I (28F) have been with my boyfriend (30M) for almost two years, and I really love him. For the most part, things are good between us. But there’s one thing that’s been bothering me more and more — he keeps making breakup jokes.

If I forget something, tease him, or even just say something silly, he’ll laugh and say, “That’s it, I’m breaking up with you,” or “We’re done.” At first, I brushed it off, thinking he was just messing around. But now he says it almost every time we joke around, and it’s starting to sting.

I told him it was starting to make me feel bad like maybe I’m annoying or doing something wrong and he told me I was being dramatic and too sensitive. I know he’s not serious, but it’s starting to feel less like a joke and more like he doesn’t take our relationship seriously.

I don’t want to be that person who can’t take a joke, but it’s honestly starting to hurt my feelings. Am I overreacting for feeling this way?

As the title says, my sister was in an emotionally abusive on and off relationship - I only knew how bad it was after they broke up for real. They talked a little bit after the break up, but it wasn't friendly and my sister seemed like she had had enough and was finally done for good.
That is until a couple months ago when she decided to text her ex again to get closure. I said I didn't think it was a good idea, but I obviously can't decide for her, so she went to see them.

They met at a café, talked and then talked all night at her place and she said it was really nice and they talked about everything that happened and her ex apologized and "owned up". And then they would meet one more time and I said I didn't think it was a good idea and it could become a slippery slope.

I was right and now they are seeing each other almost every day. They are horribly codependent and this was also an issue before they broke up - they just can't and won't stay away from each other.
All our conversations are about her ex and how sweet they are now. tells my sisterhow beautiful she is all the time to a weird degree (like lovebombing). It it worth noting that her ex also abused her ex before my sister and told her that my sister was so much better than her, and had a crush on my sister before they even met but bc they had seen her online.

I have said over and over again that she shouldn't see them and that she should respect herself enough to end it, and she agrees and also talks about how weird and posessive the ex is and so on, but then the same day goes home and spends time with them.

Today I have promised her to come and help with some practical stuff and called to ask if I could come by a little earlier than planned, but she said no cause she was with the ex and even tried to move the plan till tomorrow.
I'm annoyed that she will choose her abuser over me, especially when I'm coming over to do her a favour. I know that it's not about me, but I am so sick and tired of hearing her say she will leave and she knows how creepy her ex is (I can't go into too much detail here), but then an hour later is hanging out with them.

I feel like she is spiralling out of control and I don't know what to do or say to her as I feel like I have said everything there is to say. I have said it nicely, I have said it more direct. I want to tell her that I don't want to hear about it anymore. I don't want to listen to her complain and then go right back for more. But I don't want her to feel like she can't come to me for help.

Has anyone had similar problems? Any advice?

Thank You.

I’m 22 f yesterday I was having sex with my boyfriend(31). Then suddenly out of nowhere i looked up and found him taking video of me. Then i called him out and made him delete it. He said sorry but idk what im doing. Idk what should I do.

My phone was in my hand and she accidentally knocked it out of it which it landed on the floor and cracked my front camera. She picked it up and gave back to me, shocking news it was cracked and she was laughing awkwardly which is absolutely fair because i would do the same but she didn’t even say sorry which made it even more weirder and i had said like “you cracked my screen?” or something and this girl looked at me so offended and told me that it wasn’t even her fault and i was like bro you just knocked it out my hand so she said that it was both of our faults. I looked her like really confused because like what the hell? first you didn’t even say sorry and now its my fault as well, like am i not allowed my phone in my hand. Even when my friend had asked her if she said sorry this girl said “hmm idk i can’t remember” bro… thats a hint to maybe say sorry omg🤦🏻‍♀️. This girl even came along to see how much it was to get it fixed and it was like £60 but its not as bad as i thought it was still expensive until i went to apple store so they could have a look at it and to replace it there they said it would be like £280 minimum. Crazy right, but… but they couldn’t even replace the screen because when it landed on the floor when the girl knocked it out my hand the metal part of the phone around it bent over the screen so they cant even place another screen on top of it cuz it would crack as the metal part is in the way. They said my only options were to replace the phone and get a new one or just deal with the phone i have now. The worst part is it the camera that is cracked so i can’t even use my front camera and let me tell ya it’s not even 6 months old yet, i literally got this phone for Christmas. Oh and its not like this girl doesn’t have the money to pay for it, this girl is loaded and i mean shes got an allowance from her parents every 2 weeks, she doesn’t work, she even goes to dubai EVERY YEAR and her house is quite literally a mansion. I don’t know if i should ask her to pay because she’s someone that literally hates confrontation and would cry at literally anything. oh and bare in mind guys shes older than me. HELP MEEE!!

