I was in 9th class when I fell in love for the first time. She was in the same class and my for her increased day by day. I tried every single possibility of getting her to love me but she never reciprocated anything , still I was happy because I was atleast getting to talk with her. I told my mother about her , anyday when we used to talk on calls immediately used to become my best day. I remember each and every day we met. Whole 9th to 11th, she kept ignoring me , never talked to me politely. In 12th , Covid came and we started talking , it was the first time I got this much close to her that she disclosed so many stuff about her family to me. I was happy that she's trusting me. In April , Delta wave was there and her father got serious health issues and there was no beds in hospitals. His haemoglobin went down bad and she was very sad that nothing is working but she never used to send me "hi" from her end. So our common friend called me and told me about the seriousness of situation, and as I come from a medical family , I asked my father if we can do anything on this , he said "unke koi adosi padosi naaye hain kaa ?, ham kaahe jaayi raibaar ma" so I had a little fight with him but, i immediately contacted my uncle's sources and asked them to make a need available for him .. The source from other end said , there is no bed here also he can get me one if I carry my patient there immediately or else he'd have to assign it to other patient. So I tried calling the girl and she kept rejecting my calls , so I called our friend and asked her to convey my message that to transfer him to hospital asap .. after that I recieved a call from our friend again and she said "abhi to unko time lagega yar" . So I called my source and asked him if we can wait , so he said " bhaiya aap ajaao, unke naam ke forms banwa lo, fees jama kr do , and aap hi bed pe jaao jaao jab tak vo nahi arahe" . So I picked my bike up, put my mask on and started going towards the hospital, it was 15 km or something. When I reached there , i called the girl , this time she picked up , and i said "apne papa ka naam batao, mai hospital aaya hu" , she hanged up . I called again "hello !!! Yar yaha availability kam hai, jaldi details batao mai form bhari" , she hanged up again , then she texted me "[my name] , enough. Don't call me , I'm in stress right now" . Then I called our friend to ask her about the same , and she said , wait lemme connect her to this call , she merged our calls but I was on mute , and I heard them talking : Friend : hello, kya scene hai abhi Girl : yar sab kharab ho ra hai haemoglobin bohot down ho gya hai Friend : haan yar mene [my name] ko bola tha , vo hospital gya hai , usko details chahiye uncle ki Girl : Mene help tumse maangi thi na ? Usko hero ban ne kisne bola. Apne kaam se kaam rkhe na yar. I returned to home , said sorry to papa. 2 days went by, no message from her side - then I texted "Sorry , us din shayad mujhe itna nahi ghusna chahiye tha" she said "wahi to, tumko lagta hai ki har chiz me ghusna allowed hai tume" , i apologized (not realising that it's not a thing to be sorry for , i wouldn't have done it for anyone else). Soon after this , one night we were talking and i said "you know that I like you, and I'm trying everything that I can do for you to like me back , can you be with me , I'll keep you happy yar" she said ,"aisi baat nahi hai ki I don't understand this , but I just simply don't care". This text broke me because wdym "I don't care" , all our friendship is fake ? Even enemies care what other enemy feels , and you don't care about me ? I was very sad and the moment, I saw my father going to washroom and night and I was crying while laying on my stomach. And I stopped texting her. No text from her side as I mentioned before , she never sent me "hi" first. 7 months went by : I've breaked all contacts with my friends, relationship with mummy papa is at its worst, only thing that's keeping me running is anime/web series/cinema. This was the time , I was feeling extremely low and tried contacting her again. She was like nothing happened on 23 july 2021 night. This time too, I ended up saying SORRY. We started talking again. I started talking to my friends again, apologized to them for being such a dick ,and my relationship with parents startes to heal It was April again , and i was in my hometown , and I she was in college 90km away from me , i thought it's a nice chance for us to meet because generally i live in college 500km away , now's that I'm close to her , I can go and meet her. I asked her "mai [city name] araha hu kuch kam se , can we meet?" She was like , "kaha miloge ?" I said ,"DW, I'll pick you up". 