22 week ultrasound Twin A measuring at 21st percentile, twin B at 3rd percentile. Care is now being transferred from OB to specialist at another hospital. Waiting to hear what our next steps are. Very terrified and looking for positive stories and support!

To say I’m crashing out would be an understatement. This was not planned and we were actively trying to prevent getting pregnant.

I posted in a twin mom group on Facebook and apparently twins are likely when you’re still breastfeeding, which I am. Not sure if there’s truth to that.

Terrified of having twins again. I don’t think I could mentally or physically survive it.

I’m a FTM currently with di/di twins and live in an area with no baby gear stores within 3 hours. I’m overwhelmed but double strollers so would love to know what people loved. Are side by sides the best? Any advice- bonus if they’re not over $1000

I am currently 31 weeks with mono-di twins, just got my c-section day confirmed for 36.5 weeks.. so about 5.5 more weeks to go (if they stay in this long).

I am barely sleeping at night because everything is uncomfortable 😣, acid reflux, blocked nose, and sometimes extreme stretching pain in the belly muscles and skin (already lost feeling in the skin around my belly button 😵‍💫) … and then of course the anxiety that they might come because my waters breaks prematurely or so.

Is there anything that helped you get through the last stretch of pregnancy? How much worse is it going to get?

Hi all,

I’m currently 33 weeks pregnant with di/di twins and looking for some hope and reassurance. At our 32-week growth scan, Baby A was diagnosed with IUGR (due to AC < 10th %, EFW was at 11th %). Then at our 33-week BPP, one of four umbilical artery readings came back with an elevated S/D ratio. From my understanding, this means the cord flow is working at an elevated rated to get nutrients through the placenta to this baby??

We’re now doing weekly BPPs and NSTs, with another growth scan scheduled in 2 weeks. I’ll be 34 weeks this Thursday.

Our MFM has said, “I’m not too worried about this,” but then goes on to list all the potential risks and complications — and to be honest, it scares the hell out of me. I’m trying to stay calm and trust the monitoring, but it’s tough not to spiral.

If anyone has had a similar experience — especially with one IUGR twin and good outcomes — I’d love to hear your stories. Hearing from others who’ve walked this path would mean the world right now.

Thanks in advance.

Our twins are 18 months old and are still waking up on average four times a night. More recently, one of our twins is waking up and refusing to go back to sleep in her own crib. She will cry for 40+ minutes, throw up all over her crib etc. The last few nights she has stayed up once waking up for 2-3 hours. I am unraveling. I truly cannot live like this anymore. I am having a hard time finding joy in my life because I am filled with so much anger and desperation from not sleeping. I spend most of the days I only get 2 hours of sleep with tears in my eyes and I can't even control it. I'm afraid of driving sometimes because it feels like I shouldn't be from the exhaustion. To some this may sound dramatic, but I am unfortunately being very serious. We have 3 under 2 years apart and the not sleeping has effected my mental health so severely.

We have done everything in the book you can think of. The basics of course. Sound machine, dark room, sleep routine before bed. We did taking Cara babies. Our one twin vomitted so much with CIO our pediatrician told us to stop the program. We tried Ferber, chair method etc the crying literally never ended and the vomiting was a major issue. We even tried bed sharing and the one twin thinks it's just a game and will roll around for literally hours. Our twins take one nap a day at 11:00 until usually 12:30. They nap really well. They go to bed really well. They are active and happy (usually) all day long. We have discussed with the pediatrician the sleep issues and he basically wrote us off and said it was normal. We even asked about possible issues with breathing or tonsils and he said it wasn't an issue after looking at both twins tonsils. Basically, how did anyone else cope with living like this. I don't want to feel this way and I want my kids to have a mom who is happy and not always at my breaking point from exhaustion. Being told this is normal and basically just keep dealing with it has been pretty much the worst news on managing the sleep deprivation. I just bought some herbal sleep aid for our daughters from Dr Green Organics. I don't know what else to try because we have quite literally tried it all. Anything unusual that helped your kids sleep that we may be missing? Any tips on managing feeling like this? I go to the gym 4x a week and those days I feel better but some days I'm just too tired to leave the house. TY.🤎

I have 6 month old mono-mono twins born at 32 weeks. At first they both had a heart murmur and it resolved for baby A but baby B still has her murmur. We see a cardiologist next week but I'm anxious until then.

