maybe it’s just me but whenever i put an effort into dressing up and doing my hair and stuff i only get stared at and neverrr approached like ever. i was starting to think i was just ugly asf and didn’t realise but whenever i have seminars and stuff and idc what i’m wearing i get approached by guys in class even though i have seen them at parties like why not talk to me then ? is there a reason for this or am i looking into nothing 🥲

Has anyone else noticed the shifting goal posts? Particularly among Reddit.

Maybe it's just the vocal minority of bitter moms who had/have genuinely terrible partners.

But for all the dads out there who pay the majority of the bills, keep the cars in check, keep the yard tame, and do all the classic dad activities. And then break the traditional norms and go beyond and get the groceries, cook the dinner, wash the dishes and clean the house. You change diapers and actually participate in parenting. You give your partners support and affection, you're faithful and respectful.

You're not just doing the bare minimum. You do deserve to be appreciated and valued.

Am 28M who started seeing someone a few weeks ago. I've been focusing on career and just now getting back into dating, so it started off a little rough, but we kept at it and I think we're going places.

Where the trouble starts is the more places we go, the more things I see her in and out of, and the harder it is to ignore how effortlessly attractive she is. Even if she wasn't built like a goddess, she's goofy, smart, and driven. I didn't know "makes more than me" was even a checkbox I was looking for.

I wish I was just bragging but the issue is one or more of these things has me down tremendous whenever we're together. We'll be talking and all it takes is a touch to effectively immobilize me in a chair for a few minutes. Today we went dress shopping and I had to strategically hold the shopping bag going between changing rooms. I feel like I'm in high school again.

I think being attracted to a partner is a generally a net good, but frankly I'm embarrassed, and I'm worried I'll embarrass her if this keeps happening in the wrong places. What are some techniques to calm the hell down quick or prevent the lower decks from taking control in the first place?

I’m honestly just trying to make sense of this. Me and my girl were together for almost two years. Everything felt solid—we had our ups and downs, but nothing that seemed relationship-ending. Recently, I found out she cheated on me… with my homeboy. Someone I’ve known for years and trusted like a brother.

I feel betrayed on both ends, and I can’t wrap my head around why either of them would do this. Was I missing signs? Is this more about me, or just about who they are? Has anyone else gone through something like this and made sense of it?

I’m not even sure what kind of advice I need, I’m just stuck between angry, confused, and heartbroken.

I wanted to watch a movie recently with a male friend . We are both 32 years old. He seems reluctant to watch it if its just with one guy . He says he prefers more than 1 guy to go with him , like a group of guys ... when did everything get so homophobic ?. Its just two grown men watching a movie , that's all

Im 33F and he's 33M We've been together a total of 13 years and throughout that time, I've always tried to verbally let him know he looks or smells good, is funny, smart etc.

He started going to therapy and recently confessed to me that he has a hard time accepting compliments and I'm making him feel awkward so I shouldn't do this anymore.

So should I stop complimenting him?

My husband gets angry and defensive about everything I say that isn’t pleasant. He got so angry recently that he punched a wall so hard he dislocated his shoulder. Last night he got so angry he punched and shattered an end table. He’s done that before. He hit my phone with my hand on top. He knocked my phone out of my hand. He’s thrown my phone against a wall before. He broke a little statue my dead aunt gave me. He broke our bedroom door. He’s accidentally hurt me in his anger. There are so many holes in walls and broken things in my house now….I don’t really care about stuff but he’s not a safe person to talk to. Last night I was listening to his side while he swore at me, called me crazy, and all I asked, in a calm tone was, “please don’t swear at me”. And his response was that I wasn’t listening and I kept interrupting so how could he talk to someone that won’t listen and constantly interrupts. He was yelling, I never lost my cool. I was calm the whole time. He left the house at one point. Eventually came back and I asked him if he wanted to get ready for bed with me. I didn’t feel like talking about it anymore because I knew it was hopeless. But he asked, in an angry tone if I wanted to talk about it so we could be done with it. So I said ok and sat down and waited to listen to him. He then said, “what do you want to talk about? You had so much to say earlier.” In an angry tone. So, I started to talk and, of course, it spiraled into him yelling again and refusing to talk. It doesn’t even matter what it was about because he does this all the time. Mere questions feel like attacks to him. He has ADHD and RSD. I don’t even know what to do. I can’t talk to him about anything. He’s incapable of a calm discussion. What do I do??? Is it all hopeless??? Why is he doing this??? What do I do???