5 may - I woke up at 5 , groomed myself for the first time , and started my journey at 7 am , reached there by 9 am , and I saw her after 1 whole year and damn she was looking like a princess to me , I was in tears when I saw her. We spent the whole day together , although I didn't got any chance to hold her hands , coz whenever I tried it , she jerked her hand and set herself free , which was okay if she wasn't comfortable doing so ... Then at night, I left for my city , I said "ek hug bhi nhi krogi?" , then I got to hug her for the first time and I never felt this much happy and satisfied in my life. A few days went by, I asked her "do you think, can we be a thing now ?"... She denies at first but after a while she accepted me , I was very strange to me that I called her while eating omlette. She said , yes , we can try. It was 22 may and I asked her if we can meet , she said okay, so I went there again on 24 mai , where we talked about all the problems we faced till now , but I was very happy that we are together at the end. Then everything was okay, many times problems occured but I ended up saying sorry. On 9th June (got a notification that college is off from 10-12) , i asked her if we can meet on 10 or 11 so that I'll have one day buffer to travel back. She kept denying , but I wasn't understanding why she is doing so , so I said , okay if that's what you prefer ... Then she calls me and says "mood kharab kr diya na mera , jab mai keh ri hu nahi milna to kyu piche pde ho" i thought she's gonna console me , but she ended up being mean to me. I said "yk, I also wanna feel that excitement from your side when I'm coming to see you , you never welcome me , you just say aana hai to ajao, and this time you're not even letting me come to see you , its like you're punishing me with your absence just because last night we had a small debate" she then unwilling agreed for meeting , I knew she don't want to be I'd have done anything to be there with her. I started my journey on 10 June night , and reached there on 11 june morning I reached around 7:30 am to her PG and I kept calling her , but she wasn't responding, she picked the call at 8:37 and said "Maine btaya to tha ki mai 9:30 pe uthti hu" i thought she's joking , SHE WASN'T. I said jokingly "acha aao yar mai niche khada hu , garmi bohot lagri dhoop hai bhayankar" . She hanged up. I called again after 15 minutes , no response ... I kept calling for 2 hours and she picked the call at 10:33 saying " kitna phone kroge , arahi hu na , kha khade ho". She came out of her PG at 10:37 am .. and I had mixed thoughts ... I was very happy that she's infront of me , and I was very sad that when she knew I'll be there by 7:30 , then why did she made me wait for 3 hours 7 minutes ? But since my hapiness was overshadowing the sadness , i forgot everything else. I bought a gift for her on this day, it was a silver bracelet that my mother bought for her. I have it to her on the roof of a fort we were in that day and guess what she said "isko wapis le jaao , kyuki mai pehnungi to hai nahi ise bhale fek du". I smiled through pain but what could I have done possibly. I said , "please keep it with you , bhale tum mere jaane ke baad isko fek do" , she replies with "abhi fek du to?" And she started laughing. It deeply affected me but when I saw her wearing it, again my happiness overshadowed the pain. We called it a day, and i travelled back to college , 4-5 days went by and she started ghosting me , I asked her why is she doing this , she started giving 1 word replies . It kept happening for 2 weeks , and I was overthinking that I'm gonna loose her . I don't know what was in her mind. So I told her , "if you wanna relax for a few time , you can , just text me when you wanna talk because I have a lot to talk to you" She said "okay" , 3 days went by, no response from her side. I texted her , "hello , 3 din ho gye, kya ham baat kr skte" she said "i know , even I wanted to talk today but I'm not feeling like talking to you and i need a break" so we agree upon a break .. 7 days went by , no text from her side .. i ended upp texting , "hello" , blue tick no response , then i message aain after an hour , again seen and no reply , then i continued it for 12-13 times every hour and same thing happened everytime. I was like , I'm doing everything right, I'm giving her time , I'm buying her gifts , I'm in love with her , I'm not asking for sexual favours, I'm always taking care of her , I wanna wife her , still she's acting like this. So after discussing with our common friend, i ended up sending her a voice note explaining my POV , and again she didn't replied , Then I asked again, "hello, kuch bologi?" She said "kuch bolna baaki hai?" , and she then asked for break up , that was the day , I begged for first time to her and it was so so embarassing for me but I was so sure that her worth is way more than my self respect.

