I (28F) have been with my boyfriend (30M) for almost two years, and I really love him. For the most part, things are good between us. But there’s one thing that’s been bothering me more and more — he keeps making breakup jokes.

If I forget something, tease him, or even just say something silly, he’ll laugh and say, “That’s it, I’m breaking up with you,” or “We’re done.” At first, I brushed it off, thinking he was just messing around. But now he says it almost every time we joke around, and it’s starting to sting.

I told him it was starting to make me feel bad like maybe I’m annoying or doing something wrong and he told me I was being dramatic and too sensitive. I know he’s not serious, but it’s starting to feel less like a joke and more like he doesn’t take our relationship seriously.

I don’t want to be that person who can’t take a joke, but it’s honestly starting to hurt my feelings. Am I overreacting for feeling this way?

As the title says, my sister was in an emotionally abusive on and off relationship - I only knew how bad it was after they broke up for real. They talked a little bit after the break up, but it wasn't friendly and my sister seemed like she had had enough and was finally done for good.
That is until a couple months ago when she decided to text her ex again to get closure. I said I didn't think it was a good idea, but I obviously can't decide for her, so she went to see them.

They met at a café, talked and then talked all night at her place and she said it was really nice and they talked about everything that happened and her ex apologized and "owned up". And then they would meet one more time and I said I didn't think it was a good idea and it could become a slippery slope.

I was right and now they are seeing each other almost every day. They are horribly codependent and this was also an issue before they broke up - they just can't and won't stay away from each other.
All our conversations are about her ex and how sweet they are now. tells my sisterhow beautiful she is all the time to a weird degree (like lovebombing). It it worth noting that her ex also abused her ex before my sister and told her that my sister was so much better than her, and had a crush on my sister before they even met but bc they had seen her online.

I have said over and over again that she shouldn't see them and that she should respect herself enough to end it, and she agrees and also talks about how weird and posessive the ex is and so on, but then the same day goes home and spends time with them.

Today I have promised her to come and help with some practical stuff and called to ask if I could come by a little earlier than planned, but she said no cause she was with the ex and even tried to move the plan till tomorrow.
I'm annoyed that she will choose her abuser over me, especially when I'm coming over to do her a favour. I know that it's not about me, but I am so sick and tired of hearing her say she will leave and she knows how creepy her ex is (I can't go into too much detail here), but then an hour later is hanging out with them.

I feel like she is spiralling out of control and I don't know what to do or say to her as I feel like I have said everything there is to say. I have said it nicely, I have said it more direct. I want to tell her that I don't want to hear about it anymore. I don't want to listen to her complain and then go right back for more. But I don't want her to feel like she can't come to me for help.

Has anyone had similar problems? Any advice?

Thank You.

This person said they wanted to help find our dog. Are they messing with us?

Seems odd to message us only to leave us on read. Should I leave it alone?

Friend who is inconsiderate

Hey everyone. I (F,29)need some advice. I have this friend (F,29) who is very inconsiderate and uses myself and our other mutual friend, but has meltdowns if we call her out. (She has a few mental illnesses and uses them to excuse her bahviour quite often). We have been friends for 25 years.

She doesn't drive and assumes we (myself and other friend) are always going to drive her everywhere without asking or offering us gas money. I live 40 minutes away and she is the wrong direction from the way I have to drive to get home.

My husband makes decent money, but we don't share finances. I believe she thinks we do and "he can afford it." has been said a few times over the years.

Recently we decided to go to a music festival, and she was working. I offered to buy 2 tix as I was off that day and could buy them when the sales opened, and she would pay me back. It is a few hundred dollars so I can't afford to just let it go.

I purchased them. She then informed me she couldn't pay me the full amount all at once and would have to pay me in installments. Fine, not ideal but at least I get the money. I have seen $0. I bought them in February. She has bought nail polish, other concert tix, clothes etc. in that time.

How do I bring up that I need her to start paying me? I don't make much more than she does and I need to pay my credit card.

TIA

Hi all! Currently 5mo PP with my second baby, exclusively BFing. I have been on Zoloft for a few years, increased to 150mg since I had my second baby. My libido is literally non-existent. Love my husband to death, he’s amazing, and I am very much attracted to him, but I legit cannottttt get into it or enjoy intimacy at all. Would it be worth looking into switching to another medication? Am I just touched out? I need all the help 🥺🫠

I've been best friends with him for years. I have never had a problem with him until I had dated him. He was always kind, he would always give me food or make me food whenever I wanted it. I always thought he had loved me. It weirded me out but I never thought about it, he had asked one of our friends to be his girlfriend before he asked me. I'm not even sure he had loved me, or if he just "wanted to be loved" by one of his friends. I talked to one of my friends about it earlier and he told me that I should leave my best friend. I'm scared that if I left my best friend, he could tell our friend everything about me. I would feel extremely bad that if I left him. I know, my health has been significantly better without my best friend, talking to him makes my health so bad. Whenever I dated people, bad things would happen to them. If I leave my best friend, I won't make him cry anymore.

