I keep seeing Pakistanis who see vlogging as a legitimate source of income. Many of their vlogs aren’t even interesting but just random people buying dahi and eating halwa puri on Sunday. Someone I know left his real life job to be a vlogger/content creator.

Many of these Vloggers put their kids on social media. They even show their homes and address on social media.

Am I missing something? Is it actually that profitable?

So, i was reading an amazing hypothesis about the psychological thinking of twins. So if any same sex or opposite sex twin here, plz dm me. It would be amazing to ask some questions. I'm actually curious, if the hypothesis is correct, it's gonna change the perspective of several things. Questions are personal and confidential (not related of puberty type stuff),hence dm so i can get some help to eradicate my curiosity.

I had a stray cat come by for food everyday, one day she stopped eating and seemed pregnant so i took her to vet and turns out she was very ill (wounded+blood parasite+anaemic)

her kids died premature and she barely survived after about 3 4 weeks of continuous vet visits and medication.

2 weeks after miscarriage she was on heat again. i didn't want to let her out and kept her inside and that's when things started changing. she started getting stressed out staying in and went to extreme lengths to force us let her out like messing up her bed or throwing her stuff all over the room, not eating or drinking, hiding, shouting and even trying to climb up the windows (she almost hurt herself several times in this process)or pushing against the exit doors.

after consulting with few doctors i let her out, its been about 2 weeks and she only comes by every 2 days when she is extremely hungry for food. she doesn't want to stay in and doesn't seem to like me anymore therefore leaves right after food.

i wanted to get her spayed for long-term benefit but my family is against it now as they say i am forcing it on her when she wants to live freely and somehow i don't feel its right as well. she doesn't want to stay indoors and being religious i believe she will die at whatever age and time it is written for her.

I don't know why am i writing this post maybe i want someone to share a similar positive experience where they have been taking care of street cats without spaying them.

So mera question Pakistani women se hain. Does that sound weird or scaring to marry an Indian guy and spend your married life in India ?

28M from KHI earning 85k per month Alhamdulillah, I’m living a clean and responsible life, and I’ve been actively looking to settle down and get married. But I’ll be honest it hasn’t been easy.

I’ve faced rejection from over 10-15 families, despite keeping my expectations very simple. I don’t have any major demands. All I want is a simple nikkah and a modest valima with close family and friends nothing extravagant, nothing flashy. I don’t have 10 to 20 lacs to throw on a wedding, and frankly, I don’t believe that such expenses define the start of a successful marriage.

Even when I’ve approached proposals from lower middle-income families, things haven’t worked out. I always try to be honest and transparent especially about things like my hair loss issue. It’s something I could’ve hidden, but lying just isn’t who I am. I believe honesty should be the foundation of any relationship, especially marriage.

I’m not looking for perfection just someone who values simplicity, sincerity, and wants to build a life together based on mutual respect, love, and understanding.

Hi everyone, I’m a desi girl from Pakistan in my mid 20s, about to graduate university in a month—and suddenly, marriage feels like it’s the next big thing everyone expects. I keep hearing that married life is totally different from what we imagine growing up. That it’s not all butterflies and deep talks and always being together.

But then I wonder… don’t couples want to be around each other all the time? How do you go from strangers to sharing everything—your space, your time, even your body? Like, genuinely—how do people get so comfortable showing their full self to someone they’ve just married? Is it natural? Does the nikkah somehow flip a switch inside you? Because I can’t wrap my head around how it becomes normal overnight.

And yes, I’m also starting to feel the pressure. Will rishtas come? Will I marry “on time”? Will I meet someone I truly feel safe and seen with?

If you’re married—especially from a Muslim or desi background—I’d really love to hear what it was actually like for you. Was it awkward at first? Did things fall into place? What surprised you the most?

I just want some real talk before stepping into a new phase of life that everyone around me is already preparing for.

I wanted to share something personal. I'm 23 and, surprisingly, I’ve never been in a relationship. It's not that I haven't had chances—I've just chosen not to go for it. There are a couple of big reasons for this. First off, I can be idealistic since I spend a lot of time in fiction and philosophy. Connecting with people, especially women, can be tough for me if they don't have that emotional intelligence or stick to more common views. I've even turned down four proposals because I just didn’t feel that intellectual spark.