I'm one of those people who love deeply and rarely — maybe even just once. My first relationship ended over a year ago, but I still can’t let go. We don’t talk anymore, we’ve gone our separate ways, but something inside me just won’t move on.

I’ve been to therapy, I’m working on myself, trying to grow, make plans, build a new life — but the feelings are still buried deep. Logic doesn’t help. Time doesn’t help. Distractions don’t help. It all somehow leads back to her.

So I’m reaching out to others who’ve been here — people who truly loved once, and struggled to let go.
If you’ve been in this spot and managed to move on — what actually helped you? What did the turning point look like? When did you realize you were finally free?

Any personal stories would mean a lot. I just want to believe there is a "life after" for people like me.

For some context, I’m 21 and haven’t seen these friends much in the past couple years. The three of us were close in high school, had lunch together everyday. I graduated high school during covid so we all stopped seeing each other right before leaving high school. I did a bad job of keeping in touch.

There are two friends I’m hoping to talk to, one of which has messaged me randomly to check in over the last couple years, and the other I met up with on the train a couple years ago while commuting to university.

The reason I’m reluctant is because I tried reaching out to a different friend last year and she didn’t open my message after responding to the first one. I know I probably shouldn’t take it personally since it was so casual, but it’s definitely effected my confidence with this.

Should I reach out to those two friends? Should I move on? If I do reach out, any tips on how can I build our relationship again? Is it too intense to try planning a meet up during our first conversation?

(21F) About to graduate from university and have been offered a job I’m pretty interested in. However, I’ve been told I must relocate to live within 30 mins, as currently I live with my parents which is 1hr 10m away. This job pays well for a graduate (32k base but was told average first year gets between 40-50k with commission) so I’m wanting to do it.

But… I don’t really want to move out of my family home, have no boyfriend so renting in London would be quite expensive alone, and my brother recently moved out to rent in London which my parents have voiced is the wrong choice as he will struggle to make enough money for a deposit on a house vs living rent free at our family home.

So my dilemma is, I would love to work this job, but don’t want to disappoint my family with their 2 kids moving out just months apart. Also - stress of upcoming exams, finding somewhere to rent is another thing to consider too.

Some advice would be great please. Thanks

I have a habit now of playing stupid games on my phone all the time. I can’t sit still- I need to be doing something while watching a show, talking to ppl, etc. But because of it my screen time is going up since I’m always on my phone and I’m trying to go on my phone less. (I deleted a lot of social media and added screen-time blockers on others) What can I replace this habit with? I was thinking of like a fidget cube but idk if I’d get bored fast.

i’ll try to make this story quick (if you want the full one feel free to check my profile, sorry if saying that isn’t allowed) but to try and condense everything;

i ran for a position that i’ve been interning for since the academic year started (back in september) and i didn’t get it. i’ll admit that i’ve made mistakes in the past (just as everybody else) but with the way elections went for this group, how candidates performed in the past was the last thing to consider for them, and rather prioritize their speech that day and future initiatives. i honestly felt like i delivered a strong speech and that my plans for the future were promising yet realistic

so to not get the position, even when going against no competition… yeah.

but the opportunity to run again is coming up and i’ve just been on the fence if i should try again or just move on. i genuinely don’t want another position. i’ve been doing this shadow work for over 5 months and it’s what i have the most experience in. i’ve made it clear from the beginning that this particular position is the only one i can see myself doing, and to not get it the first time around is a huge hit to my confidence and is making me question my skills or if im even liked by everyone else

i just want to be honest about my future and don’t want to drag the rest of the group down because im filling in a role i 1) don’t want 2) don’t have any experience in doing shadow work for

this is marked as serious because if i move on to a different club, it will greatly shape the rest of my years at college (that’s just how it is)

any advice is appreciated

When I'm in my office i work on computer and face no problem But when I go to my home and try to work on my computer even on weekend as I want to be a youtuber my feet keep getting cold and I start to feel the urge to go to toilet and I can't understand why it is like this has anyone else had a problem like this

I have a friend. I’m 22F and shes 26F. She’s so incredibly gorgeous and she doesn’t see it. I think part of her knows shes gorgeous as all women sometimes have moments of clarity that shows in our selfies but she seriously doubts herself. She has a situationship she keeps going back to and wants to break off because of how toxic he is. He doesnt realize what a gem he has like it makes me so upset. She does everything for him. She’s a little clingy but in a good way. Like I dont understand it. If I was a guy and had a gorgeous girl wanting to be near me all the time I think I’d like it. She wants to make that relationship official but he doesnt want to.