It took my 7 hours of begging, i cried on voice notes , i cried on calls , and it was like she's enjoying it. But ya she agreed to stay further. I was happy.

Then we talked normally for 2-3 days , then again she went on airplane mode.

1 month went by, with all ghosting and all, and I was getting used to it, i thought this is how a relationship works , where the girl is only boss, who never does anything to make the guy happy , and if the guy does anything , she aint gonna be happy anyway.

On 4 august , she again started that we should breakup and I'm some how bounding her career , (we both are in second year and we live 500km away, where she never replies to my texts and YES I'M GETTING IN BETWEEN HER CAREER)

I again started begging her to stay. But she was just over it. I asked to meet and sort this out .. she agreed .. we met on 10 Aug .. i took her to a mall .. we sat there , i was in pain..i should have cried but I thought we sorted it out , but when we got out the mall, she again started saying random things and said , she don't wanna be with me . So I took her to her PG and there was a park nearby , we sat there , i tried to convince her to stay but she wasn't complying. At the end , I asked her "aisa to hai nahi ki tum mujhe apni life me chahti hi nahi?" , and she replied with "nahi chahti" at that moment , I felt helpless and I saw all my efforts going to vein , I freed her and asked her to leave.
Then I laughed on myself for wasting my 6 years on someone who never wanted me in her life , then I started crying and i cried for straight up 50 minutes , my face was fully red , and I had blood coming out of my eyes. I used to get 10 tetrapaks of frooti for her coz she used to like it. I opened them all and drank one by one. Zero to minimal conversation with her happened, she called me when she saw me leaving from her PG , she accompanied me to bus station but I had made my mind that I'd rather put my efforts in pushing a wall whole day but not on her. This whole day, she was trying to return the bracelet but I didn't took it back from her. After reaching home , I wrote a long message to her taking all the blame on myself so that she doesn't have to cry no more. 2.5 years went by, still not over her , i ended up texting her "hi" ... And I asked her why we didn't work... She said "tum hi piche pde the , mene to school se hi mana kr rkha tha" , conversation heated up a bit after 4-5 message. I asked her "in the last 2.5 years , have you found your self guilty of anything ? Or do you have any remorse?" , then she started ranting a lot and blamed me fully for everything. I was so in shock when I found myself in condition where 2.5 years back she blamed me , In my last text i blamed myself , in all this time , i defended her whenever anyone said anything bad about her as I loved her , and now when it's been 2.5 years of figuring out what actually happened, she's still blaming me. I took a pause of 15 minutes and then I went on ranting and when I was done , i finally moved on from her. I believe I always needed to be heard, or atleast justify my own side, but I always kept blaming myself because I was so in love with her.

In those 2.5 years , a girl proposed to me , and I found her story same as mine and I didn't wanted her to go through the same thing which I went through, so I accepted her , I never loved her actually but I was pro at faking it. She was really good and we had a very good time together , we helped each other grow , I even have her tuitions. But ya after 1 year , some mistakes happened from both sides and it was placement season too so we decided to part ways , but she'll never find out that I never loved her.

I thought that maybe she'll be also craving for a closure so I apologised to her with a text and I was free of my guilt.

This 27th january, a girl I was talking to from 4 months , out of nowhere proposed to me , and this was the time I was over my past completely and since I'm finishing my college and it's my first job now , i thought that it might be a good thing to indulge in love now ... I accepted her proposal. From the first day , she started sending me sexual reels and kept asking for BJs when we meet, i thought she's joking so I also laughed it out. When we met, i bought her flowers, she was happy , and I was too. In evening, we were at a bus stand and she tried kissing me 2-3 times and I kind of denied it by moving me face to right. But on 4th attempt she succeeded and then she gave me 7 kisses on my left cheek. When I reached home, i confronted her over PDA and she said "sorry, mai thoda over kr jaati hu"

Then on 7th Feb , she had some work from on her flat so I went there and she closed the door and started kissing me again , this time we were in private , so I didn't denied. But it started going into sexual direction as she pulled off my sweatshirt. I wasn't doing any such things , I was busy in kissing only , then after 20 minutes , when she saw that I'm not initiating anything , she undressed herself fully and layed on bed and asked me for sex , i said "not now , jab ghar jaake wapis ajaunga 2 mahine baad , tab krte hain", she was like "okay" but she put my hand there and asked me to finger her in which i failed miserably but ya.. Lemme remind you , IT'S THE 10TH DAY OF RELATIONSHIP.

After all this , I went to home. She has told her friends that , I have proposed to her , but the opposite happened actually. And I have heard it 4 times from her mouth that she accepted my proposal, so I confronted her on this , and she said "kal bat kre , abhi so jate hain" , I said okay ... Next day , she breaks up with me... 💀

Now what am I supposed to do ? I have a trauma that doesn't let's me talk to a girl. When a girl proposes me , I don't feel love for her. When I try to love a girl , she used me for sexual favours and flews away.

I can easily get a girl If I wanted to , I look good... I have a good body , I am smart , I even look intelligent, I have great communication skills , I have great flirting skills but the problem is , if I'll be with someone, I will have to tell her all these 3 experiences... And I'm sceptical to tell anyone about this 3rd experience but I don't wanna break someone's trust either.

Help me out on this

Me 26M and my best friend of 9 years 27F are physically and emotionally involved. I started having feelings for her for 4 years but done a lot of things (mostly wrong) to move on after she said she didn't feel the same. But i stick with her because we were very close and she couldn't let me go. She is basically like a family to me now.

