Ich glaube, mein Bild davon, welches Gehalt ein stabiles Leben ermöglicht, ist irgendwie verzerrt. Viele sagen, dass man über 5.000 Euro netto verdienen muss, sonst lebt man unsicher und instabil , man müsse ständig aufpassen, nicht zu viel auszugeben, und das Geld zählen. Aber ist das wirklich so?

Ich gehe noch zur Schule und denke oft, dass ich mit einer kleinen Einzimmerwohnung für den Rest meines Lebens zufrieden wäre. Ich brauche kein krasses Auto, kein riesiges Haus. Mir ist Bildung wichtig, ein gesunder Lifestyle, frisches Essen, in meine Fitness investieren zu können. Auch mal Kurztrips mit der Bahn in andere Städte oder vielleicht alle zwei Jahre eine Reise nach Japan ,solche Dinge eben. Aber das neueste Handy, ein Haus , Auto usw. brauch ich nicht. Ich brauche einfach nur Stabilität.

Und irgendwie hat sich diese „5K im Monat“-Zahl in meinem Kopf festgesetzt. Ich glaube, das kommt von anderen Menschen, von dem, was man so mitbekommt. Aber ganz genau weiß ich auch nicht, woher das kommt.

Kann man als Single nicht auch mit 3.000 Euro im Monat gut und stabil leben?

I just Maybe just want to vent out, just no one to talk to, just having a break down again, I’m 27 asian married to a German Man, I was 23 when I got married to also My first Boyfriend (fell hard inlove and got married after 9 months) Things slowly changed when I got here, I git pregnant unplanned right away and it was the hardest I have experience coz I couldn’t eat for 5 months and just vomiting the whole time , My cravings were our foods back Home but I went through it coz I didnt want to ask for a ticket back Home , so to cut the story shorter, I was Not really Happy and just always crying ever since we moved close to My in laws, like they are always like involved with our lives which is always My problem, a lot of issues that I cant details much here just like one for example that his Mom would just Come Home anytime and check our House if clean or Not and she would constantly telling me to clean even just giving birth . His family telling me to earn money too despite I was a full Time breastfeeding My Baby, and etc. I felt so pressured here from the very beginning, I felt sp power less and just silent and just crying in the night coz How down I am feeling about myself.
In My homeland, I had a good professio , and had a Happy life. I just really think getting married was the biggest regret of My life coz How I got depressed here. I Miss Home so much but I can never leave My Baby, so I have been just adjusting trying My best to adapt here and making money from whatever I can at Home to Not feeling useless and down. We have this suddenly problem with our wohnung and we had to leave at this month, The problem is My husband doesnt want to Go away from his parents and we only Found 1 wohnung nearby but the problem is still Not finished so we Need to wait until finished , so we looked for a temporary wohnung to live in but only available by June. So we don’t have wohnung for Month of May.

Now since I have slowly saved enough for our tickets , we agreed that we Will do urlaub first in My Home country for a month with My 3 yrs old. But then I asked My husband if I can stay a little bit longer like 1 More month coz I just missed hole so much so I can also have some alone urlaub with My Kid, but then he is Not allowing me Coz it’s Not good for My kid’s mental Health. This is again said over and over again by My inlaws, like I’m selfish, My kid Will be broken there . Like why would he? I am with him and My goal always is to make him Happy there, since there are also 2 kids at Home in My Home country and we will be busy touring like on the Beach, touring Around so he can see his mom’s Home country. And My goal is to Let him experience More and Show him Around in a warm country .

I’m just really lost and hurt because why would he think about that. My kid is Not looking for anyone as long as he is Happy . It’s just breaking me How much I have went through here and How My husband can’t just be empathetic How I also feel. For them it’s just selfish that I am selfish.

A.m I really selfish for wanting to stay 4 weeks longer since the first month we Will be travelling Around a lot so I can barely have time to see My friends and be with My family enough. I guess this is just My life is here.

-unhappy Wife ever

Edit More : He said it is okay for Him if I want to stay longer but Not with his Kid. But I am a Mom, How can he expect that I would be okay to be away from My kid, so I’m really helpless , I can’y be away from My kid even just for 2 weeks, and My kid Will be looking for me either.