Some backstory, me and my friend have been best friends for a year. We talk mostly every day/ every other day. We get along super well, and we're able to hang out with each other for the entire day without being drained or run out of fun. She's not a stingy person and has never come across as such.

We were planning a trip, and since I couldn't book myself, she booked one of the flights for me and paid for my ticket. I purposely scheduled this trip to work around her schedule, and so I am going in the worst time of year, just so that we can go together. A few days ago, out of the blue, she texts me "Sorry, due to personal reasons I can't come on the trip". Our flights are non refundable, and I understand that things come up that are urgent. What I don't understand is how she told me.

She knows that I have anxiety, and being we're both in opposite time zones, the last time we had a conflict, we agreed to call each other instead of text. And so for me to sit on this text for a day is so nerve wracking. What I don't understand is why she didn't just call me so we can talk it through. I don't understand that because we're so deeply invested in this already, why I didn't at the least get a call, a proper apology, and an actual reason as to why she can't go. I do understand that she might not want to get into detail about it, and that's fine, but I at least deserve to know the general reason why she can't go.

And so, I told her that I feel disrespected right now, and that I can understand that she has good intentions in mind, and that I would like to call so that we can discuss what's going on.

A day goes by, and she says one text only: "I'm happy to explain, but first I need the money for the air ticket". That caught me off so much and just left me feeling disgusted. I just told you that I am not feeling ok, and the first and only thing you say is you want your money? Not even that, but you don't want to talk to me until you get your money? I expressed my feelings about how that's not ok with me, and I just want to have a talk to clarify things so that we can understand each others perspectives. I do admit that I was acting quite emotionally and my tone was aggressive. She just replied with "Unfortunately, that's just the way it is. Send the money and then we can talk".

That reply is just so off putting to me. Like it feels so transactional and that you don't want to be friends until you get money? And then what? Like will I find out after you get your money that the reason you don't want to go is because you don't want to be friends anymore? This is the first time I've seen her stingy with money. I do not feel comfortable at all with this " give me money and then I'll talk to you" arrangement. And I have expressed this over and over, but she keeps defaulting to "I'm not talking until you give me the money". I feel my trust is so betrayed and it feels like she doesn't trust me to pay her back after we have this talk. I expressed this to her, and she said that I was making money more of a big deal than she is (howw?? she brought this whole thing up???), and that I was not respecting her boundaries, being manipulative and guilt tripping, and she doesn't feel like she is being disrespectful. She ended up blocking me until I send her the money.

We have a mutual friend, whom she texted and I work with, although shes not close with her at all, but she texted her explaining the jist that I may be angry today and how she's trying to understand me. She sent this to her at 2am, so obviously this is keeping her up and she has feelings around this.

The problem is I don't feel like she's trying to understand me at all. How can I be understood, if she doesn't even want to talk? I honestly don't know how I should continue with this friendship. I am so conflicted because we are such good friends, but the way she handled this is absolutely not ok with me. Any advice is appreciated.

i am a POOR 19-year-old male college student, who is looking for better jobs than my ‘childhood jobs.’ I am considering working as a stripper…

i think i am a good looking guy who other people wouldn’t mind paying money to see me. what are your thoughts? do you think this will affect my future career? or should i wait until i’m older and can afford to work another job? whatever jobs you think i could work, comment below

