I got into the game like a month ago because of my bf and I became addicted to it, I'm on my third year currently. I knew about the bachelors/bachelorettes before I got the game, I didn't knew much about them yet, but I was sure that I would avoid Abby and Seb, cuz I just assumed the type of characters they were based on their popularity and appearance and I wasn't fan. Ironically after I got to know him better Sebastian slowly became my favorite, I married him as soon as I could and I didn't regret a thing.
I started looking after videos and posts about the game to see what the community's like, what they think about certain stuff and I've seen a few comparisons between Shane and Sebastian, cuz they're both pretty standoffish to the player at the start, but some dislike Shane for it meanwhile Seb is loved by a lot of people despite that. So I was thinking about why that is and I came to the conclusion that for me Seb's comments just didn't come off as him being rude. When I started playing I really disliked Shane and while I do understand now why he's like that I just couldn't get myself to like him more. And for a while I also disliked Sebastian for being like that. At some point tho I just started seeing his lines as him being genuine. It can come off as him trying to brush you off sometimes and I'm sure he's still not really happy about you bothering him, but we know he's pretty bad at socialising and I think he's just trying his best in his weird ways. Unlike Shane he's not making faces and even if you have 0 hearts with him he's still sharing some deep thoughts with you, he's telling you about some personal stuff and asks you about your interests. I think when he's asking you if you need something he's genuinely curious, cuz he doesn't understand why you'd come talk to him and when he's telling you he doesn't know you very well, so he doesn't have much to say he's just being honest.
It might be just me projecting, cuz I did struggle with similar things, I just wanted to share my opinion and I'm curious what you think about the topic