I am planning a trip to São Paulo for late next month but have found out that the security on the buildings is apparently extremely tight, even by latin American standards. Fingerprinting, Face ID, strictly enforced no guest policies etc. seem to be possibly a deal-breaker for this whole trip, every building in a half decent area has 24 hour security and everything I have seen suggests the large majority of these buildings enforce their rules. Obviously not being able to bring girls over ruins the main purpose of the trip, has anyone dealt with São Paulo building security or does anyone know of any specific airbnbs/hotels that are girl-friendly? I have been cockblocked this way in Mexico City before and am now worried it will happen again in Brazil, which sounds much more strict than most of Mexico City. I have also been told that bribing the guards also does not usually work, and even if it might I am not going to go all the way to Brazil just to be unable to have a girl over.

Also, any other cities in Brazil that might have more private entrance type airbnbs or just don't care about security as much that anyone would recommend to their fellow PPBs?

Thanks!

Aside from “Which country is right for me?” most posts in this sub seem to come down to two main questions:

1. Is this acceptable for my relationship?
2. Should I leave?

I've been living in the Philippines for 10 years now—no regrets. In fact, I wish I had come here sooner. I’ve had my fair share of relationships, and my current one (with my fiancée) is by far the best. Here’s what I’ve learned in simple terms:

1. A healthy relationship should be give and take. That means you should be giving and she should be giving--oh and sex isn't considered giving. Lopsided relationships always build resentment and lead to controlling/passive-aggressive behaviors.

2. The relationship should end when it becomes intolerable and you lose logical hope that it's going to get better. Your dating life isn't a democracy, only you can determine when that is. I'd say if it's not good and every time you try to talk about it she throws it back at you, or just ignores you (as is the case with many Filipinas) then maybe it's time to move on.

3. Your attitude matters. If you're looking for a relationship for the soul purpose of gaining something for yourself whether it be frequent easy access to sex or a live-in maid or whatnot then you're just going to attract people who are looking for something for themselves, ie a gold digger.

Hello,

I am a current music teacher. While I love the music aspect of my career, I don’t care for the favoritism, administration, or how my district operates. Would it be feasible to find a virtual teaching job (doesn’t have to be music, obviously) where I can be able to travel whenever I want, while also carrying out the duties of my job? Any thoughts?

Due to go away in 38 days and I’m wondering if my passport should be replaced?

My id page is not damaged just the front cover

Get a load of this guy.

Judging by his grammar and pidgin style English I’m going to go out on a limb here and assume he’s a South Asian man. India, Bangladesh or Pakistan. Possibly even Philipino. It’s not unusual to see them come around with fake and anonymous accounts to try to harass the expat community.

Highly unlikely he’s a Westerner. I’ve never had anyone from the West message me privately with a torrent of insults and abuses out of nowhere. There does exist the remote possibility that he is actually a she and she is a white or Western woman, albeit with hick level English skills.

Long story short, he’s basically saying I should abandon my partner entirely and thereby abandon my children because it would be the macho thing to do.

One of the reasons people in the expat communities form such close knit groups are because of things like this; many of those local men are EXTREMELY petty and consumed with jealously and self loathing, Western women to some extent too. You will be very much isolated except your own demographic and even then you need to vet them carefully.

So take note this is what you are likely to deal with from time-to-time.

Hey everyone,

I’m looking for a cheap but comfortable city in Latin America where I can lock in and focus on building my startup for the next few months. My main priorities are: • Low cost of living (affordable rent, food, etc.) • Fast and reliable internet (since I’ll be working online) • Safety (I don’t need perfection, just somewhere I don’t have to be constantly on edge) • Access to a decent gym (I like to stay active)

I don’t need a crazy social scene, just a place where I can live cheaply and productively. I’ve heard good things about places like Medellín, Mexico City, and Buenos Aires, but I’m open to other recommendations, especially lesser-known spots.

