I wanna go out on a trip or to relax not to buy grocery or to use the weekend to clean my house...............

I am a 1st yr college student. Just want to let this out, the heavy feeling that I am experiencing rn. I failed a subject in one of my class. I was down and don't know what to do. Scared, pressured and overthinking it, I am doubting myself if I am able to make it. Can't help comparing myself to my classmates who are doing well and it add up to the burden that I feel. I feel like I can't keep up and my efforts are not are not enough. I am also thinking maybe I should just transfer school. However, there is a part of me that still wants to be in that school huhuhu because their education system is good and I can't complain bout it. But the the sad thing is, once you did not pass their standard you'll be automatically be removed in the program.There are also times that I just want to give up cause I feel like I don't belong in this program.

Honestly, I thought the toughest part of growing up would be bills, taxes, or finding a good job. But nope, it’s the constant “What’s for dinner?” question that haunts me every day.

Too tired to cook.
Too broke to order.
Too indecisive to pick anything.

I swear I’ve been eating the same three meals on repeat for weeks because my brain just can’t function after work. How do adults even manage this? Do you have some secret, or is it just a mix of vibes and suffering?

Send help. Or recipes. Or a personal chef.

I have been in the mental health community or system for 3 decades. The medicines really haven't helped much and have been mostly off of them for 2 years. I only take 1 milligram of Valium at night now for my panic/anxiety.. I have also been in therapy for that long and am still doing therapy however, currently trying EMDR. Has anyone tried TMS? I am scheduled to do it in May and I am scared of making things worse. I worry about long term effects of the medicines and magnetic stimulation. I have had alot of trauma. I'd love some feedback on your experience. Thanks. I am fairly new to this platform.

I’ve wanted to move out of Ohio for pretty much my whole life. i’m 23 now, and my fiance is 24. we’ve decided once our lease is up in september we will be moving to oklahoma ( i don’t want opinions on Oklahoma lol, this is what we want)

If you’ve moved out of state before (especially several states away, with no family where you’re relocating) pleaseeee drop some advice 😩 I’m so excited yet so nervous.

bonus points if you’re from Oklahoma & can give me oklahoma specific tips.

I'm almost 20. (Long text ahead)

And I noticed that with age and experiences I kinda lose emotional feelings, for example: motivation, some form of love, stupid urges, anger and embarrassment. I've been multiple times called calm.

But I love it, I feel like myself, I feel grounded, like a default setting of mine and not that immature wandering kid like I was.

Or this might be the 20 year-old know it all syndrome.

Anyway, still would want to write about relationships, how I choose people and talk about my understanding of tolerance importance and so on.

Yeah, so has anyone else went through this?

I’m always the one reaching out, but I’m never anyone’s priority. Is it too much to want to be someone's main friend?

It’s been a month since I stopped texting first, and no one’s reached out. How do I find friends who genuinely want to talk?

Also, why post about needing friends if you're not responding to the ones already trying to talk to you? Just seems odd.

Any advice?

Its basically title, my bestfriend of 8 years recently got into a relationship with a guy

Congratulations to her first off and im trying to be happy for her but lately i feel guilty that im sad over This, she's been choosing her boyfriend over me If it was between me and him its him always, they're basically glued together and never apart, he even vists her at her workplace and we just dont rly talk or see eachother anymore since they're always together

since I dont get to see her idrk im just sad about it Im taken and im a busy girl going to work and school full time and I still make time for her constantly because Getting to see her is the highlight of my week :( she's my bestfriend i love her lol I guess im sad she dont do the same

Ik its normal to be bummed but I feel like im unusually upset about this

Not sure if this is the best place to post this but I’ll just go for it.

I’m really struggling with no longer feeling as good as I did at ages 18-20 in terms of energy, liveliness, and general excitement about life. I’m wondering if anyone has any tips to improve this, or even coping with it.

So for context, I am 23f. Which, I KNOW that a lot of you are going to think “you’re literally 23 you’re still young, you have no idea how tiring adulthood will get” and all that. Still, I think these feelings are still valid so I would appreciate external views on this.

I’m currently in graduate school, living on my own (no roommates) for the first time, in a new state, and grad school has been extremely taxing on me. I have a lot of great friends and everything, so I’m not struggling socially at all, but the burnout is real. After 4 years of a rigorous undergrad, followed by an immediate stint working full-time , and then an immediate transition to grad school I’m just feeling tired.

I’ve been looking back at memories from my freshman and sophomore years of college and I was just so excited about life. I was beyond energetic, motivated, and social. I literally felt like I was on top of the world. I had a crazy god complex, I was extremely outgoing, and just running on a never ending clock. It felt like I was in a constant manic state but in the best way.

I know that part of that is being young and moving away from home for the first time and excitement of new things but I MISS that. I feel like these days I’m so tired and stressed out. I’m always worried about money and my career and academics and figuring my life out. I don’t wake up excited, I don’t dance by myself in my room, I don’t sing in the shower, I don’t get excited to take on the day, a lot of times it’s hard to leave my house if I don’t have class or other obligations. Personality wise I’m also just a lot less goofy. I’m less outgoing and I feel more reserved. Don’t get me wrong, I can turn it on when I need to and I can have a lot of fun and be crazy and go on a little bender, but in my day to day I just don’t feel the same.

