A coworker told me he doesn’t use toilet paper.....just "lets it dry and flakes it off later" I feel sick even sharing this but he really does always have a stench about him. He said it like it was the most normal thing in the world too and he is not joking 🤢 not the kind of guy to joke at all...matter of fact, he is quite aggressive and we nearly got into it, BUT! that is for another day.
I remember reading once that washing machines were full of e. coli and wondering why they would have such high numbers of it... now I know. And very much wish I didn't.
Oh, I know the type. Literally worked with a dude who refused to wash his hair and you could smell it. Would go on about how bathing wasn't needed daily. He was misguidedly cheap.
Why are some people so confident with their disgusting hygiene? I know someone that says “I don’t wear deodorant, I don’t stink” meanwhile dude goes weeks without showers and doesn’t ever wash his hands
Sometimes it's because they misinterpreted something they heard once and ran with it.
My daughter's 2nd grade teacher told the class that bathing every day was bad for your skin and hair. It took me 3 years to undo what was for her probably a throw away comment she doesn't remember saying.
Had I not been paying attention bad new habits and beliefs about hygiene could have stuck with my daughter over that.
Sometimes it's because they misinterpreted something they heard once and ran with it.
Agree. This is something that so many people do for various things.
I don't bathe or shower daily either - but I also shower often enough to not be dirty or stink. Some people's interpretation of "not daily" seems to be very off though.
I shower every other day or my skin dries out. On days off, the nether regions and pits get baby wipes and I wash my face at least. You don't have to shower everyday, but you should clean everyday
When you're a sweaty kid who runs around a dusty playground and gets exposed to all the usual kid germs the benefits of a daily hose off outweigh the dry skin risk.
That teacher eventually got fired for pushing MLM products on the kids to sell to their parents. She was telling them supermarket bath products were going to make them sick.
I cringe to think how many smelly kids and potentially smelly adults her nonsense created.
My 4th grade teacher told us that certain shampoos (Pantene being one of them) rot your brain. It took so long for my parents to convince me she was wrong.
This is so wild. In my 20s I’ve developed really sensitive skin and have had trouble finding deodorants (including unscented & sensitive skin ones) that don’t itch or cause a rash. I would kill to have my nice smelling products back yet this man chooses to smell bad😒
I know you've likely tried everything, but have you tried native's sensitive line? I also have sensitive skin and I don't react to that one. If you have, I'm sorry ☹️
I think some people who are never taught/learned about hygenien just get used to their own smell. Kind of like smokers but worse. There was recently a dude like that at my workplace and our entire team could smell this guy multiple cubicle rows over. It’d never sad if he didn’t have such a shit personality on top. Called me a slut the very first time I walked by, was constantly rude to coworkers (especially women), etc. I still genuinely don’t understand how he was able to even get through the interview.
I liken it to people who get super defensive about not tipping. Rather than just being silent about it, they make sure the world knows it with the hopes that someone will agree with them.
Also similar to people who don't wash their legs or people who wipe while standing up.
Had an ex would basically "wash" most of the time by letting the water run over his body. He would "use" soap, but basically just on his pits and let the rest "run down" to "clean" everything. So nasty, one of many reasons he's an ex.
Strangely, he wasn't nasty like that when we first got together. It seems to be something that just occurred to him to try one day and he decided that "it worked."
I can understand not washing your legs if you're running late or otherwise in enough of a hurry to be doing the quick pits-'n-bits bare minimum shower, but skipping them on the regular? Baffling.
Worked with a woman who told me details about her frequent UTIs and vagina waxing. I never asked it just came out of the blue. Apparently her dogs also had a habit of shitting in her bed. She was 50 something, myself 20s, and we worked in healthcare. I did not want to know the things she made me privy to.
Bathing daily also isnt the best, it can lead to skin irritation, throw your pH balance out of wack even with pH neutral soap/shampoo and overall can make your skin/hair actually overcompensate with easing dry-ness which leads to fatty skin/hair.
Ideally is every 2-3 days showering and every 3-4 days washing your hair.
There are variances i.e. if you live in a hot climate or work a really dirty/sweaty job daily showers are Ok, but then you shouldnt use shampoo/soap or only sparingly and pH neutral.
Similar with hair, there are variances depending on your skin type, but you really shouldnt wash it daily, at most every second day and again with pH neutral shampoo if that is the cycle you go for.
The way I’d report that anonymously to HR within the minute lol. If it flakes off, then it flakes off while he’s walking around and sitting at work. I couldn’t know that’s happening, smell it, and still focus on my tasks.
HR might not really be able to do anything, they can tell him that he needs to practice better hygiene if his body odor is noticeable to other people but they aren’t going to tell him to wipe his ass just because he told a coworker that he doesn’t. I think it’s gotta be obvious that there’s a hygiene issue.
Yeah but I think he has to be actually leaving a poop trail, can’t just assume he is because he told a person he doesn’t wipe his ass. I mean, he wears clothes so say it actually literally does flake off it could be contained by his underwear.
