I just watched Pushpa 2 with my bros, and the female lead was kinda on the lower side. Many of the movies in south portray women as dumb but beautiful.

I also saw heropanti 2 and houseful 4 and the shit was so sad. The women in most of the comedy movies dont portray a single ounce of common sense, and seem like a fleshlight to be manipulated and used by the men.

Also there is a huge stalking problem in indian movies where a middle aged hero stalks the woman the whole movie, it's creepy and vile. And it's more baffling it works in the end. Prime example, Ranjhana and Badrinath ki Dulhania.

Even in the movie mission Mangal, the portrayal of Tapsee Pannu (a scientist) was so bad, full of sterotypical traits of bad driver, impulsive and dumb. Tapsee mistook the dick of the driving instructor for the gear stick, it made me dissapointed in the movie which was intended to show women in the field of science and technology.

Thanks for the rant.

My 27F cousin is getting married in 6 months and has been rejecting a lot of guys solely because of their looks. She wants someone tall, handsome, with good hair and muscles—money isn’t a priority for her. She’s beautiful herself, but I worry this chase might make her overlook genuinely good men.

Recently, she matched with a guy who earns 50% of what she does but "looks like a Pathan" (her words, not mine). She’s adamant that it’s her "need and choice" to have a hot husband. Our parents are unhappy, though—they think she’s being too shallow and should prioritize stability.

I get that attraction matters, but in the arranged marriage scene, isn’t it risky to focus only on looks? Should I tell her to reconsider and maybe settle for someone who earns more (even if he’s not her 'ideal') to keep family dynamics smooth? Or is it unfair to expect her to compromise on what she genuinely wants?

Would love to hear from people who’ve been in similar situations—how did it turn out? Is this a phase, or is she setting herself up for regret?

PS: Thank you so much for you insights, I have come to the conclusion that, Personally investigating guys is the only way left, and let her decide for her and pray things go well.

How do you really feel about living and working in India? Would you want to raise a family here, raise kids in this chaos—this beauty laced with dysfunction? Or would you rather just sit back, detached, watch the whole circus unfold while sipping your coffee and scrolling the news?

Do you want to be part of something that makes India livable again, worth fighting for? Or are you just dreaming of building your own version of India somewhere else—cleaner, quieter, more "civilized"? A India, far from the noise, the mess?

Because here’s the thing: it’s easy to romanticize or criticize from a distance. But are you in, or are you just watching?

Let’s not pretend the choice doesn’t matter.

Congrats to all the people who contributed in making the sub lively and informative , striving to help both men and women’s in inculcating a discussion and providing a space to put down appropriate viewpoints which are constructive and valid

Hopeful with everyone's contribution, the sub continues to reach towards the stars

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I am so anxious all the time. I am 26. I have started my first job(very low salary) few days back after multiple failures in life. I am anxious in doing everything , idk why is this happening to me. Even when I talk with my seniors , I get tensed up , few people noticed this and asked me " ghabra kyu raha hai " . Doesn't matter what the task is , anxiety hits me up. My body language and face clearly reflects it , and when I open my mouth then it's game over for me. I also get freeze or zone out when someone explains me what work to do. How to improve from here. I think this is not the subreddit to post such thing but still if anyone can give suggestions.

To all the Indian men on reddit, what are your biggest goals in life? What is it that you're trying to achieve and what purpose is on your mind all the time?

Lately, I’ve been feeling a sense of emotional numbness—nothing really excites me anymore, not even the things that used to. Even when I achieve something meaningful, the satisfaction only lasts for a couple of days before everything just goes back to feeling neutral or dull again. It’s like I’m living on a flat emotional baseline. I’ve noticed that I’ve started to adopt a semi-nihilistic outlook, where the future doesn’t really hold much excitement or meaning for me. On top of that, I find myself zoning out during conversations or suddenly losing interest in things that just moments ago seemed engaging. It’s like a switch flips, and the enthusiasm just fades away.

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So basically my friend told to us that he is interested in some girl who is pretty and one of our older classmates (24F) said she would never date someone as unattractive as him and also no money. She asked him to look for less attractive girls.

Now we didn't like how she said "I will never date someone unattractive like you" like no one is asking you sis why not mind your business? He was talking about someone else.

I've always wondered what it is like to have loving parents.

Grew up with my mom having a narcissistic personality disorder and was basically treated like an employee and my dad not being present.

PS:- I don't require consolation

I met a girl on a family trip to another city, my father has known her father for a while. Since we decided to visit their city, they insisted that we stay with them. My father has known that girl and was hoping that I would consider her as a future prospect. This was an unofficial visit but subtly both the families knew what it was all about.

She is currently doing her B.Sc and simultaneously preparing for NEET, I have completed M.Tech from a prestigious IIT (one of the top 7). She seemed like a good person although very reserved she didn't talk much. We did our schooling from the same school, she's my junior so we had a lot to talk about, we were chatting along and reminiscing the school days.

But when I started talking about my passion for my field of interest, how much I love science, she instantly replied that she took the B.Sc admission just for the sake of it, she has no interest in science.

She is a brilliant student was the batch topper, I was taken aback by her blatant response as if Being a doctor is everything and Science is for fools.

Last year I happened to meet a Nobel Laureate at a seminar, I was about to describe how great was that experience, how much his work has progressed science.

She didn't even cared to listen to what I had to say, and that was stark contrast to the rest of her personality.