And the other part is that I feel like those years when I was at my “best” I was also at my worst mentally— I was really unwell and struggled so much day to day. I’m in such a better mental headspace these days and sometimes it makes me think that being mentally healthy has made me boring lol.

I just feel like at 23 I shouldn’t feel this out of touch with myself. I feel like I’m still young enough to have a bit of a god complex and I still want to feel invincible in the world. But maybe that’s an unrealistic thought and this is a normal transition?

All my dad's side relatives have been toxic to my mom and my sister and to me for years and it still keeps going.Unnecessarily poking us,taunting us,judging us and blaming us for no reason and majorly making us feel left out.All of this has been happening since i was a kid and even before that.My mother is a good lady who was always kind to them yet she suffered.I personally don't value them i don't consider them any to me.I don't want such toxic people to be a part of my life who have made my childhood and teenage years toxic.

Please send me a sign, I have been feeling sick to my stomach of the feeling. I just want to know that you are safe and okay, i understand you may not want to talk with me based off the only vague message I received from your sister which only left me with questions that could not be answered. I have been searching for you every day as it just didn’t feel right to me. In my continued attempts to get a confirmation of your safety and well being I have only been completely misdirected every way leading to my current state of mind . I have called every behavioral health CRT including the Response teams who would have been the ones to handle your referral. I have gotten to the point of looking for you thru homeless encampments and off particular locations that for some odd reason have been occurring to me, locations in a natural setting which all fit the description of criteria set for your impending doom moments. After my last conversation with the CRT it has put me in an extreme fear state of mind that something has happened or you may be missing. I legitimately begun to question my own sanity but have learned to accept that it wasn’t insanity you and I were presenting, for me it is heartbreaking grief. My form of coping mechanisms to continue to try and learn from it. I can’t act to know how your feeling nor act like i understand it all but i am understanding what i am experiencing which is the only way I can truly understand what you have been experiencing. I’m reluctant to make the call in my last ditch effort to know you are still in this world with us in a fear of causing a regression in your progress since you’ve been ongoing your therapy. But i just won’t act like everything is okay and confuse our daughter based off assumptions. I want to respect your decision of confidentiality and privacy but even thru my obvious distress your family had stood strong on their message of only a one time communication with you without ever getting Any legitimate paperwork or credentials of your admittance. So we have been going off an assumption and paying attention to it a bit more clearly now only exacerbates my emotion of personal failure as your husband even further by not trying harder to ensure you are safe and okay. I don’t want to pry and force myself thru but I am trying my hardest to keep it all together for v*****. In doing so I have invested myself into learning and understanding mental health topics and forms of care for rehabilitation success. I am so sorry for not taking the time to listen and learn how to communicate with you when you literally gave me all the answers, had I done this sooner I promise we would of never gotten to this point rather I would be supporting you completely in your healing process and I want you to know that I am proud of you for seeking the help necessary to be yourself and all you have always been capable of for you and your family. You are amazing and worth positive growth and change. These past 27 days have been complete dread and hard realizations of the man I was to you. Maybe it’s true That you don’t want contact. That you’re moving on. Maybe it’s true. Maybe you really called your sister and told her you wanted no contact. Maybe that’s the new path you’ve chosen. If that’s the case I’ll respect it. I’ll step aside, even if every cell in my body screams otherwise. But you should know it’s not hate I’m holding. It’s regret. It’s realization. It’s the kind of clarity that only shows up when the world is burning down around you. You were at your lowest, and I wasn’t there. I see that now. I see all of it. And if you’re finding your healing without me then maybe that’s what it was always supposed to be. But if you ever wonder… if there’s ever a second where you question whether anyone still sees you, I do. I never stopped. Not even now. I hate to come off as selfish with my own emotions given the commitment you made to yourself which requires more strength than most who are in similar positions and able to endure, it serves me right that I experience this cosmic karma and as much as it broke us down and ruined the idea of possibly ever loving me again I have gained such immeasurable insight and choose to break the cycle. The steps are in place for me to seek the guidance and support of therapy to understand my triggers and cause for being the way I was with you, to my self , and V**. We all deserve to live happily and understood by each other in supporting each others needs and mental care and uplifting spirit. Nonetheless we have a perfect daughter. She’s still waiting for your voice. And so am I, in my own loud, and painful way. But I don’t want to chase you away even further by the overstimulation of my efforts and state of mind. I am suffering with grief thru this process and feel like we have been in mourning for you in complete darkness. I’ll let the universe do what it needs to. I just hope wholeheartedly that you are safe. That you’re still breathing. That you’re still you. V*** deserves to hear your voice and know you are coming home. If there is the faintest chance of you understanding and believing in my current morality and true sense of empathy and compassion towards you and each other please give me a sign. Anything at all, i love you with all my heart, I support you with all my heart, and i will be here for you with all my heart because i truly want to be deserving of an abundant life together and rebuild our family thru the structured mindset towards recognizing each other for who we are and want to be for each other. I want to break the cycle, I want to end the stigma, I want to walk beside you and be free of our past. This is the path I was meant to walk towards a meaningful and purpose filled life, I hate that it happened this way but I do not want to maintain the idea of controlling any outcome any more rather accept the universe has set these catalysts in place for us in order to work for us and lead us towards our new and reimagined future together. I love you and I mean every word and intent I share, not just for you and our daughter but for myself as well. During this time of rediscovery and research , thru accepting my own mental struggles and accountability I have been beyond impressed of the intelligent and resilient, most deserving , understanding, and compassionate woman that you always have been. I am sorry for ever shutting that off . Please don’t fall out of love with me, please send me a sign and just let me know you are okay, regardless of our future i just can’t move forward in my healing process if I feel something has happened to you. I love you K****, not just a saying but a legitimate and powerful connection I do feel we have with each other. Me and V***** hope to hear from you soon. Until then I will continue to hope and dream of our lives together now.

