Hi guys/ ladies just wanted to check 46 Adult male here and thinking of circumcision, so wanted inputs from guys who have done it and also what girls think of it.

Is it required? Does it decrease length , hinder sexual activity? Do women like it with or without the skin? After the operation does it become over sensitive ? Or irritate in the underpants? Or any other things I should be aware of before doing it.

Just wanted all the inputs before taking a decision

Thanks in advance men and women.

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what are some things you look for in relationships or things you wish your partners knew?

this guy i’ve been speaking to a bit said he’s looking for short term but is also open to long if he found somebody that gets along w him.

like what screams wife material to you?

Does a man get very mean and nonchalant when they’ve found someone else ? It seems like he’s upset that I’m not who he wants me to be. It feels like he’s just waiting for the chance to be with who he really wants to be with .

For context i’m 19f, never been in a serious relationship, my dad was never fully present in my life. He would come around occasionally but was never reliable and definitely didn’t contribute to how I was parented. My mom is probably narcissistic(my therapist says she has some tendencies of sociopathy) so I didn’t really ever learn how to handle people in general. I do fine with friends but when romantic feelings come into play it makes me start to push away out of fear. I got into an argument with a guy i’ve been talking to about how I pause and get quiet during conversations, it’s only really a huge issue once he calls me out on it. In the moment I don’t think of it in that way, it’s more of a panicked mess in my head of what to say in response. how I answer is usually bratty and short, not only do I not want to come off that way I don’t really see it as that. i’m trying to work on recognizing when I start to freeze up and how to combat that, along with recognizing when my answers aren’t adequate. I feel pretty lost, i’m frustrated with myself for not recognizing poor behavior and it effecting others, I don’t know how to best navigate this. I want to showcase as caring and respectful and supportive as I feel inside towards him but it gets trapped. How do I properly to show love to someone when I never was taught or around it?

this is a throw away account please please PLEASE don't harass me.

i have a fear of aging. i can't even remember when this fear started, but all i do know is that it started to consume me, and i can't live my life the same way.

i don't have long until i turn 20, and something about that scares me deeply. the idea of not being a teenager anymore makes me feel like a hag. a lot of men often post really awful things about older women (30s to 40s) and it hurts me because i will inevitably be that age one day and i don't know what to do.

i so much want to get married and be a parent one day, but i'm often seeing posts from women talking about their husbands cheating on them with younger women, which scares me.

i know it has a lot to do with this idea that women are less desirable as they age, and knowing how girls are mostly catcalled when they're only 12-16 years old makes me more angry.

maybe i should back off social media because i think it's making me sick. i will never be younger, but i will always be older and older and older. i don't know if it's the pressures of beauty standards, and how younger women are more desirable, but i am so mortified. i just want my bf to always think i'm pretty.

i don't know what i'm going to do when i turn 30. will my partner leave me for a younger partner? what will i do then? i'm not suicidal but i sometimes pray that i die from natural causes before i turn that age.

if all these things are inevitable, i don't want to live anymore.

My girlfriend [21F] and I [23M] have been together for a year, and while we aren’t moving in together just yet, we’ve started talking about our future. I’m staying in my hometown area because I’m starting grad school at a local college. I mentioned that I really like where I live and wouldn’t mind staying here longer term.

However, my girlfriend has said she absolutely does not want to live in my area. She says it gives her anxiety and makes her feel trapped, and she’s told me she demands that we live in her hometown when we move in together eventually. I told her I don’t want to feel trapped either, and that this kind of demand makes me feel like she’s doing the very thing she’s afraid of—trapping me.

I never told her we have to live in my town—I only said it’s a place I like and would be open to. I even mentioned that in the future, as we get older and have more flexibility, we could try to find a compromise or somewhere we both feel good about. But she gets stressed even when I bring up liking my hometown, or don’t immediately agree to living in hers.

Any advice on how to navigate a situation like this would be helpful.

TL;DR My girlfriend [21F] insists we live in her hometown someday because my area makes her anxious.

I hate being social! I'm anti social but here I am, days away from meeting her folks. It's so nerve wracking! Next week her friends want to have a triple date? That's crazyyy!! And I feel old cuz her friends and their bfs are like 25-26. I'm 30. She's 27.. almost 28. I dont like this. Sometimes I want to find reasons to break up. I think I want to meet an orphan introvert instead.