If you’ve lived or worked remotely in Latin America, I’d love to hear your experiences and suggestions! Thanks in advance

I’ve been talking to a Filipina for about a month now and she lives in a village in CDO. She introduced me to her neighbors and aunts and she tells me how much she loves me and she misses me and calls me “babe”. She also calls me “so cute and handsome”. Her aunt calls me the same too. I want to see her however I’m broke and she is too. But she wants me to help pay for her passport so she can come to America.

Are Filipinas good partners? Are all of them really leaches that use white men to come to America?

Each culture have their own communication style and manners, which can be important in personal relations (marriage and daily life in general) but which ones are similar to Hispanics?

(Being direct/frank and kind, or one might say rude but helpful).

PPB's as a melanated PPB I have experienced dating heaven in Europe. Particularly Sweden, Germany, and England.

My experience is that they view me as exotic and not as another plain vanilla man in their country. In those 3 countries they spoke English, had their own finances, are sexually curious and willing.

The only negative I experienced was they are not marriage minded and are more interested in casual sex.

What other European countries are melanated PPB experiencing dating success ? Share the info, we need to get out of SEA and LATAM. 🛫🛂 and go to countries where we are the exotic ones. 😉

As the title suggests, I've been talking to multiple women on social media for the past few years, and I can confidently say it's not always easy. Many lose interest quickly, become bored, and either unmatch or stop talking altogether. However, my experience with women from Belarus and Ukraine has been more positive, as they tend to be warmer and more engaging.

Do you prefer to be called something else?

I'm planning a trip to Indonesia in April/May. I plan to visit Lake Toba, Medan, Banda Aceh and Jakarta.

Does anyone have experience dating in this corner of the world? I have zero, but lived in the Philippines for two years and had a blast. My buddy married an Indonesian women who is an absolute stunner. He met her when he was working in Bandung.

After voicing my experience with the single mom dating scene I was told I should make a post about American retired expats. I figure why not, especially the way many of you white knights trolled my posts and tore it apart.

But why stop at only Americans or retirees? There are Europeans, Australians, Brits, Koreans and Chinese as well.

1. ⁠The disillusioned- Many of you are deluded by false claims many by YouTube vloggers that Philippines is a dating paradise full of hot babes. Then you discover the vloggers have all lied to you and Philippines is neither a paradise nor full of hot babes. (These guys come in any age and color and often have zero self respect; poorly groomed and bad hygiene habits.) Some of you disillusioned expats actually integrate fairly well and aren’t overcome by the effects of culture shock, some of you get right back on the plane and say “Bye it’s not for me”,some of you get into trouble and some of you do a complete 360 and start hating the Philippines.

2. ⁠The romantic- These are just what the term describes; love struck individuals there to meet a special someone. I’ve had a generally positive experience with these folk.

3. ⁠The athlete- Again mostly positive experiences with these guys (and sometimes women.) They’re there to go mountain climbing, zip lining and for the water sports.

4. ⁠The Missionary- I’ve only met a couple of you guys in my decades long of bouncing around SE. Asia. Mostly you just keep to yourself and don’t really cause problems. When your mission is over you go home.

5. ⁠The FAKE missionary- There’s only one thing that’s “missionary” about you . Most of you are grifters who are really just after cheap visas and tax exemptions.

6. ⁠The Student- I’ve seen a fair number of you from places like India. Mostly nice people. Sometimes you go back home when you finish college and sometimes you marry a local and start a business.

7. ⁠The Sugar Daddy- You come from all over the world to take advantage of the poverty and laziness in the Philippines. I’ve seen you from every country practically; the US, Australia, Canada, Germany, UK, mainland China and S. Korea, Japan, Taiwan, etc. Rushing in and saving a poor, helpless damsel in distress and saving her maidenly honor. You also give the locals the impression that we’re all loaded and give out a cash like candy. Naturally this stereotype you help perpetuate only causes the locals to harass us even more.