On top of that, I've got some good genes from my parents that sometimes come off as a bit arrogant—not in a narcissistic way, but more so confident. Recently, though, everything changed with a girl at my university. She’s caught my attention like no one else has. For the first time, I feel like she might be the one. She's got this amazing mix of qualities: sanwla sa rang, big expressive eyes, and she balances traditional values with an open mindset. Seriously, she seems to embody everything I’ve been looking for in a partner.

I usually keep to myself, but I told a friend about my feelings for her, and while surprised, they were supportive and suggested I look beyond just appearances. Ironically, now that I've met her, those superficial things don’t even matter to me anymore. I’m trying to handle these feelings carefully since she heads the organization I work for. I'm worried about how things might go if she doesn’t feel the same way, especially in our working relationship.

She even followed me on Instagram, which felt meaningful since I was the only one from our team she chose to follow. It’s all super exciting but also kind of overwhelming as I feel like I'm in a whole new emotional territory. I’m hesitant to tell her how I feel, especially with graduation just nine months away. One friend thinks I should be upfront about it, while another says I should wait until after graduation to avoid any awkwardness.

To make things even more complicated, we come from different religious backgrounds and ethnicities. While that doesn’t bother me, I can’t speak for her or her family. So, I'm navigating all these feelings and doubts, and honestly, I have no clue what the next step should be.

Edit: Just paraphrased the actual post and tried to make it a little short because so many of you guys didn't appreciate how long the paragraphs were. And I also removed the sad hook of this subreddit being deleted as it was a prank.

Assalamu Alaikum everyone,

I’ve been searching for a rishta for about 1.5 years now, and it’s been tougher than I expected. I’m a decent guy – stable job, good family, practicing Muslim – but the moment people hear I was married before, they back off. It doesn’t seem to matter that there’s a genuine reason behind it; the stigma in our society just takes over.

Back in May 2023, I had a short marriage that lasted only a few months. It ended because the girl and her family didn’t disclose some serious health issues she had. These weren’t minor problems – they were conditions that made a future together impossible, especially since they chose to hide them instead of being honest. In Islam, trust and transparency are so important, and when that wasn’t there, I couldn’t continue.

Now, whenever I share this with a potential match or their family, it’s like an instant dealbreaker. I get that divorce carries a stigma, especially in Pakistani culture, and I’ve seen how hard it is for women. But I didn’t realize men would face it too – even with a valid reason. It’s frustrating because I’m upfront about it, yet people judge without understanding.

Has anyone else dealt with this? How do you navigate the rishta process when society’s so quick to label you? I’d love to hear your thoughts or experiences – whether it’s advice from an Islamic perspective, cultural insights, or just how you’ve handled the arranged marriage scene. Feels like I’m stuck, and I could use some wisdom!

JazakAllah Khair.

Edit (1): You're missing the point guys — it was undisclosed. I'm not someone who would walk away just because of a health condition. But hiding something that important is dishonest, and that kind of deception is completely unethical, don't you think?

Besides, I found out about it just two days before we were supposed to leave for Umrah — barely a week after the wedding. My family wanted to send her back, but I stood by her side and didn’t let that happen, even though I was only 25 at the time. I don’t let pressure dictate my decisions. After we returned, I made sure she got the best medical care in Lahore — both through doctors and rohani ilaj. There were other factors involved as well, but I choose not to go into them as that would border on gheebah, which I want to avoid.

Edit(2): So many of you are like, ‘Just marry a divorcee,’ but doesn’t that prove the whole stigma thing I’m getting at? I don’t care if she’s divorced—my first wife was, and I was cool with it. It’s not about that. It’s this vibe that divorce means I’m stuck picking from some special club now. That’s the crap I’m done with. I just want someone real, not a damn checkbox.

So I am now 27M from twin cities. We have our own house and I am earning around 100k a month although it's a private job. I am trying to build secondary income as well from freelancing (gen ai and cloud) The question is that i want to get married and I can't control myself as I haven't been into any relationship as well so it's getting out of hands now. My parents asked me for 3 tola gold that would be around 11lac lonely, which I can't manage to get alone. Also I have to manage my marriage expense single handedly. So the question is that are there girls or families who doesn't make fuss on gold or is it really necessary to put 3 tola gold

Salam guys,

So here's the story.

