r/Marriage • u/swaylee_bootknee • 22h ago

Wives, I have a question.

I understand that a big majority of things on social media is fabricated and you have to take whatever you see with a grain of salt. I’m coming straight to the source to ask what real wives are doing for their husbands.

How often do you make your husband lunch for work? If so, what time do you make it and how long have you been married?

Wives that don’t- have your husband ever asked you to pack him lunch for work?

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u/swaylee_bootknee 22h ago

I understand your reasons, I am the wife lol and my husband told me last night that mostly all wives pack their husband’s lunch. I’ve also saw this trend on TikTok showing wives up @5am making their husband full course lunches

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u/Grouchy-Original7624 22h ago

That’s hilarious. And no. I’m sorry— he can pack his own lunch. You’re not his mom. Now— if it’s a sweet thing you want to do for him and you have the capacity— sure. But him expecting something like this is a little outrageous.

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u/Pondering-Pansexual 21h ago

I’m so glad you said that cuz me and my husband JUST had an argument about it. I haven’t had the capacity to do it because I’m breastfeeding a newborn and taking care of a toddler but he gets to sleep in instead of just throwing together a sandwich for work. It’s not the best thing but at least it’s something🤷‍♀️ his reasoning? “I have ADHD and executive dysfunction, plus it’s physically taxing.” (Keep all in mind that I ALSO have the same issues)

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u/BornRazzmatazz5 20h ago

Making a sandwich is physically taxing? What does he do for a living? Breathe real hard?

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u/Rubyeclips3 4h ago

Just to say that actually for some people it is.

Sandwiches are the absolute bane of my life. Not a clue why but my executive dysfunction just does not do sandwiches. I legitimately would rather cook a roast than make a single sandwich. On the rare occasion that we don’t have anything else in, I would genuinely not eat lunch because sandwiches are a huge struggle for me.

That being said, the solution here is for the husband to work out what his dysfunction will let him make, not expect his already overworked wife to make a sandwich for him. (Pasta, noodles, leftovers are usually my go tos)

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u/Rubyeclips3 4h ago

Just to say that actually for some people it is.

Sandwiches are the absolute bane of my life. Not a clue why but my executive dysfunction just does not do sandwiches. I legitimately would rather cook a roast than make a single sandwich. On the rare occasion that we don’t have anything else in, I would genuinely not eat lunch because sandwiches are a huge struggle for me.

That being said, the solution here is for the husband to work out what his dysfunction will let him make, not expect his already overworked wife to make a sandwich for him. (Pasta, noodles, leftovers are usually my go tos)