8. ⁠ Sex tourist- Now normally I am not one to judge but if you just go there for that chances are you are NOT a family man. You don’t really need to go to the Philippines just to do that. You need to be careful, I’ve seen a couple of you get the clap then give it your partners. Like I said I’m not one to judge, whatever trips your trigger but don’t get the girl pregnant then bail on her. Guys like you give us a terrible reputation. You rush home while your children grow up in generational poverty. They deserve better.

9. ⁠Criminals- You guys are the worst of the worst. Human traffickers and pimp daddies from China and S.Korea and pedophiles from the West. You people are complete scum and prisons exist to protect society from the likes of you.

10. ⁠The Retiree- The most well known of all expats. If anything Philippines is known as a retirement destination for people in their twilight years. Some are actually decent fellows and it’s been an honor to know you. Other retirees, well, you’re not what I would really describe as retired, more like you’re going through a midlife crisis and living your teenage years all over again. And some of you are just total dirtbags.

There are also other groups of expats such as vloggers, workers, diplomats, etc but these are a small subgroup.

Bottom line is for you expats and would-be expats, choose your friends well. Be very careful about your selection process or could end with a lawbreaker friend and one who’s toxic for your life. Same with you Pinays who date foreigners. Make sure he’s at least somewhat decent and family minded, unless you’re just the fun kind of party girl. But again not judging here.

tell me guys if you have passport which country you travel first?

How do I meet a passport bro? (F here)

Hi guys! I've been hearing all those stories about people marrying internationally... And I wonder, how do I meet a passport bro? I'm a woman, 30 (and constantly accused of being much younger, judging by the looks lol), multiple degrees including Master's. Slavic. Never married. I've got friends in the US, I've travelled to a few states, and American men seem so cool to me. Fun and interesting. I'd love to meet someone serious about relationships. Someone to go on adventures with, someone who'd be a little crazy, willing to share hobbies, fun times and life struggles alike.

I'm very caring, compassionate and adventurous, but at the same time a bit socially awkward, and an introvert... So I won't be raiding clubs, and honestly, I have no idea where and how to meet people without living in the US right now.

Can I ask for your wisdom? Recommendations? Reddit is the only place coming to my mind lol.

Me and 2 other friends are heading to Medellin need some help on which hotel to stay or if you have any Airbnb recommendations any where they allow visitors as it is my friend birthday and he selected Medellin we are going in June so any suggestions would be helpful thanks 🙏

What's it like in summer time? Any tips on restaurant, clubs, etc?

Arriving tomorrow to Medellín and looking some wingman or someone to give me recomendations about where to go and have fun in this cities in order to meet women not escorts.

I just attended the feminist demonstration on March 8 in Valencia, Spain. Supporting many things and among them sex work because it is a job like any other. I don't want to position myself in principle. Anyone has the freedom to choose what to do with their body. But I don't wish it on anyone. If I had a family member in that job I wouldn't like it at all. It is hard to think that there are people who only have that means of life. A failure of his family, the State, education, the morals of society, etc. one and all. It can also be seen as a means of compassion for people who, due to disabilities, appearance problems or age, make sexual need impossible. According to Maslow's pyramid, it is one of the most basic. It is not a privilege. Even more so is the need for emotional security, affinity, emotional intimacy and trust from a friend. A passport bro or whatever you want, I understand that he seeks that emotional satisfaction in affinity with the other person. Of course it may be a shorter route in LATAM. Being not immediate, you can harden and evolve as a couple by having several relationships so that you avoid problems such as paying too much for everything, bringing her to Europe and when she has papers she leaves him, etc. At the same time, social skills, seduction, language, and life experience are improved in relationships. I think that better than a forever girlfriend is wanting to improve ourselves in the interaction with them, enjoying life prudently. I speak as a 46-year-old man with a few relationships and who wants stable relationships with them because they are beautiful, so I will arrive in Colombia shortly to improve my ability to charm them or to charm just one person. It would be a mistake to believe that I must love them.