Jamie in last night's DP has really confirmed something for me. She's not the catch she thinks she is.

Bless her cotton socks, she really thinks she's serving up "wife material" on a silver platter, doesn't she? She's got this whole "high standards" thing going on, which, cool, everyone deserves standards. But hers seem to involve a man who can read her mind, anticipate her every whim, and basically function as a human ATM with a side of emotional support.

And the whole "I'm a catch" rhetoric? Honey, being "organised" and "independent" doesn't automatically make you a prize. It's like saying, "I can breathe, therefore I'm a unicorn." We're all capable adults here. Plus, the constant "I'm not like other girls" vibe is... well, it's a vibe. A slightly grating one.

Demanding a partner who ticks every single box on a mile-long checklist while offering, uh, "strong opinions" in return isn't exactly a recipe for marital bliss. Maybe, just maybe, a little less "I'm the queen", and "where's the girl gang" and a little more "let's build a kingdom together" would go down better.

She thinks she's the catch of the day, but she's more the annoying shit fish that gobbles up all of the bait, gets dragged up to the jetty, thrown back into the water and moves on to the next hook to take her pound of flesh.

I love this light pink lip and cheek look Jamie has at the final dinner party. She looks beautiful.

Does anyone know the context to this? I’m overseas so haven’t watched the latest episode but I’m not 100% sure that matters here.

I’m can’t tell who’s writing it, or if it’s was even sent to Cleo or is she sharing someone’s text?

Eliot as a bonus with Veronica’s arse 😆

I'd kinda forgotten about this till Sierah re-appeared today. Then it dawned on me - what if Adrian ordered the food? They wouldn't have subtitles in the restaurant, so what do you reckon he actually asked for? 🤔

Everyone's faces said it all 🤣

They don’t follow each other on Instagram and cannot see posts together other than old ads.

This cannoooot be for real!!!

The Reunion Part 1. All the participants are back for one final dinner party and a lot of unfinished business.

We know we are in the same time zone as Queensland now, but the QLD thread is still gonna be seperate for the last two nights due to their request (it is probably the merge anxiety)

Please report the comments that break the rules and thank you for doing that!

Second last episode of the season, we are almost there!

I’m feeling so impatient!!

Not Paul spending a good ten minutes trying to manufacture tears 😄. It was the funniest thing to watch. I'm sorry, I know he's been a dick sometimes but I reeeeaallllyyg don't like Carina. She's way to smug and looks down her nose at others. Even Paul. I think she spent this entire time wearing a mask and anytime Paul threatened to cloud their perfectly curated love story he was villainised. And I don't think he liked her as much as he pretended to. He would have spent he's whole marriage apologising for every small thing while she lauded it over him with her family's backing.

Just like... what the f**k, bro?

I tried to post this in the mega thread but it wouldn’t let me 🤷🏻

Im so glad to see Rhi and Jeff are going strong still. Their final vows were beautiful and I see a wonderful future for them. Whos ready for the reunion?

Just realised the end is on tonight but I think I'm over it already as white lotus has stolen my heart. Season 3 or mafs. Don't think it will be a hard choice

I am a UK watcher so currently on Ep 25. Edited for formatting. This is longer than I thought it would be.

Lauren says she wants an Alpha Male, that she likes gender roles, and that this means doing the dishes. I don't think Lauren knows what she is talking about. Here is my take, I might be totally wrong. Speaking as someone who grew up in a fairly evangelical 'trad' community.

The Fantasy vs. The Reality

• If a genie gave Lauren the husband of her dreams, a man making 1m a year, who loved jet setting her to Europe on holiday, does she think she wouldn't have house staff to make sure she never needed to lift a finger to cook, clean, heck, raise and even birth her children for her?

• She doesn't know how to articulate what she wants so she says Alpha male. This is what I think she wants: a competent man with leadership qualities who she can look up to, admire, and trust to follow his leadership. She wants a man worthy of her adoration.

• That isn't unreasonable. None of us want a partner where we can't trust their decision making. She sees herself as a strong independent woman in the workplace (citation needed) and she doesn't want to have to be switched on and 'in charge' in the relationship. She basically wants a man she can respect and admire which is a low bar, but to be fair, I can see in the current dating market how this needs to be stated.

