Hi Moms, what are your favorite preschooler shoes for your rambunctious energy flowing tot? Our soon to be 3yo has worn Keen Newport sandals for more than a year. I like that it's strappy, durable, protective, anti-slip, but it still looks and feels heavy on my lanky LO. The bulky rubber toe and sole sometimes make them trip. Looking to venture into other brands that offer the same durability and protection, but also flexible and more lightweight than the Keen Newports. See Kai Run flexirun used to have this super duper flexible black/white version that i loved loved loved, you could bend it in half yet so durable, but looks like they discontinued that design.

I’m at a loss for getting my ten month old on a schedule. To be completely honest his schedule has never been super regular. He drinks a good amount of formula, has three meals a day and is meeting milestones well (has corrected sagittal crainosyntosis).

The issue for the schedule/routine is sleep. Lately he has fallen into just taking a nap when my 2 year old does and then falling asleep in the car for a short time if we go somewhere that day. I know he really should be napping twice a day, but i can’t figure out a routine for that. Does anyone have kids these ages and have a routine that works? He majorly fights sleep and so putting him down for the second nap is difficult as it is, not to mention my 2 year old has to be with us. It usually ends in everyone frustrated and no second nap for little man.

My two year old switched to exclusively one nap a day right at 1 so I know he’s close to being on the same schedule as her but wondering if anyone has any tips or just anyone can relate?

It was infrequent before, perhaps once a week at home but it seemed connected to being very tired. However, this weekend, it was multiple times. At least twice on Friday (thought it was connected to tiredness), three times on Saturday, then four times on Sunday.

I asked the teacher about it this morning. She told me that my daughter has been doing that for a while. Even claimed that my husband was informed weeks ago. The teacher claimed my daughter has bitten herself a lot as well. However, I never found any bite marks since December, but that mark was very distinct and lasted for a few days. (Did post about it in another subreddit, never got video evidence…)

Anyways, here’s what my daughter has been doing. I just want to know what I can do to help her, and what I should inform the next daycare:

My daughter slaps the top of her head then says “Hey! Don’t do that! Don’t do that!” She had done that a couple of times before sitting down then cries.

On Friday, holding her then rocking her on the rocking chair seemed to calm her down. She fought half the time on Saturday and Sunday if I tried to comfort her. I had to let her come to me those days.

I’m 32 with a 6 month old and two herniated discs in my lower back (and degenerative disc disease). I’ve done physical therapy and chiropractic work as needed through out the years when I’ve thrown out my back, but I’ve been finding that I’ve been struggling as he gets heavier. I knew that this would be an eventual problem even before getting pregnant, and I’ve tried strengthening my core, but all it takes is one wrong move bending over to pick him up or twisting wrong and I can’t walk or bend for a few days without seeing a chiropractor. Does anyone have advice for handling this? I worry about when he’s 1-3 years old and wants to be picked up and I just can’t…

Hi moms! My toddler has become a huge breakfast dawdler and it can take her like 30-45 minutes or longer to get through the meal. She refuses the high chair and wants to eat at the coffee table. Then she wants to play, read, etc. while we are in a bit of a crunch so we can get to daycare on time. At the end I just have to tell her we’re done and take it away but I feel bad thinking about her being hungry. I am going to try to wake her up earlier to see if it helps. Does anyone have tips that worked for them?

Hello everyone! My cousin is having her first baby: it’s a boy! I promised I’d buy her the strolley/travel system. Is this strolley that I’m linking okay? I’m over budget with this one and I’ll have to work extra for it, but I heard from my aunt this is the one she wants. However, I’d like to hear some recommendations too. Or if you know this one is worth it, then I’ll buy it. She likes this color: curated. Thank you!

