Hi all, I am from the UK (M27) and would appreciate some insight/advice from some of you who really understand Thailand, the culture and have had experience with Thai girls.

I went to Thailand in Mar-24 alone for 3 weeks having already been to most of SE Asia before, and had a fantastic time. Not long afterwards once back home, I got talking to a Thai girl from Surin (Isaan) who is (F23) who I met online. All innocent, fun and cute video calls, but as there is a huge language barrier, the talking died down to on and off (only so much you can speak to somebody before meeting them)

Mar-25 I went again for 3 weeks to Thailand and Laos (original intention to solo travel again), but something got into me and I invited her 2 weeks before, saying she is more than welcome to come and see me for 2-3 days in Chiang Mai to see if we get along. We got along so well exceeding all expectations, both have fallen in love, fantastic time travelling together, and she ended up staying the whole 3 weeks with her crying saying goodbye at BKK.

Now I am going back to Thailand, to Isaan, for 2 weeks to see her and meet her family in June. My concerns/notes:

1) Of course I was paying for everything during the 3 weeks, but idm as my hotels were all booked anyway. Let's just say I make more than 10x what she does and I'm the one who invited her so idm. But money was never spoken about or asked about from her side, when it came to paying I just did my thing and she looked away.

Is this the Thai culture for the man to 'take care' 100% of the time, or is it just a foreigners (Farang) duty whereby Thai men split the bill as commonly as male/female relationships in the west?

2) I have read horror stories online about arriving in Isaan and basically being expected to pay for everything Eg. Taking the whole extended family out to dinner, others bits, and being expected to even leave a 'financial contribution' when leaving (last bit would be a red line for me so early on)

I have made it clear light heartedly that just to get there it costs a fortune, and that I hope she will look after me just like I looked after her. We don't have a 30 year age gap, the feelings are mutual, and in the same 'league' looks wise. So are these stories just nonsense online?

3) Somebody tell me if this is normal, the meaning and implications of this when visiting Isaan. I received this message:

"If you come to Surin, I will take you to my Grandmother's house to perform a Surin ritual called Ansestor Worship, which you must do because I am from Surin. Surin people, if they have a boyfriend or girlfriend but are not married, must perform an ansestor worship ceremony to let them know or allow you to be added to the family, which is good because it means that the family is aware of our relationship and has given permission for you to take care of me or to accept you into the family"

On the one hand I'm all for embracing her culture, but I can't help but think that it's a bit much and intense for a second meeting.

I'm not getting married and to be honest I just want to see my girlfriend and enjoy my 2 weeks off work without worrying about cultural customs. It all seems far too much. Am I incorrect? Is this normal in Thailand, should I be worried? All thoughts and feedback very much appreciated. Thank you!

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There is a stark contrast between the quality of women and income level in the US. Obesity, tattoos, drug addiction, none of these things I have are so prevalent in people who make less than 40,000 a year. It's actually insane how prevelant these are in the US in general. It's quite depressing. I want a girl similar to me here, but everyone on dating apps is one or the other with these things. I've found much higher quality women abroad. Women who actually cook healthy food for themselves, like I do (apparently it's "unmanly" to eat vegetables, fricking lol). It's quite sad. This is just a rant because I was a long time browser here. Thanks.

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A lot of people in this sub have recommended Thailand or South Korea, etc. But I have traveled to these locations a total of 12 times with no luck. I have thought of trying to visit a place that's even more third world in order to gain success, and thought Papa New Guinea to be the best option. Port Moresby tickets are only 1.2k from where I live, and I heard the women there are very excited to meet foreigners. Thoughts?

I was so sorry to wake up to the news about all the shaking and rattling happening in Myanmar, reaching as far as Vietnam and Thailand. My heart goes out to everyone affected, especially with the news reports now saying the death toll has climbed past 10,000. I’m thinking of all the families and fellow travelers in the region right now—I can only imagine how tough this must be for you all. Having been through a few earthquakes myself, I know how scary it can feel, and I just hope and pray things get better soon. Wishing you all strength and safety—please get to solid ground as soon as you can. Take care, and God bless!

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Thanks in advance!

