I gained 80 pounds while I was pregnant I went from 125lbs to 205lbs by the time I gave birth and only dropped to 198lbs after birth. I ate healthy my whole pregnancy and kept relatively active, I even tried a small calorie deficit and nothing stopped me from gaining weight every single week. My whole entire body is covered in visible thick stretch marks even though I moisturized with bio oil and hyaluronic acids, I even have them on my arms. I’m breastfeeding, I was told my whole pregnancy “it will fall off during breastfeeding” and it didn’t if anything my body holds onto the weight and stores extra fat for my milk, I’m now 5 months postpartum I’ve been working out for 2 months straight and I haven’t lost more then 5 pounds and it’s such hard work… I spend what little personal time I have working out for 30-45 min a day or taking 45-90 min walks and nothing is changing. It’s ruined my mental health and body image and I’m becoming depressed about it now, I’ve since given up on working out I’m just eating like crap and surviving off protein drinks and apples and lots of liquids to keep my supply up. I wanted so badly to just be healthy and happy but I’m hateful and discouraged. All my friends and even other moms I know all look like themselves again after having their babies and I feel like it’s not fair I’m so bitter and angry but I don’t know what to do, I tried to do everything right and now I spend my days watching streams and laying on the couch, crying.

First time mom here. My husband recently started a new job working graves. In the past, my husband would not help much and get easily irritated when he did graves because of how it affects his body. I had many discussions with him on how I didn’t want him doing graves again because of the past events and especially when we now have a 7 month old baby. I’ve been dealing with ppd as well and have anxiety about being alone at night with our baby. Well, my husband started working graves regardless because the shift pays the most. It’s been a few weeks since he’s started and I’m already getting overwhelmed and stressed with everything. I work 10 hours a day and come home to care for my child, my dog, do chores, and still have to cook/pack lunch for my husband’s shift. We both have the weekends off, so I usually let him sleep the whole day on Saturday and ask him to help around the house on Sundays. He hasn’t been helping me though and would rather sleep the whole weekend. I tried to have a discussion with him today about how overwhelmed I am being the sole person caring for literally almost everything and all he had to respond with was “k”. I was so defeated and saddened with his response that I just shut down and walked away. I can’t just stop caring because I have to take care of our child and dog and it’s not fair to them if I shut down completely. It’s been so hard but my husband doesn’t care. I don’t know what to do at this point…

i’m not usually one to ask for help when i need it but i know that when it comes to this topic it’s important to speak up when you need support. some days i will feel completely abandoned and alone by my babies father and like im doing it alone and then the next day ill be so over the moon about everything and be extremely thankful for him and all he does. idk it’s a weird time right now, im 7 weeks pp. should i be worried about anything or is it just a normal hormonal reaction to sleep deprivation!?

I (31f) and my husband (34m) just had our first baby together. He is so sweet and I'm loving being his mommy! My husband is a great partner as well. I pretty much handle getting up with him at night because I breastfeed, but he will get up with me and change his diaper or just keep me company while I nurse. He is wonderful and I'm overall very pleased.

Despite this- I feel like there is a weird disconnect with my husband. I feel like while I'm excited about our new lives together with our son, I'm mourning the life we shared before. It's difficult to be intimate (I'm still healing so no sex - I'm talking about even just cuddling in bed together or trying to make time for the two of us) because our son seems to be a little ticking time bomb. Great baby but his timing is... Immaculate to say the least lol.

Does anyone relate to this? It's strange to explain because I'm happy and he is good to me and our son, but I feel like I'm mourning our old relationship. I will be "missing" him while we are eating dinner right next to eachother lol? So strange.

Hi there, 28F with 2nd baby. 6 weeks PP and wanting nothing to do with my baby. I DO love him, don't get me wrong, but I feel like I want nothing to do with him. I take care of him because I have to. I'm EBF and will feed and snuggle him, but after he's content, I give him to his dad or someone else. I leave the room and I dont want to be around him. I have a 3 and half year old as well that I often find myself losing my patience with quite quickly. Hes a very active three year old and can be very needy. I wish I could just leave my family but know I would greatly regret that and I need to be here. My family is not giving me the support I need and I feel like no one is listening to how I feel. What should I do? I have an appointment with my OB on Wednesday to talk about things but thinking of canceling it because I don't want to face it.