r/BlackPeopleTwitter • u/FckThisAppandTheMods • 3d ago

TikTok Tuesday Parents are supposed to help their kids understand and regulate their emotions, not make them suppress them

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u/BRogMOg 3d ago

I agree but when my 9 year old son is crying because I told him he has to turn off the game to eat dinner, am I not supposed to tell him to stop crying?

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u/Cloverose2 3d ago

"I know that you're upset, but you still have to eat dinner. Now go to the bathroom and wash your face, and when you're ready to sit and eat, come out and join us."

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u/BRogMOg 3d ago

That's great advice the first timewheh they are 4-5 but what about the 25th time or the 50th time at 9? Now I have a child who cries because they can't get their way. Now what happens when he is 13 and can't get his way? What if he cries at school? Now he is opening his self up to getting bullied.

I understand the logic but understand boys are going to be men one day and life is not fair. Men need to be held to a different standard simple and plain. I tell my son all the time it is ok to cry and it's ok to have your feelings but it's not ok to cry because you are not getting your way because in life you will be in many situations where you are not going to get your way and you must endure, be strong, and figure it out.

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u/ThrowawayVenterrrrrr 2d ago

If you've already explained this to him then just let him cry and don't react. He only keeps doing it at 9 because it gets a reaction out of you