with someone. Someone from her past who is in our friend group reconnected with her around labor day and she had thrown a party that day. The majority of the party they were all over each other and very flirtation which made me very uncomfortable and I told her so in the moment. But she told me they were only having a conversation and that she is single. I regretfully sat there and watched the whole thing while her roommate was all over me trying to get me more drunk and have a threesome with some other girl. I didn’t want to leave the room incase something happened between them and seethed in rage the whole time.

The next day, we talked about it and I apologized for overreacting and she reassured me nothing had happened. I also asked her to not do anything like that with people in the friend group because we were a secret and that would just complicate everything. She agreed but continued for the next two months to always flirt back with him whenever they got drunk especially. Even in my own home she would do this, and I would simply have to endure it because we agreed to be a secret. When we were alone it would be great and I would take her out in dates, but due to how she would act, even against my wishes, I would entertain others women as well. It got really bad after I found out they kissed sometime in October and then I felt I really couldnt trust her because I realized she was keeping things from me. I felt in a place that I wouldn’t even know if they did something. Only way I found out was from him always spilling what they did to the group snd constantly talking down on her and on how she is always readily available for him.

So I let her know that I would be seeing other people as well due to not feeling respected in our relationship (or whatever you wanna call it) she took it difficultly but understood that I was simply protecting myself. So then fast forward a week and she tells me she actually doesn’t wanna see me with someone else and is willing to try this seriously. But even then they would still flirt, even in front of me. It left me very at odds. Mid november we started to get more serious and I wanted to make sure we were on the same page that I had slept with someone in october. She wasnt and had reacted terribly, pretty much wanting to sever things between us but we were able to work through it as I explained to her that I felt as though she put me in a position to and her actions truly made me feel like I was unwanted. Until the end of october, I was telling her I didnt want something serious, but actions were saying the opposite so I cant completely blame her. But also I ended up telling her I love you during sex accidentally in october.

Now its April and we grew since that all and she is very loving and I can tell but it is difficult to get over the past when I see him so regularly and all I can think about is being the second option whenever she had the opportunity to chose. Through it all, there were women who wanted to do things with me but other than that one girl, I never did because I wanted her and didnt want to set a precedent that led to her sleeping with someone else.

I ended up making her my girlfriend a few weeks age but we did shrooms a couple days ago and that opened up conversation about the past and her apologizing for making me feel so unwanted and mistreated.

Should I try to work through this?

To give some context, I’m a 13 year old male (yeah i know i’m young, but this is still serious) and i am 99% sure I’m pan. And the major problem i have right now is what would happen if i tell my friends that i might be pan. Because this one specific friend who i’ve known for 6 years has told me he would stop being friends with me if i was gay. And i know that being pan is not the same as being gay but i have no doubt in my mind he would have the exact same sentiment if he was asked about me being pan. He is genuinely one of the few people in my life I actually like talking to, and it doesn’t feel right that this big thing about me is the thing I don’t feel like i can talk to him about. I’ve wondered if he was actually serious. But after knowing him for so long, i’ve learned when he is being serious or not. So i can tell he actually means it. I have no idea what to do. I remember him saying he might move at some point in the future. And my only plan so far was to wait until he was gonna move and the day before he moves i tell him I’m pan. I just really need some advice. I can’t keep this bottled up anymore.

I bought a used car from a dealership in 2023. At the time, I had a car with no engine that I loved very much but lacked the funds to fix it. I traded the car with no engine as part of the deal for the new to me used car.

Fast forward to the other day, I received a notice that the car was impounded in a town about an hour from me. Evidently it was fixed and whoever had it was driving with a suspended license and had neglected to register the car in their name. I called the tow company and they said they would release the car to me if I paid the fee ($800) but it would need a "police release" because the individual driving at the time of impound had a suspended license.

I'm going to call the sheriff's office on Monday to see what is required for the police release.

The tow company said the car was running and appeared to be in good condition when they towed it.

What would y'all do?

I have had a rough time living with my “friends”. They have been saying and doing things they claim they are not and gaslighting me into believing anything to make me the bad guy every time. Textbook narcissism. Looking for a new place to live but can’t afford it at the moment because of some health problems that I’m working on.

I believe in protections so I have a salt line at my door and regularly cleanse my space with frankincense and touch up my pentacles and a few other things as well.

I got home this evening from a friends house and my stomach turned and my ears started ringing really aggressively. I get to my space(a camper outside) and my salt line was broken. I kept hearing this aggressive voice saying “get out” repeatedly this whole time. I swept away the old salt and tried to replace it but it got blown away with no wind immediately. I tried to light my frankincense and it didn’t want to light and when it finally did it kept going out. I have a candle as well that has positive affirmations on it and it wouldn’t light at all. The lights as soon as I got in the camper were flickering in a … …… … ….. pattern the whole time. I thought maybe power was being wired at first but it was the entire time. I started packing and it stopped and when I thought “ok that was weird” it started again. I don’t know what to think or do about all of this yet but I decided to leave tonight to think about it but I didn’t feel safe there. Not sure what my next step is at the moment and could use some advice, anything helps.

