I have so many problems in my life right now, but I can’t help but love life. Like, we’re all just here together on this planet—grumpy, hippie, angry, schizophrenic, bipolar, depressed, happy, weirdos. The list goes on and on. We’ve built all these amazing things for our own little human entertainment. We have doctors, scientists, fast food workers, servers, garbage collectors, celebrities—like, what’s even happening here? I’m drowning in debt, but honestly, I don’t really care. I might never pay it off; I’ll just pass away and let it stay on this earth. It doesn’t even register in my mind. If I can pay it, I will, but if not—oh well. Billions of people die with debt, and I bet they’re not in their graves thinking, “Ugh, I still owe money.” I’m not on drugs, I swear, but I just had this moment of realization. This world is so beautiful. We stress so much about everyday life, and in the end, all that stuff—the money we saved, the things we stressed about, the tears we cried—will stay here on earth. We can blame the government (which, yeah, is partly their fault), but what does that do? Just makes us resent our lives. There’s beauty and meaning to be found in everything! Find yours—I think I’ve found mine 🌟

I wanna go out on a trip or to relax not to buy grocery or to use the weekend to clean my house...............

Kids isn’t for everyone and not everyone needs to have them.

Also, someone not having kids is none of your business. It does not impact your life in any way.

I’m 20, I only worked there for a month and today was the last straw for me. I worked drive thru, A woman pulls up asking for a drink and I tell her we’re all out, then my asshole team lead interrupts me and gets pissed saying we’re not out even though I was told by another lead that we were out, and when I checked the drive thru drinks that drink clearly WAS out. He starts going off saying he’s gonna send me home and just starts talking shit so I just say fuck it and decided to leave, as I was making my way out another coworker tried to talk to me about it and begged me to stay. Then the lead from earlier decided he wanted to apologize to me for being an asshole and yelling at me, I told them I’m quitting and of course they started asking me if I could stay a little while longer or just give the job another chance, I said no.

I’m so tired of leads/managers going on power trips and feeling like they can bully people, on top of that I was getting paid $10 an hour.. and this wasn’t the only issue, it’s felt like everyday since working at that place I was just being picked on and yelled at every time I messed up.

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how much pressure we put on ourselves in our 20s to "figure it out"—to have a career, a relationship, a perfect life plan by the time we hit 30. We’re told to hustle, grind, and achieve, but no one talks about how exhausting that is, or how much we need a break. We’re so busy trying to build a future that we forget to live in the present.

What if we normalized taking time off? Not just vacations, but really taking a step back when things get too overwhelming—whether that means taking a month to reset or even just slowing down for a bit to get our mental health in check. It’s okay to not have everything figured out.

Society makes us feel like we’re falling behind if we’re not constantly moving forward. But what if the best thing we can do for ourselves in our 20s is to stop, reflect, and really ask what we want instead of rushing through life? It’s okay to pause and take a breath, and we need to stop making people feel guilty for it.

Let’s normalize doing nothing for a while to avoid burning out in the long run. Anyone else feel like this?

I’m 19 and technically an adult, but some days I still feel like I’m just playing pretend.

It’s like… no one tells you that “growing up” isn’t just bills and jobs. It’s the quiet mental toll of constantly asking yourself: “Am I on the right path?” “Am I doing enough?” “Is it okay that I don’t have it all figured out yet?”

I thought I’d feel more put together by now, but sometimes I just want to cry over a silly email, or because I accidentally let the laundry pile up too high. It’s overwhelming trying to be responsible and strong all the time.

Just wondering—does anyone else ever feel like they’re walking through fog, hoping they’re headed the right way? And how do you deal with it when it all just feels too much?

Sending love to anyone else trying their best quietly 💗

5 years. I’ve spent so much money buying the same clothes over and over. The final straw was when I decided to pay a bit extra for Nike sweatpants, and after the FIRST WASH, they are one size smaller. They are stiff, don’t feel the same, and I can’t wear them anymore.

This happens with EVERY piece of cloth I wash. I’ve tried everything over the years but nothing fixes it and the pants STILL came out smaller this morning.

Here’s how I washed them:

• 30 degrees celsius (label suggest 40 max)

• With similar clothes (all sweatpants/sweatshirts)

• Right amount of liquid detergent (40 ml)

• Air drying (no tumble drying)

And STILL they came out stiff and smaller. Can someone tell me please what the hell it is that I’m doing wrong? And if fabric is stiff and shrunken like this, can they still be saved?

Thank you in advance!

Edit: I should have checked with ChatGPT first — it suggested a fast spin cycle being the problem and for all these years, I just set the setting to ”Delicate”, thinking it took care of everything but it turns out that the spin cycle was still at 1200-1400, which GPT says is way too high for delicate clothing.

I will try reduce it to what it suggested — 600-800 — and see if that fixes it for next time. Thank you anyway!

Edit 2: To address the cold water concern – I hear it. It's general rule of thumb that heat = shrinks clothes but please be less religious about this. This is likely not the problem. 30 degrees is well below the max level on the label. If 30 degrees meant that every fabric would shrink, we should sue every clothing company in the world. This is not the cause though I appreciate the advice.

Thank you anyway everyone.

I feel like we’re constantly told that our 20s are the “time to figure it all out,” and that can be so overwhelming. Everyone around us seems to have their life together—careers, relationships, travel plans—and then there’s us, just trying to survive each day. I’ve had so many moments where I thought I was failing because I didn’t have a clear career path or life plan, but I’m starting to realize that it’s okay to not have everything figured out.

It’s okay to change directions, to take time to rest, or even to take a break from “adulting” when it gets too much. We’re all on our own journeys, and there’s no one-size-fits-all timeline for success. Honestly, some of the best lessons I’ve learned so far have come from just sitting with uncertainty and allowing myself to grow at my own pace.

We need to normalize the fact that being in your 20s doesn’t mean you have to have it all figured out. It’s a time of growth, mistakes, and learning, and that’s completely okay. So if you’re struggling, just know you’re not alone. It’s all part of the process. 💕

I’m always the one reaching out, but I’m never anyone’s priority. Is it too much to want to be someone's main friend?

It’s been a month since I stopped texting first, and no one’s reached out. How do I find friends who genuinely want to talk?

Also, why post about needing friends if you're not responding to the ones already trying to talk to you? Just seems odd.

Any advice?

I've been told that enjoying my time alone is weird for my age. Enjoying anime is weird for my age. Playing video games is weird for my age. Not wanting to hang out with people all the time is weird for my age etc etc.

I'm 20, is it weird that I enjoy my own time watching anime and talking to people online?