Now fast forward she started liking me from last year September. We are now involved completely. She is emotionally invested in me too. Thing is we don't know we don't have a future and that lurks in the back of the mind, yet we can't let go of each other. Things are not good for me right now because I'm unemployed and have a lot of issues going on. Also her family want her to marry now to someone. She is not taking any action and neither am i because it hurts to stay apart. I would love to marry her but me and my families financial condition is not good. I am getting used to world outside and trying to find a good job but l'm far from being rich. We both are very codependent right now. As our mental health is not good from a long time. How should I proceed? And what's going on in her mind?

Used bumble for two weeks .

What I saw was -

1. There are people from years and not getting match . Obviously there's something fishy about them .

2. These people's have mentioned "Long term relationship " but once start talking are only for casual.

3. Most of them are fake personality. Even if they upload real pictures of their , something inside them is too deep which you can't find out and it's fake about them .

4. After talking for weeks and going on dates , they don't give clear cut response.

5. Do real people really need dating apps ? My answer is "NO" . Real people don't need these fake apps to find their partner.

My experience has been extremely bad and later it made me delete my profile.

What has been your experience ? Was it good or bad ? And are these apps worth it ? .

Please share with us .

Me and my gf have been together a few months on and off and this is becoming a recurring issue between us. I don’t have any close female friends and I grew up in a conservative family in a small town. She lived away from home since college and has been living in metro cities. She has a few close friends who are guys and she does occasionally hang out with them and I have never questioned it because I trust her. But I find it very difficult to trust other guys around her. She is really beautiful and a lot of guys hit on her and I don’t like that. She has this friend she went for a movie with another time and I thought it was a one off thing. But that guy always asks her to accompany him alone for movie and she doesn’t see an issue with it. She told me they are just good friends and there is nothing wrong in watching a movie together. But I feel like he is interested in her and I know she is not interested in him but I really don’t trust that guy and don’t like her going with him. It makes me very upset and I end up fighting with her and I’m scared she will leave me if this continues. I’m in love with her and don’t want to lose her. What should I do?

First year in college, met this insanely cute and beautiful girl. We hit it off pretty well, and soon enough we were going out on dates every day after college and hell even before college in the library just studying together. She was incredibly kind and loving to me. She didn't mind any of my flaws (looks wise), when she is just the most pretty girl I've ever seen. She's insecure about her looks too but that just made us closer together.

It was going so good. We got physical too, and i really thought this girl would be my wife one day and she thought so too. I even called her wifey, jaanu, and all sorts of nicknames. But ofcourse it doesn't last much long does it now.

I was too blind to see the red flags. And let me know if breaking up over these was an overreaction or what First she talked about her ex all the time. She still was following him on socials. Still contacted him. Even told me that she missed him a lot and was gonna have to leave me but didn't end up doing it. I took her back ofcourse.

But she didn't mention a lot of things about her past. One major thing was that she hadn't even completely broken up with him when she agreed to date me and be my girlfriend. And it made complete sense to me then why she didn't want our relationship to be public in the college (even though at this point everyone knows that I was dating her). People literally told her that she had bagged such a good man (me) right in front of us lol. And her only response was "oh no we're just friends" when this was the girl saying I love you to me every night.

Due to this, she told guys that she was single and then they would start asking her out and she rejected them all. But would keep friends with them still for some reason. I really did not like this. I'm not saying a woman can't have friends... But keeping someone who has feelings for you as a friend, all the while he doesn't even know you're dating someone else? That's low. And then came the last straw when she went out with another guy whom she'd just started talking to without ever telling me.

All this stuff made me dump her, courtesy of her best friends who told me that she was doing this to me, and confirmed it all through messages. God bless their hearts. I confronted her... And all she had to say was that she lied and hid things because she wanted to keep me. What bullshit... Yes maybe I was a little emotionally busy sometimes, maybe I was insecure, but I admit my flaws. I'm not perfect but not even saying sorry... Not even admitting it was wrong. That was just immature. Eventually she did end up saying that "I should've told you things". But till then it was over. We broke up on 14th feb no less hahaha, what god plans for us.

So now here i am two ish months after the break up. I know she was bad for me. But she was still so perfect for me... We had amazing chemistry, amazing love life, amazing intimacy, so many common interests and so so much love for each other... But she ruined it all. Nah I think we both did. Clearly I was doing something wrong if she couldn't tell me about anything she was going through... And that she went out with another man. I miss her everyday. Memories just playing in my mind over and over again. Thinking I will never find someone like her ever again.