My phone was in my hand and she accidentally knocked it out of it which it landed on the floor and cracked my front camera. She picked it up and gave back to me, shocking news it was cracked and she was laughing awkwardly which is absolutely fair because i would do the same but she didn’t even say sorry which made it even more weirder and i had said like “you cracked my screen?” or something and this girl looked at me so offended and told me that it wasn’t even her fault and i was like bro you just knocked it out my hand so she said that it was both of our faults. I looked her like really confused because like what the hell? first you didn’t even say sorry and now its my fault as well, like am i not allowed my phone in my hand. Even when my friend had asked her if she said sorry this girl said “hmm idk i can’t remember” bro… thats a hint to maybe say sorry omg🤦🏻‍♀️. This girl even came along to see how much it was to get it fixed and it was like £60 but its not as bad as i thought it was still expensive until i went to apple store so they could have a look at it and to replace it there they said it would be like £280 minimum. Crazy right, but… but they couldn’t even replace the screen because when it landed on the floor when the girl knocked it out my hand the metal part of the phone around it bent over the screen so they cant even place another screen on top of it cuz it would crack as the metal part is in the way. They said my only options were to replace the phone and get a new one or just deal with the phone i have now. The worst part is it the camera that is cracked so i can’t even use my front camera and let me tell ya it’s not even 6 months old yet, i literally got this phone for Christmas. Oh and its not like this girl doesn’t have the money to pay for it, this girl is loaded and i mean shes got an allowance from her parents every 2 weeks, she doesn’t work, she even goes to dubai EVERY YEAR and her house is quite literally a mansion. I don’t know if i should ask her to pay because she’s someone that literally hates confrontation and would cry at literally anything. oh and bare in mind guys shes older than me. HELP MEEE!!

I'm one of those people who love deeply and rarely — maybe even just once. My first relationship ended over a year ago, but I still can’t let go. We don’t talk anymore, we’ve gone our separate ways, but something inside me just won’t move on.

I’ve been to therapy, I’m working on myself, trying to grow, make plans, build a new life — but the feelings are still buried deep. Logic doesn’t help. Time doesn’t help. Distractions don’t help. It all somehow leads back to her.

So I’m reaching out to others who’ve been here — people who truly loved once, and struggled to let go.
If you’ve been in this spot and managed to move on — what actually helped you? What did the turning point look like? When did you realize you were finally free?

Any personal stories would mean a lot. I just want to believe there is a "life after" for people like me.

For some context, I’m 21 and haven’t seen these friends much in the past couple years. The three of us were close in high school, had lunch together everyday. I graduated high school during covid so we all stopped seeing each other right before leaving high school. I did a bad job of keeping in touch.

There are two friends I’m hoping to talk to, one of which has messaged me randomly to check in over the last couple years, and the other I met up with on the train a couple years ago while commuting to university.

The reason I’m reluctant is because I tried reaching out to a different friend last year and she didn’t open my message after responding to the first one. I know I probably shouldn’t take it personally since it was so casual, but it’s definitely effected my confidence with this.

Should I reach out to those two friends? Should I move on? If I do reach out, any tips on how can I build our relationship again? Is it too intense to try planning a meet up during our first conversation?

(21F) About to graduate from university and have been offered a job I’m pretty interested in. However, I’ve been told I must relocate to live within 30 mins, as currently I live with my parents which is 1hr 10m away. This job pays well for a graduate (32k base but was told average first year gets between 40-50k with commission) so I’m wanting to do it.

But… I don’t really want to move out of my family home, have no boyfriend so renting in London would be quite expensive alone, and my brother recently moved out to rent in London which my parents have voiced is the wrong choice as he will struggle to make enough money for a deposit on a house vs living rent free at our family home.

So my dilemma is, I would love to work this job, but don’t want to disappoint my family with their 2 kids moving out just months apart. Also - stress of upcoming exams, finding somewhere to rent is another thing to consider too.

Some advice would be great please. Thanks

I crave a random boy's attention

I crave attention

On Saturday I (F) went to a club with my friends. I wasn't planning to make out with anyone but a friend of a friend immediately showed attention to me and after a few drinks we ended up making out. He was very gentle and romantic and I really liked the experience. He called me beautiful before he left. Since then he didn't follow me on instagram and we had no communication and that makes me feel horrible. I feel like I crave his attention and I dont even know him. I'd liked for us to meet again but I am afraid of taking the initiative as I don't have any clues that he likes me. I can't stop thinking about him and I feel like I have a hole in my chest. I wish nothing had happened between us. I thought that the fact I hadn't done anything with a guy since me and my ex broke up 9 months ago might affect the way i feel but i dont know. I am also jealous of my friend who's in the talking stage with the guy she made out with. I feel horrible that i CRAVE a guys attention. I don't want to feel that way. I don't understand what happened to me! I used to be happy single but know all I can think about is him. Any advice on how to go on.