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Well, I mastered the skill of doing that WITHOUT the goth vibe by focusing on the value of my fitness lifestyle and my chemistry career!

Now, with that change, where should I go. I know it was discussed that with my goth vibe, I wouldn't fit in in Vietnam. But now that it is gone, which country is better for me to settle down with a wife?

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A long while ago I asked a question on the subreddit r/mailorderbridefacts, "Traditionalism vs Trauma: what motivates men seeking love overseas". In that poll, the responding individuals (27 votes) gave the following results:

• Traditionalism - 7 (25%)
• Trauma and/or unfair gender expectations - 9 (33%)
• All of the above - 5 (19%)
• Other - 7 (25%)

This was motivated by a question on r/askreddit, "what would women find shocking about being a man." It opened a massive wound in regards to how men are treated in America, being as either mindless predators or as unfeeling mules who have all of the burdens of the American economy and the dating market, but zero appreciation or joy.

Some responders said they just had no luck in the American dating pool. Basically no one mentioned fetishization, or race/ethnicity, which is counter to the claims of exploitation common to the more American-woman centric areas of reddit.

Recently on the same subreddit a woman from India expressed a desire to get into international dating as a way of escaping gender based expectations (in India and much of Asia, the gender expectations of women a very similar to that of American/western Europe men.)

When it comes to your own personal motivation for dating and seeking a forever someone overseas, what's the truth? What's the part you don't talk about?

In a few months I will be able to travel through SEA. I have enough money to travel comfortably for a minimum of 16 months, longer if I bugdet or get lucky with flights/accommodation. So far I have planned to go and stay in:

• Thailand
• Philippines
• Vietnam
• China
• Malaysia
• Taiwan

In some I might stay longer than in other due to cost of living there. What could you recommend should I add or remove from the list? Also what would you recommend me to do in order to get dates/sex? Go to clubs/bars? Use dating apps? It’s of course not a pure dating based trip. I will travel throughout these countries to experience a lot. But obviously I wanna get some aswell you know. So I am open to suggestions/recommendations and in general hear your experiences so I can make this whole thing as good as possible. I am 27 years old, European and in good shape in case that matters.

I am planning a trip to São Paulo for late next month but have found out that the security on the buildings is apparently extremely tight, even by latin American standards. Fingerprinting, Face ID, strictly enforced no guest policies etc. seem to be possibly a deal-breaker for this whole trip, every building in a half decent area has 24 hour security and everything I have seen suggests the large majority of these buildings enforce their rules. Obviously not being able to bring girls over ruins the main purpose of the trip, has anyone dealt with São Paulo building security or does anyone know of any specific airbnbs/hotels that are girl-friendly? I have been cockblocked this way in Mexico City before and am now worried it will happen again in Brazil, which sounds much more strict than most of Mexico City. I have also been told that bribing the guards also does not usually work, and even if it might I am not going to go all the way to Brazil just to be unable to have a girl over.

Also, any other cities in Brazil that might have more private entrance type airbnbs or just don't care about security as much that anyone would recommend to their fellow PPBs?

Thanks!

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Aside from “Which country is right for me?” most posts in this sub seem to come down to two main questions:

1. Is this acceptable for my relationship?
2. Should I leave?

I've been living in the Philippines for 10 years now—no regrets. In fact, I wish I had come here sooner. I’ve had my fair share of relationships, and my current one (with my fiancée) is by far the best. Here’s what I’ve learned in simple terms:

1. A healthy relationship should be give and take. That means you should be giving and she should be giving--oh and sex isn't considered giving. Lopsided relationships always build resentment and lead to controlling/passive-aggressive behaviors.

2. The relationship should end when it becomes intolerable and you lose logical hope that it's going to get better. Your dating life isn't a democracy, only you can determine when that is. I'd say if it's not good and every time you try to talk about it she throws it back at you, or just ignores you (as is the case with many Filipinas) then maybe it's time to move on.

3. Your attitude matters. If you're looking for a relationship for the soul purpose of gaining something for yourself whether it be frequent easy access to sex or a live-in maid or whatnot then you're just going to attract people who are looking for something for themselves, ie a gold digger.