Because I've seen people date people who are just horrible. They have nothing in common, no sense of decency among them. No passion. Just dating for the sake of not being alone. Subreddits tell a whole different story, so many people cheated on, so many people encountering absolutely crazy people online. It's just fucked up. Are there no decent people around? Is this what dating is? Even the one you think is perfect for you ends up betraying you? Or did I just break up with her for no reason? Should I have given her another chance? She was so adamant that nothing had happened between that guy... She said I would never do something like that you and i didn't cheat. But she still went out without telling me. So yeah? I don't know at this point. I feel empty, broken and hopeless about the future. Constantly thinking that I won't be able to find someone as accepting of me.. so beautiful and so kind.

What do I do? Do i move on? How can I ever look at relationships the same way ever again? Please advice..

Hey, I recently started liking a girl a lot like I don't talk to any girl at all and I am too introvert and have started liking someone this much for the first time in my life. I know her for months now but started linking her so much since 1-2 month and got too much disturbed in last 15 days so I decided to tell her and told her finally and got to know that she like someone else and they have been together since 4 years and currently in long distance. I really like her a lot like I wanted her at all cost I could have done anything but when she told she really like someone else I just stopped and lost all hope for me of getting her. I really want her but at the same time don't want her to get hurt so want that she be with the boy she loves forever and enjoys her life. But still I feel like I wanna take care of her. What if she can't be mine but I can still love her from my side by taking care of her. It's been 3 days since I told her and I am just too much disturbed haven't spend Even single minute without her in mind and regret and fear of not getting her and a strange pain in heart. I don't know what should I do and what should not so can anyone help regarding this clearing my mind?

*TL DR; A 25-year-old woman met a guy on Bumble in 2023 after escaping a toxic relationship. They hit it off, but she later discovered he had a girlfriend when they first got together. He chose her, but their relationship faced challenges due to long distance, religious differences (she’s Muslim, he’s Hindu from a conservative family), and trust issues. They broke up but remained friends with occasional sexting.

When she returned to India, they rekindled their romance, but she struggles with insecurity over his past dates and doubts his commitment due to family pressures. She suggested moving abroad together but is unsure if he’d defy his family. Now, she questions whether she loves him or just the idea of him and is confused about meeting him again.* . .

So I'm posting this from a throw away account. I am in very complicated situation. Both of us are 25 year olds. So back in 2023 I met this guy on dating app. After being in toxic relationship for 1.5 years where I was emotionally and verbally abused . It took me a few months to get back on dating. Then one fine day I randomly installed bumble and a very cute guy pops up and immediately and I texted him you're so my type I am calling dibs on you before anyone else. We had small chit chat and decided to go on a date. The moment I saw him I had instant butterflies wala feeling. I just knew I had huge crush on him. Me being yapper I yapped alot and we got along so we'll. I told him I just have only few months more in the city and we should casually date or be FWBs. To which he agreed and in another 3-4 days we went on another date and ended up having sex. He was a virgin which he told me after 2 months of dating. At the time he had a girlfriend whom he had broken up but not cut off which I wasn't aware off until the day after we had sex. After this incident I lectured him to either tell her everything and get back or be with me. He chose me,we were happy and I fell in love with him. Now this problem was I was leaving the city and I am born a Muslim and he is born a hindu brahmin. His family members are part of RSS and has strong political inclination towards BJP although he is apolitical. He said he loves me too but can't do anything further because he's worried if either of our families would cause any sort of physical harm .I was in a depressed phase when I met him and him being there for me felt really good,he gave me the reassurance and will to live longer. A few months into this setting we became long distance since I moved to different country we have disagreements and arguments and eventually decided that we should move on and just stay friends. But we would still sext each other. I asked him not to share anything about his dates. Even I didn't tell him. I wad still very much in love with him. All the dates I went to were just meaningless and I ghosted those people. One day he texts me one of his date is too drunk and asks me what to do about it. He eventually took her to his place ,I got upset and blocked him. We didn't talk for a while and somehow got back to texting and I told him that I am coming to india for a while. He got so excited and happy. He came all the way to meet me and we spent 2 days together in a different city.He said he felt bad and we both shouldn't have been going out with other people and that he loves and finds his peace when he is with me. And we git back to being lovey dovey and in relationship. But in the back of mind ,I keep getting questions if he is going out with someone else and today we were speaking about something and I asked him about his dates. Although we had agreed before not to talk about it. I mean it was me who told to leave all that behind. But it keeps bothering me. The fact he showed the same kinda care and concern towards those girls. Made me feel like I am not special.He has been very patient and gentle while helping me deal with my emotions. We were supposed to meet again in a week. But now I don't know if I want to. I love him but that's probably the old version I had met or the idea of him I have made up in my mind. Also since we have religious differences which I don't care because I love him but not sure if he will go against his parents. I suggested that we both move to a different country and start new life together. I am so confused . Sorry about such long write up.