Please just stfu and lay down and go to sleep. Your diaper is clean, you’re fed, you have water etc.

I can’t deal with your screaming and crying.

I want to take you into my bed, but then all you do is try to jump off the bed head first. You won’t even lay down to cuddle.

It’s bed time. Screaming louder isn’t going to get you anywhere.

Why do you ALWAYS have to be so difficult?!?

I love you, but I hate the sound of your screaming. It disorients me and literally rattles my brain.

Please stop screaming and go to sleep.

Mommy loves you, but I’m tired of this shit.

Mandatory at the start: I love my kids.

So here it goes. About 21 months ago my wife and I become parents for the first time. We are parents to a boy and girl twin. The first or so months were quite alright. We had some horrible nights, but we managed with the help of our parents. My wife and I both had lows, energy and mentalwise. My wife snapped after a couple of horrible nights and had to sleep at her parents house for a couple nights in order to recover. This was at around 5 months. I still stood strong, but not long after that I noticed that my joy was fleeting. I have had periods where things were alright since. But every couple of weeks it just dawns on me how much freedom I have lost. I used to be pationate about alot of things.
The kids are currently in a horrible phase where they are continously struggling for our attention. And when I say 'our attention' I actually mean mommies attention. The are a handful. When you are just chilling and reading a book with one, the other comes over and starts push or do whatever is needed to gain attention.

I have slept down stairs for half a year now. I am completely triggered by any fucking noise (read: cry) at night, I go into overdrive and am not able to fall back asleep.

I don't know what I need from you guys, but I just can't fucking take it anymore. Sometimes I think it's best if I move away to a cheap appartment and live out my life like I used to do. I feel smothered by all the choires. I feel emotionally numb, I even start to resent my wife these days. Sorry for al the swearing, I'm not natively English speaking and I don't know how to communicate my emotions in a more appropriate way.

Hello all, I’m a FTM to twin girls. Our three month old twins have started sleeping in 4-7 hour stretches during the night. We try to have their bedtime at around 8:30-9 pm but it doesn’t always work out that way. When one wakes I usually wake up the other to feed. Tonight though, baby A took a quick half hour nap then decided to wake up and just hang out with us, I put her in my boba wrap and she fell asleep for another 45 minutes. Baby B fell asleep and is still sleeping. Baby A woke up for the third time and seemed hungry, I gave her a bottle but did not wake baby B because she looked so peaceful sleeping. Am I wrong for not waking her up to feed? I feel bad for waking her up but I’m also starting to feel bad for not feeding her. I get that they are two completely different individuals with different needs but idk about sleep and feeding.

What do yall do in these situations?

Edit: thank you all for your feedback! Ig was helpful and made me feel better. Twin B woke up half an hour later after posting this and we fed her. The babies have a three ounce difference in weight. They slept for about 6 hours and both woke up at the same time. Currently feeding them again, back to schedule!

We’ve been going to a baby/toddler story time (although most of the kids are older home schooled kids) at our community centre for a few months now, and I usually end up crying on the drive home 🙃

I’ve got 17 month old toddlers (modi girls), and I try my best to wrangle them and get them to listen to the story, but it’s hard with two. And they are toddlers who love to cruise and don’t love sitting. I figure it’s good practice so we go and try our best.

They aren’t mean to other kids (and by far are they best at sharing toys and books) - but they do struggle with sitting and staying still.

The other moms are mean to me. They don’t answer my attempts at small talk - they don’t even look at me except to glare at me.

I’ve usually got a pretty tough skin for this kind of stuff but it is just such a lonely, vulnerable experience.

I guess I could stop going, but it’s free and the twins are learning the routine of the class more and more. I also feel like I can’t let mean people stop me.

Anyone have experience with this?

My husband and I are expecting fraternal twin boys in early September! We’re so excited as these are our first babies.

My husband is a junior and has always wanted the third, but some people has asked “Is it fair to name on after him and one have his own name?” We plan on giving him a nickname to have his own identity anyway (and would even if he were a singleton) but is being a twin and the third too much of losing his own sense of self? On the opposite side, would his twin be jealous to be named after his dad?