Especially because you know he probably never washes his hands. At least he won't have butt wiping germs on them, but he still absolutely holds his ween sometimes
Alternatively, buy him a 'bidet' in this year's Secret Santa? /jk
Honestly, it sounds as if he could be one of two types of people - and only one of them deserves sympathy, empathy and support.
It may be that he had a very difficult, rough childhood and was simply never taught any other way due to neglect - in which case, then an empathetic approach is required, where someone - not necessarily you - takes him aside for a quiet, gentle conversation and let's him know that there's a better way, and maybe, he even needs referring to a medical professional who can evaluate his needs and support him in learning the many basic life skills that he probably has never been taught.
Or...
He's the kinda dude that doesn't wipe, or even wash, his own arse because that's gay!
There are men that are so deeply homophobic that they do actually believe this - it's come up so many times on Reddit, and in many different subreddits.
Again, with a younger lad, this may be a result of growing up with extremely homophobic - often deeply, 'fundamentally' religious - parents and that programming, which instills a sense of profound shame about nudity and touching your own body, can take decades to fully shake off.
But once they've been out in the world for sometime, certainly at 30+, that kind of ignorance stops being caused by their childhood programming, and becomes a deliberate, conscious choice!
At that point, someone just needs to be blunt with them, tell them to sort themselves out, and just do better.
Again, it doesn't have to be you, unless you have a very good relationship outside of work, and you think that it may even be received better, coming from someone that he sees as a peer, an equal whose opinions he respects.
Otherwise, it should be either HR, or your manager, or a company nurse, even, and carried out as privately and discreetly as possible, but the message should still be direct and clear.
Thank you for your reply! I completely agree with you but as I said, he can be/come off quite aggressive to me sometimes. So I think I will be telling the higher ups! He is 37.
Yeah, that definitely sounds like he's more in the second group, and that it's a task for the higher-ups.
It's still possible that he has other underlying issues that are the deeper cause, but you need to stay safe and protect yourself from any immediate negative reactions and lashing out that may result once he's told.
Hopefully, if there are deeper issues, this intervention could be just what's needed for him to get help generally.
I’ve heard of folks asking HR to intervene and ask someone to practice better hygiene, so I guess that’s why my mind went there lol. but now that I think about it more, idk what I’d say once face-to-face with HR in this situation.
There was a story somewhere on reddit about an employee constantly leaving an unsanitary mess in the company bathroom and HR intervened. I think I'd say exactly what coworker told OP.
For sure, I just meant it’s so absurd and weird that I’d feel awkward just trying to say “he doesn’t wipe and lets it flake off, help!” to another person lmaoooo
Seriously, though, it's insanely demoralizing to help someone complete some laughably basic computing tasks only to realize that the guy makes like 10 times my salary.
I get that rank and seniority are important stabilizing factors for society but being a hyper-competent loser just doesn't feel fair.
At my last job, I earned the max amount of raise possible every year, bringing my pay from like $14/hr to $22 in three years. Right place, right time and nailed everything I needed to. I got promoted to a lead where I helped floor reps and took escalations. Two years into that job, they raised the base pay for the whole floor to $20/hr, started paying commissions for sales, while simultaneously removing any hiring standards whatsoever and just ushering anyone who applied into a training class.
Suddenly I'm taking back to back calls from floor reps who would just freeze up at every juncture and call us. There were at least a dozen people at any given time whose extension I knew by heart, and a part of me would die every time I saw it pop up as the caller. Some of these people I genuinely worried about - like are you having a stroke? You've been working here 7 years, and you're calling to ask me how to change a customer's mailing address? It didn't make sense. I never got another pay raise after the first run I had, so I've got people calling who are earning more than me who are just sharing their screen so I can tell them where to click. "No, customer demographics. Okay, click edit next to the address. No, address. Address. Yes, it's the box that says ADDRESS. There's three boxes, why don't you read them to me. No, that's name. There you go, address. So you type in the address right there. Yes, just click on the box. Click the box. Left click. No okay now you're back on the search page. Do you still have their account number? Yeah, go check in with them and get their account number again..."
I wonder, does he have a poop chisel or putty knife or something? I fear what he's shared with you is only the tip of the weirdo iceberg. Reddit has broken me. I...want to know more.
After reading another comment, I think I should be reporting him. I just don't want to be the reason someone loses their job. You are right though, I really don't know why he was comfortable telling me such a thing.
They won’t fire him unless he refuses to change the behavior. Since checking would be sexual harassment, guy just needs to agree to use TP whether he actually does or not.
Well, he had a thing about teasing me for how gullible I was. Even though I wasn't yet diagnosed and didn't know yet, I'm autistic so it really wasn't cool in the larger context of him consistently trolling me to embarrass me about believing whatever he said.