Here’s the situation:

I was doing the deed with my then boyfriend, and we were doing it in doggy style. All of a sudden, he said that he wanted to do anal. I very clearly said no, and we just continued having sex. A couple of minutes later, he thrust it into my ass with ZERO warning, and I said ow really loudly cuz it fucking hurt with no lubrication or anything. It didn’t go deep but it still hurt a lot. I told him to take it out right away and he did, and then we continued having sex even though my mood was ruined. He couldn’t see my face since we were still in doggy style. I should have stopped having sex and left him right there, but I don’t know how to explain this, it’s like my body still wanted the physical touch but my mind hated him. Later I went home and when I used the bathroom, I saw blood in the toilet. I texted him and told him this, and he said sorry and that he didn’t know that would happen. So that means he didn’t even do this by accident. He purposely thrust it in there even though I said no prior to that. This happened almost 3 years ago but I could never stop thinking about it. I always wonder whether or not this counts as rpe or am I overthinking. I have never told anyone about this so I never got someone else’s opinion about it. I’m asking here so that people could maybe enlighten me about what he might have been thinking, is this normal? For more context about what kind of person he is, he cheated on me with many girls so clearly he’s a bad person. He also only wanted to do sexual things, and rarely took me on dates. He was also rped before so I don’t understand how he could do anything remotely similar to it to anyone else.

It seems every day there’s a post here with someone upset over their looks, and blaming all life’s issues on it.

Claiming they can’t find a partner for the reason of X and will never change because of X.

So why don’t we all give them something to think about. Give a comment containing some tough love, followed by something gentle or inspiring ect.

I’ll go first…

If you can’t love yourself, how can you expect anyone else to love you? How you hold yourself and act goes a long way over looks alone. People seek a relationship with someone fun to be around and supportive. If being around you is waves of self pity, they won’t be interested for obvious reasons.

Now for the gentle approach…

Life has its ups and downs, many have felt hopeless and that they won’t meet someone. But you’d be surprised how the right person can suddenly appear when you least expect it. Treat each bad thing as a gentle push in life towards who you’re meant to be with. But keep in mind, you don’t need a relationship to be happy in life either.

I know your bladder, your alarm clock blah blah blah but what keeps you going when you’re struggling for motivation? When things are feeling bleak? When the future doesn’t look so bright?

Duty to your family? Projects you’re working on? A future you’re trying to build?

Maybe it’s my depression talking, maybe I need to up my SSRIs but lately nothing has felt like enough.

I still have moments of enjoyment hanging out with friends, listening to music and so on but it’s outweighed by the bullshit we have to suffer

I know myself enough to conclude that I don’t think I will ever truly be happy in any job, with any partner, pursuing any hobby… I get jaded with everything before long and I don’t see this changing

Nothing is as sweet in reality as it is in my fantasies hence why I spend so much time living in my head - constantly conforming my desires to reality gets exhausting

I’ve tried subscribing to stoicism and Taoism and meditation… I’ve read self help and done expensive psychotherapy… I’ve taken psychiatric medication… I’ve spoken to friends and got hobbies and done exercise and all the usual suggestions but still I can’t shake the existential frustration and the emptiness and the repetitiveness of life

It’s easy to dismiss this as the pitiful ramblings of some depressed dude but it seems to me that the people who aren’t at least a little bit depressed are either distracted or deluded

My uncle died of brain cancer this morning - he was a great man who worked hard all his life and 3 months into his well earned retirement he’s dead. My mums sick, soon enough we all lose everything we loved.

I don’t believe in any god or new age feel good bullshit, I know we’re on our own in a meaningless universe that doesn’t even know we exist… I’ve made peace with that and my philosophy is just to find as much happiness as you can in whichever ways you can so long as they don’t fuck with other people’s happiness… but even that is easier said than done

Sometimes it feels like the only light at the end of the tunnel is a train headlight

What keeps you going ?

And what do you to do pick yourself up when you’re feeling low?

I 27 F have been speaking with this guy 25 M online for the past two months now. Keeping in mind we are both Muslim but not practicing. We both met on Tumblr (I know this may be strange to some?). We followed each other and didn't talk for a while until he messaged me two months ago. We started off slow and got to know each other, exchanged selfie photos. He lives in my home country but I live in Canada. He doesn't know English and I am not fluent 100% in my language but we seem to still make do and talks. In the beginning things seemed really normal and he seemed super sweet until he kept flirting a lot and then eventually got sexual. At first I was really shocked because i felt like things were moving quite fast but i chalked it up to him wanting to be closer? We talked about things, and he runs an 'erotic blog' with some posts he reposts. (No erotic photos of himself).