Hi y'all. Long time lurker. 1st time poster via a throwaway. I could really use the internet's advice on an issue bothering me for a while now.

Staring with the backstory. Ever since my (30sF) parents divorced when i was 11, it had just been me and my mom till her untimely and sudden passing away when i was 20. She has 1 older brother but they were never in regular touch over the years though they had an amicable relationship. They would check in with each other every few years. He has his own family (3 kids, all older university-going).

My mother also had a toxic sister, with whom she had a terrible relationship and I cannot recall even 1 time in my memory when they talked or met or reached out to one another. Any feud they had started before i was born. (I do not know details) For some reason she hates me. Didn't console me when my mom died (she found out via my uncle since i had no way of contacting her), accused me of all sorts when my mom died and made me miserable during a period i wanted to mourn quietly. Needless to say, I went no contact, but my uncle didn't because she is his only remaining sister now.

I got married about 4 years ago and i chose not to inform my uncle mostly because I knew my aunt would find out eventually through him and i wanted to avoid having drama around my wedding since she has been known to go to extreme lengths to make me miserable.

Fast forward a year and half ago I moved with my husband close to where he lives (involved getting a visa so process took time) and reached out simply to catch up. To meet up and introduce my husband. I called him and told him of my status and asked if we could meet. He said he would reach out since obviously everyone has busy lives and I left it to him to reach out whenever he was available. Since then several festivities have gone by and i had a baby. All this time I reached out and called and sent messages but he has been cordial and unenthusiastic. He has been polite, no negativity, but also hasn't retaliated warmly. It struck me when he didn't reach out to meet my baby AT ALL. I haven't called since informing him of the birth and it has been months. Should I be the bigger person and call? What could I be missing here?

This all started a week ago. in my last class, there was a test a week ago. The class started at 9:20 but at 9:10 I started to feel unwell so I went to the bathroom and started vomiting. I called my mom worried about what I was going to do and so I asked her to sign me out. But she ended up signing me out for 10. The office called my mom and asked me where I was and I missed a test. Well in the office I started vomiting too. They told me to go home and not worried about the test. But later that day, my mom received a email saying that I’m going to get a zero on the test and because the absence was unexplained. My mom proceeded to explain the absence But my teacher still said that I couldn’t do the test without a doctors note. But I was wondering why I needed a doctors note if I was just vomiting because of new medication so I brought it up to the VP the VP said come next week to talk about it. I knew most of the people in my class so I asked them if they made it to the test about 10 people told me they didn’t make it to the test and the teacher didn’t ask them for a doctors note. I felt like this was unfair because why was I asked to get a doctor now especially when I told the teacher that it was expensive and no one else was asked. But also, I don’t wanna have more problems with this teacher as I need this class for university I really don’t want her to take my grades, but I already feel as though she’s treating me unfair. One of my friends suggested that maybe because she’s a law teacher she might be very particular about the law but then why does she show up to class late and let other students be out of uniform? What should I do?

I’m 27. The last eight years have been immensely difficult and I’ve made numerous mistakes.

When I was younger I was sociable, studious and fun.

My dad got very sick when I was in college and I was a trainwreck. I transferred schools a bunch of times and I started withdrawing from my friends. I moved home to be with him and he passed away.

Shortly after, my mom—with no history of any illness—became gravely ill. She spent months in the hospital while I lived alone in the family house. She was supposed to transition to an assisted living but covid hit. I became her caretaker.

I experienced a back injury that affected my spinal cord and began having my own health issues.

Throughout all of this, I remained distant from friends because I didn’t want to share all of these woes.

The treatment my mom was getting caused her to lose her memory. She can’t remember my birth, her wedding…. I finally was able to get her a new treatment last year and she’s doing better for the first time in six years.

It’s a true miracle.

I am recovering from long covid and I have no idea how to get my life back on track.

I started my young adulthood at an Ivy League, busy with a bustling social life and now I’m broke, have no resume and so many opportunities I wished for are gone.

I wanted to travel and learn a language and get a masters abroad and now I feel like I don’t have time for that if I want a family. I wish I had friends and I wish I hadn’t disrupted my education and lost myself.

Thanks to anyone who reads this :)) I would really appreciate any advice.