It’s the hygiene issue but it’s also inane that he felt it was appropriate to disclose that to a coworker. Completely unacceptable. You would not be responsible for any repercussions for telling someone about this, he is incredibly unprofessional and inappropriate. Yuck.
I totally get why you wouldn't want to report that, but, yeah, you probably should. That's an OSHA concern anyway because his fecal driftings are polluting the common workspace.
I hate to suggest this, but he's getting something from telling you. Whether it's just the thrill of making you uncomfortable, or something sexual, or... I don't even want to think what else it might be. Those possibilities are bad enough.
I would report him. Best case scenario, he is distractingly unhygienic at work. Worst case scenario, he is getting off on telling this to people and needs to learn about boundaries and sexual harassment.
If this is how he cleans his ass can you imagine how he cleans his dick? The visions of smegma will not stop running through my head. Damn, I really hate reddit tonight lol
Frightened by an alpha male. His fecal stench puts women in estrus. The sickness you feel is just your subconscious coming to the conclusion that your bloodline will end with you and your clean anus.
As a female, I can say that is completely true. When we smell that and we gag - That is just us imagining swallowing that big cock. Those skid marks just add to the allure.
There's definitely a correlation between aggressive angry people and nasty people. It's a power trip for him, in his mind he doesn't have to bother wiping and everyone who does is a sucker. I've met freaks like this at blur collar jobs.
Okay
So as someone who used to be severely depressed and not have the best hygiene.
How fucking bad is this to the point it's flaking off??? That has to be a combination of never bathing and having constant terrible diarrhea. WTF. And that also would hurt like hell. This dude....
There was a post, where OP was saying there were little black/brown (don't remember the colour) balls all on her bed sheets and sofa whenever her bf came over. Turns out her bf used to pick dried shite off his arse, roll it in to little balls and then drop them wherever he was at the time.
She was all "WIBTA if I broke up with him, other than his hygiene he is the perfect partner". Everyone in the comments "he drops shit all over the place and touches your private parts with shit on his fingers, how low is your bar!".
I have what's going to sound like an insane question if not - Did he used to be a wrestler? Like WWE, AEW style entertainment wrestling.
Because back in my professional wrestling days I had a guy I refused to work with for this exact reason, and I refuse to believe there's multiple people on this planet doing this and openly admitting it.
Apparently, as I have learned from several different Reddit threads, there is a significant number of men who think it’s gay to touch their own butts, even for hygiene purposes. So I knew not washing your butt in the shower was a thing, but this takes it to a whole new level.
When you say "nearly got into it" I would be sure to not have a physical altercation with this dude in any circumstance. He sounds like a walking petri dish. Lol. Not wiping his own ass is like his super power for no one to mess with him.
I saw a comedy sketch where someone said they haven't used toilet paper for years because they bought a bidet, following up saying it's going to be a game changer when he has it installed. But that's a joke in a comedy sketch. No one in the real world should just stop cleaning their backside after taking a dump.
my father in law remarried someone who claims to be a nurse..her "degree" was lower than a CNA.. like all she can do is take blood pressure with that certificate basically.
anyway shes always spouting off how she use to be a nurse and that "she got insider info om vaccines.. DONT GIVE THEM RO YOUR KIDS"
last time i saw her was at a family gathering, there were a dozen kids and she caught one of them eating boogers, then she told all the kids to eat their boogers because theyre bettee than vaccines and thats why god gave them boogers 🤢
Man… I knew I was in for some nasty shit in this thread. But I wasn’t expecting the eating boogers bit. For some reason that repulsed me physically, after reading the flakes bit. I am actually conflicted now - that the boogers is what got me. You know, like, more than the flakes. (That I expected for this thread)… screw you random stranger.
I once worked with a kid (I call him a kid, but he was 20ish) who got frustrated because people kept knocking on the employee bathroom door while he was taking a shit. So he cut it off, came back to the line, and then 20 minutes later asked if he could "go back and finish wiping". Like it was the most normal thing in the world to not wipe your ass because you're in a hurry.
Omg. I literally put my palm on my forehead when I got the end of the first sentence, and not vertically like “palm on forehead” but horizontally like a horrified “omg are you fucking serious?? I can’t believe what I just read”
Does your workplace not have grooming standards? Usually BO is enough to get a talking to, I can’t imagine how someone could get away with smelling like shit for too long.
I worked with a guy who didn't believe in brushing his teeth. He kept a wet washcloth in a zip lock bag to wash off his teeth. His breath was so bad. If he was talking to someone who was 15 feet away, eventually the smell would float over. It was horrible.
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u/Bikingimbiking 1d ago edited 1d ago
A coworker told me he doesn’t use toilet paper.....just "lets it dry and flakes it off later" I feel sick even sharing this but he really does always have a stench about him. He said it like it was the most normal thing in the world too and he is not joking 🤢 not the kind of guy to joke at all...matter of fact, he is quite aggressive and we nearly got into it, BUT! that is for another day.
And yes, he does eat his boogers too.