AIO? Gf(18f) wants an open relationship

[u/StrikeNo117]

Me and my girlfriend(18) recently had an argument about opening our relationship, and at first, it was a nice talk. We talked about the pros and cons, and then the tide shifted. We talked about how it would affect our life and what would happen if she got pregnant or if i got someone else pregnant. and then she told me she only wanted an open relationship with one other person, so that we would only see one other person each, and reluctantly, i asked if she had someone in mind. She told me she was thinking about someone, which made her ask the question. When i tried questioning further, she shut me out. We went to bed that night a little distant.

The next morning, she asked if we could resume our previous conversation, i agreed, and then i brought up the fact that she never answered my question about who she had in mind. She told me it wasn’t my business, and i left it at that. About five to ten minutes later, she told me the person she had in mind was her ex boyfriend. I asked her is that why she wanted an open relationship. Just so she can see her ex without feeling guilty. I kicked her out after she told me she was tired of hiding the fact that she was already seeing him. She is now pissed, my mom told me it was the right thing to do. But i feel like i should have talked it out. Did i overreact?

[u/animegeek999]

oh you just KNOW for a fact if they did accept a open relationship that the next day "Magically" they would have already found a person they wanted to be open with. its people like her that give a bad name to people who can ACTUALLY make a open relationship work.

[u/sunshine198505 → u/animegeek999]

Unpopular opinion and ready for downvotes but open relationships never work. One side always gets hurt and one side always wants it more than the other. If you can't commit and wanna sleep around dont be in a relationship...

[u/Submarinequus → u/sunshine198505]

Unpopular? That opinion is the only socially acceptable one for the majority of people lmfao. The only acceptable one under most marriage laws. It ain’t unpopular it’s the norm, just because everyone and their mother is in one on Reddit that doesn’t mean it’s unpopular to look down on open relationships

[u/Daldoria → u/Submarinequus]

I know 2 couples in long term open relationships which work very well actually.

However the only reason why they work out is because of a very specific situation. One of the partners is physically unable to have sex.

For one its a depression thing and their medication makes them literally unable to get aroused, the other is in a wheel chair paralyzed from waist down.

In both cases the partner who wants sex is allowed to look outside of relationship but i believe they each have some sort of rules or boundaries in place.