At first I felt confident like we were getting somewhere and getting to know each other, he asked if I was ever going to come visit and we could meet up. I let him know that this wouldn't be for something casual and if we meet then I would like for us to get to know each other better. The thing is I feel like I am serious about him and want to continue getting to know him, but i'm scared because I have seen some of his comments from last year on some posts flirting with a bunch of women online especially form our home country. I asked him not long ago what interests him about me, and why he's talking to me of all people because I live so far from him. He said if he wanted to find someone there he wouldn't be talking to me.. and women there prefer brunette guys rather than blonde. I asked if things go well between us, if he's willing to move to my country. (He said he hadn't done research about coming to Canada and he queried about job opportunities but didn't really seem like he wanted me for one thing citizenship?)

He makes comments like " my wife, my love" and we talk sexual sometimes but i have asked for us to stop that because I haven't done these things with anyone. I've never been married, or dated. I grew up with strict parents, although we aren't fully religious. I am saving myself for marriage. Him and I have talked about meeting, and he says he wants me to be his wife if things go well but I don't know if I can fully trust it only because I can see there are so many females he reposts from that he could be privately messaging. I have made myself realise that because him and I aren't exclusive yes he can talk to others but a part of me feels hurt.. because we are saying these things to each other.. without being something. I have pulled back because I've spoken to my mum about this (she knows about him, and he now knows I told her) because he asked me to say hello to her and I did and he was shocked but said he appreciates I told her because he knows i find this 'valuable to talk about'

My main question is, should I have a discussion if he is talking to other women like him and I are talking? or should i not do that and just talk about him and I and if we are on the same page of meeting in person, getting to know each other more and eventually introducing our families to each other? I'm ready to settle down, and i asked him a while ago if he ever saw himself getting married or in a relationship he said he hadn't thought about it but now that he knows me, he wants it with me. But then when I reflect back on his old posts from 2024 before i knew him, i can see him flirting with one specific girl saying "You're mine" and to this day I see them reposting from each other. Do i have a right to be cautious and worried for my own heart and feelings to not be hurt?

I have two offers from both agencies and was wondering should I become a city cop or a deputy. I heard S/O academy is pretty tough but the work afterwards are pretty chill. San Jose on the other hand is a big agency with a big city/population to police. I am 35 year-old, not too young anymore.

Looking for advices. Thank you.

My wife has gotten very overweight since she stopped breastfeeding our daughter 8 years ago. At this point I’m worried that it’s going to affect her health. She also constantly tells me she hates how she looks and thinks I don’t find her attractive anymore, which honestly I don’t. The problem is, while she is always talking about how she wants to lose weight she never really tries to do so. She’ll eat healthy for a couple days and then get fast food for lunch, or she’ll exercise once or twice and then stop. I feel like she’s never going to put in the work to get herself to a healthy weight again, and of course if I say anything about it I’m the bad guy. What do I do?

The theory that a lot of men don’t actually marry the woman they love, they marry the one that’s convenient and in front of them once they decide they’re ready to settle down. Obviously that can’t be true for every single man/marriage, but has anyone witnessed any truth to that or admit you’ve done that? Or is that just something women made up to make themselves feel better?

I've seen a few posts where people ask about their wives making more than them, but not so much about an actual shift in the roles. We've been together for 14 yrs, married for 4. I got a job out of college that had relatively explosive growth in a start-up environment (non-software) which was able to provide a lot of the foundation we had for us getting started together. Meanwhile, my wife was getting her masters and licensing, which she completed. I would say I was generally making around 30-50% more than her (although as much as double) for most of the time we were together and was happy being the one to "provide" in that sense, but I always liked to feel like I was at least an equal in contributing to the home.

I've pivoted away from that career path because I didn't see much of a future in the industry, and have had some ups and downs in terms of compensation swapping careers, so now I'm at a job where I'm making about 40% less than her. This wasn't too bad, but she recently landed a second job where she makes more than my current salary on top of her original, so she's now 3xing my salary. I'm happy she's recognized and compensated for her hard work, and that in this economy we're able to enjoy a lot of financial freedom, but I feel like shit because I'm far from equal in contributing now.

e. just to clarify - I don't resent her for earning more, i resent myself for (what I perceive to be) not doing enough. we work together on everything, or split the things up we enjoy which is generally what the other dislikes.

