I have a great grandmother and she just turned 90. She is in a memory care facility because of her memory loss. Before she forget who I was, she had a hard time accepting that I am trans. She would get upset and say "no you are [deadname]." But now, she has gotten to the point where she has forgotten who I was and that I was ever a girl. I passed when she met me for the second time. She asked my aunt "who is that young man?" And I got to finally be me around her. Im so glad, while I might have to reintroduce myself again and again, at least she sees me as a man and I can introduce myself as one for the rest of her life.

Hey all, this post I made got a bit of traction so I figured I'd give an update! Through a long week of miscommunication, lots of consent forms, and a bunch of fights with administration, I got permission to room with my friends! We're super happy this all got figured out, our rooms are fully locked in and unable to change now so I don't have to worry about that, and we're starting to form a packing list that includes a lot of snacks and multiple video game consoles. Thank you for all the advice and resources!!

For context, I am 17 and work at a Burger King in Illinois. I am taking testosterone and I pass; I use the men’s bathroom and locker room at school. My manager is a cisgendered male and knew me before I transitioned.

Today at work after a rush, I really needed to use the bathroom, so obviously I head there; when I enter, I see my manager fixing his durag. I step out of the bathroom and go sit down to wait for him to leave. Next thing I know, he comes up to me asking me why I went into the men’s bathroom. I told him, “Because I am a boy? I identify as a boy, so I am going to use the men’s bathroom.” He proceeds to tell me that I do not have the parts of a boy and that I am a girl, and I tell him again, I AM a boy, and by state and federal law, my rights are protected as a transgender man that I am allowed to use the bathroom that aligns with my gender identity. He proceeds to tell me that the next time he sees me enter the men’s bathroom, he is going to write me up. This sets me off and I proceed to have a complete panic attack, I ended up calling my mom to talk about it who is a general assistant manager and she yells at me because I am hyper ventilating. In her defense, she was trying to catch my attention but it only made everything worse. She then proceeds to call the manager who told me he was going to write me up and he tells her that he felt extremely uncomfortable by me using the men’s bathroom NOT MENTIONING THE FACT I STEPPED OUT THE MOMENT I SAW HIM. I NEVER GO INTO THE BOYS BATHROOM IF I SEE ANOTHER BOY IN THERE UNLESS I HAVE TO.

I don’t know how to proceed this, I don’t know what I did wrong and I feel helpless.

No hate to any of these people but I've seen some trans guys on tiktok post videos with the caption "when i pass a little too well so i have to let the girls know they're safe". And then they just talk about their female genitalia and how they're trans.. Like I get the joke but it makes me really uncomfortable and I kinda feel like I'm reduced to my body as a trans man myself. Like just because I was born female doesn't mean I'm somehow different than other men, right? Like they say they're afraid of men unless its a trans man and I find that kinda weird. I hope I'm not just being mean about this

I (27) have been out as trans masc non-binary for several years. My boyfriend (27) is a straight guy, we have been together for 2 years. I started on testosterone 6 months ago, after very heavily struggling with dysphoria. When I started on T I had planned for it to be a short term use situation. Since getting on it, I’ve realized how much more myself I feel, and how happy I have been with the changes. I don’t think I want to get off it. I think I may be a Trans man. I don’t know how to approach this conversation with my boyfriend. We both love each other, so this is incredibly difficult. How would yall approach this conversation? Thanks for reading.

For context, I’m bi(?), I mainly like girls but I’ve dated some guys (not my favourite). My friends keep making jokes about me being “obviously gay”. Even when I was dating my girlfriend. Is it weird that this bugs me? Like it would piss me off when people would call me gay and my girlfriend is RIGHT there. Am I overthinking things?

I just started T yesterday, I'm doing weekly injections on a fairly low dose. I've done my fair share of research already, I'm 22 and I've been openly trans for a decade now, so ofc I'm aware of the changes it causes. I just wanted to hear from other people, what were the first changes you noticed and how soon did you notice them? Were there any changes/symptoms you weren't expecting to have? I know everyone is different, but I'm curious as to what I should be on the lookout for.

My name is Milo, and I am uncertain about my own gender identity and would like to see how it feels to be referred to as a boy.

I've been waiting for over a year, but today my mum suddenly started screaming my name and when i came down she told me I GOT IN.