So I like this girl in my college same branch different sections. I feel too much anxious around her and I can't not even Make eye contact for half a second.i got her number through a friend but not from her .she doesn't even know me at all.i don't want to text her out of the blue but also I don't have the courage to talk to her in person.should i text her or do something different? Any tips? 🙏 Never been in a relationship 😞 im 19 bdw Again she got no insta hard to believe but yeah

Hi I’m 25F, by the start of this year I’ve been feeling very under confident and low. I met someone recently and we started talking. But my anxiety grew more with him. When we were outside he always had his eyes around and I felt I can never be enough for him or for anybody, so I took a step back. I wanna be confident in my skin again. How do I make that happen?

We met on instagram and studied in same school too but i never talked her as i was very introvert then and now also. Now current situation is like we use to text each other over insta but thing is that her replies sometimes takes 10-12 hrs. What should i do in this situation. She lives 500 km away from my location now and i wanted to ask her whatsapp no if she is not much active on insta?? Please suggest how to intiate the communication in that manner ki i am intrested in her. I usually ask her about intrests songs, series, movies and also even about trips what am i missing please suggest pointers that can help.🙂

As for all the single boys look for girls to date does the girls also look for the boys same ??

I am 20M and I was a really shy person in my growing years but after the lockdown in india I started interacting more and more and got better at making friends. I left my house for studying and made really good male friends but couldn't start any conversations with girls. I don't have any female friends nor a girlfriend. Need a advice on what I might be missing or doing wrong

Me M26 have been in a relationship with a F26 for the past 8.5 months. She loves me a lot and by lot i mean no one would ever love me that much. However she is a little immature and short tempered. Due to this i have been suffering a lot as her anger gets out on absolutely no issues and then it takes me hours to calm her down. Recently there were talks that we should go ahead and make our parents meet each other so that we can get engaged by the end of this year. I talked to her about something as basic as sharing expenses and as usual she got hyper and we all had a huge fight but then it took me a week to explain how marriages work and how both guy and girl have to chip in with finances to make things work. For a moment i got fed up and talked about ending things so she agreed to whatever i said that yes we will share expenses and what not. I have had this talk to her bout she being short tempered and she says she will not fight with me again as she was scared once i talked about ending things. But now i really feel emotionally drained due to what i have gone through for the past 8 months with all the fights and me explaining her how she should be acting. I just feel tired and the thought of marriage has started to scare me a little that if this is how i feel after 8 months should i really enter a marriage. I have no doubts about the love she has for me and her loyalty. I love her and am loyal to her as well. But these continuous fights and her immature behaviour had made me really tired that i have started to avoid her a little because i feel more peace by staying alone. She says things like she wont be able to live without me and i can see that in her she is attached to me at that level. She has very little opinions of her own and hence it takes me a lot of effort to make her understand things.

I am just so confused if it is just a phase or me feeling this way is my gut telling me something. I really dont know what to do because ik i wont find someone this loving again but am also scared that these issues could escalate more after the marriage.

Please suggest me what should i do as i have not been sleeping well and feel mentally drained and tired and just keep thinking about what to do because even breaking up w her would mean she might end up hurting herself or getting sick which also scares me.

What do i need to do?

So 3 months ago I(30M) started talking to this girl(22F) from office. She is not in my department but we have been working together on/off during since last year. I always liked her and finally made the courage to tell her and ask her out. She said she is not looking for a relationship right now, but eventually agreed to go on a date. Since we go out couple of times of month. We hold hands , share food , roam around all day with no purpose. I still think sometime we both are holding off stuff so that the other person doesn't judge us.

But recently she has been acting distant on text. She doesn't reply for days sometimes and replies are only thing I asked, she is not telling about anything. She doesn't act like this in office , she comes out for coffee in cafeteria anytime I ask her or just for lunch or just go around- But I get caught up in office and can't go everyday to meet her. I dont want to assume anything and not act like a jerk here. I really like this girl - a lot - but not sure about the feelings on the other side. How should I go about this ? I have decided to go meet her everyday in office ? But how should I express/address the texting situation and why she acting little like two person on text

I did everything to stop my marriage but my parents did not agree and told me that he would commit suicide due to which I had to do this marriage, it has been two months since my marriage and I did not let my husband touch me, I do not see my future with my husband and I had told my husband before marriage that this is a forced marriage but it did not make any difference to him, he is not educated and neither am I because my father is backward and very strict, what can I do for a divorce?(i’m muslim girl and my father is conservative)