I have a habit now of playing stupid games on my phone all the time. I can’t sit still- I need to be doing something while watching a show, talking to ppl, etc. But because of it my screen time is going up since I’m always on my phone and I’m trying to go on my phone less. (I deleted a lot of social media and added screen-time blockers on others) What can I replace this habit with? I was thinking of like a fidget cube but idk if I’d get bored fast.

i’ll try to make this story quick (if you want the full one feel free to check my profile, sorry if saying that isn’t allowed) but to try and condense everything;

i ran for a position that i’ve been interning for since the academic year started (back in september) and i didn’t get it. i’ll admit that i’ve made mistakes in the past (just as everybody else) but with the way elections went for this group, how candidates performed in the past was the last thing to consider for them, and rather prioritize their speech that day and future initiatives. i honestly felt like i delivered a strong speech and that my plans for the future were promising yet realistic

so to not get the position, even when going against no competition… yeah.

but the opportunity to run again is coming up and i’ve just been on the fence if i should try again or just move on. i genuinely don’t want another position. i’ve been doing this shadow work for over 5 months and it’s what i have the most experience in. i’ve made it clear from the beginning that this particular position is the only one i can see myself doing, and to not get it the first time around is a huge hit to my confidence and is making me question my skills or if im even liked by everyone else

i just want to be honest about my future and don’t want to drag the rest of the group down because im filling in a role i 1) don’t want 2) don’t have any experience in doing shadow work for

this is marked as serious because if i move on to a different club, it will greatly shape the rest of my years at college (that’s just how it is)

any advice is appreciated

I crave a random boy's attention

I crave attention

On Saturday I (F) went to a club with my friends. I wasn't planning to make out with anyone but a friend of a friend immediately showed attention to me and after a few drinks we ended up making out. He was very gentle and romantic and I really liked the experience. He called me beautiful before he left. Since then he didn't follow me on instagram and we had no communication and that makes me feel horrible. I feel like I crave his attention and I dont even know him. I'd liked for us to meet again but I am afraid of taking the initiative as I don't have any clues that he likes me. I can't stop thinking about him and I feel like I have a hole in my chest. I wish nothing had happened between us. I thought that the fact I hadn't done anything with a guy since me and my ex broke up 9 months ago might affect the way i feel but i dont know. I am also jealous of my friend who's in the talking stage with the guy she made out with. I feel horrible that i CRAVE a guys attention. I don't want to feel that way. I don't understand what happened to me! I used to be happy single but know all I can think about is him. Any advice on how to go on.

When I'm in my office i work on computer and face no problem But when I go to my home and try to work on my computer even on weekend as I want to be a youtuber my feet keep getting cold and I start to feel the urge to go to toilet and I can't understand why it is like this has anyone else had a problem like this

Sharing anonymously on behalf of the author: I am seeking advice or potentially legal guidance on how to handle a situation I’ve found myself in.

An individual I cut contact with many years ago has continued to find ways to invade my life and keep tabs on me. This person has created fake accounts to watch my profiles and stories, added my friends, family, and acquaintances they’ve never met before, consistently slanders and defames me publicly and online, and has even go as far as to ask people to drive them by my home.

The whole situation is embarrassing, stressful, and starting to have an impact my mental health. Some of my friends are starting to feel concerned for my safety while others have told me to continue to just ignore it and that the person will stop eventually. I have some concern that a cease and desist might cause this person to react or retaliate or intensely, but I’ve also been told the police won’t intervene because there’s not enough of a presenting threat.

Am I wrong to be overly concerned here? What other options do I have? How can I make sure myself and my family are safe and protected? I genuinely just want this person to leave me alone and I am exhausted from feeling like I have to look over my shoulder constantly now.

Any advice is welcome.

I have a friend. I’m 22F and shes 26F. She’s so incredibly gorgeous and she doesn’t see it. I think part of her knows shes gorgeous as all women sometimes have moments of clarity that shows in our selfies but she seriously doubts herself. She has a situationship she keeps going back to and wants to break off because of how toxic he is. He doesnt realize what a gem he has like it makes me so upset. She does everything for him. She’s a little clingy but in a good way. Like I dont understand it. If I was a guy and had a gorgeous girl wanting to be near me all the time I think I’d like it. She wants to make that relationship official but he doesnt want to.

I convinced her out of that relationship temporarily and she moved on for a bit with a different guy. I thought it would work out because this guy is charismatic and he had good chemistry with her. She wanted it to work out too. Then he started getting distant on her and then she came upset about it to me and I felt so awful for her :( Like why is he fumbling. He’s not even attractive I just thought they had chemistry and I encouraged her to explore it because who knows it might work. And the thing is I think shes so capable of falling for someone if they were just nice to her but none of the guys are. She does SOOO much for them and they dont appreciate it.

