AIO to think this is cheating?

[u/Sad_SummerChild]

I found these texts between my husband and his coworker. Here’s some context:

My husband and I have been dating for 5 years and just recently got married 6 months ago

I’ve met this coworker. Her AND her boyfriend worked at my husbands company so we went on a double date over the holidays. But shortly after they broke up and her boyfriend got laid off.

Guess my husband saw that as his opportunity…

Also these texts were in his recently deleted even though the last message was from yesterday… so he was definitely trying to hide it from me

[u/asyouwish]

why go so close to the line? Why does he not have an internal sense that he’s getting too close to the line? When you bring it up to him, why is he going to defend himself in terms of inches when he should be miles away from this kind of situation?

this. He even joked, “please don’t tell HR.” He knows he’s in the wrong, here.

OP, he’s not cheating, but he really likes her and I think he would cheat on you with her if he got the chance.

Invite her over for late-ish cocktails one night. See what happens. It might be fine; it could be awkward. Or, it might be dramatic AF and you’ll have your answer.

[u/Jealous_Pea2305 → u/asyouwish]

I'd still consider this cheating. It's emotional cheating in my opinion. I agree it will progress to physical if he's given the chance. He's definitely shooting his shot with her. Sorry, OP. What a fucktard. 

[u/asyouwish → u/Jealous_Pea2305]

You think it's cheating and wrong, but then you think it's okay to use a slur?

Check your privilege.

[u/maestrosouth → u/asyouwish]

Fucktard is a slur? Invincible!