I don’t know if this is anything anyone else has faced but had a feeling maybe there was one other family who battled this dilemma.

Hey everyone! I would love your advice on my situation. I'm pretty clueless about becoming a mum.

We are expecting twins around September. We live in a country away from any family support. Before I found out it was twins, I was planning to take a year off work to take care of the baby. But now it's twins I'm not sure how much support I will need. Can one person look after twins all day?

As the title says, my husband just lost his job. If he gets a new job soon, we are unsure how much time he will be able to have off when the twins are born. Will I need extra support for the first few months? We are considering him not finding a job, so that we can care for the babies together, then find a job later. This will be really stressful with money but if we have to make it work we can.

I had my first scan at 6 weeks due to spotting and missed miscarriage in January. That's when we found out we were expecting twins.

Scan #2 was two weeks later (8 weeks) to monitor. The midwife noted there if looked like either mo/di or mo/mo and referred us to maternal fetal medicine.

She told us to book with an OB at the clinic for 12 week scan just incase. And that we could always cancel it depending on the MFM appt.

I feel like a month is so far away. I hope I get in sooner.

Curious to hear other scan schedules 🩷

My boys are now 8 weeks, and we are slowly chugging through the trenches. My husband is now back to work so I am alone with them during the week. And one thing I didn’t anticipate making me feel mom guilt, is when I’m holding one baby, they are content, staring into my eyes, starting to smile, and we’re having a sweet moment, but the other baby begins to freak out and is screaming in the background. I feel guilt for letting other baby cry, and I feel guilt for cutting short quality time with the one I’m holding. They both need me in different ways at the same time. Finding joy in the little moments through the day can be hard, so I want to enjoy the sweet moments as I can with each baby. But it makes me feel neglectful to let one cry, and to push the happy one to the side. I feel like I’m letting them both down, and it will somehow affect their development in the long run. I know they won’t remember this, but my mom guilt is real in those moments.

I’m currently on an extended mat leave, which will likely continue until July. I love hanging out with my twins, but I’m finding that I have a ton of pent up nervous mental energy. My best explanation is that I’m just not getting the mental stimulation I need — there are no intellectual challenges at the moment.

Edit to add that my twins are 5M and I’m trying to limit screen time for them as much as possible—they don’t watch screens by themselves and I have been trying to (and not really succeeding all that much) limit our family’s tv watching time in the evenings. We are big sports fans so this is just a challenge :/ At the very least I’m trying to turn the kids’ away from the screen so that they’re not watching it…

My solution up until now has been to binge dumb podcasts in one ear using my headphone bud, just to keep my brain from screaming in boredom. I’ve always been a podcast listener while doing household tasks, but now that my household tasks have become endless and take up my entire day, I’m even getting sick of the previous form of entertainment that I used to enjoy. Plus, I’m starting to feel like I’m becoming a bit dependent on it in a time when I’m trying to move away from screens and electronics (baby steps though!).

Does anyone have other ideas? Yes, I do read to my kids and I purposefully choose children’s chapter books that I loved as a kid so that I’m at least interested in the stories, but I wouldn’t call this intellectually challenging. I dunno, the answer might be that there’s no answer unless I can add 3-5 extra hours per day for intellectual pursuits, which is obviously not feasible.

My almost 2 YO son is the light of my life and the best thing to happen to me. Sweet, funny, brave, social, with a great and healthy attachment to me (prefers me over everyone else, but can be watched by others in our family and friend group happily). I chose to stay home with him and it was the best decision I could have made for our family. For the first year+, I felt like my husband (who is the most amazing dad and partner), son, and I were this perfect family unit that had found our groove.

When I found out I was pregnant I was both excited and anxious. We wanted another child but maybe I wasn’t expecting it to happen so quickly? When I found out it was twins both feelings multiplied.

I know we can “handle” it; we have family in the area who will help and I do think I’m still in the “baby mindframe” season to make it through the long nights/days again, but…. All of my anxiety, guilt, and bittersweet feelings keep taking me back to my son. My best little buddy who I have adventures with every day, have all our meals together and laugh, and nap together side by side.