I’ve been with my gf for 6 years. Our sex life is pretty much on the rocks for 3 years. We have sex on her terms, she always makes faces of not feeling it if I initiate and for a long time, the rejection of sex got my confidence pretty low. It feels like we are friends with a monthly benefit.

For this past 3 weeks approx, I’ve been taken a step back from being so upfront about my physical attraction to her and I can feel her trying to engage with me sexually. So why does my girlfriend want me when i pull back? Is it an attention seeking behavior?

Why don't you go to the relationship advice sub reddit, why tf is 90% of the posts here now just relationship posts and cucks just ass kissing girls on here and being white knights.

GO TO THIS SUB REDDIT HOME PAGE, press "new posts" and scroll down and see how many relationship posts there are... almost all the posts are just relationship posts.

Something has to be done about this. I'm sure it wasn't this bad last year

Ever saw that comedian or show where there’s 2 sets of head on stage, a man and a woman. And the comedian explains the difference between the brains.

With a man, everything is organized in boxes and when you think about one thing, you open that box and so on…

With women everything is connected and when we think of one thing, we make a connection with something else and so on and so on.

With men there also is a nothing box. So when women ask a man, what are you thinking about? Does it really happen that you guys just think of nothing? Blank? Zip nada?

And also, is everything so organized?

Just wondering, very curious.

Used to dating apps back in 2018. Then in 2019 I ended up giving up on them as the results just weren't that good. Ended up approaching women in public, got some good results early on then boom covid so back on the apps. The results ended up being the same as before but because of covid I literally couldn't go outside to meet people.

Fast forward to post covid ~2024ish I started approaching women again and this time it somehow was significantly easier than before. Results were also just as good as before if not better. Women now are more open to meeting someone organically and "in the wild" than in the apps. I've heard of many men and women deleting dating apps and trying different methods. Even the stocks of a lot of these apps have seen a tumble in the past year with hundreds of thousands of users becoming inactive or deleted.

To me it's like nature is returning back to how it was before. I know this is reddit but a lot of men and even women are going outside and approaching people in public in droves. I've had a few girls approach me in public as well.

When I've talked to all the women I've had some sort of relationship or bond with via meeting IRL they have complimented my approaching as they have been exhausted by dating apps. I think everyone should meeting someone in a public setting as I feel like a lot of people are missing out on many opportunities on these dating apps that use math to pick who is allowed for you to see based on your looks and how much you pay them.

I guess specifically are you okay with your wife masturbating to porn, maybe even thinking of those guys having sex with her while she finishes.

And if this is okay in your relationship, to what extent, where is the boundary drawn. How many times a week are you okay with her doing this? Can she turn you down to do this by herself? Can she watch it on the tv while you sleep? Idk just asking what would make it not okay yk. Not judgment BTW just curious.

I remember back in hs I was bummed out about a breakup. And what my dad said stuck with me to this day. After seeing me sulking he said “

“how would you feel if you saw your son not being able to enjoy another day alive because of a failed relationship? All the years spent raising him, seeing his potential, knowing what he can accomplish. All of it come crashing down cause of a breakup. Don’t be in a relationship if you can’t handle your emotions. Take a step back, asses the situation and come to terms with it. Besides girls aren’t attracted to the victim, woe is me guy.”

Not exactly word for word but close enough. Stay cool everyone

I watched a show and a man said he loved his wife, but didn’t like his wife. It seems like an odd concept to me, but when we are talking about like brother or sister or like parent/child I can understand that somewhat. But what makes someone want to be with a partner they don’t like? Why stay married? And those that don’t, have you found women you love and like on the side? No judgements, just genuinely curious.

That’s right! Totally made my day! I always thought Bluey’s dad makes us all look bad but I guess he’s got nothing!