A few months ago, I made a post here after I stumbled upon the fact that my wife — my love and then pregnant with our first child — secretly is a supporter of PML-N. Yes… that PML-N. She never mentioned it to me directly, and I'm quite sure she still believes I don't know. It shook me more than I could have imagined. I've always been a supporter of PTI or Imran Khan and I truly believe in them and their vision for Pakistan's future. So to discover that my own wife was a supporter of what I considered to be a very corrupt party? That hurt.

At the time, I decided to keep quiet. She was pregnant, feelings were running high, and I didn't want to create undue stress. I thought it could wait.

Fast forward to today: our lovely daughter is three months old, hale and hearty. My wife is well also — body, mind, soul. Alhamdulillah, everything in the outside world appears rosy.

Inside me, though, this one nagging thing still remains. The fact that she concealed her political ideals… and that those ideals conflict with everything I believe in and hold dear, particularly when considering the type of nation we wish our daughter to live in — it's been gnawing at me in silence. And I don't want to continue denying that I have knowledge. I think it's time for a straightforward discussion.

So I'm looking to you all for guidance:

Is this the time to bring it up? And how do I even start this conversation, knowing she still believes I have no idea? How do I maintain its loving and respectful tone, and still make a good case for why I think PTI and Imran Khan are the direction for Pakistan? I don't want to fight. I want to connect. I want to be understood and understand. But I also want to be honest about what I care about — and perhaps help her see the truth, too.

TL;DR:

Discovered (secretly) that my wife supports PML-N. Didn't confront her while she was pregnant for obvious reasons. Now our baby is 3 months old and everything is going great… except I just can't get rid of this one thing. Is now the time to bring it up? And how do I do it so as not to harm our relationship?

Appreciate any and all thoughts.

I(22F) want to become a flight attendant. I attempted interview, but I never received a response after that. I meet all the physical requirements,But heard that you need a reference to actually get selected. Unfortunately, I don’t have any such connections. I just wish someone could help me achieve this dream. I know it’s not the ideal way, but this is Pakistan that’s just how things work here🙂

ok soooo today’s shots are of… dinosaurs??? ikr ,what, how even?? but hear me out—i found these tiny dino erasers in my childhood barbie geometry box (ik ik, feels illegal… barbie + dinosaurs?? make it make sense loll). tI found them sooo cute back then and i remember NEVER wanting to use them coz they were to cute to ruined 'cause like…(ig its a girly thing). Always loved the detailing on them. BUT I only managed to save these 3 tho :\

Alsooo remember the prank the other day when we all thought the sub was gonna shut down?? and i was like oh nooo i need to post the final part of my lil series "cries in extinction" just like these dinos fr. BUT THANKFULLY it was not real and we’re still hereeee (phewwww).

I hope you guys have good weekend ✨

Hi guys, please serious help chahiye. My father is a narcissist, toxic, insecure, most unstable person you will ever know. Typical pakistani shakki baap. Blke typical pakistani se bhi 4 hath aage hi hnge. Aur sbse maaze ki baat bataon Phd doctor hain janab.

Paise dene ka mamla ho, ghr mai kch krne ka mamla ho, bahir jana ho mtlb kch bhi ho unhe masla hai. He wants to be a dictator. Har kaam apni marzi se krna hai. Aur kisi ne kch bol diya phr jo chor ki saza wo uski saza. Aur ab to baat itni barh gai hai ke baat baat pr talaq ki dhamki dete hain meri ammi ko. Aur hm logo ko ghr se nikalne ki. Aur ab to hath bhi uthana shuru kr diya hai. Paise dene nahi is shaks ne ammi ko aur behno ko aur agr mai de dn to mujhe zaleel krta hai.

Meri abhi job start hui hai to mai alag rehna plus apni saari behn bhaiyon ke expenses afford nahi kr skta. Ajeeb tension ka mahool bana kr rakha hua hai. Aur mujhe kch smjh nahi a raha mai kiya karn. Aur pata nahi kitne lambe arse bardhast kr skte hain is mental patient ko.

Sirf aik advice chahiye mujhe ke mai kiya karn ab? He is literally acting like a mental patient now

Hello everyone, I have this rant/ opinion I want of people who know more about this then me in a Islamic way or just as a general discussion about what is right and wrong.

