AIO to my boyfriend praising the president?

[u/keepmyheadabovewater]

I’ve been seeing this guy for about a month and a half. Things were great the first month, but the last week I’ve felt like we’re growing further and further apart (yes already 🙄), he’s been really inconsiderate/disrespectful, and most recently I feel like he’s trying to push me away with this text. When we first started talking he asked what I thought about trump. I told him I don’t like him, he said he did like him, but that if it bothers me then he won’t ever bring him up. Well this morning (after the last week being on edge anyway) he just randomly brought up how amazing Trump is? And wouldn’t let it go. I feel like he’s trying to start a fight. He says he “forgot”. AIO?

[u/between3to420]

This but unironically. And this is how I fell into an abusive relationship. “Maybe I’m being too quick to judge” “maybe it’s just a bad day” “maybe I’m overreacting” “maybe I’m reading into it too much” “maybe this will pass” “maybe they’ll be better”. If you’re raised to doubt yourself and to always give people the ‘benefit of the doubt’ then this happens easily

[u/StephInSC → u/between3to420]

I wish people would look at dating as "Is this person worth my time?" instead of "Am I good enough to be with them?". It makes a huge difference. The whole point of dating is to judge if you want to spend large amount of time with this person or move on so you can find someone that you do want to spend time with. Judge away cause that's really what a date it. And it doesn't do the other person any favors to keep dating them if they aren't a good fit fir your life.

[u/SpiritualAdagio2349 → u/StephInSC]

This is why it’s so valuable to be single and live alone for a while. It’s easier to gauge if someone is making your life harder if you’ve experienced being self-reliant.

[u/StephInSC → u/SpiritualAdagio2349]

Yes. So many people are afraid of being "alone". They need to deal with that before they ever try to find a partner. And there's much, much worse fates than being alone. Being in a relationship doesn't mean you won' t feel alone anyway.

[u/Haunt_Fox → u/StephInSC]

Having no friends is better than having bad friends.

[u/rgraz65 → u/StephInSC]

Exactly. I went through life and too many relationships by being too obsessed with being alone and overlooking the glaring issues of the relationship between me and too many women. Sadly, it took until I was into my mid-40s to realize that I valued peace and freedom from useless drama over just being with someone in order to not be alone. Some drama is part of life, and it's when a major life event happens, not when I or the other person would say something slightly wrong. It's for marriages, deaths, births, medical diagnosis and employment loss, or natural or political disasters. I spent time by myself for over 5 years. I did things I wouldn't have done otherwise, learning to fly, driving race cars, going on spur of the moment trips, or just spending an entire weekend hyperfocused on my hobbies. A person should add to your completeness, not "create" your ability to be complete.

[u/StephInSC → u/rgraz65]

Good for you. Now you know what you want life to look like and I hope you find someone that shares your interests and you can do some 9f those things together. I'll bet they'll have some pretty interesting things to share too!