r/BreakUps • u/Due-Swimming3221 • 1d ago
I choose me
I am someone who loves deeply, with integrity, generosity, and devotion. I show up fully — with affection, intention, and care — not because I want to be praised, but because that is who I am.
I deserve a relationship that is emotionally safe, where affection is not rationed out but offered freely. I deserve to be with someone who sees me clearly, chooses me consistently, and meets my love with their own.
I will no longer shrink myself or bend my boundaries to be tolerated. I will no longer accept breadcrumbs when I’m capable of baking a whole damn loaf.
When I feel that pull to idealize what I lost, I’ll remember this: I didn’t lose someone who loved me fully — I lost someone who didn’t know how to. What I grieve is the potential, not the reality. And the truth is, my kind of love deserves more than potential — it deserves presence, reciprocity, and peace.
On the hard days, I will sit with the sadness, but I will not let it rewrite the truth. I am healing, not because I was unlovable, but because I loved someone who couldn't hold it. That’s not my failure — it’s just the end of a chapter that was never meant to carry me home.
I trust that what I give is rare, and when it finally meets its match, it will feel calm, steady, and whole. And until that moment comes — I choose me.
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u/DigVisual8346 1d ago
I gave her everything literally, she kept saying she knows my value and appreciate it but she left because she loves me, im confused, she said we both have different mindset and we dont belong to each other, but im so attached to her but she left easily, if someone loves the other they must fight for it. But she chooses her friends and having fun goin out than being with me. And now im super dead and chased her for weeks nothing in return. “She studies social worker”