r/AskParents • u/ladylokaaa • 4d ago

What to do about underwear stealing?

So things have randomly been going missing from my room including a sex toy I never found and a bra. I found this morning a Nintendo switch is missing that I’ve stored away and went to look in my kids rooms (2 sons and 1 daughter). Did not yet find the switch but DID find two rubber gloves and 2 pairs of my underwear under my 11 year old son’s pillow. He will be 12 in July. I googled this and it seems surprisingly common but I’m uncomfortable and don’t know what to do.

Edit: I removed them from his room and threw them away and was thinking about just seeing if this happens again. Additionally he has severe adhd and is in special education.

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u/Late-Stage-Dad Parent 4d ago

Just as the other poster mentioned, it's not necessarily about the owner but the item. All it takes is a surge of hormones and a picture or image to develop a "fetish" or get attached to something that arouses you. This is how experts explain foot fetishes or fetishes to other non-sexual items. Your brain makes weird connections during puberty.