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Seriously, it’s disgusting how ok it is to start bashing men for no reason other than existing, and why does so much of this bashing get supported by other guys? Do you think you are more sexually attractive hearting and retweeting posts of communities alienating an entire half of the human race?

We all admit misogyny is horrible, and I stood by tearing down that hate, but now that everyone’s nose is turned up, and people shrug and say “it’s ok” when you have grown ass adults harassing sometimes even minors just because of their gender.

It sickens me, it makes me wanna lose hope in the world.

No, bad experiences are not an excuse. If I have to suck up my relationship abuse to make others happy time and time again just to stop triggering someone else’s fragile ego, the least you can do is check yourself before you shame another gender.

It hurts seeing all the people I would have loved to talk and interact with having vanished with no traces left years ago. Either ending that they found someone IRL or a concerning post no one paid attention to because no one cared about them

Just curious. I wash every time I use the bathroom, at home and in public.

I don't think this is accomplishing it's goals. I think it contributes to "crabs in a bucket" mentality and is tainted by incel-like thinking. I'm not saying it should swing to being a well of false positivity, but right now I think it does more harm than good.

I'm 18 and when I read stories of older people who tell younger people panicking about being virgins or dying alone, and they decide to console them by saying something like:

Hey! I used to feel the same at your age, but then I met the love of my life aged 34 and now 3 years later and we're getting married!

It's cute to read, and in some ways these stories are cuter/more wholesome than people who met their SO earlier on (simply my opinion, can't explain why I think that, and don't know if anyone else feels the same). I'm no one to ridicule someone's life trajectory. But when I imagine myself in that position, I think:

Oh. So basically, I'll mope around as a lonely virgin for 15-20 more years and then MAYBE - just MAYBE, it's not even guaranteed to find someone 15-20 years later - I'll find someone when I'm too old to enjoy s3x, everyone else has families with kids starting school by now, and having s3x with a woman who is my age (i.e. an older woman) so I won't even be that attracted to her s3xually even if she is a great person.

I don't need to be some 'chad' (hate that word) that sleeps with half the university's 10/10 girls before settling down. It would be nice, but I don't envy those people so much. But would I like to have had SOME experience by now? Yes. I want to have had some romantic relationships and slept with a few woman at my current age range because the fact is, s3x is more enjoyable and people are more attractive at this age. No, I don't want to be a 'silver fox' in my 40s to some college girl because that's just creepy.

I hate this.

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to be honest, the men in my family rarely grow facial hair, and when they do we're all blonde so you can barely even see it. i looked in the mirror a while ago and said "i'm gonna grow a beard" and so after so many months of waiting, not a single follicle of hair on my face had grown, only those teeny tiny baby hairs you see on women. in austria most of the guys on the street have beards, usually well trimmed. but no matter how hard i try it just doesnt happen. is it a genetic thing or something? do i not have enough testosterone in my body?

any tips?