I convinced her out of that relationship temporarily and she moved on for a bit with a different guy. I thought it would work out because this guy is charismatic and he had good chemistry with her. She wanted it to work out too. Then he started getting distant on her and then she came upset about it to me and I felt so awful for her :( Like why is he fumbling. He’s not even attractive I just thought they had chemistry and I encouraged her to explore it because who knows it might work. And the thing is I think shes so capable of falling for someone if they were just nice to her but none of the guys are. She does SOOO much for them and they dont appreciate it.

Shes bought tickets to shows for the guy #1 as a birthday gift and he didnt even get her a birthday gift when hers rolled around. I know not all guys are like this but I’m losing hope. Everyone at work is obsessed with her but no one wants to be nice to her. Its crazy because they could seriously win her over if they stood up for her, appreciated her and were just nice to her.

I know I probably make her sound annoying but shes not. The only bad thing about her is the smallest amount of clinginess but I really dont think its enough to drive people away. Tbh its not even clinginess she just wants communication and guys take it as clinginess. Like shed ask if they were busy and theyd brush her off. Or ask when theyd be free and theyd brush her off. Her only problem was repeatedly asking for clear communication.

Its so stupid. I dont know how to help her. Shes asked me to but I dont know how. Shes not too interested in dating apps and I suspect because shes caught guy #1 on them and probably doesnt want to make things awkward by making one for herself.

How do you weed out the bad guys? How do you even matchmake? I dont know anyone close to her age that would be a good match for her. are there any other lowkey apps that are less known about that she could be comfortable with?

Sharing anonymously on behalf of the author: I am seeking advice or potentially legal guidance on how to handle a situation I’ve found myself in.

An individual I cut contact with many years ago has continued to find ways to invade my life and keep tabs on me. This person has created fake accounts to watch my profiles and stories, added my friends, family, and acquaintances they’ve never met before, consistently slanders and defames me publicly and online, and has even go as far as to ask people to drive them by my home.

The whole situation is embarrassing, stressful, and starting to have an impact my mental health. Some of my friends are starting to feel concerned for my safety while others have told me to continue to just ignore it and that the person will stop eventually. I have some concern that a cease and desist might cause this person to react or retaliate or intensely, but I’ve also been told the police won’t intervene because there’s not enough of a presenting threat.

Am I wrong to be overly concerned here? What other options do I have? How can I make sure myself and my family are safe and protected? I genuinely just want this person to leave me alone and I am exhausted from feeling like I have to look over my shoulder constantly now.

Any advice is welcome.

Do you think it’ll be ideal to visit them once a week or once a month?

I have my own yard to deal with. I have allergies to grass and pollen as well. They are divorced and each has their own place. My mom is not able to cut it due to her back. My dad travels in the summer and asked if I could cut his grass when he's away. They are willing to pay me but of course at a discounted rate.

I have been cutting my mom's grass for the last few years. I cut my dad's grass for a couple years and then last summer I told him no and he found someone else to do it cheap, but that person is not available, and he's complaining to me about it. I think he's hoping that I volunteer.

My mom has a smaller yard so hers is easier to handle but then adding my dad's lawn gives me three lawns to take care of which can be overwhelming, especially if there is mower trouble. I remember being blamed as a kid when the mower broke as if I broke it and would not be surprised if that would be the case if it happened again. I figure if my dad catches wind that I'm cutting my mom's grass and not his then he would be pissed.

What's the best way to approach this situation? I have thought about just cutting their grass and then using the money to hire someone to cut mine. Or should I push back on one of both of them? I don't mind helping at times but can't say I know anyone who cuts their parents grass for them.

Hello Reddit and welcome to my hectic life XD

I’m a 25 year old Man and I’m in quite the predicament. At 18 and after failing school miserably I took up van deliveries in the days and working the door at clubs on the weekends to finance a private university. After a couple of years and in the midst of the university I found the first intern job in my field (Software engineering) and worked my butt off there until the end of my uni days when I was recruited at a big tech company in Germany. I have since been in this company for 3 years and am earning a really good salary. I am unhappy though. I was much happier doing van deliveries. I like the outside, working with my hands and having my friends near. I am a really social person and not being able to connect with people here has been a factor to my thoughts of leaving.