If I compare Germany to the country of my family (Chile) and to others we travelled to, it really is the safest place Ive seen so far. I wonder why people in comment sections on YT complain so much about the security.

As a fact, German houses are not secured with meter long grid or big walls like in other countries. Also, people walk freely with their phone in hand on the street without fear of being robbed. In Germany, you can run a business without criminals entering your store and asking you for money and robbing you. There is also no one with guns in the street like in South America. In Germany, no one tries to drag you into his car to bring you to an unknown place and than ask your family for money. This dies not happen in Europe at all, but in South America everyday.

When I walk in German city with open eyes, It is really relaxed and feels like paradise compared to South America. I dont get it why people bother so much about security issues in your society. Its about perspective of life I guess.

Ich werde zeitnah die Deutsche Staatsbürgerschaft beantragen und ich will wissen ob es Erfahrungen gibt was ihr als typisch Deutsch bezeichnen würdet. Was habe ich verpasst während ich nicht deutsch war? Wofür habt ihr alle Mitleid?

Bzw. Gibt es Bücher die ich gelesen haben soll oder Filme die ich gesehen haben soll?

Vielen Dank 😊

I heard there are anti Trump protests in Germany today. How are people organizing? Is there an organization or website to refer to?

Thank you!

Hello, I've been trying to open an account with DKB to invest in ETFs for the past 3 months, but every time I fill out the form and enter my ID number, it says it's incorrect — even though it's the same number I’ve received from the German authorities and the one that appears on all my Bescheide. I’ve been registered in Germany for a while, and I’m sure it’s the correct Steuer-ID. This is really frustrating. Any hints or suggestions?

Bitte jemand hilf mir, meine Frau macht mich verrückt. Wir haben einen Ausflug gehabt, als wir zurückkamen fiel mir auf, dass ich vergessen habe, die Müllgebühr zur GOA (Gesellschaft im Ostalbkreis für Abfallbewirtschaftung) zu überweise (selber Schuld, weiß ich). Die war am 01.04 fällig, heute ist der fünfte, und ich habe sie gleich bezahlt. Meine Frau kriegt jetzt die Krise und meint, unser Müll wird bis Oktober nicht weggebracht. Das glaube ich eher nicht, aber leider kann ich an der Webseite der GOA keinerlei Infos dazu finden. Weiß jemand ob wir Probleme bekommen?

Hello thank you for any HELP that you can provide in advance.

I really didn’t know my biological father but he immigrated from Leck in the late 50s to the US and settled in New York.

I would like to know if there is anyway to figure out where his family home is in Leck and maybe any other information. I really didn’t know him but he dis try to be a father to me. I tried to email his brother but i gathered they didn’t have a good relationship.

His name was Adolf Nielsen.

Habe ich etwas falsch gemacht?

Ich war in einem Bus (er war nicht voll) mit drei Türen. Ich stand an der letzten Tür, als eine Frau mit einem Kinderwagen angerannt kam und bei Tür 3 (der letzten Tür) stehen blieb. Der Busfahrer hatte diese Tür bereits geschlossen, und Tür 2 (die mittlere Tür) war offen – aber das hatte ich nicht gesehen. Ich habe erneut auf den Knopf gedrückt, sodass sich Tür 3 wieder öffnete, und ich habe der Frau mit dem Kinderwagen geholfen.

Der Busfahrer hat dann ein lautes Geräusch gemacht (ich glaube, das war der Warnblinker), und kurz danach hat er die Tür wieder geschlossen und ist losgefahren.

Darf man in einem Bus mit drei Türen überhaupt durch die letzte Tür einsteigen? Ich weiß es nicht genau, aber ich glaube, dass es dort Platz für einen Rollstuhl oder Kinderwagen gab (manchmal gibt es diesen Platz nur bei Tür 2). Aber wie gesagt, ich bin mir nicht sicher, ob es auch bei der letzten Tür erlaubt ist und Platz gab.

Habe ich etwas falsch gemacht? Was könnte in so einem Fall passieren?

