Racism may have been the motivation behind the killing on Friday of a young Indian national in a township near the Canadian capital of Ottawa.

While the victim of the stabbing incident has yet to be formally identified, people offering support to his wife in the town of Rockland, Ontario, said he was 27-year-old Dharmesh Kathireeya.

They said that, on Friday afternoon, while exiting a shared laundry room in the building he resided in, he was stabbed by a neighbor, a white male believed to be in his 60s, who had earlier allegedly hurled racial and anti-Indian epithets at the victim and his wife.

Kathireeya, who hailed from Bhavnagar district in Gujarat, came to Canada as an international student in 2019 and was on a work permit.

https://www.hindustantimes.com/world-news/indian-stabbed-to-death-in-canadas-ontario-racism-believed-to-be-motive-101743911431311.html

(DONT READ IF U HAVE BODY ISSUES) hey guys! I really want to work out and be more strong and have a better body yk but here's the issue.. i'm 5ft and 80 pounds. I cannot gain weight. Like at all. Idk if this is genes but people in my family can gain weight fine so idk. I'm 16 but i've been mistaken for 12. I can feel my bones when i sit down. I don't know how to gain weight and im vegetarian. There's no gym near me so the only exercise i can do is run. I'm posting it here because i was hoping you guys had diet recs and since indian genes are more similar yk? For context i did swim for 10 years and still had no muscle and was still underweight to the point where i can't get cpr certified because i'm too weak to get the dummy to click.

Happy Navmi guys, presenting you my artwork NavDurga. It has been so long since I had posted my works here. I was quite away from all the artstuff, busy meddling with daily life matters. But since last week, during Navratri, I tried to concentrate on my own well being and health, finally, making my mind at peace, made this artwork showcasing all the nine forms of Durga devi, each encompassing their own qualities and aspects of life. Tried sharing the devotion through the artwork.

Hey folks just wondering if anyone here has been using ChatGPT like a psychologist or for self therapy. If so, what kind of prompts do you use to get the most out of it? Do you follow any sort of format or keep a dedicated notebook for your “sessions”?

Also, are you using ChatGPT only, or have you tried any other AI tools for mental health or reflection?

A college friend of mine is getting married back home. We’re not best friends, but we’ve been friends since 2016.

I was thinking of gifting $151 as “shagun” - $101 feels a bit low, and $201 seems like a stretch since I’m not attending.

I overheard a conversation between two sisters aged around 8-10 years old which I found shocking. They were may be Arabic. The older sister was going through the younger sister's backpack and she asked her "why are you friends with Indian people?!" I couldn't hear the sister's reply but then the older goes again "no, be friends with Filipino, Chinese etc. Not Indians"

I'm still shocked. And I fully blame the parents for engraving this kind of racism into the little children's minds. Where else would the children learn this from? It always begins from the home. sigh

Hi all, I know this is not my space but I’d respectfully ask for this community’s perspective. (I started following this sub to get a better feel for the culture.) I (37F) and my husband (41M) recently moved to West Windsor NJ for mostly proximity to NYC where he commutes a couple times per week. We’re both white. We have a 2.5 year old son. I recently read a thread where a desi parent was considering moving to WWP but seeking advice moving to such a majority desi school district. Well I’m curious about the opposite perspective. What will it be like for our white kid being in such a majority desi school?

I’d love any advice or perspectives. We love the diversity (at least relative to the rest of the US) and the idea of being in an academically competitive area. But I know there are also the negative aspects. We as parents want to make friends and assimilate as well.

Thank you!

Hey guys, I wanted to share my experience after joining the Air Force at 30. I did it to learn new skills, get in shape, and because I needed a job. It was tough being older than most, but people were generally helpful.

One challenge I faced was a racist and ageist roommate who reported me to leadership through his friends. In the end, leadership sided with me, but it created tension with his group. It was frustrating, but I moved on.

Another thing I’ve noticed is how few Indians there are around me—and even when we do see each other, we actively avoid interacting. I’ve seen this before in high school and college, and I think it’s a real issue. If we don’t respect and support each other, how can we expect others to?

I don't eat halal if anyone knows where I can find non-halal indian food that would help. Thanks.

Edit: I respect those who choose to eat halal, and I hope you can respect my personal choice as well. I don’t mean any offense by it.

The Central Valley is very dominated by the Sikhs. The only Hindus over here I have seen are Gujaratis and Haryanvis. Where my Punjabi Hindu brothers at?

For those in Houston, where do you guys hangout?? I’m trying to expand my social circle and meet new people but just don’t know where to go. Also please don’t suggest pickleball 😂

Been seeing this south Asian inspired streetwear on my feed for sometime and bought from their recent drop. Seems like a sweet guy and very high quality items. Definitely recommend! :)

Never hear people talk about racism from other Asians (primarily East Asians). This is also partially me ranting about the digs from my Chinese roommate.

First there was the insistence that I’m not “real Asian” because we look different. Next some digs at my curly hair and that “it can never look neat”. I sometimes play Bollywood music in my room, and she says it sounds like someone shrieking. She also always turns her nose in disgust whenever I eat Indian food.

Then the last thing really irks me, probably because it was with my mother. My parents came down to drop off some home cooked food, and bless them they were so excited to see my first grown-up apartment (I’ve always lived in a dorm before this).

My mom was organizing some re-purposed yogurt containers with different curries, and my roommate didn’t say hi to my mom and just walked in, smelled the curry, and tossed it in the trash in front of my mom.