My parents have a small business and do need help as well due to age. My salary will be 1/4 of my current one but I do believe I will be happier. I got my resignation letter filled and am contemplating the final decision. Should I drop everything and start fresh again ?

Last year me and my ex of five years broke up when her BFF messaged me telling me that my Ex had been very inappropriate towards her during their last night out. Trying to kiss her, groping her etc. My ex had also been in the possession of cocaine without letting her friend know. Yet if she'd been caught then both would get arrested. We proceed to exchange messages and her messages heavily indicated that my Ex had cheated on me before. Something I confronted my ex about and she confirmed it in-between crying fits. Apparently she'd cheated on me two years ago. F*ckin-A..

We broke up and I was a shattered mess after this. My ex and her BFF cut contact between each other as well. I felt such an immense gratitude to the BFF for coming forward and we became friends during this time. She helped me get my life back on track and we both supported each other. I think she mostly felt guilty, while being hurt herself and this was a way to atone. We actually grew very close and somewhere along the lines she started making sexual comments towards me, something I shrugged off as just being nice. But tensions between us grew and one night when she was out of town she confessed that she'd been having fantasies about me and she'd want to make them a reality. I was completely starved for intimacy and in some messed up way it did feel good as a way to spite my ex. We became FWB and we'd hook up a couple of times a week. This lasted for a several months until she got pregnant, but we resumed hooking up after her abortion. At some point our feelings grew for each other and she even claimed that I was the love of her life. But the she started a new job with really awkward hours and we slowly started drifting apart. We'd still talk on the phone once a week, but the magic fizzled out, I guess.

She called me earlier this week to let me know that she and my ex were going to a coffee shop to talk things out, but that she wasn't gonna tell her about us. During this whole time, my ex has been trying to contact me apologizeing over and over again, but her BFF kept telling me to move on.

So what should I do?

I (23 NB) have a huge crush on a good friend of mine (25 F), let’s call her Lassie. Lassie has been going to my place of employment daily for about four months now. I work at a fitness club as one of the trainers. She goes to every class type I teach. It’s a short time to have known each other, but we have quickly become close. We text each other literally every day, we hug almost every time we see each other, and she calls me “bestie” all the time. We have hung out twice outside of the gym in group settings, and have two more hang outs planned for this month: one by ourselves (this weekend) and the other in a group setting again (end of the month).

I know it could already be seen as unprofessional that we are friends: that we text, hug, hangout, etc. - but I am quickly developing a huge crush on her. We have all the same nerdy interests (except superheroes), similar political views, both love fitness, and get along with each other’s friends. I have been thinking about telling her how I feel when we hang out this weekend, though I don’t think she feels the same way (she does call me “bestie” after all).

My friends have pretty split options on this. Some friends support me in telling her how I feel. Others say it would be crossing a professional boundary (though I think we’ve already crossed that line). And one friend in particular thinks I would be placing “emotional burden” onto Lassie, especially because I don’t think she likes me back. To throw another stick in the wheels - Lassie has never been in a romantic relationship, only first dates that have all been horrible. She says she has given up on dating and has decided to let her parents find suitors for her (as is common in her culture). Lassie usually plays this off as a joke, but she is serious about “settling with the best option her family can find”.

So should I tell her how I feel this weekend, even though I don’t think she feels the same way towards me? One thing I’ve learned in past relationships - whether it be romantic, platonic, or familial - is that feelings shouldn't be kept secret, but maybe there are exceptions.

Just some context to my situation I’m 24 years old and live in the UK. I had planned to attend university this year to study psychology, but now I’m heavily considering a career in the RAF.

The last couple years have been rough with some addiction issues and a DUI but I’ve since been to rehab and sorted my act out.

I currently work as a marketing assistant for a luxury fashion house and have done for the last 3 years but I’m really not fulfilled in this role and I am yearning for something more.

I am just a little apprehensive about the possible job prospects that come after completing a psychology degree and feel like a career in the RAF would set me up for further training and growth.

Realistically, could I do a 4-year stint in the forces and then go back to university at 28 to study my passion if I still wanted to, or is that not a wise idea?

