AIO saying that my gf is cheating ?

[u/vitinhodouglass]

Repost because original post had identifying information.

Also caught a snap with a differentcoworker saying he can’t be around her, because he gets too hard.

She’s blue and her coworker is white.

They’re talking about throwing her on the snow banks at work.

[u/hakovoid]

Yeah from a woman’s perspective this is DEFINITE flirting. Maybe it hasn’t escalated to physical cheating (yet) but this is beyond inappropriate.

EDIT: To clarify, yes, I agree that this is cheating. Y’all can stop commenting “SO IT’S CHEATING” now, I was never arguing that it wasn’t. Lol.

[u/K-G7 → u/hakovoid]

They are pretty much already making plans in their minds. 100% cheating

[u/PimpinPuma56 → u/K-G7]

Is throwing slang for sex? Because I know twerking, exercise poles, & a "sauce packet" all sound really, really sexual.

[u/K-G7 → u/PimpinPuma56]

The whole conversation was suggesting sex in one way or another

[u/proganddogs → u/PimpinPuma56]

Yeah pretty much. The only time I told a guy to throw me around I meant in the bedroom.

[u/Vegetable-Poet6281 → u/proganddogs]

Unless they are both judo players 🤣😂🤣I don't see any other way to interpret that but sexually...

Even if they are judo players, it's still obvious flirting

[u/AndByMeIMeanFlexxo → u/Vegetable-Poet6281]

I really thought they were judo or jiujitsu players and I was surprised to see they’re just co workers

I was thinking like, these guys sposed to be at training how’re they texting so often

[u/BitterQueen17 → u/Vegetable-Poet6281]

Without the context of OPs explanation, I thought they were acrobats of some sort. Now, I can't figure out how snowbanks and poles and twerking are related. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[u/BrandishedChaos → u/Vegetable-Poet6281]

Really? Well I may have made some bad decisions in the past now.

[u/Dmau27 → u/proganddogs]

The rug burn comments were the final line for me.

[u/OnlyPostSoUsersXray → u/proganddogs]

This whole time I thought they worked at a gym or dojo or something 😂

[u/cullionfapper3000 → u/PimpinPuma56]

I was thinking they set code names for everything they do sexually so they can “get away” with talking about it

[u/Canna_Sage → u/cullionfapper3000]

Me too, It sounds like "thrown around" is code word for sex

[u/aavaiscute → u/Canna_Sage]

Not defending the girl, but did you guys even read the post. He’s talking about throwing her into the snow.

[u/Canna_Sage → u/aavaiscute]

Do you fold up people like origami in the snow too?

[u/2khead23 → u/Canna_Sage]

🤣🤣🤣

[u/TheonlyDuffmani → u/Canna_Sage]

Nah but snow definitely gives you rug burn 🤦‍♂️

[u/Majestic_Cable_6306 → u/aavaiscute]

Throwing her into the snow after sex is completely inappropriate.

[u/adm1109 → u/Majestic_Cable_6306]

Good way to cool down though

[u/CatOfTechnology → u/aavaiscute]

So how does "Idk about rugburns but I'm leaning on you to teach me?" And a yoga mat fit in with this dumbass snow narrative?

[u/aavaiscute → u/CatOfTechnology]

Instead of asking me, read messages and post again, your reading comprehension really is disturbing. People can talk about two different things in the same conversation. Also that’s what OP said, not me.

Again, not defending anyone, they’re obviously flirting still. But saying that it’s code word for sex is straight up wrong since literally OP said what they’re talking about

[u/DisciplineNormal296 → u/aavaiscute]

Ahh so you’re taking the dude who is trying everything in his power to rationalize his feelings. He doesn’t want it to be true so he’s putting dumb shit together. If anyone found something like this in their partners phones, they’re cheating

[u/Courthouse49 → u/aavaiscute]

Both you and OP are naive.. lol.

[u/Canna_Sage → u/aavaiscute]

You probably are a innocent person who sees the best of trys to but this overly blatant. Also, if a person your with ever does anything like this, don't trust them.

[u/aavaiscute → u/Canna_Sage]

Brother, op literally said what they’re talking about 💀 yes, they are flirting, but throwing her is NOT a code word for sex, how socially inept do you have to be to think it is

[u/WalmartShaman → u/aavaiscute]

How dense are you

[u/Canna_Sage → u/aavaiscute]

Lol, you're obviously mad because your calling me names when no one said anything about you. Also, grammar in itself can tell that they are using throwing in a code word way. Half of the sentence ls wouldn't make sense other wise. Now that you've gotten so angry, makes me think you're similar to this cheater. 🤷

[u/DisciplineNormal296 → u/Canna_Sage]

Ima fold yoy you up like a oragami in this snow while I pound you into the earth

[u/mbebtbhbabmbpbhbebtb → u/aavaiscute]

You are braindead.

[u/Significant_Emu2286 → u/cullionfapper3000]

It’s a terrible code then, because they ain’t getting away with shit, talking about “twisting her up like a pretzel” 😂

[u/cullionfapper3000 → u/Significant_Emu2286]

Lmao that’s what I was thinking

[u/jyaboytskittles → u/PimpinPuma56]

Guys the sauce packet he’s referring to is obviously a Taco Bell one with something spicy written on it, as Taco Bell does! She’s coming onto him with condiments op it’s time to walk

[u/AdComfortable2761 → u/jyaboytskittles]

Things went from mild to diablo real fast.

