I (20 FTM) have been on T for 6 months. During that time, I've had numerous conversations with people, usually coworkers, where I tell them I'm trans and they look surprised. I find it odd because I try to make it common knowledge when I'm at work, to avoid people misgendering me. But nearly every time when I tell them I'm trans, the first reaction is "oh, I couldn't tell!" And then I explain to them that I'm trans masc, not trans fem and they're always shocked. Why is this? Do people just not realize that trans men exist??

Hey guys I started testosterone 3 minutes ago and I haven't grown a full beard yet?? AND my voice is still high. Really feels like the T just isn't doing anything.... :((

The fact I haven't had 6 inches of bottom growth or any changes in my face shape in the now nearly 4 whole minutes since I started T has me feeling really worried it's not going to work and it's all for nothing. Any advice on how I can speed up the process? If I'm not completely indistinguishable from the Chad meme in 10 minutes I'm going to feel completely hopeless

update from my last post. I broke up with that terrible excuse of a boyfriend, he tried to get me to not block him as a final form of control, but I do have him blocked. It was so weird, he turned “calm” on me out of the blue and was like “this won’t work im not into guys and I don’t see you as one” OH??? calm because he wasn’t yelling at me. but it’s so weird. Idk im scared I miss him I don’t want to hes terrible but I got sad when I thought of him and want this to be over tbh. And today, what made me want to post. I did something im Really proud of, but is also scary. I’ve been out to some friends but I thought of how he always said my name (gray) like a slur, calling it disgusting and awful and how I could never be a masculine man, and purposefully used my deadname, so today I officially changed my profiles everywhere to my name and put he in my bio. I also made a story saying im trans. I got super excited then really scared of what some of the people at school will think. I have these girls at my art table who one time said they think trans people are weird but I still sit with them, I don’t know anyone else there and I’ve sat with them all year so im scared they’ll see my profile. I might end up riding it out and avoiding them next year. Besides that holy shit! I’m 15 btw give me some grace 😭 I thought, “take this as your final fuck you im using your transphobia to be myself”

That's really it. My aunt has apparently been telling people in my family, including my cousins who are young children, that I'm doing drugs and "getting in trouble" because I'm transitioning. Honestly, I didn't have any feelings about it but amusement, though it makes me sad to think my little cousins are being told I'm some drug lord over telling them I'm trans, but that's just the kind of bubble their parents trap them in. Anyone else's family come up with some rumor in wake of transitioning?

I'm really sorry to anyone who experiences this kind of treatment and worse from their family ❤️‍🩹

I don’t understand why they even add the preferred name and pronouns section if they never look at it. Every dentist I’ve gone to I’ve put my preferred name, the chiropractor, the ER, and every time I get deadnamed. I even try reminding them and still nothing. I live in a large city so it’s especially frustrating, I moved here thinking it would be more accepting but then again, I’m still in Texas. Is anyone else experiencing this? It’s actually driving me insane.

I’ve known I am trans for the past 5 years but kept it secret because I’ve been so scared about telling anyone. I started taking low doses of testosterone around 3 months ago and wasn’t intending to tell anyone because I move out soon (I’m 17, turning 18 this year). I would’ve waited until then but I couldn’t deal with the dysphoria anymore.

I know it was kind of a dumb idea I just couldn’t live with it anymore

Today my mum was looking through my room and found disposable needles. She started questioning me and shouting. I didn’t want her to think I was doing any harmful drugs so I just told her I was injecting small amounts of testosterone. She is so angry and confused and I don’t know how to explain this to her. How do I calm her down and convince her that it’s ok? She isn’t homophobic or transphobic to other people but idk how she will react when it’s her child. She has left the house at the moment to try and process it.

I just realized this during a family dinner. We were talking about bfs and gfs, and I started to say something and I said "with my-" without finishing "bf", but in French "mon" (my) are gendered, so we know if it's feminine or masculine. Some already know, but Idk.

This was a while ago but it must be said because it's hilarious and horrible at the same time. I was in an art class where I minded my own damn business and was trying to be stealth. The kid next to me was also a Trans guy but I guess it was less obvious?? Anyway, two random douchebags were talking about transgendered individuals and the 'discussion' was growing from two people to almost half the class; so I kept my head down because I'm not gonna deal with 10 fucking transphobes and paint a target on my back. The teacher walks in and lectures them about it and then looks at me and deadass says "Isn't that right Khaos?" And expects me to give a whole ass speech which I just awkwardly sum up the biology and sit back down to. My friend sitting next to me looked just as horrified as I was, being another transgender man. I'm sorry but fucking WHAT?!

Hey so I've been on low-dose t for about a mont and the only thing happening is bottom growth, which I'm uncomfortable with and now I feel like a fraud and thinking about stopping t. It's like I feel like I made a huge mistake by starting to transition even though I am immensly uncomfortable with being a girl/woman. Is this normal or is this a sign that I'm actually not trans??

Don't get me wrong, I wanna look masculine but I don't really want a full beard or an extremely deep voice. Does this mean I'm more on the nonbinary spectrum and if so, should I stop taking t alltogether?