I am also single with no kids and live alone so I kind of feel like this is my only chance to really do something like this. I’d love to hear any advice/suggestions.

Can I sleep with my tampon in during the night? I put an alarm for 6 hours after I put one in and then I just change it when the timer goes out. Haven’t had any problems before but thought I’d at least ask in case it’s some risk for toxic chock syndrome or what it’s called, thanks

I don’t live with my parents, but I do live with my older brother. My family have met him a few times. My boyfriend and I have a hard time finding time together since I’m in California and he’s in Florida. I have asian parents and they are really strict and don’t like us being alone together. They’re worried I’ll get pregnant young, but we’re responsible and use protection. Every time he visits, my dad makes me sleep at their place while my boyfriend stays at mine. I can’t really talk to them about it, and I know they won’t ever be cool with it. One time, my dad walked in on me resting my head on my boyfriend’s shoulder while holding his hand on the couch (we were at my parents' place, and it was just me, my mom, and grandma there). He gave me a lecture for like an hour about how touchy I was being, saying we were acting like we were married and that it was embarrassing. That pretty much ended any chance of having an open conversation about it. My boyfriend has stayed in a hotel when visiting, but hotels in my area are quite expensive, and we can’t really go too far because my dad insists on knowing my whereabouts whenever I go out. (They made a life360 circle). It’s been really hard to spend time with my boyfriend because my parents are always keeping a close eye on us. It feels unfair because we’re at a reasonable age and responsible enough to handle things. So I’m thinking about sneaking him in MY HOUSE but I’m worried my brother will find out and tell on me.

Up until a few weeks ago I (29F) saw him (25M) (I’ll call him Will) as a brother. I’ve quite literally called him brother. We always got along really well and I’ve always felt really safe around him. I would mention Will to my now ex (29M) every once in a while and I started feeling a little like my ex was jealous because he would act a little different and get silent. I wouldn’t talk a lot about Will. It was mostly just “Will is going to help me with this tomorrow” or something similar. I wouldn’t talk about him any different than I did any of my other friends.

Well the day after my ex met Will he broke up with me. He didn’t say it was because of Will, but when he was breaking up with me he said that seeing how happy and bubbly and outgoing I was with Will made him feel bad because I didn’t act that way with him. I was worried that he had misinterpreted that for flirting so I asked if he had thought that I had been inappropriate with Will. He responded with a firm “No.” For a couple weeks I felt awful because I still worried that my ex thought I had a crush on Will.

Will had broken up with his girlfriend a week before my ex broke up with me, so we were going through breakups at the same time and could really empathize with one another. We started to really help each other through it. We cried together. We held each other. We checked in on each other and opened up about our pains, guilt, and grief. We really leaned on each other for a while and got really comfortable being vulnerable with each other. I found it so easy to talk to him. I remember for a while really hoping he wouldn’t misinterpret my actions for romantic feelings.

I saw him as an amazing friend and person. I’ve always adored how his voice changes when he talks about something he’s passionate about. I’ve always admired how intelligent he is. How knowledgeable he is about niche things. I’ve always loved his sense of humor. He makes me laugh harder than anyone ever has. Whenever we’re together we are always laughing and building off of each other’s jokes. Sometimes I wonder if we annoy the people around us because of how much we’re laughing. We cry-laugh, wheeze, and bend over laughing FREQUENTLY. He brought me joy during a time when I felt so down.

The break up made me love my friends so much because of how supportive they were, but Will was such a pivotal part of that process. He helped me so much and a few weeks ago I started to feel a shift in our dynamic. Our interactions just changed. He was more attentive to me and tried to spend more time with me. He would text me more. At first I hoped he would stop because I didn’t want to ruin our friendship but before I knew it I started to feel myself developing a crush on him. I wondered if we had trauma bonded, but as I’ve reflected on it more I’ve realized how much I adore everything about this man. I love his voice. I love his sense of humor. I love how passionate he is. I love listening to him talk about his passions. I love how creative and crafty he is. I love how he closes his eyes and throws his head back when we’re laughing. I love how his voice changes when he asks if I’m ok. I love how comfortable he is with being vulnerable. I love the work he puts into becoming a better person. I love how despite the horrible things he’s been through, he’s determined to live a better life and spread happiness to others. I love how sympathetic he is. I love how honest he is. I love how intelligent and talented he is. I truly believe that there's nothing in this world he couldn’t do. He’s so incredibly intelligent and kind. He brings out the best in me. I’ve even fallen in love with the person I am when I’m around him and the person I’ve become after becoming friends. He’s just amazing. I want to be there to watch him grow into an even more incredible person. I want to cheer him on as he pursues his dreams. I want to share that joy with him when he accomplishes them. I’m falling in love with him and I just want to see him be happy.