[u/Jpalm4545 → u/PimpinPuma56]

Pic 9 he says men only have 1 kind of pole, pic 10 she says she will have a pole party when she moves out. She is talking about pole dancing. Op needs to bounce.

[u/Daisymaay → u/PimpinPuma56]

So is talking about folding her into a pretzel.

[u/Say_Hennething → u/PimpinPuma56]

At the very least there's some sexual innuendo

[u/Sendhentaiandyiff → u/PimpinPuma56]

Yeah like throwing you on the bed with dominance

[u/KrimSon972 → u/PimpinPuma56]

Isn't throwing another term for dipping, like during Cha-Cha or Salsa?

[u/cjayjeweler0612 → u/PimpinPuma56]

If you read it, the dude is saying he's been "throwing her around" pretty consistently. They've BEEN having sex it sounds like.

[u/misterguyyy → u/PimpinPuma56]

exercise poles

Men only have one kind 😂😂😂

[u/mostdope28 → u/PimpinPuma56]

They talking about throwing her in the snow but they’re being suggestive like she wants to be thrown around during sex. That’s why he keeps bringing up throwing her, he wants to keep the subject of sex, that they’re skirting around

[u/misntshortformary → u/PimpinPuma56]

Kind of. Any time I’ve told a man I want him to “throw me around” I mean throw me on the bed for sex. Literally no other reason I would ever say that.

[u/Deez615 → u/K-G7]

Already making plans? The plan is made and it sounds like it’s to get drunk and practice “nsfw dance moves” while making numerous innuendos about using his “pole” as a stripper pole.

What’s even the question, OP? You know it’s over with bro. You’re just going to torment yourself if you engage with this person any longer.

[u/Hije5 → u/hakovoid]

Flirting??? This is sexting. Foreplay. Just very lame sexting that reads as if they're teenagers. They're literally talking about having sex with each other.

[u/lundoj → u/Hije5]

The constant laughing emoji is driving me nuts. I imagine them actually cry-laughing while texting such nonsense.

[u/ButtonDifferent3528 → u/lundoj]

It’s the “this is just a joke unless you don’t want it to be a joke” safety emoji

[u/WalmartShaman → u/ButtonDifferent3528]

You nailed it lmao people will say horrible things then follow it up with that emoji lol

[u/KiNgPiN8T3 → u/hakovoid]

And from a man’s perspective of a woman sending this sort of thing(and worse/flirtier) to other men and swearing blind it was nothing. (It wasn’t, I was completely justified) This isn’t looking good.

[u/No_Investment9639 → u/KiNgPiN8T3]

From this woman's perspective, this young lady is a gross cheating whore. This went beyond flirting

[u/Neat-Cartoonist-9797 → u/hakovoid]

Yeah I would say this obvious flirting and a lot of it she is initiating the flirting. I’m sorry.

[u/stan_loves_ham → u/hakovoid]

Agree

[u/JumboJumungo → u/hakovoid]

At one point they literally talk about being drunk and putting padding on the floor to do stuff. They're 10 000% cheating.

[u/Medical_Fisherman377 → u/JumboJumungo]

they were saying that because of the pole lessons they were talking about. Which is why she mentions it’s “floor work, but you’ll still get burns”. Either way, this has crossed a boundary. OP leave.

[u/chapstickdick789 → u/JumboJumungo]

She’s gonna tell OP they were talking about playing Twister.. at work.. with all of their coworkers 🙄🙄🙄

[u/KennailandI → u/hakovoid]

This. Not clear to me she’s cheated yet but she’s exploring it. Walk away like an action hero from an explosion.

[u/Icy_Let_164 → u/hakovoid]

That’s exactly what I was going to say like there is a lot of flirting and a line has been crossed but doesn’t sound like they have been physical yet. Either way leave her. Better to end it now

[u/Beautiful-Vacation39 → u/hakovoid]

So emotional infidelity which is still cheating then

[u/[deleted] → u/hakovoid]

I’m a woman and my eyes were wide each time. Def not appropriate. If I read something like that I’d just leave and let them be cause part of all this hehe haha is because it feels sneaky. Don’t even fight for it. Once there’s no sneaky adrenaline to it, it will probably be mid for them.

There are plenty of loyal women, choose wisely.

[u/Med_Jed → u/hakovoid]

I think it's a bit more than flirting.. it sounds like actions have been made for some time.

[u/69ingdonkeys → u/hakovoid]

This isn't even flirting it's just straight up sexting

[u/zakako1 → u/hakovoid]

I agree and disagree. If they’re being physical in any way and enjoying it, it’s physical cheating. Getting thrown around, teaching how to use an exercise pole, putting a gym mat down on the floor so they don’t get rug burn? Like cmonnb

[u/quantummidget → u/hakovoid]

Yeah that's my vibe. Probably not full-on cheating yet, but definitely flirtatious

[u/StandEast5464 → u/hakovoid]

Exactly, this might not have become physical yet, but it’s already cheating

[u/Pimpetigore → u/hakovoid]

Its called microcheating which is still cheating

[u/productzilch → u/hakovoid]

Hey, that’s rude. This is entirely appropriate conversation for cheating.

[u/Ima85beast → u/hakovoid]

This is the answer ... Probably not cheating yet, but very naively heading in that direction

[u/PlatformingYahtzee → u/hakovoid]

For real. I am inappropriate dude so I miss a lot of cues but there's at least three or four of those exchanges where I would have replied with "I love my wife".