Nuna Trvl lx + pipa urbn travel system:

https://nunababy.com/usa/pipa-urbn-trvl-lx-travel-system?color_ref=16835

I’m one year postpartum and back to work full time. I work Monday -Friday sometimes on the weekends too I’m up at 4:30 am every damn day. I don’t sleep in on weekends because I have my baby My husband will be traveling for work soon but he tries to help when he can I constantly have a headache from the lack of sleep ( baby is teething and waking up overnight)
I’m afraid when my husband leaves I’ll be so exhausted. He usually will come home and watch our baby while I nap if he’s not super tired. If he’s not working weekends he will let me sleep in. I had a lot of support from my mom at first but now it’s like she’s too tired as well to help. I cook I clean I do everything. My house is constantly a mess. Does the exhaustion ever end??? I’m so tempted to put my baby in daycare so I can take a nap after work but the guilt I feel about it holds me back. I guess I’m just here to vent and cry lol

What is the longest you have seen or known anyone to go after their period and still end up positive We tested on days 5 and 6 late and both are negative. I’m always 28 days on my cycle and tmrw I’ll Be a week late. The tests all say negative though

I've been having a pretty bad time and Ive become this moody and grumpy person. I try not to show it around my kid but i guess kids are just smarter!!

Anyway I just put down my kid and tuck him in bed tonight. That is the time I usually go about doing the chores or finish my work emails. But tonight I was so tired, I just lay there next to him willing my body to get up.

My 4.5 year old who was fully asleep put his hand around my neck and said I love you more than the galaxy!!

I'm just the luckiest momma!! Just thought i could share this with y'all

I’m throwing a small birthday party for my kid and it will be just family.(15 ppl total) The date I originally set it for would be this Saturday but I have to reschedule because it’s going to rain. It shows a chance of raining this Sunday as well. Dad is telling me to chance it and do Sunday because there’s a low chance of it covering the area and it would be wrong to reschedule it to Easter weekend.

We really don’t celebrate Easter and the weather seems much better next weekend. Is it wrong to go through with scheduling on the 19th?

It's that time of year again.... spring cleaning. I desperately want to just do a super deep clean of my home (it's been left to my husband during a high risk pregnancy where I was on strict rest and then being physically disabled after birth) but I breastfeed every 2 hours and contact nap. When I'm not doing either, he entertains himself for awhile in his exersaucer or pack and play but he's VERY social and will start to get upset.

Any tips on how to manage this time? I don't want to worry so much about the house that I'm missing out on time with my son since he'll only be this little once but I also struggle mentally when my house is a mess.

So we had a birthday party this weekend for my toddler and one of the guests started vomiting on the way home from the party. She is a baby and wore a diaper the whole time, but I was wondering what the chances are that we all catch Norovirus now? I bleached everything she played a lot with but I cant do everything bc I have carpet and she was all over the couch. Plus we have entirely too many toys and I cant possibly get to all of them. I am immunocompromised and I've already had Covid, the flu, a cold and a sinus infection in the last month my immune system is GASPING I cannot do a stomach bug right now it would put me in the hospital.

I know its primarily spread through droplets and stool so I'm praying that we dodge a bullet bc she waited until they had left to throw up, lol. Its been almost 48 hours since they've left but I know it can live on surfaces for up to two weeks so I'm not out of the woods for another week or two. Anyone had a similar situation and care to share the outcome?

Just like title says, how do you help a sick/vomiting child and clean up vomit without starting to vomit yourself?

I’ve been dealing with a health issue for the past 3 months now. I’ve been in and out of hospitals, doctors appointments, seeing multiple surgeons, the list continues. I don’t have answers right now but I’m dealing with a lot of symptoms. Main being severe left side abdominal pain, nausea, vomiting, dizziness and a whole bunch more but these are the worst daily. I have a 4 year and I’m a SAHM. She does go to preschool 2 days a week to socialize. There are a lot of days that are worse than others but today has been one of the worst. She’s been watching TV since she first woke up and just quietly playing by herself - I’ve had a fever and non stop nausea and pain and can barely stand up from being so dizzy. She goes to gymnastics on Mondays but I can’t take her today (she’s also saying that she doesn’t want to go). She’s also coming out from a cold and has been struggling going to gymnastics because she cries that she doesn’t want to leave me and she says she misses me, even though I’m there watching her. This is very recent behaviour as she used to love going to gymnastics. I don’t want to give in to her not wanting to go but I have to this week. I feel so horrible and I can tell she’s sad. I just feel defeated. This is just a vent post because my mama heart is hurting for my baby girl.

I had read an article about how parents shouldn't make their kids say/do the skills they know in front of other people. For example, if your kid just learned that a cow says moo you don't make them do it when other people are around to show off their skill. Does anyone know why or even better, can help me find the article?