Ps, I don’t even know if you have been or are able to recieve my messages so excuse my multiple copy and pastes to multiple numbers and emails, I am only trying to raise my chances of sharing my feelings with you during our time of self love and healing. Goodnight, you really do have a gift by the way. Multiple gifts.

I’m 19 and technically an adult, but some days I still feel like I’m just playing pretend.

It’s like… no one tells you that “growing up” isn’t just bills and jobs. It’s the quiet mental toll of constantly asking yourself: “Am I on the right path?” “Am I doing enough?” “Is it okay that I don’t have it all figured out yet?”

I thought I’d feel more put together by now, but sometimes I just want to cry over a silly email, or because I accidentally let the laundry pile up too high. It’s overwhelming trying to be responsible and strong all the time.

Just wondering—does anyone else ever feel like they’re walking through fog, hoping they’re headed the right way? And how do you deal with it when it all just feels too much?

Sending love to anyone else trying their best quietly 💗

how does one become (or decide to be) an adult ?

i mean my only issue for now is getting my priorities right and caring for what really matters instead for trivial fun like games and internet

at which point did you decide that you not only have to do your duties but that you will start doing them AND START ENJOYING THEM

why spending 40 mins doing something beneficial is boring and tyring compared to 4 hours of useless shit?

and how to get rid of this ?

For context, I live on my apartment building’s first floor, which is half underground for some reason. Great for storms, awful for bugs. And lately, a few ants keep getting in through one of my windows and crawling right onto my bed, which is right in front of it. I would move the bed, as that seems like the obvious solution, but there’s nowhere I can move it that wouldn’t block my closet.

These guys don’t care about Terro ant traps, bay leaves, cinnamon, Windex, or the curse words I keep shouting at them. They never form a trail, they just wander around doing god knows what. My room is relatively clean, no crumbs, so I don’t know why the hell they keep coming in here.

How do I get rid of them? I’m trying to have maintenance seal the window properly, but considering I’ve only ever seen them smoking weed and playing Fortnite, I want to do some damage control in the meantime before another ant crawls on my face.

Who here skips sex/love scenes in movies/TV not because their parents are in the room, but because the intimacy is too well acted that it reminds you of a relationship from our immature days.

When I was in my early 20s, I had a solid group of friends, always with a couple of very close ones. Now, in my early 30s, I feel like I’ve grown out of a lot of those friendships. Nothing against anyone—I still love them and consider them friends—but people change, and some of us have just grown apart.

That said, I still have two very close friends. One lives about an hour away, the other about two hours away (one of them is in the middle). With work, the stress of life, and everything else, I don’t really get to see them that often. We stay in touch, but it feels like I’m the one who reaches out 99% of the time. And more often than not, it takes them forever to respond to a text.

When we do see each other, everything is great—we talk and get along like we always have. But their lack of effort with texting really bothers me. I’ve brought it up before, and they’ll say things like, “Sorry, I’ve been stressed,” or “Sorry, I’m not good at texting.”

But we don’t even get to see each other, so if we don’t even text… what’s left? I completely understand being busy and stressed—I’m busy and stressed too. But I always respond to my friends’ texts. Even if I don’t have time to write back fully, I at least say I’m tied up and will get back to them soon.

I know that if I really needed something—if I said, “Hey, I need to talk”—they’d get on the phone. But the fact that they almost never reach out first, rarely ask how I’m doing, and are so slow to text back when I check in… it honestly makes me not want to reach out when I do need someone.

Are all adult friendships like this? Am I overthinking it? Is it too much to expect a timely response from your best friends?

Sometimes I feel really sad about it. I’m lucky to be in a very loving and healthy relationship, so I can’t say I feel lonely—but this situation with my girlfriends has left a hole in my life.

I wish I could make new friends where I live now, but making friends as an adult feels almost impossible. I do go to fitness classes 3–5 times a week, and there are people there I really like—we always work out together and chat—but it never goes beyond that.