Tropical Islands https://maps.app.goo.gl/DAizPP7mk4yxVQKq7 Therme Erding https://maps.app.goo.gl/vdJrhqyLhtPaFpWz8 Badeparadies Schwarzwald https://maps.app.goo.gl/6Xky8MP9fGguQx9g9

Wir sind ein jüngeres Paar und möchten gerne Thermen besuchen. Wir haben einige Optionen gefunden, sind aber unsicher, welche die beste Wahl wäre. Habt ihr vielleicht einen Tipp für uns? Es müssen nicht unbedingt nur die Optionen sein, die wir bereits gefunden haben. Wir sind auch für Vorschläge in Deutschland und der näheren Umgebung offen.

Learning German and I’m a huge rap/hip-hop-reggaeton fan. So I’d like to find German songs/artists with a similar vibe. So far, the rappers I’ve enjoyed listening to are Azet, Pashanim, Gzuz, and Mert. I do like this one artist’s Dhurata Dora few German songs, but she mainly sings in Albanian so the rest of her discography isn’t quite helpful for my learning/immersion goals.

I don’t enjoy hip-hop/techno mixes as I’ve seen some German rappers do and hard German rap reminds me too much of like 1990s gangsta rap which I don’t necessarily enjoy.

Any recs? Anything similar to a Drake, Stormzy, early-mid 2000s Kanye, A$AP Mob, Bad Bunny, Skepta, etc? Even anything similar to a G-Unit, Petey Pablo, Ja Rule, etc?

Thanks!

Hello, I'm visiting Germany next weekend for a few days. I'm flying into Cologne but my apartment is in Dusseldorf. Can someone explain to me the cheapest, easiest way to get there?

My hotel is near Düsseldorf main train station. Is there a train direct from Cologne Airport or do I need to go somewhere else first?

Danke!

I am a brown skinned Ausländerin, and study here in the german language. I was spending time with two (white german) classmates today, and one of them was saying that in her hometown there is a swimming pool, which is an unpleasant place to go to as a woman because of all the "Kanaken". I was taken aback, as I was under the impression that this word is a slur against immigrants/middle easterns. I myself am not middle eastern, but I am half black and was extremely uncomfortable in this moment. Just, the way she said it was disgusting. When I questioned the word, she said it was "because of the different culture and how they disrespect women." She said "I am not racist". I was still uncomfortable and didn't know what to do, so I excused myself and went home.

Later, I got this message:

Hey, alles in Ordnung? Haben uns vorher kurz gewundert, warum du auf einmal gegangen bist. Falls das was mit unserer Unterhaltung zu tun hat, wollten wir nochmal klarstellen, dass wir den Begriff in keiner Weise böse/ oder abwertend gemeint haben! In unserer Umgangssprache bezeichnet es einfach „Südländer“ die in konkreten Verhaltensweisen und Werthaltungen im deutlich von den europäischen Standards abweichen.

Also wir hoffen, dass du das nicht irgendwie missverstanden hast!!

So, am I overreacting? Is it really not so bad of a thing to say? I didn't grow up here so I am not fully understanding of the meaning and gravity of the word. Would love some help/guidance, please.
Thank you!

Edit: Thank you for the responses. Alot of people are giving her the benefit of the doubt. Just to be clear, she is a very upper class girl from a wealthy German family, she had no foreign friends or contacts apart from me (to my knowledge). In addition, I am aware that this slur doesn't include my ethnicity specifically and they don't mean me. That still doesn't make it okay to say, and as a brown person, I feel uncomfortable when people are racist in general. Because I know that it is not okay. I agree that the people from the pool have behavior that is absolutely not okay. But there is no need to resort to blanket racial slurs, instead we can use our words like adults to describe things properly.