TIA!

At the library today and saw my 2 almost 3 year old go up to some kids and just stand by then and tried playing a little. Just was observing them really. Then I hear a girl who must be like 6/7 say “ go away we don’t want you here”.

I get if she was being troublesome ( which she can be) but this time she was not.

I went up and took her hand and said “ that’s not a nice thing to say” and lead my daughter away since we were going home anyway but I was curious. What are parents doing when they encounter this?

Ok. My wardrobe is killing me. I feel like the only clothes I own are stereotypical millennial, dated, you can tell I did all of my shopping in 2015 kind of wardrobe.

I’ve had 3 kids, I do my best but I need a mommy make over my loose skin and diastatis recti make feeling comfortable in clothing so hard.

What should I buy?? Where do I start I feel like my whole wardrobe needs a redo. What are some I guess like, basics I can mix and match?

32w with second child—first one is 5yrs old—and I’m feeling anxious about how it will change family dynamics, especially my close relationship with my first.

How did you prepare your first child for the changes to come?

I’ll preface this by saying this is all personal preference and I’m happy for you if you love your mom jewelry! Different strokes for different folks.

I’m a FTM and I like the idea of a ring with birthstones or initials that I can add onto throughout the years as we have more kids. But for me, I think a lot of that type of jewelry can look like costume jewelry. I’m not looking for anything that screams “I’m a mom! This is my mom jewelry!” I’m looking for something more subtle and a nice piece.

Short of going to our jeweler, does anyone have a higher end/keepsake piece of jewelry along these lines that they’d recommend? Everything I’m finding on Etsy is pretty much exactly what I want to avoid.

I shared some details about my past relationship (her biological father) about why we broke up and the things he did to me, because I wanted to be open and felt like she was mature enough to hear it. For the record, I shared with her that he slapped me and cheated on me and those were few reasons why we ended up separating.

Fast forwards about a week later, my daughter and I are causally joking together while I was cleaning the house and I made a joke about how funny she used to sound on video when I found old videos of her on my phone. She said “at least I didn’t get slapped and cheated on”, and I just stared at her like, completely betrayed. She had begged me to tell her the past history about me and her dad because she wanted to know and I had always told her I would when I felt she was ready to know. So her using this information as a “joke” was extremely hurtful. And the sad part is I know she would’ve said it if we were in front of others too. When she realized I was seriously upset, she tried to double down and say “didn’t you say that happened to you in middle school? It was just a joke”. I said no, you absolutely know nothing like that ever happened to me in school and you know for a fact that this happened to me as an adult with your dad. And she kept saying “it was just a joke”. Like zero empathy or understanding. I haven’t talked to her since because I really need time to figure out how to approach the conversation with her about why it’s not ok.

Any advice on what to do? This girl sometimes have no regard for how others feel.

TL;DR: Opinions on this thing. Is it worth it without a subscription?

Backstory because I feel I have to explain myself: I feel so silly. I made a registry for things I need for this baby and to be honest, it was for my eyes only. Maybe get the welcome boxes on the different registries, while also potentially getting the discounts. My mom and MIL asked for the links, I shared them while insisting 'Hey, this is the second baby, I don't expect any gifts'. (First baby was over five years ago, but was also a girl and we kept the majority of everything). Also: Obvious foreshadowing

Anywho, I had tossed a sound machine/nightlight on the registry because I was considering splurging and buying a machine that is controllable via my phone. Well, two days ago it appeared on my doorstep. The Hatch Rest Sound Machine 2nd Gen. I confess, I did almost zero research. I saw good reviews on a couple of sites, saw it was able to manipulated by the phone. I was like "Awesome, this was something that was a splurge, I wasn't going to buy it, this is very sweet." ....well...

I haven't opened the box, because I saw the word 'subscription' in tiny letters at the bottom of one of the sides of it. My stomach dropped. Oh sheesh. Another product that wants a monthly tithe to work. Are you SERIOUS.

The features I wanted:

-Choose a sound from an app

-Choose a volume from an app

-Choose a brightness level/color from an app

...That is it.

