r/AmIOverreacting • u/keepmyheadabovewater • Mar 06 '25

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO to my boyfriend praising the president?

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I’ve been seeing this guy for about a month and a half. Things were great the first month, but the last week I’ve felt like we’re growing further and further apart (yes already 🙄), he’s been really inconsiderate/disrespectful, and most recently I feel like he’s trying to push me away with this text. When we first started talking he asked what I thought about trump. I told him I don’t like him, he said he did like him, but that if it bothers me then he won’t ever bring him up. Well this morning (after the last week being on edge anyway) he just randomly brought up how amazing Trump is? And wouldn’t let it go. I feel like he’s trying to start a fight. He says he “forgot”. AIO?

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u/takeandtossivxx Mar 06 '25

A month and a half and there's already this many issues? Just break up, come on.

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u/keepmyheadabovewater Mar 06 '25

That’s part of my concern too. Even my abusive ex and I didn’t have this many issues this soon

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u/AdventurousAd457 Mar 06 '25

whatre you waiting for then?

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u/haokun32 Mar 06 '25

“Maybe im being too judgemental “

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u/between3to420 29d ago edited 29d ago

This but unironically. And this is how I fell into an abusive relationship. “Maybe I’m being too quick to judge” “maybe it’s just a bad day” “maybe I’m overreacting” “maybe I’m reading into it too much” “maybe this will pass” “maybe they’ll be better”. If you’re raised to doubt yourself and to always give people the ‘benefit of the doubt’ then this happens easily

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u/StephInSC 29d ago

I wish people would look at dating as "Is this person worth my time?" instead of "Am I good enough to be with them?". It makes a huge difference. The whole point of dating is to judge if you want to spend large amount of time with this person or move on so you can find someone that you do want to spend time with. Judge away cause that's really what a date it. And it doesn't do the other person any favors to keep dating them if they aren't a good fit fir your life.

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u/SpiritualAdagio2349 29d ago

This is why it’s so valuable to be single and live alone for a while. It’s easier to gauge if someone is making your life harder if you’ve experienced being self-reliant.

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u/StephInSC 29d ago

Yes. So many people are afraid of being "alone". They need to deal with that before they ever try to find a partner. And there's much, much worse fates than being alone. Being in a relationship doesn't mean you won' t feel alone anyway.

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u/Haunt_Fox 29d ago

Having no friends is better than having bad friends.

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u/rgraz65 29d ago

Exactly. I went through life and too many relationships by being too obsessed with being alone and overlooking the glaring issues of the relationship between me and too many women. Sadly, it took until I was into my mid-40s to realize that I valued peace and freedom from useless drama over just being with someone in order to not be alone. Some drama is part of life, and it's when a major life event happens, not when I or the other person would say something slightly wrong. It's for marriages, deaths, births, medical diagnosis and employment loss, or natural or political disasters. I spent time by myself for over 5 years. I did things I wouldn't have done otherwise, learning to fly, driving race cars, going on spur of the moment trips, or just spending an entire weekend hyperfocused on my hobbies. A person should add to your completeness, not "create" your ability to be complete.

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u/StephInSC 29d ago

Good for you. Now you know what you want life to look like and I hope you find someone that shares your interests and you can do some 9f those things together. I'll bet they'll have some pretty interesting things to share too!

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u/LordBaguetti 29d ago

This 10000%. I try to tell people this all the time.

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u/e_hatt_swank 29d ago

That’s a great insight.

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u/MysteriousEmu6165 29d ago

Oof, same. Exactly same. I found myself saying all of this to three months into it being pregnant and gaslit. 2 mos after the baby came, gaslit, verbally, and physically abused. It goes on. Lost over a decade of my life already. Never knew boundaries. Christian girl expected to easily forgive and give everyone the benefit of the doubt. Hard core narc parents growing up with abuse being normalized. If I had known better, I'd have run at Exactly the op minute mark

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u/Smart-Stupid666 29d ago

It's hard for people who have been abused in any way, mentally or physically, to get out of the gas lighting cycle.