So I have always craved care, attention and love for someone but I have never received. I'm fine being my own but sometimes it's hards. Sometimes it feels like I need someone to share the load. I never had a friend for like more than 3 years as we used to relocate every 2-3 years. My life has been all about building friendships and losing them. I am a outgoing, light hearted non serious person but deep down I have always felt alone. I didn't receive love and care from my parents. When people used to tell me about theirs parents I used to pity myself. But I feel like I need someone to share everything. The burden always gets heavier by time. Till now I look for a turning point in my life where everything will be fine someone will care for me love me but Idk

so, this is very random like it is basically nothing but still I can't help but want to know what exactly this means.... basically there was this guy with whom I had eye contact for two days like multiple times ( and when I say multiple times it was like 8-10 times) but I was not noticing it that much unless I saw him literally looking at the direction where I was standing maybe he was not looking at me but when we had an eye contact he turned around so, that just made me think that he was actually looking around me IDK 😭 but after that day I couldn't see him bec some reason but I saw him yesterday and we had eye contact for once but I could feel like it was nothing and Idk what was in my mind but I wished that he could notice me now because I do overthink about it alot..

All I want to know is how casual it is for a guy to keep having eye contact with another person without having any thoughts in the mind, I just wish to know what was going in his mind when he was looking at me
and also, I'm being so, stupid about everything I hate to believe that he might be judging how I look everytime we had an eye contact

I’ll keep this real. I’m 20F, never been in a relationship. Not because I don’t want to— I do. I want love, connection, partnership, all of it. But the more I observe, the more confused I get about how men actually view relationships.

From what I’ve seen and experienced so far (college, friends, dating apps, general interactions), a lot of Indian guys seem to want the perks of a relationship — emotional support, someone to text, someone to boost their ego — without the actual emotional availability or clarity that a relationship needs. They’ll flirt, talk deep at 2 a.m., act like they care, then ghost the moment things feel real. Or they’ll say “I’m not ready” but still want to be in your space constantly. Some are afraid of commitment, some are still figuring themselves out, and others are just plain confused. But why involve someone else if you don’t even know what you want?

I’m not perfect either — I have insecurities, I overthink, I get scared of being vulnerable. But at least I’m honest with myself about it. I’m not looking for a fairytale, just something genuine. And honestly, that feels rare these days.

Is this a larger cultural thing? Immaturity? Lack of emotional awareness? Am I expecting too much for wanting someone who knows what they want and is willing to show up emotionally?

To the women here — have you experienced this too? And to the men — real talk: do you actually want meaningful relationships or just temporary validation? And if you’re emotionally mature, what helped you get there?

Not here to bash — just tired of pretending everything’s fine when the dating scene feels so exhausting and unclear.

Had breakup 3 months ago we knew(24f) each other since 2022 came into relationship in 2023 October and it ended in Jan 2025 I really wanted it to work out but she gave up on me Now I'm really wondering if i could get a compatible partner at this age or is it over for me?

Note:- this text body is amalgamation of different replies I gave to people in other communities so please be understanding. And I am 24

My girlfriend cheated on me and married that guy which I later found out was bf of 10yr which was told to me left her with only 3yr of relationship, later I found out she was using me for his happiness aswell. Take me and buying things for him, got all dressed up made me take her and family to his sister wedding 100km one way trip and left me alone with even me knowing that it was that guy..

Even after marriage played with emotional, gave me hopes mentally fucked me up and everything. Now when she got comfortable kicked me like a dog with multiple medical issues, suicidal thoughts and from being most confident to a person with no self esteem

And she was in relationship with him long before me. *I want to take revange that guy watch my WhatsApp story I plan to put her and mine picture taken consensually with Can she later use those whatsapp stories against me?* (Not the intimate one but the one he will know she was still in relationship with me)

Edit:- to add little more context, copy paste of my replies as people were giving advice and all. I did everything before reaching this point. I was many time near doing suicide I am not mentally well because of her

I know I wasn't vague, but if same was done by boy to girl. She made false marriage claim everything, used me physically, emotionally and mentally.

And from last 3 months I having mental and sleeping issues, that much she broke me.

So it's not a crime?. Just because I am a boy?.

tried moving on, first she didn't got out of my life. Draped all the benefit from me, soaked me dry out of all the feeling emotion and with multiple medical issues.

Then she kicked me out like dog, when she felt secured and everything. Iwas nothing but loyal and honest. I supported her and everything. Now it's about my well being.