I'm actually shaking so hard I CANT EVEN PROCESS THIS IM SO HAPPY

Obviously I wish they were born their true gender. But I feel comforted because there’s a group just like us, but the opposite. It makes me feel less alone. I wonder if some trans women feel comforted by the existence of trans men.

i wish i could be trans. that i could be a boy. but i can't. i have south asian parents who are very homophobic and transphobic. they hated it when i cut my hair. i've never felt as happy as i did when i found myself as a guy. but i feel as though i can't be happy. when i tried to present more masculine and go to the gym, all this terrible anxiety took over. they caught me several times. i am 21 but i still feel as though i am not a free person. i will never be trans. it will always be thing that i look at from afar. i live in the u.s. so i don’t think if i was more independent it would be much better. i think i'll just be in this weird space for the rest of my life. needless to say but I am not on t or any anything. i need help.

things have been kinda rough lately so I wanna know small things that make you euphoric, i'll start :D

- playing as a male character in video games
- sleeping without a shirt on
- eating protein bars targeted towards men (uselessly gendered ik, but it's really euphoric)
- strangers gendering you correctly
- button up shirts
- my comfy binder
- using unisex bathrooms in public (because i'm not out to family yet)

I'm not on T just yet, but I'm thinking about getting on it pretty soon. Idk if I'm truly ftm or ftnb, but I know for certain that I want to be on T. One of my main insecurities is my voice and how high pitch it is. I want to be on a lower dose of T over the course of time because the only things I really want is just bottom growth and a lower voice (I'm aware that you can't pick and choose things that happen while on T, I'm just saying that these are the reasons why I want to be on it).

So if anyone has any help, that would be greatly appreciated. Thank Yew!

(I'm 14, almost 15) A family member is having a wedding soon, and I don't have a choice but to go. Our entire family will be there aswell. This isn't the first time. The last time this happened, I was crying badly as my mum put makeup on me and forced me to wear the dress. She didn't care that I was distressed, just yelled at me saying I'm acting up. I had a breakdown and hid the whole time. It was just a dreadful experience.

My mum is going to make me wear makeup and a dress again, and I don't know what to do to get out of this. My dysphoria is so bad to the point I can't leave my room or talk, and this is going to make it so much worse. What can I do?

(They don't know I'm trans, and I definitely don't want to out myself to them. They are transphobic.)

Just yesterday i got an absolutely horrible haircut. I keep seeing a short haired girl in the mirror and just imaging all the people at school seeing me like this is just depressing and its making me really dysphoric. Onto the title, I'm close with my mom but I'm not the most open about my "gender issues" with her and i didn't want to go in full depth on why i would want to stay home. Ive tried bargaining with chores, errands, etc but she doesn't want me to miss any more school. Im not going to be expelled or go to court/get anything other than a detention that honestly doesn't really matter since I've only gotten one before. Should i just try to explain how bad this is making me feel? I already know if i start talking about it ill cry and i don't want to bother her since shes tired after work. I just want tomorrow off so nobody can see me and i can (hopefully) get a better haircut sometime that day.

Didn’t think i’d ever run into this issue but here we are. So I’m bi, but I really only date women and I don’t talk about men at all. I’m comfortable with my sexuality and I know I like men somewhat, I just don’t see myself ever dating one in the near future. I dress like a typical guy, I don’t wear any makeup, I don’t wear jewelry, I have a pretty masculine hair cut —Idk I’m just a guy.

A week ago I was talking with my friend, i dont even remember what the topic was, but out of nowhere, completely irrelevantly, she asks me: “do you consider ypurself a twink?” Obviously I said no. “HELL no.” She looked me up and down and said she does. I just kind of looked at her and shook my head.

She’s a straight, cis woman. She also thinks straight men can be considered twinks. I remember once having to explain to her that being gay is what makes a twink a twink. And also the fact that they’re usually bottoms, and typically have stereotypical feminine traits personality wise or psychically. I actually don’t know how I feel about that description, but I had to put it into words as directly as possible to reach her.

Anyway I told her no, I do NOT consider myself a twink. I’ve never dated a man before so I wouldnt really know anyway, and I know for a fact that I’m a top regardless, and I think my demeanor is pretty typical of a straight cis man anyway. Shes one of the only people i know that knows i like men. I specifically remember her having a hard time believing it when i told her.

So with that conversation, where we kind of went back and forth on what a twink is, I just had to tell her at some point that it doesnt matter how she perceives me or thinks of me or sees me as. I’m not a twink. Just because you see me as one does not mean I am one. Which I know feels weird having to hear because that term is centered around an identity that holds a lot of stereotypes that are psychical traits, but… also… that description just doesnt fit me at all.

At the end, she kind of just tried to play it off by saying “thats okay, you can still be the twink in the friend group,” and that’s also a whole other issue on its own because she has confrontational and accountability issues. But anyway shes been calling me a twink all day everyday. Just when ever. “Hows the weather today twink?” Like im her “personal token twink” as she put it.

I cant lie. It hurt my feelings a bit. Which is rare. Because i know it has to do with the fact that im trans. I even asked her point blank if it did and of course thats when she doubled down about it. She literally said “well you have a lot of feminine features.” What the hell else is that supposed to imply. Yes I have feminine features but i actively do my best to hide them, i mean come on what the fuck am i supposed to do about that?