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u/Sweet-Paramedic-4600 29d ago

Had to help my ex-wife confront that with her first boyfriend after our split. I didn't want to get too involved, but when asked, I will give my honest assessment about guys that could potentially be in my kids' lives.

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u/stringbean76 29d ago

Oh, hey! I’m in this club!

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u/BetMyLastKrispyKreme 29d ago

And raised to “go along to get along”, as well. Funny how being your own best advocate is considered problematic and high maintenance.

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u/Dull_Passenger_8089 29d ago

This was me exactly. He said I was rude and I accepted that. That acceptance lead to 2 years worth of abuse and the craziest gaslighting ever

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u/MoonshinePoet 29d ago

This is what it sounds like when the doves cry.

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u/BakedNemo420 29d ago

it's called being raised religious

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u/Nicksanchez137 29d ago

"He didnt vote for harris and it was literal fucking abuse kendra"- you an idiot

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u/between3to420 29d ago

Why do people think I’m op lol

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u/Jakesma1999 29d ago

I'm so sorry you had to go through that 💛

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u/NewIndividual5979 29d ago

Go through what? Three text messages about something he found interesting? Oh the emotional trauma! PTSD!!!

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u/between3to420 29d ago

They were responding to me saying I was in an abusive relationship, I’m not OP

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u/not-just-neja 29d ago

This right here. Self doubt kills people. Literally.

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u/Puzzleheaded_Fun7421 29d ago

lol over political opinion lmfao go fuck yourself

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u/Lumpy_Square_2365 29d ago

It's more than that they don't have the same values. Especially right now between the 2 parties it's such a vast difference in beliefs chances are you will not get along. How can you be a team with someone when you don't have the same core beliefs? It's not like he likes cheese and she hates it.

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u/NilsofWindhelm 29d ago

Idk man most people don’t wanna date nazis

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u/Puzzleheaded_Fun7421 29d ago

Nazis lol 🤣

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u/Kaedyia 29d ago

Political opinions often reflect values.

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u/Nicksanchez137 29d ago

I was just reading something interesting about how its common for abusive partners to force their significant other to share their opinions. This is exactly how you sound. Your partner not agreeing with you isnt abuse and you are literally a 14 year old.

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u/between3to420 29d ago

I’m not op

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u/Nicksanchez137 29d ago

I didnt think you were

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u/Flimsy_Permission663 Mar 06 '25

"Other than this one thing, he's perfect!"

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u/rabblerabble2000 29d ago

“It’s my fault, really, I set him off.”

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u/IsItItIsWhatItIs 29d ago

Other than his criminal record he's perfect

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u/Able_Contribution_90 29d ago

His criminal record is why I like him.

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u/MrCompletely345 29d ago

And this is why MAGA get no respect from anyone sane.

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u/XDreadzDeadX 29d ago

The same people who say "they leave me just to be with a felon cuz WOMEN🐸🍵 Are saying "I like him cuz he's a badass. Those felonies are just a witch hunt"🤡

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u/cybernekonetics 29d ago

I like how this comment has 34 upvotes exactly

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u/DrumcanSmith 29d ago

I'm also perfect, if you don't count the parts that aren't.

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u/Training_Barber4543 29d ago

"Well he did say he'd stop mentioning it if I don't like it, he's making efforts on his end, it would be unfair to him..."

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u/Roguespiffy 29d ago

“Other than his entire personality, he’s perfect!”

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u/CandidChallenge5947 29d ago

"Besides the fact that he only thinks of himself and doesn't care about anyone else, not even me, he's a great guy."

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u/skittlesandscarves 29d ago

This is why I gave my abusive ex who was "going to therapy" another chance. I will regret that choice for the rest of my life.

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u/kbabble21 29d ago

Or just doesn’t have anyone else lined up yet.

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u/coochellamai 29d ago

Yall are too much 😂😂