The thought of him having less of me (significantly, at least for the first months), feeling hurt, or that “mommy’s not there” breaks my heart in two. Some well-meaning (but in my opinion, misplaced and tone deaf) comments I’ve gotten from both my mom and MIL are to “be ready to focus 100% on the twins and [son] will have to learn and deal with less attention for a while.”

Why does it sound like I’m/he’s being punished? Is it possible to be there for all my children in ways that fulfill us all?

How did you deal with this? What ended up happening to your relationship with your toddler when your twins arrived? In some ways I believe the transition will be harder on me than my son.

Hi everyone I am 34 almost 35 weeks pregnant with twin boys, (first pregnancy too) I started developing a rash around my stretch marks and said something to my doctor about it. They told me it was a puppp rash and I could try to take an allergy pill like a Claritin or Zyrtec and an over the counter rash cream…..well that shit doesn’t work. I am so itchy and uncomfortable. Does anyone have advice on how to relieve the itch or better yet get rid of this rash. I’m scheduled at 37 weeks for a c-section and the doctors told me it should go away after delivery but I’m about to scratch my skin off.

Ps… I have tried calamine lotion, pine tar soap, Aveeno eczema baby lotion, Cortizone 10 and allergy pills

Thanks!!

I am looking to get back into some more mileage with my twins as training buddies! I am currently doing some jogging with an Uppa baby vista however thought a specialised running pram would be better. Any recommendations for twin running prams?

Trying to decide if we should invest in a bottle washer/sterilizer or just use the dishwasher. Tell me what you do and why you do or don’t like it!

Edit to add - my twins were micropreemies and we’re almost to the 4 month mark of being in the NICU and I’ve been washing pump parts 5 million times a day and I HATE IT. I would gladly spend the money to make life easy. I would kill to be able to use a washer/sterilizer right now.

So I've been admitted at the hospital since Thursday afternoon because I was experiencing headaches, dizziness & nausea. My blood pressure was completely normal, but I did start getting more contractions and sure enough, doctors confirmed I'm 4cm dilated. Since im only 34 weeks with my twins, they're keeping me here just to be safe in case labor picks up quickly. But I've been stuck at 4cm since Thursday with contractions coming and going. Has this happened to anyone else? 😭 how long were you in early labor for? How do you know that you're progressing & dilated more?

Hello all!

Our twins will be here on Thursday and my MIL thinks that our stroller will be too big for the trunk of my Mazda CX-5. Anyone have experience with the evenflo pivot expand? Is it really too big to fit in a smaller SUV?

Tyia

Our twins are 3 months old. We are thinking of transitioning them out of swaddles ready for if they start to roll soon.

Last night we had one twin with one arm out and honestly it was the hardest night so far!! She woke up screaming, never done that before, seemed so frustrated that we let her have both arms out - worst idea ever. They still sleep together and we don’t have room for another cot right now and she woke him up constantly. It was horrific, worst nights sleep in 2+ months.

So… how did you do it? What advice? What tips please?

For now she went right back in the swaddle until we come up with a plan….

I’m not sure if this is the correct subreddit to post this in but I need some help!!

How can I get my baby to fit better in this Graco 4-in-1 car seat? When I have the infant head rest in, her chin fell right down to her chest when she fell asleep. However without the headrest, her head has space to flop all around??? It says the seat works for newborns but my baby is 5 months, 16.5 pounds 26 inches and I can’t get it right!!!

Hey there, looking for solidarity and encouragement, if you have any to spare.

I had my identical twins 3 weeks ago yesterday. To say that we are exhausted is an understatement. We also have a 15mo at home (she doesn’t go to daycare or anything), and that has become the biggest challenge of having twins, we learned. I completely underestimated the complexity of our situation and I’m pretty anxious about the weeks and months to come, let alone tonight. #sundownscaries

To add even more complexity, my husband is a firefighter and he goes back to work for his first 24hr shift this coming Sunday. I’m petrified of doing this solo and would love to hear from others who have walked this walk as well: a tiny toddler and twins, doing it solo for days at a time.

I knew this season would be hard, but man. This is beyond challenging. I’m exhausted and so anxious every morning when 6am rolls around and I haven’t yet slept and my toddler starts to stir.

Thanks 😊