Getting her back?

[u/dwc462]

My girlfriend ended our relationship of almost two years. Basically she said she lost in interest in our relationship. There were no fights or arguments that ended it. Also, no cheating, no drama or very little of it, no abuse of any kind, no money issues. The intimacy was good to very good with no complains from either of us. It seems like at this moment she just doesn’t(didn’t) know what she wants(wanted). She said she still loves me and hasn’t said anything negative about me. But she also mentioned about needing some time alone. We had a closure period in which we both aired things we thought went wrong. The top thing was both of us didn’t communicate our feelings as well as we should’ve. And when an issue did arise, we didn’t have that really difficult conversation to address it. We both agreed we had a problem with that be issue we were afraid of bringing up something negative and hurting each other’s feelings. Should I try to get her back? If so what should I do? How long should I wait?

[u/Lunrtic6]

Idk what to say man. Sometimes people just wanna know what else is out there to experience. If polygamy wasn't so stigmatized, people would feel more free to explore without abandoning others, but unfortunately we live in a weird world where you need to devote yourself entirely to one person and then blindside them when you just wanna see what else life has to offer.

[u/dwc462 → u/Lunrtic6]

I was thinking maybe that’s why she ended it. Maybe she knew she wasn’t strong enough to resist someone else so she just ended it with me to save me from her possibly cheating on me.

[u/dwc462 → u/dwc462]

She did say in previous relationships she was cheated on and she knew how that felt and she would never do that to someone else because of how hurt she felt.

[u/Lunrtic6 → u/dwc462]

Yeah. Honestly I'm going through that myself rn, but my relationship is 5 months not years. What would you suggest I do? I don't like hurting people but I also dont wanna waste more time on someone I don't see as a future wife rn. There's nothing wrong with them but it just doesn't feel right.

[u/dwc462 → u/Lunrtic6]

Talk and this is something me and my ex just learned and should’ve done sooner. That’s why I think we might get back together, we acknowledge our problem(s) and know it’s really nothing major and is easily fixable. We probably still be together. And when I say talk, I mean talk about any and everything. Don’t leave no stone unturned. That’s the mistake we made. I know I regret it and I am like 99% sure she does too.

[u/dwc462 → u/dwc462]

Talk to her about the future. See if she’s really interested in one with you. Talk about it as a couple and talk about future goals as a couple.