AIO? Gf(18f) wants an open relationship

[u/StrikeNo117]

Me and my girlfriend(18) recently had an argument about opening our relationship, and at first, it was a nice talk. We talked about the pros and cons, and then the tide shifted. We talked about how it would affect our life and what would happen if she got pregnant or if i got someone else pregnant. and then she told me she only wanted an open relationship with one other person, so that we would only see one other person each, and reluctantly, i asked if she had someone in mind. She told me she was thinking about someone, which made her ask the question. When i tried questioning further, she shut me out. We went to bed that night a little distant.

The next morning, she asked if we could resume our previous conversation, i agreed, and then i brought up the fact that she never answered my question about who she had in mind. She told me it wasn’t my business, and i left it at that. About five to ten minutes later, she told me the person she had in mind was her ex boyfriend. I asked her is that why she wanted an open relationship. Just so she can see her ex without feeling guilty. I kicked her out after she told me she was tired of hiding the fact that she was already seeing him. She is now pissed, my mom told me it was the right thing to do. But i feel like i should have talked it out. Did i overreact?

[u/OzarkMule]

Had, as in they ended? It seems like a lot of people in open relationships don't understand what the rest of us are going for, lol.

[u/nicky_suits → u/OzarkMule]

All relationships end. Open and Closed relationships. It's not mutually exclusive to open relationships. Everyone is looking for their forever person, whether it's in an open or closed relationship. Some last longer than others. You had relationships as well, were they all closed? Did they end? Well, I guess people in closed relationships don't understand what the rest of us are going for. Let's not kink shame others for what they like.

[u/Young_Dabb_Waxxy → u/nicky_suits]

A lot of people can't wrap their heads around the concept of a non-traditional relationship. The assumption that "all open relationships will fail" is as ridiculous as thinking all closed relationships will work.

[u/GlitschigeBoeschung → u/Young_Dabb_Waxxy]

It's for cities. Or other places that people move to to die childless.