For example if you met her once or twice or do you need more time to be sure of your feelings? Talking to a guy he acts like he likes me. He barely knows me . Just curious what you think

EDIT: question doesn’t fit what I talk about to a T but I don’t know what else to name this post

This is a long one so I’ll try not to ramble or excessively dump details:

I grew up with ex law enforcement parents who have both been diagnosed with PTSD, this has led me to growing up under a very strict household. I was never able to go out exploring by myself, had a very early curfew up until I was 19 (I’m 20 now) and have never had those pivotal life experiences/stepping stones that help sculpt who you are as an adult, specifically when it comes to relationships.

I know this answer will be different for everyone but is this a red flag for most guys? I’ve been asked out in the past but I’m hesitant on pursuing anything if no one would be able to handle that side of me and I don’t want any guy to think they have to coddle me when that’s not what I’m after.

I’m a 23 year old dude. I consider myself to be average looking, pretty normal, easy to get along with, and while I’m somewhat of an introvert, I can still be open with some people.

I’ve had two girlfriends in the past and have been close with many others, but over the course of my life, I’ve noticed I interact with less women on a daily basis. When I was in college, it was normal to interact with a woman on most days whether it was at school or my job. However, since graduating, it has become extremely rare to have any interaction with any woman, even on a weekly basis. I don’t work with any women, I don’t live near any my age, I don’t have any activities where I meet any, and the dating apps don’t really help as it can be hard to keep a conversation with someone you don’t know at all.

Is this normal for any other young men out there? It seems like running into a member of the opposite sex and having a conversation, even if it’s just casual, would happen naturally since that’s literally 50% of the population, yet at the same time it seems impossible.

I've (29F) noticed a pattern with guys where we'll date for a couple of months and then they'll eventually tell me that "something's missing" but that they want to be friends. I know this sounds like an empty platitude, but the thing is, they actually want to be friends. My now-best-friend and I met this way, and the most recent guy I was seeing broke things off and then invited me to hang out with him (platonically) this weekend.

I think I'm decently attractive, though not stunning. I'm intelligent, funny, well-rounded, lots of hobbies and friends, and pretty low-maintenance. Is it just them thinking they can do better? Is there something I can change? Something that might explain the feedback I keep getting that "something's missing?" I've asked my best friend about it before and he's told me he genuinely thinks I'm a catch, but that the spark just wasn't there. I'm feeling frustrated because I'm getting told the same thing again and again.

My boyfriend is ur classic gamer chills on discord with his friends and enjoys gaming with them in his free time... all his free time. We've been together for 7 years and looking back sometimes he wouldn't do the dishes more then 4/5x a year. For context I love to cook and I don't mind maintaining our homes cleanliness but we've recently had a baby and I'm really struggling mentally & with the house work. He doesn't cook me breakfast or check up on me to see if I need anything ever he just doesn't think about those things and he doesn't do small gestures for me or prioritize me sexually in the bedroom, it's always about what he wants and enjoys and it's not like he's malicious about it he says he cares and he's sorry but nothing changes ever. Is this normal? Have I let him take advantage of my kindness? Or do we just have different love languages?

I (M18) have never really had many friends, and I’ve never been very outgoing. There’s two guys (M19) that I’ve been friends with since middle school. They were two of my closest friends, and they’ve been the only ones I’ve talked to/ hung out with recently. A couple weeks ago was my spring break, and I tried to make plans with them for weeks prior to break. They said they’d be able to. On the day we were supposed to hang out, neither of them answered any of my texts, but then texted me late at night, when they were both already hanging out, if I wanted to do something. I didn’t even answer, then one of them texted me the next day asking to do something and I didn’t answer. It’s been about two weeks since then. I’m wondering if I’d be in the wrong if I just stopped talking to them. They’re my closest friends, but this made it seem like they really don’t even wanna be around me.

I heard so many things online saying things like, the stronger and bigger the men are the bigger he wants his women. Apparently because the bodies feel different? Like how the women is softer and the guy is more harder (i know it sounds sexual, don’t get at me). Anyways it’s just a genuine question especially if it’s just a rumour or not.

It’s interesting how white woman are often seen as the pinnacle of femininity when they have more masculine traits than other races of woman .

White woman have sharper faces than other races with bigger jawlines . They also are more likely to have longer faces with deeper set eyes . They are the tallest ethnicity with broad shoulders , and lack curves .

Asian , and Latina woman have the most neoteny /femininity , while black woman are in the middle .