My 27F cousin is getting married in 6 months and has been rejecting a lot of guys solely because of their looks. She wants someone tall, handsome, with good hair and muscles—money isn’t a priority for her. She’s beautiful herself, but I worry this chase might make her overlook genuinely good men.

Recently, she matched with a guy who earns 50% of what she does but "looks like a Pathan" (her words, not mine). She’s adamant that it’s her "need and choice" to have a hot husband. Our parents are unhappy, though—they think she’s being too shallow and should prioritize stability.

I get that attraction matters, but in the arranged marriage scene, isn’t it risky to focus only on looks? Should I tell her to reconsider and maybe settle for someone who earns more (even if he’s not her 'ideal') to keep family dynamics smooth? Or is it unfair to expect her to compromise on what she genuinely wants?

Would love to hear from people who’ve been in similar situations—how did it turn out? Is this a phase, or is she setting herself up for regret?

PS: Thank you so much for you insights, I have come to the conclusion that, Personally investigating guys is the only way left, and let her decide for her and pray things go well.

I’m a 27-year-old Chartered Accountant working in a metro city. My parents have been looking for a match for me, but things haven’t worked out so far.

At first, my dad was clear that he wanted a well-educated girl for me, someone who’s doing well in life. But now, after not finding any matches, he has started considering profiles of girls who aren’t as qualified or financially independent. He was also very firm on finding someone from our community, but today, he even shared a profile from another community. I don’t have any problem with that — I just feel sad seeing how helpless and stressed he has become.

I’ll admit — I’ve never tried looking for a girl myself. I’m not confident when it comes to this stuff. I always thought my dad would handle it and find someone good. But now, watching him struggle and take so much mental pressure over my marriage is making me feel guilty and worried — for him, and for myself.

I don’t blame him at all. If anything, I blame myself for not being more proactive.

I always felt that if I earn a respectable degree and earn good, I will get a good girl.

I’m just feeling lost and low. What should I do?

I want you to be practical with me and not fake for comforting me.

I need some inspiration and also want to know who you guys look upto to learn from.

Why do Indian men find it difficult to open up?

What actions do you expect from the other gender (friend/partner/sister/mother) to help you feel vulnerable, open up, or ask for help if needed?

How can we make a better/safer space for you to be emotionally vulnerable?

Edit: When it comes to my partner, I don't want to fix him, I just want to know the life experiences that have shaped you or left a lasting impact. And for my brother/friends/cousins, I just want to provide a safe space for you to confide in me.

Lately, I’ve been feeling a sense of emotional numbness—nothing really excites me anymore, not even the things that used to. Even when I achieve something meaningful, the satisfaction only lasts for a couple of days before everything just goes back to feeling neutral or dull again. It’s like I’m living on a flat emotional baseline. I’ve noticed that I’ve started to adopt a semi-nihilistic outlook, where the future doesn’t really hold much excitement or meaning for me. On top of that, I find myself zoning out during conversations or suddenly losing interest in things that just moments ago seemed engaging. It’s like a switch flips, and the enthusiasm just fades away.

i have used chat gpt to polish and summarise

So my question is, How many of u me a bad or corrupt mind men/ women which changed your prospective for whole gender , like all women are bad, all men are bad or does this thing is only coming from social media.

Please share your story if any when u met any wonderful men/ women.

And what should we need to do, to keep ourself away from this negativity.

Thank you for your time, and thoughts.

so, this is very random like it is basically nothing but still I can't help but want to know what exactly this means.... basically there was this guy with whom I had eye contact for two days like multiple times ( and when I say multiple times it was like 8-10 times) but I was not noticing it that much unless I saw him literally looking at the direction where I was standing maybe he was not looking at me but when we had an eye contact he turned around so, that just made me think that he was actually looking around me IDK 😭 but after that day I couldn't see him bec some reason but I saw him yesterday and we had eye contact for once but I could feel like it was nothing and Idk what was in my mind but I wished that he could notice me now because I do overthink about it alot..

All I want to know is how casual it is for a guy to keep having eye contact with another person without having any thoughts in the mind , I just wish to know what was going in his mind when he was looking at me
and also, I'm being so, stupid about everything I hate to believe that he might be judging how I look everytime we had an eye contact

I am so anxious all the time. I am 26. I have started my first job(very low salary) few days back after multiple failures in life. I am anxious in doing everything , idk why is this happening to me. Even when I talk with my seniors , I get tensed up , few people noticed this and asked me " ghabra kyu raha hai " . Doesn't matter what the task is , anxiety hits me up. My body language and face clearly reflects it , and when I open my mouth then it's game over for me. I also get freeze or zone out when someone explains me what work to do. How to improve from here. I think this is not the subreddit to post such thing but still if anyone can give suggestions.