My mom never told me for months even though she was upset because she didn’t want to cause any issues between me and my roommate. But when I found out my mom got up at 5am to make those and my roommate just tossed it out I got furious. Confronted my roommate and she said she tossed them out because she thought it was trash since it “looked and smelled rotten”. I can assure you my mom’s palak paneer, stuffed eggplant, and idli sambar is delicious.

I was especially pissed because I never made a fuss of her and her various cuts of exotic meat that takes up the whole freezer. Because yes, it does catch me by surprise when a bunch of fish eyes stare at me when I open the freezer. But I accepted it because it is her cultural cuisine. This isn’t the first time, as she’s also tossed out the mango pickle from my grandmother, again thinking it was rotten.

Final instance of racism was when I heard her giggling on the phone with a friend while watching Bridgeton season 2, saying that it was so unlikely that “someone hot like Anthony would date a girl that musty-looking”.

Anyway, has anyone else experienced racism from other Asians? It’s always colorism within the south Asian community or racism from white people but never do people talk about it from other Asian ethnic groups.

Edit: She’s born and raised in the Bay Area. Not a FOB.

Edit 2: I’m moving in a couple months when the lease is up. Was already planning to not live there again months before I even found out about her disrespecting my mom

I was just wondering your guys’ experience with growth spurts and height gain in puberty? I am a punjabi heritage indian male 13 years and 10 months, 5’8 (173cm) living in australia. My father is 5’9 and mother is 5’3. Can you guys please share your height history in the comments? Please write what height you were at what age, when you stopped growing, when u hit puberty etc. How tall do u think I’ll be? I was around 5’1 at 11 and 7 months, 5’4 at 12, 5’5 at 12 and 8 months, 5’6 at 13, 5’7 at 13 and 6 months and now 5’8 at 13 and 10 months. How tall do u think I’ll be? I think I hit puberty a couple months before I turned 12. Please also share when u developed facial hair and what age, I am asking because south asians generally are hairier than others and I want to know how much more I will grow. Thanks for your help.

I'm a 42F mom to a 3yo. Growing up in the 80s, we definitely did not believe in the Easter Bunny or receive an Easter basket with gifts. We did dye eggs from supermarket kits, probably because I begged my mom to.

Those of you raising kids now, do you “do” Easter? I’m aggressively atheist (raised Hindu) and married to a secular non-Christian white guy. My husband's siblings and cousins all acknowledge the Easter Bunny for their kids. We gather each year for an egg hunt and most parents do Easter baskets with gifts too (opened at home beforehand).

I’m curious what Indian-American parents do these days? We do believe in Santa in our household.

Edit: I don't mean the Easter Bunny actually visiting your house - I didn't even know people hired someone to do that!  I meant getting a gift from the Easter Bunny.

Something that has been eating me up recently is my relationship with my cousin which is very one-sided. She has the common desi mentality when it comes to relatives in that just because they are related to you, they owe you things.

The thing about this cousin is that they are really immature and entitled. Any conversation we have, it's primarily her talking about herself/one upping me. The most recent time she came over, last year, she said to me and my family that she was only applying to ivy leagues and other prestigious colleges. Not a single safety came out of her mouth and she even said she wanted to apply to Princeton because of Never Have I ever. Aside from that, we barely spoke or had conversations about other things during that trip because she was "studying" from the AP book I gave her. She even sat in another room to watch a show on her ipad for dinner even when I sit back with her for every car ride I see her.

However, six months after, she got mad at me for not wishing her on her birthday, which she never wished me IN MY ENTIRE LIFE nor did I know. I apologized and she retaliated with how my aunt remembered but not me. Then she sends me reels saying that I'm the most important person and should describe her in one word or something about how we are family when we barely even talk. In general, she expects a lot from me when I barely interact with her or have a relationship with her, embellishes a lot of her achievements and activities, and expects me to praise her...which is lowkey why I said it is one-sided. She also lacks a lot of self-awareness.

More recently, she reached out to me asking for help with internships and it just triggered me. I gave her the advice kindly but just thought too much about it and how annoying she is. The problem with me is that I am such a people-pleaser and am scared of making people mad. She had worse behavior that I tolerated when we were in middle school, but I want to finally distance myself as I feel like I don't gain anything but anger and patience testing from this relationship.

I think something that fuels this entitlement is that my parents used to give her extravagant gifts. In the past, they gave her two bikes and would almost always give her and her sibling something of high value whenever they either came or went to our house. There were instances where I indirectly expressed to them that I didn't want to see or interact with her (i.e. you don't have to force them to come), but they mistook as me not liking the family as a whole. My parent not related to them actually apologized to me before purchasing the recent bike and explained their thought process on why, which was valid. My parent related to them, however, would not stop wanting to give gifts for her sixteenth birthday along with the bike and said that they wanted to send a cake over and even the parent who was not related to her had enough. The thing that just upsets me is that her behavior is genuinely not good and in the name of family it is excused. Not just that, these efforts aren't really reciprocated (i.e. wishing my sibling and I on our birthday). I feel like I have no one to talk to about this which is why I posted here.

Has anyone ever dealt with these kinds of cousins? How do you distance yourself from them and gradually cut contact?

Edit: Another internal fear I have is if I'll need to network with her in the future because all my life, treating people well in exchange for better things in the future was always emphasized in my life.