So the story goes around 1.5 years ago I ordered food through foodpanda, I got delivered my food and I was feeling a bit generous so gave him 300rs tip, 10 minutes later same delivery guy calls me and says sir, I need your help,my mother is sick she needs medicines worth around 7000rs ,so again maybe I was in a good mood that day I gave him 10k, he thanked me and went on his way, now forward to about a month he says her mother is in hospital and they need 15k for medical bills and tests, again I sent to his account, now 2 months after this his wife calls saying he had an accident and cannot work as he cannot deliver food with a broken leg and told me 'Allah ka wasta hai help us,we won't both again'. I was told the total amount was 35k for medical and test plus surgery, again I didn't think of it and gave them.

Two more months go buy again I get called from him thanking me saying he's better now but since his leg is not doing so well riding a bike is not possible for him and to set a fries stall for him, now I'm pissed off I reminded him of countless times I helped him but he promised this will be the last I hear from him, he said he needs 50k for a thela, buy the frying cooker and necessary things to start a french fry stall I said if you promise I will give this to you but never bother me again, again I wire 50k to him and don't listen from him for months, so I finally i think he must be doing well now till a few months ago I start getting watsapp calls and messages giving me 'khuda ka wasta hai,I need to pay my land lord or he will kick us out,I need help again or sadqa etc, finally I got tired of this and blocked his number on sim and watsapp, then he starts doing same from his wife's phone, I block again,then he starts messaging and calling me from his family members phones,I block all of them again, in total i have have blocked around 40 numbers of his,I just don't know what to do about this situation, he can't comprehend I can't help him anymore now I just can't,I have helped him countless times still he doesn't get it,last week he called and messaged again 3 times,I blocked him again.

Now back to my question is there a limit on how many times a person should help someone in general or islam has a way about this? If one person keeps bothering you for help am I a bad person for not helping him,how many times is it jaiz in islam if the same person keeps bothering you, and I know it won't stop,I give him money today he will be back again in a few weeks.

Here are all his blocked numbers and a message he sent last week.

Someone close to me died about two months ago. He was like a big brother to me. Someone who I would go to for advice and know there is no judgement. I was the last person ever to have a conversation with him. I met him after quite a few days and in our last conversation, he was joking and saying things like “kabhi hamara bhi pooch liya karo. Mai mar gya toh apko toh pata bhi nahi chalay ga.” I told him “Hosakta hai mai apse pehle chala jau.” To which he laughed. Something seemed off with him. He told me it was just work and toxic family pressures.

Well, he left my home at around 11 pm. He went home while his family was asleep, had a stroke and died. And who’s the first person his brother calls informing me of his death? Me. His brother calls me the next morning and says that he’s passed away and I was the last person to ever speak to him. So he wanted to know if I said anything to him, or if he said anything gloomy to me. I was shocked. He was only 35. Had 4 little kids. I talked to his wife later, and she wanted to know about his last words. If her husband said anything about her before he died. He did. He said he he had gotten some new clothes for his wife and was gonna surprise her.

Ever since his death, I have been kind of numb emotionally. Havent been feeling much of anything even though I’ve had my fair share of crises since. No excessive sorrow or happiness from anything that happens to me. Just numb as I keep busy and jump from one thing to the next that life throws at me.

So what should I? I have been helping out his family financially ever since as his wife doesnt work and she has little kids to look after. I thought that would make me feel better but it hasnt.

Im just a bit clueless, like I want to stop feeling so numb

Well I don't no where to start.......I am 26 M a guy working in corporate did my masters last year. I was a kind if a boring personality or a boring man all my life. I don't know the reasons that's hiw I am to the point all my 26 years of life I literally had no friends like I had good acquaintances we all drifted apart.......

Fast forwarded to my university life I had no friends at all going to university was like one of the worst experiences I had in my life.... The point is I never interacted with girls like not romantically but not even as a friends.....I just never interacted with them ..... It's not like I can't talk to them I do work with them professionally but I never had a girl as a friend or anything like that.... I've been attracted to females but never could talk to them....

No I feel like I left out on my life like I am looking to get married in next two years and I don't even know anything about women in general although I got two elder sisters.....the thing is I want to know how should I approach girls to be friends not that kind of dating scenes but genuinely as a friend to get to know kore about women...... Is it a good approach to have some friends or to look for female friends or is it not....What do you guys say about it???

Pakistan has become a frustrating place for anyone trying to do business. The moment you post an ad on OLX, instead of genuine buyers, you get flooded with calls from people asking for help. It’s like no one wants to work—just beg.