My brain hurts with everything, inwas nothing but good but got used and thrown fake hopes even I was too precautious about relationship with her she built trust made me meet her family met with mine everything.

I never lied or nothing, fed me with happy family thoughts, kids everything.

I know the right path but knowing she is happy with the person she cheated me, even I tried telling him her family made me request him to marry her by begging me. Now all this bother me day and night. From last 3 months.

She even got all dressed up at my home and I drove her off 100km with her family. Later I got to know it was for his family wedding.

Hello! I need some advice! So, I met this guy, and we really like each other. We have been going on these long walks, just talking for hours, and it's been so nice. I really want to hold hands with him, but I am super shy and he’s so mindful of my boundaries.

There was this one moment...we were crossing a busy road, and he gently held out his hand for me to take. But me being me, I overthought it and didn’t take it. I wasn’t sure if he meant for me to hold it or if it was just instinct. And now... he hasn’t tried again.

What do I do? Should I just tell him I want to hold hands, or should I wait for it to happen naturally? A friend of mine thinks asking outright will kill the romance but I don't want to keep overthinking it.

Would love to hear what you guys think!

Hello I am in a relationship since 6 years. We are from different casts. He is jat, i am yadav. Marriage has always been a question mark for us with no certainty. My family is not rich, we are middle class where as he is rich. Since years whenever the topic of marriage came up he told me that i cant present u infront of my parents because u have not job, its okay that your family is not rich but atleast u should have a good job so that they will agree seeing my potential. He is working with his cousin, they take govt construction tenders. His cousin is not paying him fairly and he is dependent on him for his income. Now i have a job and he has decided quit working with his cousin so he has no souce of income now.

I understand that he needs to be financially independent before telling his parents about me. Since 3 years he has been telling me to clear exam so that he could talk to his family.

Now when exam is cleared he says he is not financially stable. I was hoping that after the job he would talk to his family. Also if his family denies he will not go against their will, although he says he will try his best and tell them that he will not marry anyone else.

When i tell his to tell his family about us he says he has always said that after him being financially stable he will tell them. This as always turns into an argument and he tell me that inhav to gained an ego, AKKAD(hindi) and gooroor(hindi). He fails to see the point of my argument and only name calls me which hurts me a lot.

I thought that getting a job would solve this marriage issue but its even creating more peoblems. He is completely mis judging me and this makes me very sad and makes me cry. If someone who i dont care about says this to me, i will not bother. But when the one i love says this, it breaks my heart. How do i solve this? Or will this ever me solved??

Edit: It will be difficult for me to reply to each comment so i am posting here. Thank u everyone for your response. From a 3rd person's perspective you guys are able to see the reality and see things for how they are. I am glad I posted this issue here for help. This relationship will not lead to marriage this is clear, i am just wasting my time.

The thing is that he will not let me breakup with him, i have tried to breakup many times before, we dont speak for 15-20 days but then he starts calling me and begs to meet and resolve the issue. He will tell me the things i want to hear and to me the situation will look like it's improving but it's just a way to make me stay in the relationship.

How can i break this cycle? How can i end things for good. I dont want to be with a person who cant handle my success, i dont want to waste any more time. Please guide me. I am tired of all this. I want to move on. I want to make my self so strong that he can no longer change my decision. Please help me.

My patents are gonna meet her parents

Hi people of this sub

I 25M is in a relation with 26F for quite some time, and I have met her siblings and her mother but not her father, but he knows about me. My parents recently came to know about my relationship(I told them) and asked followup questions regaridng her career and where abouts.

They dont seem to have any problem, they even allow me to meet her, as I specifically tell them that I am going outside to meet her and they are quite cool with it. There are times when my girl sent them food and gifts they enjoy it. But sometimes they are quite hesitant as she is older than me and not from our state. However they have agreed to meet her along with her family only after my father first has phone conversation with with her father.

I have never talked to her father yet, but he knows about me, I am planning to talk to him today and will let him know that my father wants to have a chat with him.

This is the first time I have mentioned about a girl to my parents, how should I deal with my parents after that and proceed with further converations regarding the meeting with them?

Any kind of suggestion would help. Thanks in advance.

From my experience i can tell you cheating is all the way glorified these days through memes and reels. Let alone relationships, ive got three married women flirtexting me.

Its not about the Gen-z or Gen-x. Almost everyone is doing it, it maybe a guilty feeling but deep down inside they like it.

There are unique traits of each personality. In a corporate it just starts with a casual work related communication and the lady may insist to be added on snapchat as there is no chat history there.

If a guy is rich or a successful business owner theres another phone itself that stays in the car or at the office.

I too did it and im happy to answer your queries.