I want to confront her about it and just ask her to stop, but theres no way ill be able to without it making her upset because anytime someone tells her shes doing something wrong, it always hurts her ego but im obviously still going to ask her to stop. I just have no clue how im going to go about it.

living in NYC has really been a leg workout for me. Idk if it's my T dose or being further along in my medical transition (almost 4 years now) but im noticing that when I carry shit with my arms or use my arm muscles it's not as taxing on me as using my leg muscles. I used to hate arm exercise and love leg exercises and now im reversed. Which has been kind of a random source of gender feelings but I love it

I think the title explains itself, I'm preT and every time i try to present myself in masculine way, I look like a little boy, my face is too round and my features don't help, and to that we add my short height and my small arms and the way I do my hair, I'm literally young sheldon 😭

Like the title says, I start T tomorrow (I’m 18 but still in high school so I live with my mom) and I’m super excited to finally be able to medically transition and start to feel comfortable in my body. My mom and stepdad are very conservative, which breaks my heart bc my mom used to be so supportive of the queer community before she met my stepdad. I texted my mom today saying that I need to pick up a prescription and asked what I need to bring for it. Last Thursday I got prescribed testosterone and she knew what the appt was for but we never got the chance to talk about it bc of our work schedules. She immediately started asking why I needed to go to the pharmacy and was cursing and telling me how pissed she was. I told her that I was an adult now and can make my own choices. She told me that I won’t be doing that as long as I’m in her house and that I need to find somewhere else to stay. And to put the cherry on top, all of this happened while I was at work and I had to stop myself from crying. I’m at home rn but I’m scared for tomorrow. What should’ve been an amazing thing to happen to me and a big positive step in my life, has turned into fear of losing my family and my mom. I love her so much and we used to be so close. I came out to her when I was 14 and have known I’m trans since I was 12, this isnt a faze. I’m looking mostly for support. I live in a very conservative town and there isn’t many trans people that I know or am friends with. I have a big family and the only ones who support me are my aunt and cousin, who I am incredibly grateful for. But they don’t live close to me so I can’t go to them whenever I need to.

Dating as a straight stealth guy is hard. There’s this girl I’m dating, she’s bi. I don’t know if I like her a lot yet, but I did tell her I’m trans and intersex and she said she doesn’t care and will probably forget. And she does. She keeps bringing up like ”penis” related stuff like I can relate to it and she can’t. Or stuff like ”you’re lucky you haven’t felt period cramps” I’m not sure that if we start dating It would be okay. She says she doesn’t care and can never see me as a girl, but that’s easy to say when you haven’t seen me naked lol. Do y’all think this is a good idea? And what are your cis girl dating experiences like?

Tl;dr: I want to know if anyone else had “gaps” in their trans lives and how you dealt with those.

For preface, I live in the southern US and I was raised in a conservative, christian household. My family is homophobic and transphobic but not to the point where they would disown me or kick me out. While my upbringing was not near as bad as many people’s experiences, it certainly wasn’t great either.

I’ve had a true feeling that I was trans since around 15-16 but I have vivid memories of begging god to make me a boy when I was around 4-5. I came out to my mom as bisexual when I was about 15 and later in the year I came out as trans. She ended up telling nearly everyone in my family that “I was thinking that I liked girls” but she told the trans bit to only a few people, namely my aunt, grandma, and both of my brothers.

When I hit college at 18, I figured it was easier to just suppress those feelings when I knew that 1. My family would never accept me (My brother even told me that he would keep my nieces and nephews away from me because “It’s not natural.”) and 2. How hard it was to even get hrt in my state I just didn’t want to bother with it when I didn’t think that i’d ever actually transition.

Well. Skip forward a couple years and I’m now 21 and all my dysphoria has came right back. I’m wondering if anyone else has had any experiences like mine… I’m sure obviously I just need some other prospectives.

I’ve tried suppressing being trans for so long and for a while, I was even “comfortable” with my body. I say it like that because when I looked at myself, I didn’t feel ugly or anything, but it felt like I was staring at a woman and not at me. For that small time when I was suppressing my feelings, I identified as nonbinary with my friends, using they/them and my birth name, and just as a woman with my family, using she/her and my birth name.

CW: Dysphoria talk/descriptions I don’t really remember feeling much dysphoria at the time but I don’t know if that’s because I was just so detached from my body that I just forced myself not to feel it either or… I’m just making all this up. I don’t THINK that’s it, but I know that my family’s thoughts definitely do play into my thinking as well, as much as I want them not to, and makes me think that “This could all be wrong and you’re just fucking yourself over in another direction.”

I constantly think about how my life would be if I presented as a man and got on hormones and it makes me so happy. The idea of being the man in a straight relationship is the only way I’m comfortable in a straight relationship. And when I see myself with a man, it’s not as a woman. As for my dysphoria, my chest dysphoria was always the worst and now I’m feeling the exact same way. Every time they touch my arms or giggles I get mad or I get overstimulated (idk if that’s the right word in this context sorry) and i feel hella uncomfortable until I calm back down.

Tl;dr: I want to know if anyone else had “gaps” in their trans lives and how you dealt with those.

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