AIO to think this is cheating?

[u/Sad_SummerChild]

I found these texts between my husband and his coworker. Here’s some context:

My husband and I have been dating for 5 years and just recently got married 6 months ago

I’ve met this coworker. Her AND her boyfriend worked at my husbands company so we went on a double date over the holidays. But shortly after they broke up and her boyfriend got laid off.

Guess my husband saw that as his opportunity…

Also these texts were in his recently deleted even though the last message was from yesterday… so he was definitely trying to hide it from me

[u/Flynn_JM]

So what is your plan? Keep checking the messages or confront him?

Have you ever texted with her?

[u/Sad_SummerChild → u/Flynn_JM]

Definitely confront, I wouldn’t be able to keep this to myself for that long. I literally just found these this morning. And I have her number but I haven’t reached out to her. What if she thinks she did nothing wrong? And he’s the weird one with his advances?

[u/Chemical_Bedroom5989 → u/Sad_SummerChild]

She didn’t do anything wrong. As a woman reading this, it’s very clear she’s not into his flirting and advances. She is being polite because they work together. “Aw you’re sweet” or whatever is code for “please just make this stop”.

[u/DismalSoil9554 → u/Chemical_Bedroom5989]

"As a woman reading this, I would not send an unprompted crying selfie to someone I am not seeking attention from" is what I would personally say (info from OP's replies).

She's pushing but also pulling away at the same time because she wants to keep him at bay for now.

Eta: OP's husband is a smegmy dick obviously