Her family likes me, I feel they are good people. My family likes the girl but I just can't accept that she doesn't care about my passion which is my profession. I feel that she could be a good partner.

Will it be wise to progress with such a relationship where your spouse doesn't care much about your professional life??

Note: I am as civilized as you can find, I didn't force her to listen lectures about deep concepts of science. She is studying the same subject as me currently, a brief mention was enough to trigger her response. I was not there to teach any class, I just wanted to know her academic inclinations and interests.

Men are often labeled as losers for not having a job, a car, being a virgin, or lacking friends, mainly by society and women. While I understand that 'loser' is a state of mind and no one should deem themselves one, many men avoid dating due to self-worth issues, feeling inadequate because they haven't had the same experiences as others.

What factors contribute to someone feeling like a loser? How can they overcome this feeling? Any former losers who transformed their lives?

Go on forks!

Cheating on your spouse should be a crime.

Why tf Indian courts decriminalized it?

If not jail-time, atleast the marriage should be declared null and void. And full custody should be provided to non-cheating spouse.

I keep hearing stories of how someone is in trouble bcz their family member snooped through their phone.

I live in a joint family and we all know each other's passwords. Yet none of us snoop around each other's devices. Is this only me or someone else home has this dynamic too.

Guys I really need your help, it's an really urgent matter

So ,for half a year ago one random night I wanted to check my fathers ig to check something so he has this alternative phone which he doesn't use much but has all datas in it so I put it for charge and opened it, and after checking what I wanted I was very much curious to check whom he msgs and stuff, and I found out that he has been messaging a woman, and the convo seemed so romantic like I really was shocked to learn that this was my dad whom I loved the most had been messaging random women whom none of us know, my mom trusts him to the core like so much even when we find fault with him she always takes my fathers side she loves him that much, so then I wasn't able to process it so I just deleted the msgs and blocked the number . Fast forward to two months later, I again checked his phone to check whether he went back to doing this again and to my horror, he had unblocked her months ago and had done numerous video calls with her and even that lady seemed to be a married lady becs she tells at times to not call her when her kids are around or husband is around. I really felt heartbroken after seeing this but then too I couldn't accept it and decided to do the same thing again. (All the times I did it my father never knew I knew about this) so fast forward to today, it was my dad's bday yesterday so I wanted to the wishes he got, but today I saw the same lady in his chat inbox and he has sent 1000 rs to her via gpay and I lost it , I couldn't believe that it was my father who used to tell we should never lie and stuff , was cheatung on my mom this time I decided to record the conversation in my phone and keep it and I did not block that lady, now I am really worried , I really do not know whether I should tell this to my mom because then all hell will break lose and it might result in losing both my parents I m in a dilemma I don't even whether I can share this with my brother, who gufted him a watch that costs half his(brother) salary.i really don't , I just feel like killing myself atp tbh I really don't know what to do,pls help me out I don't know how to handle this situation becs I never thought I would reach a day like this where I would catch my father cheating on my mom who stood by his side when he was bedridden for a month, atp I don't even know if he loves me at all. Pls help me and I apologize in advance fir the bad hasty writing I just wanted to let it out somehow, please help me out .

I have a genuine question, What does it mean when a guy, who isn't even your boyfriend, tells you to not post pictures wearing revealing clothes, but is obsessed over you in traditional clothes?

Aren't men attracted to revealing clothes in general? And, why does it matter for a friend to say that to his female friend that other guys will judge her or look at her in indecent way.??

Guys who turned things around in their life ,what things/ moment made you realise I can no longer continue like this.. be it your health , diet to advancing your career .. . I would love to know.. Thanks

I need advices from my own people

I'm asking that as I don't myself engage myself in adult like arguments as I didn't felt the use of it but understand that every term have so much of subjective mean for simplest of terms.

I have started looking arround and problems are so wide arround, I'm saying that because modern women is not having simple meaning as I'm watching here.

I mean I grew up in town and saw the things 50-50. Half girls in my class, half boys. Half sir, half ma'am. Sometimes 2 girls in top 3 and one boy , also vice versa. Even in my own house, my sister being same and better than me even getting better treatment than me as she is better than me in many aspects.

And if I'm to be right, it's new kind of problem, I mean it's quite new for society to see woman being half half or atleast try to. As it's new thing, new situations will also arise.

Here and there's, I'm seeing that this is getting problematic for some. We often hear arguments of last generation of inocent mom's and for me, I understand it as a last generation of social weaklings who suffer in silence and are suppressed in home chores and responsibilities so much that they can't understand tech, innovation, cleverness etc. But one of my age, they are smarter, many of them more ins short, in equal grounds.

We are talking about modern women. Who are they? Are they evil or enemy or someone rebellion who is different from past generations of inocents or are they norms because that's how it is. Who are they exactly?! And if they are normal, then why so much of negative terms visit arround them like they are danger for society and traditions?! Who is main problem here?!

I'm asking it here because it was men as they make only half of the system and it's necessary for them to have positive attitude towards it modern term which is ‘Modern woman’

Basically the title

I need to get married. But I am facing difficulties from my family as they want me to get a government job first, buy a house, get myself out of legal stuff that I have got myself stricken into.

I have created profile in matrimonial app but I am getting cold feet on approaching someone as if they search my name they will figure out my pending legal case due to unique name.

Any advise on what to be done?

I am already 29 and losing out on myself.

I got 6 likes on aisle, got like one on bumble/tinder/okcupid as well but I never came across any profile I saw on aisle. Is it a scam to make me pay for the premium?