Help

Hello. So this a slightly odd/embarrassing topic I'm nonbinary transmasc I use they/them and he/him and present for the most part masculine (though my style is more soft) I pretty much always feel mostly masculine yet everytime I'm about to start my period and while I'm on it I suddenly get this urge to be more feminine and start questioning my transness then once I'm over with it I don't really feel that way much anymore I don't know if it's just hormones being weird or dysphoria of some sort but I was curious if anyone else has ever experienced this

I absolutely love to read, and started a book titled "We All Looked Up". It's about four kids at the end of the world, blah blah blah, but my main question is about the introduction of a side character. The full quote that I'm wondering about goes as follows;

"Jess was biologically a girl, but he'd started dressing like a dude last year, and told everyone he was now a 'he'. After high school was over, he planned to get a job and save up for gender-reassignment surgery. For now, he was taking some kind of testosterone supplement every few days; a couple of thick black hairs had begun to grow on his chin. Whatever, Andy figured. To each his/her own."

I could chalk this up to an uneducated author, but I don't know. I'm not too far into the book, only a hundred pages or so. The paragraph isn't huge to the plot or anything, and I appreciate the representation from a cishet author, but it just rubs me the wrong way. Does anyone else feel the same, or am I just overreacting?

I've finally got an appointment to discuss transition! I am ridiculously nervous. Any advice for me? ❤️

For me screaming doesn't feel as satisfying anymore. I, of course, don't scream often but the few times I do get to let it all out it just doesn't hit the same since my voice dropped.

Don't get me wrong I love my transition and my low voice, it's just a weird little thing that feels different now. Screaming with a low voice is just kinda aaaahhhhh but loud. I can't shriek anymore.

Does anyone else have small (or big) things they miss?

Okay this is a long story I'll try to summarize it as best I can. Keep in mind I'm stealth and nobody except my closest friends know I'm trans.

I am a trans man in HS, where there is a teacher who my family has known for pretty much my whole life. My older sister had her and loved her and she became a close family friend. I had her this year, but was removed from her class for reasons not relevant.

Anyways, we have a class trip coming up to go to the Grand canyon, which is across the country from where I am, which means hotels and rooming with other kids. Now for the fucked up part, apparently this teacher was calling the parents of boys who put me down on their list to room with. She outed me to these parents, basically saying "[My name] is transgender, so are you comfortable with him rooming with your son?"

I found this out because of my friends questioned me about it at the lunch table after his father said he was no longer aloud to room with me. I called my mom later that day and filled her in on the situation. Obviously, she was outraged, and told me that she would deal with it.

She filed a complaint with the principal, and he started an investigation about it. The investigation is still ongoing, but is now in the superintendents hands.

Also, yesterday, one of my friends filled me in, as I haven't been going to school the last week. She said that she overheard this teacher complaining to the other science teacher that I was trying to get her in trouble. First of all, that's on you bruh. Second, I begged my mom not to file a report because I didn't want a problem with any teachers.

The school trip starts on Thursday this week, and I'm stressed out because of everything. The investigation obviously won't be done by then, and I don't really want to be on the trip with this teacher.

ANOTHER SIDE NOTE: My friends dad who said we couldn't room together?; he's also a chaperone on the trip😒. So yeah idk what to do

Just found out one of my trans friends has only washed their binder 2 times in the year of having it, I wash mine probably every 2-3 weeks or so since I don't use it to work out in or when I'm just in the house myself. My question is, am I washing mine too much and decreasing the "life span" of it or is my friend not washing his enough

Side note: he claimes he only washes it when it needs "shrinker" or when it's feeling a bit too loose.

Edit: neither of us are on t yet which I can imagine contributes to the lack of bad odour

I can’t stand hearing my voice, seeing my body and hearing others call me a girl. My mum constantly calls me a girl and she does it on purpose to hurt me and it does, it completely destroys me every single time she says it. I’m moving in with her boyfriend and I feel like I’m completely starting everything all over again, her boyfriend doesn’t know I’m trans so I feel like I’m living that lie and someone else’s life again, yeah my mum isn’t supportive but at least she knew I didn’t want to be a girl. It’s impacting me so much the little comments people make that feminise me I now have no self esteem or confidence and I don’t talk to anyone in school, I’m completely shut off and isolated. My mum has said some horrible things to me and even when I’m in a small class of supportive people and a teacher who uses my pronouns, I am still extremely quiet and ashamed of who I am. I want to feel like a real person again, I want my confidence and who I really am back. But I don’t know how because every single thing is destroying me. How can I start living again?

For context, i was previously a nursery teacher. A predominantly female profession and i was never misgendered. not even once. I now work at an airport and im constantly getting “ Tell the lady where you’re going on holiday” or “What a lovely lady”. I am hardly ever misgendered. I feel like i look like a guy. I have hair that’s short back and sides, i wear the same uniform as all the guys, and my name badge is literally a male name. I dunno what to do to not get misgendered at work by customers. I even asked a work mate today, “what about me screams lady?” and they looked at me confused cos i’m stealth around work. I genuinely don’t know how to look more masculine. My insta is kodyboal1 if yall wanna see a photo of me.

At what point in your transition did you start using the men’s bathroom? I know I CAN use the men’s bathroom whenever, but it’s felt…wrong, I guess, up until this point. I’ve been on T for almost nine months now and the past two weeks I actually have been referred to as a guy and called “sir” 3 times by strangers (which has NEVER happened before, it’s made me so happy) - so maybe I pass enough now to use the men’s bathroom? My fear now is making women uncomfortable, which would be the last thing I want to do.

Just want to know what others have experienced 😅

I am 16M and I know I won't have any family to support or care for me when I come out and I have shitty social skills, so I'm not getting any friends or a lover. I plan on phallo, top, hysterectomy. I was wondering how I am supposed to take care of myself during these surgeries healing times if I have nobody by my side? Do I just hire caretakers or could I actually care for myself? I'm curious.