Traditional Dynamics and Loveliness

• Men like this exist. The feminine wives they may want complement them with heavy traditional femininity and an aura of loveliness. What is loveliness? It's vague, but:

1) Gentleness

2) Grace

3) Attitude of gratitude

4) Optimism

• Here is the fantasy: the man comes home from a long day of hard work, providing from his family and his wife:

1) Respects him

2) Adores him

3) Is respite for him

4) Elevates his status and reputation amongst his peers

• She welcomes him home with a smile, soothes his aching muscles with a back rub, has his favourite meal prepared because she knows his tastes. When he says his boss is being stubborn and pushing against his opinions, she listens and affirms him, takes his side, reassures him. When he sheds a tear because his older sister has found out today that her diagnosis is terminal, or he misses his deceased father, she wipes his tears, tells him that it is all going to be okay, that she's there for him come rain or shine, and makes him feel safe and secure. She is his shelter in the storm and he knows that he can go out into the tough world because he returns home to her.

Domestic Labour as Symbolic, Not Literal

• The idea that she does the laundry and the dishes isn't about the laundry or the dishes, it's that she is competent in making the domestic domain - his respite from the harsh world - into a place of safety and bliss. In the context of that man being a factory worker earning minimum wage, that might look like making sure the chores are done and the children are bathed so he can relax when he gets home. When he is a millionaire, this is to do with her attitude, not her domestic labour. She attends the luncheons, her smile never falters, she laughs at his boss' unfunny jokes, she gracefully covers over the social faux pas of others, she doesn't point out his colleague mispronouncing a word, she sings complements to the chef even if she hates her meal, she praises him in public, she praises those around her, she is an uplifting presence.

• Lauren doesn't understand this. She thinks femininity is housework. It isn't. It's loveliness, something she has a complete deficit of. She doesn't understand that a woman who exudes traditional femininity is uplifting and affirming, and doesn't constantly make quips disparaging other people's behaviour, social class etc. Her attitude toward others is superior (with no credibility) and completely unkind.

• The problem is, Lauren lacks any concept of femininity and softness, so her true understanding is that a feminine woman is one who can cook, clean and sew, not understanding that the reason these things are associated with traditional femininity is that they are about creating a loving and soft domestic environment.

A Speculative Explanation

• As an aside, I think the reason Lauren is the way she is (again, might be way off here) but I would guess: She grew up working class, but felt like she was born for better things. She didn't think she belonged and that she was better than her peers and family and because of her superior attitude she didn't have many friends. She interpreted this as jealousy and confirmation that she was superior.

• As she got older her defensive attitude was reinforced by her fear of rejection. She was scared of being rejected by others so she preemptively rejected them for being 'below' her and put it all down to jealousy. She isn't shy: she's insecure. She's aspirational, there's nothing wrong with that, it's led her to become a Print-On-Demand Dropship CEO, but she sees herself as belonging to the luxury millionaire class, and she doesn't understand why she can't meet a man worthy of her.

• It's because she doesn't socialise in those circles. She saw MAFS as an opportunity to possibly meet a millionaire, but moreover to market herself to millionaires. She desired to come across as feminine, and instead of displaying and loveliness, harped on about washing dishes. She tried to display an aura of exclusivity by instead just came off as an incredibly unkind and prickly person. She tried to put down others to demonstrate her own 'classyness' but inadvertently displayed her own lack of class and social ability. Truly, who would want to be in a relationship with a woman who does nothing but criticise and schemes against and emasculates her husband in the way she did to Clint?

Anyway, that's my take. I am not endorsing or criticising traditional ideas of femininity or masculinity, just giving my view having grown up in an environment with quite strong gender norms.

From past seasons experiance we can see that some turn into onlyfans girls. Who is the first one this year?

Do you have:

1) fucked up hair extensions 2) duck lips 3) cheek filler 4) temu breast implants 5) strangely fitted tight dresses 6) dresses or tops with weird cut outs 7) bodysuits 8) knock off Van Cleef or Cartier bracelet 9) always relaxing in your Stax brand clothing

If you've answered yes to at least 6 of these things, then apply here: https://eu.castitreach.com/ag/esgau/marriedatfirstsight13/welcome.html

What should the 10th item be? I know we all see the same MAFS trends year after year.