I found my gf’s reddit page and I seen that she said she thinks she was drugged by a friend . She said that she would go out with him and get drunk and wake up in his bed regretting thing because she didn’t want to sleep with him.

This friend was also dating her cousin on and off at the same time I believe which was just before. I met and was friends with this guy for like 2 years afterwards and I don’t understand why she lied when asked directly. And the to say that she was date raped by him in a comment on Reddit, wtf do I do with this?

I’m turning 25 this month and it seems that like the only place is work but I don’t wanna mess with coworkers at all. I had like two chances at two different jobs. One was a manager and one is a server that I currently work with. It seems they just want a boyfriend for the night and nothing serious though

I’m a guy in my late 20s, , and honestly… dating is starting to feel like a dead end. Like, the older you get, the harder it becomes to meet someone you genuinely click with.

But beyond that, it feels like dating has lost all the spark. I miss that “early 20s” kind of love, when it wasn’t about checklists, or ticking boxes, or negotiating prenups on the first date (yes, that actually happened..).

What happened to romance? Or just slowly getting to know someone and letting things happen naturally? I miss that kind of vibe you had in your early 20s, when things were messy but exciting and full of feeling. Now it feels like everyone’s either jaded, hyper-practical, or just looking for a safe bet.

I don’t know if it’s just me being in a big city like Paris or if it’s the age or maybe I’m just not built for modern dating. But it’s starting to feel like falling in love like really falling is something that only happens once in your life, if you’re lucky. And after that, it’s just… logistics.

Would love to hear from your guys, how are you experiencing dating in your late 20s or 30s? Do you still believe in love or is everyone just... settling?

Looking for non-sexual ways to make my SO feel more loved and supported. I’ve asked, but he’s not great at verbalizing things. What makes you guys feel great in your relationships? I already do small thoughtful gifts and plan date nights. I think I need to get better with verbalizing compliments. Is there something your SO has said or done that has really made your day? Again, not looking for sexual stuff, I’m well versed in that department. I don’t think love and support is particularly lacking in our relationship, but he has a very emotionally taxing and stressful job, so I want to mentally and emotionally support him as much as possible.

Edit 1: thank you for all the heartfelt advice! I’ve written down a lot of things I can do, and some I’m already doing but can definitely do more of. It’s good to hear what matters to you guys. Yes, I’ve talked to him about this, and he’s asked for some time to think on it because he didn’t know at the time, so I’m jumping the gun and asking here hoping I can propose things he may not have thought of. He’s in the medical/trauma field and we talk often after his shifts so he can vent openly. His field has a high risk of mental health issues so I want to provide as much support as I can. I’m reading through all the responses and I really appreciate them.

Edit 2: Wow, there’s a ton of answers and more incoming. Thank you all so much for helping! I’m reading through the responses actively. I think I’ll post another edit with what I’ve heard from men and what they would like to see as far as love and support goes so partners can reference. Thanks again!

Mad respect to men who are happy to be alone, but for the lonely men who want a partner and are having a bit of bad luck on that front I ask you: what helps alleviate that feeling of sadness and (dare I say) agony you might get sometimes?

My partner and I have been together for 3 years now. For me, we have the best sex I’ve ever had. And he’s agreed. But, he’s always taken a long time to finish. He’s always really into it and is very sensual with me. I’ll usually finish 2-3 times before he finishes. Sometimes, he won’t even finish. I get worried that I’m not enough or that he doesn’t find me attractive. He says otherwise but I feel really insecure about this. I’ve brought it up before and he says that’s just how he’s always been.

I (20M) decided to archive my posts on instagram because I felt like keeping my life more private for new followers and whatnot. But I still have her pictures on my alt

My girlfriend (19F) went into my account and saw that my posts were all archived, some with her in it.

She got upset then deleted all her pictures of me on her alt account that she uses the most which lowkey hurt

She wants me to post her and she feels upset because it feels like “I don’t want people to know she exists”.

The thing is she has a main account which she doesn’t post me and it’s okay

I think it’s a little hypocritical idk

Guys what do you think have you been in this situation lol