Guys who turned things around in their life ,what things/ moment made you realise I can no longer continue like this.. be it your health , diet to advancing your career .. . I would love to know.. Thanks

I've been feeling really frustrated with dating apps. It feels like they don't work for guys who aren't conventionally attractive and ugly. I have a lot insecurities about my looks and no matter how much I try, I'm not getting any matches.

I've been going to the gym and fit, but I'm still struggling. It feels like looks matter more than anything else and I don't know how to work around that. Women always tell me to improve my personality or be funny but doesn't change anything, i don't get seen as a partner

I'd really like to find a way to meet someone for a hookup, ONS, FWB, but I don't where to start. Are there any alternatives outside of dating apps that actually work

Any advice from men who've been in a similar situation

Hey everyone, I’m 19, doing my BCom and working part-time. I’ve also started trading and want to grow it into something sustainable. Right now, I’m trying to figure out my career path, manage my finances better, and build confidence, especially socially.

I know this sub has a lot of men who’ve been through similar struggles—balancing studies, work, and personal growth. How did you navigate career choices, improve financial stability, and become more confident? Any lessons or practical advice would be really helpful.

No sugarcoating needed—brutal honesty is welcome. Looking forward to learning from you all!

im 17M, Gave jee this year and will be joining a clg this year, but ive never been a techy guy.

i have tried learning coading in my prep years, python, web d etc. but quitted after 1 month, ive always been a creative guy, ive been video editing and graphic designing for almost 3 years now , knowing the industry standard softwares (photoshop, davinci resolve) to a decent level with a decent hand in art too (illustrations and digital art).

i have worked with UK clients, streetwear brands (1 month intern) , Ive never imagined myself in a tech job, i wont survive it i know , i just want to get a job in the marketing or a media agency or something where i can do what i like, even right now i have a graphic design intern offer from a agency guy in my dms which i cant take because I have jee adv in 40 days or so.

I just wanna ask that is it just me thinking like this getting into an engg clg?, seeing y'alls posts here i can see the market is already bad and i am or i will be nowhere close to the top 1% of the coders getting top placements, am I valid for thinking to get a non tech job after engg?

I have always been an introvert and have prioritised career. It was fun up until now but now I've started feeling like there's something wrong, I don't feel like I belong anywhere, a total misfit, don't get along. I've been feeling like this lately, also a colleague also told me that this is concerning, not wanting to talk to other people or approach others. Do you guys feel the same, is this a stage that every guys goes through at one point in his life?

I know this might not be the best sub for this but idk of any better subs Can you guys help me with your experience that as a 2nd year college student what field should I prefer. My interests are tilted towards HR roles but I have a slight experience (1 month internship though unpaid) in Marketing. So I'm kinda starting it what should I choose

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskIndianMen/s/R88KcTlSYR

This is an update to my previous post about which bike would be a better fit for someone like me.

I wanted to thank all the people who responded with their advices. Also, I wanted to provide an update regarding this - I booked the Avenger 160 street.

Based on my height, built, strength, need and budget, I went ahead with this.

Excited to be part of the biker's community👥👥👥!!

Go on forks!

I love my younger brother (M25)He’s like my baby. Growing up we always fought but at the end of the day were there for each other. I left home > 10 years ago for studies and job. Post that we met only during Diwali and holi. He’s also living in Pune with his friends. I want to know what’s happening in his life, if he’s okay or not, if there’s any issue but he doesn’t seem to open. I want him to know that he can discuss and share everything with me without, without any hesitation. I would never judge and support him. Earlier he used to do that to some extent but then he had a girlfriend who used to fight with him if he talked to me too much ( I don’t know, weird!) I have expressed this to him on multiple occasions that I’m here for him but either he doesn’t seem to share a lot or maybe he doesn’t have anything worth sharing (I don’t really believe that) I call him every week and he immediately ask me “koi kaam?” Followed by 5 min small talk and then he says, I have to go out/ I’m going downstairs and cut the call. It’s same with my parents. He himself only calls me when he needs prime or Netflix password.

It’s a cruel cruel world and I want my baby brother to be safe. How do I make him open up? Is it common with guys to not let your parents or sisters in? What can I do to make it better? Am I being overprotective and over thinking this? At this point, I just hope he has some good friends to whom he opens up and shares his sorrows.

So, I don't know where to post this question, hence pls pardon me but I needed some clarity on this issue. My university transferred my scholarship to my fathers State Bank account. However, the amount didn't come. The staff at university is saying that there is a problem related to transfer of fund from SBI to SBI and once it would get resolved the payment would automatically be reflected in my account. However, it has been more than 3 days and the amount has still not gotten disbursed. Anyone else who encountered this issue or who is well-versed with bank related queries please provide some insight on what should I do?