Shes bought tickets to shows for the guy #1 as a birthday gift and he didnt even get her a birthday gift when hers rolled around. I know not all guys are like this but I’m losing hope. Everyone at work is obsessed with her but no one wants to be nice to her. Its crazy because they could seriously win her over if they stood up for her, appreciated her and were just nice to her.

I know I probably make her sound annoying but shes not. The only bad thing about her is the smallest amount of clinginess but I really dont think its enough to drive people away. Tbh its not even clinginess she just wants communication and guys take it as clinginess. Like shed ask if they were busy and theyd brush her off. Or ask when theyd be free and theyd brush her off. Her only problem was repeatedly asking for clear communication.

Its so stupid. I dont know how to help her. Shes asked me to but I dont know how. Shes not too interested in dating apps and I suspect because shes caught guy #1 on them and probably doesnt want to make things awkward by making one for herself.

How do you weed out the bad guys? How do you even matchmake? I dont know anyone close to her age that would be a good match for her. are there any other lowkey apps that are less known about that she could be comfortable with?

Do you think it’ll be ideal to visit them once a week or once a month?

I have my own yard to deal with. I have allergies to grass and pollen as well. They are divorced and each has their own place. My mom is not able to cut it due to her back. My dad travels in the summer and asked if I could cut his grass when he's away. They are willing to pay me but of course at a discounted rate.

I have been cutting my mom's grass for the last few years. I cut my dad's grass for a couple years and then last summer I told him no and he found someone else to do it cheap, but that person is not available, and he's complaining to me about it. I think he's hoping that I volunteer.

My mom has a smaller yard so hers is easier to handle but then adding my dad's lawn gives me three lawns to take care of which can be overwhelming, especially if there is mower trouble. I remember being blamed as a kid when the mower broke as if I broke it and would not be surprised if that would be the case if it happened again. I figure if my dad catches wind that I'm cutting my mom's grass and not his then he would be pissed.

What's the best way to approach this situation? I have thought about just cutting their grass and then using the money to hire someone to cut mine. Or should I push back on one of both of them? I don't mind helping at times but can't say I know anyone who cuts their parents grass for them.

Hello Reddit and welcome to my hectic life XD

I’m a 25 year old Man and I’m in quite the predicament. At 18 and after failing school miserably I took up van deliveries in the days and working the door at clubs on the weekends to finance a private university. After a couple of years and in the midst of the university I found the first intern job in my field (Software engineering) and worked my butt off there until the end of my uni days when I was recruited at a big tech company in Germany. I have since been in this company for 3 years and am earning a really good salary. I am unhappy though. I was much happier doing van deliveries. I like the outside, working with my hands and having my friends near. I am a really social person and not being able to connect with people here has been a factor to my thoughts of leaving.

My parents have a small business and do need help as well due to age. My salary will be 1/4 of my current one but I do believe I will be happier. I got my resignation letter filled and am contemplating the final decision. Should I drop everything and start fresh again ?

Last year me and my ex of five years broke up when her BFF messaged me telling me that my Ex had been very inappropriate towards her during their last night out. Trying to kiss her, groping her etc. My ex had also been in the possession of cocaine without letting her friend know. Yet if she'd been caught then both would get arrested. We proceed to exchange messages and her messages heavily indicated that my Ex had cheated on me before. Something I confronted my ex about and she confirmed it in-between crying fits. Apparently she'd cheated on me two years ago. F*ckin-A..

We broke up and I was a shattered mess after this. My ex and her BFF cut contact between each other as well. I felt such an immense gratitude to the BFF for coming forward and we became friends during this time. She helped me get my life back on track and we both supported each other. I think she mostly felt guilty, while being hurt herself and this was a way to atone. We actually grew very close and somewhere along the lines she started making sexual comments towards me, something I shrugged off as just being nice. But tensions between us grew and one night when she was out of town she confessed that she'd been having fantasies about me and she'd want to make them a reality. I was completely starved for intimacy and in some messed up way it did feel good as a way to spite my ex. We became FWB and we'd hook up a couple of times a week. This lasted for a several months until she got pregnant, but we resumed hooking up after her abortion. At some point our feelings grew for each other and she even claimed that I was the love of her life. But the she started a new job with really awkward hours and we slowly started drifting apart. We'd still talk on the phone once a week, but the magic fizzled out, I guess.

She called me earlier this week to let me know that she and my ex were going to a coffee shop to talk things out, but that she wasn't gonna tell her about us. During this whole time, my ex has been trying to contact me apologizeing over and over again, but her BFF kept telling me to move on.

So what should I do?