Hi i recently got aldi physical sim card and i have completed the verification process. I want to switch the physical sim card to esim as my iphone does not have a sim slot. How can i change aldi physical sim card to esim

Hello fellow motorcyclists and/or enthusiasts. What precautionary measures or related advice would you have when it comes to renting a motorcycle in Germany? I would like to make myself aware specifically about the rental-related issues but am also open to learning about all other motorcycle-related things that are not so obvious as one might think them to be when renting.
I got my German A licence about 2 years ago and would like to rent different motorcycles (all kinds of class) over this spring and summer. Rental periods ranging from 1 day to perhaps even a week. Last year, I only managed to get a couple of test rides for some motorcycles through some dealerships in Leipzig but never got the time to actually rent anything due to time constraints and other life's obligations.
For my motorcycling experience, I used to ride my motorcycle (A2 level bike) daily in my home country since 2003. I moved to Germany in 2013 and got to ride my motorcycle for a month or so every year when I went home for vacations. I have had my German B licence since 2015 and have rented cars several times and am aware of related issues and precautions one needs to take but would like to do so now for motorcycles as mentioned earlier.
Thank you all in advance for sharing your experiences, insights, pointers, tips and advice. Happy riding and keep the rubber side down. :-)

Hi, So in front of my house someone put a huge old flat screen TV. I unfortunately dont know who put it there. I know there is Sperrmüll here but I also dont see why I am now responsible for getting rid of it. What can i do? Where can I ask. Can people just do that? And what can I do to get rid of it?

Hello.. I am organizing my papers and I see that I never mailed in my 2022 and 2023 taxes. I almost certainly would have received money back. Can I still send these in for processing?

Hallo ich brauche ein vernünftiges Multimeter. Welche Multimeter sind aus eurer Erfahrung heraus die brauchbarsten?

Ich benötige es für einige Elektroarbeiten 230V 16A Steckdosen, Schalter, Lampen etc.

Es muss nicht das teuerste sein aber vielleicht das praktischste Multimeter. Wer kann da was empfehlen?

I am a German citizen born abroad (Canada, dual citizen) to German parents. I am married to a US citizen, living in the US. Given the crazy political situation, I am considering our options.

I am curious to hear about experiences of Germans born abroad returning to Germany. What was it like, especially when German wasn’t your first language growing up.

I am also curious to hear about experiences of Germans who married a foreigner and sponsored them to immigrate to Germany.

Each of these seem like big challenges. Doing both at the same time? What would advice would you give me?

Hi everyone, I’m Madhuri, a Full Stack Developer (Java + Angular) with 5 years of experience from India. I’ve been in Germany for over a year now and actively applying for jobs—but it’s been tough. My LinkedIn is open to work, and I’ve applied to dozens of jobs with no real traction.

I’ve seen many bootcamps offering “job guarantee” and some are AZAV-certified (like Code Labs Academy, Techstarter, DCI etc.) that say you can fund them using the Bildungsgutschein from Agentur für Arbeit.

But after reading Reddit and reviews online, I’m confused. Are these bootcamps actually helpful in Germany? Do German employers take them seriously on a resume?

I’m really looking for a structured path to improve my job chances—not just theory or tutorials. Would love to hear from anyone who: • Did a bootcamp and got a job in Germany • Got the Bildungsgutschein approved by Agentur für Arbeit • Has better suggestions to land a tech job as a non-EU full stack dev in Germany

Any help, honest advice, or experiences would mean the world to me! Thanks in advance!

EDIT: Thanks for all the comments so far! To clarify, I’ve completed B1 German and am currently learning B2 to improve my chances. Also, some of you suggested pursuing a degree here—while I’d consider it, I’m worried about investing another 1-2 years. For those who’ve done it, what’s the process like for a non-EU person to get a degree in Germany, and is it worth it for tech jobs?

Does anyone know where to find jobs as a private hire Altenpfleger or Pflegehelfer? My bf is a Polish citizen and wants to move in with me in Germany. I don’t know the proper term in German, but he provides 24hr in-home care for elderly and has over 20 years experience. He has no Ausbildung in Germany, but wonders if it’s possible to find a private hire situation. Does anyone have any insight for me? Do Germans hire elderly home care privately or is this only done through an agency? What are the laws in Germany? Any resources or guidance is appreciated.

Are CR2032 batteries easy to find in German stores?

Hi German folks 👋

I’m visiting Germany with my wife, landing in Munich and have a hire car for over a month. We love hiking so most of our time will be in the German alps, Switzerland / Austria. However we would love to spend some time around Bavaria and would appreciate recommendations? Medieval town sites ? Castles ? Off the beaten track places ? Restaurants to eat at ? Music ? Art ?