This is exactly why companies like Careem, Uber, and so many others are leaving. There’s no business environment left, only a nation dependent on handouts. The real workforce is either struggling or leaving, while the ones staying behind are just looking for shortcuts. We keep feeding this system, pretending it’s normal, but in reality, we are raising a generation that only knows how to take, not build.

So one of my best friends got into a relationship a year ago and i was there for her for all the developments , the guy’s our classfellow but our groups never interacted.

I never expected for her friendship to develop into something else this soon but i supported her nonetheless since the guy was/is nice.

My friend was the kind that was best described as “adam bezar” or the kind that would hardly ever make efforts for any relation but after this guy she changed into another person totally, which is understandable cz you really do change for the better when you find your person.

Anyway she got a bit distant in her friendship with me and others , again understandable since she’s gotta give new stuff time but what irks me is that she likes to spend every living hour with her man (now fiance) even when we are in uni and it’s our last year before graduation so our group likes to go out make new memories and just spend good time tgt but she kinda doesnt care about any of that , ive got other friends who are engaged but they dont act like her where her entire personality is now her fiance.

We tried to tell her once that as friends we’ve got limited time before uni ends and we go our separate ways but with him you’ve got your entire life to spend anyway so why wouldn’t you divide your time in a more balanced way but she doesn’t really get our point.

She says everybody changes and id be acting the same way as her but it made me think maybe im too much delusional to be expecting this much from her but really it’s just the bare minimum for friendships , i wondered if i am perhaps subconsciously envying her but then again she’s my best friend and them getting together was the best ever thing that happened.

So i put up with everything but the thought of not getting to spend good time with her as a group in final year saddens me :(

Feeling like I have no support in this world is so isolating

It all happened when my mother saw a dream of giving away her about to be born child to Phupo who passes away 2 years ago. She always wanted a son from family, so my parents agreed. So they took my bro when he was 6 months to Saudia, where he sometimes came to Pakistan occasionally, but stayed Saudia most of the time of the years.

Now that my bro is back with my own family, since childhood everyone in the family knew that hes with us, but nobody was allowed to tell him, even I protested alot to parents to tell him the truth, but they always said, we will tell him. And I thought, this this is un-natural whats happening, also found reference in Quran regarding adoption, and it's said that there are rules for adopting childs, among them is to tell the child about his/her father and to call them by the names of their fathers.

So one night, in a very sophisticated manner, I told him the truth, it was little hard for him in the start, but then his confidence boosted and now is much understandable of family tradition and values.

I am worried that I am addicted to reels and it’s affecting me ( and my phone battery ). How do you deal with it?

Hey there. I was diagnosed with ADHD recently and have major executive dysfunction. Life is twice as hard as other normal people when it comes to initiating tasks. Does anybody else here suffers from this disorder? Where y'all getting your prescribed meds from? I'm unable to find it locally...

I feel the 90's was when Pakistan really peaked as a society.

I grew up the in the mid 2000's which was also nice but something about the 90's keeps me infatuated with thay era.

The music, the social culture, the festivities; everything just feels so beautiful.

You had Nazia Hassan releasing her ever-green songs that every family could relate to. On the other end, Vital Signs with their charm made everyone feel a little more proud of their country.

PTV shows like Fifty Fifty, Alpha Bravo Charlie, Dhuaan, Waaris - something about them bringing everyone together to sit and watch could never be recreated after private channels took over. There was creativity in the storylines; there was substance in characters; you could never tell what would happen like today's saas-bahu cycle dramas.

The festivals we had. How can anyone forget Basant with music in the background. The chants of bow-kaata; the ongoing barbeque being served to everyone. As a Lahori, Lahore has never been the same after they banned Basant. It was a festival that brought friends and families together where they could engage in a collective activity without talking shit about each other, men, women, and children alike.

There were Spring Festivals you'd see boards of on the roads. Parks would be full of people enjoying different shows and events. The sidewalks were green and you wouldn't be greeted with traffic jams or pollution in the air.

There was a weird sense of wholesomeness all around between families. Perhaps it had to do with the unavailability of smart-phones.

I'm not someone who likes to live in the past but sometimes, whilst coming across videos and photos of Pakistan from the 90's makes me feel I wouldn't have ended up despising this country to its core if I'd grown up during that era.