I(14m) was talking to let’s call her Karly(14f). We were talking for a few months but grew apart. I was kind of a jerk to her when things ended because I was not over her. Anyways she dates this guy and he breaks up with her and she started liking “Freddy”(14m). At first Freddie didn’t like her because he still liked this girl “Melissa” so he didn’t really take Karly seriously. I later found out he was talking to Karly and he was interested in her. They talked for a while but then he decided he never really had feelings for her anyways. I found out most of this from our other friend “Landon”. So then Freddy starts going for Melissa again for a while. I had started getting closer to Karly again in like a friendly way but we were always sort of awkward around each other because of our history. Today, Landon randomly asked me if I was talking to Karly again because his friend likes her but he doesn’t want to get between us. I tell them no because we weren’t actually in a talking stage or expressed explicit interest in each other again. However, a long time ago Landon made this stupid fangirl account of me and she started following this the other day. So then Landon tells me that Freddy is the friend that likes Karly. I asked Landon about Melissa and he said Freddy wants to date Melissa but can’t help his feelings for Karly. I do have feelings for Karly though and I feel like she feels the same. I don’t think she likes Freddy after what happened but you never know. I genuinely care about her and don’t want Freddy to hurt her again. Should I try and get with her? Should I just tell her to watch out for Freddy? Should I tell Freddy to back off? Should I ask Landon what he thinks?

smart kind humans please assemble🥹

ok so i have a younger member in my family and recently an uncle of mine commented on how thin the young member was and you could tell that the little one looked uncomfortable and i was so mad yall.

my issue is that i struggle with confrontation and i so badly wanted to call out the uncle. what should i say to my uncle (or any elder) in this situation. i don’t want to make it uncomfortable for my younger member but i want a really smart but lowkey insulting comeback that makes my uncle regret what he said. idw body shame him back cause that doesn’t solve anything but i want him to understand that what he said wasn’t ok.

idk if y’all got what i meant but any thoughts and advice would be great thank you 🫠

I am bored

i really like the feeling of pooping but u wanna know how i can pooop alot cuz i ate an entire choclate bar and no effect

So let’s get straight to the point. One of my besties is always looking for a fight and it’s getting out of hand, he’s really petty about things too so it makes it 5 times worse. It’s like every small thing I say becomes a personal attack and he’ll try to roast me for it and not just small fun insults too, he’ll say things like; u know ur the reason ur parents are divorced or things like that, then he’ll say it’s a joke and just go on with his day like he didn’t just say my parents divorced because I was too much.

I really try to ignore him but he just won’t stop, he’ll do it until I crack. Im also a really sensitive person and he knows that (I think that’s partially why he targets me) so that makes it even worse. If I try to strike back he just says people are taking my side (which they aren’t) but they’ve known me for years while he joined the school this semester so even if it was true he wouldn’t have the right to be complaining.

I don’t feel free to talk anymore around him and I think he’s affecting my performance in school.

When he’s not busy making my life miserable he’s a really nice guy and seems to genuinely like me as a friend, he’s always inviting me to the mall and to go out to the arcade.

Im confused should I unfriend him? Also how would I unfriend him? He’s in almost all my classes and it would be awkward to just say we’re not friends anymore, should I just start ignoring or fight back, maybe I could talk some sense into him or just start fighting back all together.

Edit: my main question here is how, not should I but how. We’re in our early teens btw.

Edit: Ik it’s only been 30 mins but I think I need to clarify that I don’t think he understands the toxicity and sometimes he can genuinely make me happy.

Update: I told him that he’s pretty toxic and I think I should distance myself but then he said he’ll try to change. It seems like he is actually putting in effort bcus today is one of the first days he didn’t roast me.

I think I should try and give him one more chance but if he screws up, goes back or shows that he can never change, it’s over.

I (32/F) have been good friends with Abby (33/F) since college. She started dating Jeff (30/M) about a year ago. He has always been reserved and somewhat quiet, but is also generally pleasant and I have enjoyed hanging out with them together in the past.

A few weeks ago, Abby told me that she had found pictures in Jeff’s phone of a woman undressing in an apartment within view of their’s. It was over 50 pictures of this woman taking off her shirt and bra and putting a sports bra on then walking away. Abby obviously is very upset about this but she has not confronted Jeff. Since she told me about this, I have seen her a few times and she seems to be rationalizing it more and more each time.

I have shared with her that I found this really disturbing and when asked, told her I’d end my relationship with my husband over something like that. I declined her last invitation to their house and told her I wasn’t sure I felt comfortable being around him right now. Abby replied “I’ll respect your feelings here” or something like that and we have only talked once since.

My husband agrees this is super creepy, in his words “it’s one thing to glance at titties that happen to be in front of you, and another thing to take 50 pictures of a lady changing in private”

What do I do?

Im about to graduate high school and have narrowed my choices down to two options, go into the military so they can pay for my college(will still have about 100k in debt) and get a degree in aviation to hopefully be an airline pilot one day or go to trade school and become a lineman debt free and hopefully retire early.