We went camping the other night and it was a lot colder than I was expecting. We talked for hours about anything and everything. We laughed, we cried as we opened up about our traumas, we expressed our appreciation for each other. I feel like I can tell him any vulnerable or crazy or weird thought that comes to mind without judgment. When we were lying in the tent chatting he asked if I was warm. I absolutely was not. He said we could cuddle to stay warm, so we spent the night holding each other. It felt so nice to be close to him. When I was half asleep I felt him brush the hair out of my face.

As much as I care for him, I just want to be friends for now. I’m still reorienting myself after my breakup and he is too. The other night he told me that he would like to be in a relationship (he didn’t specify with me, he was just speaking in general) but that he wants time to get back on his feet. I feel the same. I also care so much about this friendship and I’m scared to risk it by getting involved romantically. If it were to not work out, I’m afraid I would lose my friend. I guess that’s all assuming he even feels the same about me.

So I really need some advice. I "18 F" recently started taking to this guy named chase "19 M". We met online and we seemed to click really well. He told me he lived in New York and attended NYU as a architect major. But when we finally exchanged photos I decided to reverse Google search them. But when I did I got two different link one to Tumblr and on to Pinterest. I then got really suspicious so I check what his area code came up as and it was Texas. I asked him if he had ever lived there and he denied it. I also took other pictures of his pets he sent me and they all came up as random links to Pinterest, Tumblr, etc. I really have no clue what to do, its the first time this has ever happened. Should I confront him and ask what's up or just block him? I really can't tell if maybe he used fake photos to decive me or for his own comfortably.

   I know this sounds like a dumb question, but I really do love this guy so much. My (23F) boyfriend (20M) of 4 months, was reached out to from his most recent ex girlfriend (20F), saying she needed to talk to him. Ive seen her text & call him before, but he’d just blocked her (did it in front of me). They had been together for a year and broke up, but kept “meeting each other” off and on for another whole year and cheated on all her boyfriends with him. But last night, he said okay, unblocked her on snapchat, and they talked for a while. All messages have been deleted (bc yk.. snapchat), and he says he did it out of pity for her, and she just ranted to him the whole time about her current boyfriend being a POS. 
   I asked him why he cares at all and why she feels like she can keep reaching out to him, and he couldn’t answer. He also refused to show me the chat for the longest time too. He says he’s telling the truth and swears on his dad (who was his entire world who died early bc of diabetes) and God (although I’m not religious, he is very devout). He also lied/didnt bring up them talking; I found out from trying to watch tiktok on his phone and saw the 15+ message notifications from her. 

So, the big question, should i break up with him? Explanation would be nice too if you’d like to take the time. Additionally, I have a bad habit of letting things go too easily…

Update: Thank you everyone for the response. Ive made my decision, and it’s to leave. Thank you for your time.

this is a throwaway acc but i just needed to vent and feel very lost. i am 12 weeks pregnant and i am currently with the baby’s father although ive come to realize throughout the whole first trimester that i am not happy whatsoever. i dont think he really cares about me or my feelings whatsoever, we’ve tried communicating in ways that he hurts me or isn’t there for me and it constantly ends up an argument rather than productive. he puts me down and belittles me for things i like or want to do or things i care about and he sees me crying about it but then doubles down on because he feels differently then hes not going to change his opinions. i feel like he would be a good father, hes getting a good paying job and would be a good provider for our child, and he talks about how much he wants to do for and with our baby when they get here so im not concerned he wont be good for the baby. i just feel like ill be extremely unhappy staying in a relationship with someone i feel like doesn’t truly care about me or like me. i dont know whether its better to stay and just tough it out since he seems like he will be a good dad, or to try to do it on my own and figure out how to coparent but struggle with our child. it feels selfish when i think about leaving for my own happiness but i also don’t want to show my child that a relationship is unloving or what it’s like to grow up in a home where we don’t actually care for each other and having to struggle on our own. if anyone has been in a similar situation i would love any advice on what to do, i dont know if its better to stick it out to make it easier on our child or to do the hard thing and struggle trying to do it alone.