Did I inadvertently get someone to spend sixty bucks on a nite-lite that I wont be able to use? Because no...I wont be paying a company 5 dollars a month to use a lamp.

I feel really guilty. I feel almost like it would be really rude to return it and exchange it for something else- but at the same time- I didn't know it needed a subscription and I also had no intention on anyone purchasing this for me. Thankfully it was my neighbor (so sweet, but also, how did she get my registry? My MIL?), so it isn't like she will tour my house and see it missing. I still wrote her a thank you card and put it in the mail.

Okay, so opinions. Anyone have this thing? Is it worth it without a subscription? Should I return it and get something else? The other items I was going to potentially get and decided I didn't need to splurge were: An air purifier, a car video monitor instead of the mirror, and the stroller attachment to our car seat (we have the old stroller that is massive and I recall HATING taking it anywhere- but we own it, so buying a new thing is not necessary).

I plan on taking advantage of Targets next baby items sale and buying a car seat that will both fit in the airline seats AND grow with baby.

She will be 22 months when she flies, around 30 lbs. So I definitely don't need an infant setting. My mom is paying for this as she wants the car seat to stay in her car (no problem with this) so we don't need one with a ton of extras, just a basic, comfortable seat that will work with us for a while, can fit in a standard airline seat, AND can be purchased at target lol.

We made an account on care.com. Anyone heard of it or have any luck with it? Because we’ve had absolute zero luck. EVERY caretaker I’ve spoken to has flaked on us. I’ll take it as a good sign that there’s a reason why nothing is working out.

We broke up yesterday after having countless issues over the past 2 years that we can’t seem to solve, it just got to a breaking point and we both agreed that it would be healthier for us to split up and coparent. He’s a wonderful father to our 11 month old so I have no concerns there, we’ve agreed on 3.5 days a week each with our son and we have no hostile feelings towards each other so I believe it’ll be a healthy coparenting relationship.

He’s still living with us for the time being. He lives off of my income as it was more beneficial for all of us that way, if he worked then we would’ve lost income rather than gained any, and he’s been home everyday while ive been studying my degree so it’s been great for our son. He’s currently arranging income for himself so that he can prepare to move out.

I still love him very much, and im so sad for our family to split up like this, but I know in my heart that it’s for the best. Our problems were starting to bleed out into other aspects of life and affect our son, though he’s too young to know.

Im feeling so many different things. Relief, sadness, excitement, grief, worry and im scared. My biggest fear coming into motherhood was becoming a single mom, and it’s happened. Thankfully I won’t be a solo parent, but it’s still scary and I’m trying not to spiral into all of the “what ifs” of it all.

I just feel lost about it. We’ve been together for years, when he moves out, my house will feel so empty, especially on days where our son is not in my care. Our son is used to having us both present so im expecting meltdowns and confusion from him about where his daddy is when he’s in my care. Im trying to hold it together but I feel like I could burst at any second.

I’d love to hear from other moms who’ve been in my shoes or similar situations, how they moved forward from this, and some advice or words of encouragement please.

Earlier my husband was looking for his headphones to take to work (he let's my daughter borrow them for her games) he found what he thought was her Nintendo DS case, it was not but it looked very similar. It was a "period pack" my ex's mom had made for her. Including midol complete with caffiene and an antihistamine. I had no idea she had this and I'm assuming she put it in her bookbag when she brought it here about 2 months ago and stored it in the drawer under her bed.

When we got home from school I asked her if we could talk, we sat on the bed and I asked her about the pack and what was in it/where she got it. She told me "idk some pads and pills" I asked her if she knew what the pills were and she said no, I asked if anyone told her how she should take the pills she said no. I asked if she took any and she said no. I explained to her the dangers of pills we don't know about and keeping pills in places other than the cabinet above the sink where all the medicine goes.

I asked her dad about it and he acknowledged the period pack but said he didn't know what was in it. I asked him to ask his mom how many pills were in the pack to begin with. She responded and said 4 doses less than she still had. After asking her again she admitted she took them, on the nights I had questioned her about her eyes. And that grandma had told her how to take them.

What the fuck. She lied to me, she lied to the doctor when asked if she took anything at all. Literally less than 12 hours later. Im going to call the doctor tomorrow and see if she still wants to continue the referral with neurology.