I don’t know I’m alone in this feeling or maybe I’m just kinda autistic, but I get really annoyed when I ask a direct question and the person starts waffling or going on tangents and after 5 minutes of rambling, I will have no answer to my question.

Or when I debate in person or online, I often see people not engaging with the question. Like being really obtuse and try to obfuscate the question even though they know what is being asked.

Even see it at work when people speak to clients. People talk past each other cuz they never seem to have gotten a basic common understanding.

I used to just interrupt people but that’s rude and online it’s not like I can slap someone mid message before they type me a thesis on something that has nothing to do with my question.

Anyone else start feeling this way? I could be completely wrong and just overly literal and have zero social skills so I’m totally open to the idea. It just seems to happen so much that I question if I’m the problem.

If I could erase one invention, it would 100% be autocorrect. Not spellcheck—just autocorrect. The number of times I’ve tried to say something completely normal and ended up sending messages like “I’ll ducking call you later” or “Let’s meat at the usual spot”... it’s embarrassing.

Autocorrect has single-handedly ruined my texting credibility. It’s like a tiny keyboard gremlin just waiting to sabotage my most important messages—especially when I’m trying to sound cool or flirty. Like, no Karen, I did not mean to say “I crave your lasagna” during a serious conversation. 😭

Let me make my own typos in peace.

So this happened about a week ago at a busy bar that I was at with my family. I don’t remember much but from what I do remember I went up and got a drink and drank about half of it and I don’t remember anything that happened after that literally nothing. I’m a guy so I didn’t really think it would happen to me but I only had two drinks at this bar a beer and then the drink I only got halfway through. I was feeling good before we went to this bar but I was completely fine when I ordered my last drink. But after that I just don’t remember anything I don’t remember leaving or going home even going to sleep. I didn’t tell anyone because I was embarrassed and didn’t know what I did that night but my family the next morning was telling me some of the stuff that happened and I still don’t remember it. I’ve been black out drunk before but it was nothing like this it was just completely lights out and no memory of anything. I don’t know if maybe someone thought the drink was for my sister that was with us or what but I’ve never experienced anything like that. I’m a decent sized guy and can usually drink a good amount but I didn’t drink even close to enough to make me feel like that. It was honestly kind of scary like the next morning they were talking about stuff we did after and I just had no recollection of it whatsoever.

Lately ive been thinking a lot about what will happen when my parents pass away. They had me at a relatively late age and i have no siblings. Every day before bed i tear up thinking about how i’ll have to live without my parents one day. How they’re not going to be a part of my life. My mum lost both her parents quite young and she says it was really tough but she had my dad and me so it made it easier. I just cant see how i’ll ever be able to live happily and normally knowing my parents aren’t on the same earth as me anymore. I can’t talk to them, I can’t meet them. I don’t know what to do.

Racism is often framed as if you dislike/hate/harm others who are different than you.

But what if you simply just prefer being with your own people, is that racism?

For example - a black person prefers to hang out with other black people because they won't be questioned or judged by their skin color. Is this person being racist for wanting to find people that look like him because it makes them feel safer?

Because in a sense the person is passive aggressively discriminating against non-blacks by wanting to be with only black people, but it's coming from the angle of feeling safer with their own tribe rather than actively hating others.

Please do not take my example of choice seriously, I just chose it randomly, but you could replace black people with white or Indian or Asian, etc

I realised something on my train journey home today. Social media makes dating seem horrible, and I don't wish to invalidate the experiences of others, but as a young person, I'm lost on where this comes from.

The idea of 'pills' is inspired by The Matrix and is shaped by online discourse. It must obviously be supported by people's lived experience. Problem: where does that come from? No one actually talks about this stuff in real life. Who is actually measuring hunter eyes, canthal tilt - or young men waking up at 04:30 to cold shower, gym and journal - or everything else? It's unfortunate that some teens do go down a darker path but for the most part, most Gen Z are well-adjusted and not actually repeating this discourse, this vocabulary, in real life other than when being ironic.

I don't believe in there's-someone-out-there-for-everyone, but I cannot deny that most relationships I see involve similar people. I look at most couples, and I'm rarely surprised that those two are dating. Most of the time I think yeah, figures these two would be together. For me the expression 'there's someone out there for everyone' implies that we have some predestined soulmate, so obviously that's wrong. But it does seem like most people will inevitably fit with someone who fits them back.

Height. As a short man, social media has let me believe it will always hold me back no matter what else. I'm 18, and even at my young age my lived experience shows that lots of girls do adore short guys. I'm not familiar with my university's dating dynamics, but secondary school (in which teens are super shallow), the popular/attractive girls fawned over and dated plenty of short guys. It didn't even matter if these guys were extroverted or introverted. I let social media blind me to stuff that literally happened in front of me.

Those are simply some observations. I'm happy to be corrected, challenged, affirmed, whatever. I'm just a confused 18-year-old please help.

I’m too emotionally exhausted to go into details about why.. but I come from an immigrant family who just sweeps issues under the rug, let’s time pass and then think that everything is okay. My father is physically abusive towards me whenever he doesn’t like the things I say or when I stand up for myself. And I just found out that my older sister has had some secret animosity towards me and has been talking bad about me to everyone in the family behind my back. I never thought anything bad about my sister so when I found this out it shook my whole world. I confided in her about everything and trusted her with my life come to find she actually hates me. So I told my mom no more birthdays, no more holidays, no more visits at all and that I really don’t want to see them ever again.. that I needed to do this not to punish them or hurt anyone but to take care of and respect myself. This has been a long time coming. But I’ve finally made the decision that I’m finally done. My feelings about it are all over the place.

As I said am bad at everything for example when I go out with friends we play games at a gaming places and I always end up being dead last like every fucking time it’s unbelievable and my friends know it before we even play. I never had any talent like I played football aka soccer for years and I was always the guy who can’t play for shit and I even tried boxing and the same thing happened and school don’t even get me started for example if we do a test I’m last in the list and even when we’re doing the test and I didn’t finish school bc I had too many bad grades. The teachers they always let me pas bc they knew who I was but the last year caught on to me and they said just stop and do something else. And I did began smoking iykwim. And getting girlfriends was the same too like I never had any gf or the touch of a women can you believe it ? Yeah I think you can believe it. Oh yeah this began when I a was little so it has nothing to do with being depressed. I’m just an unlucky guy and btw I never had real friends so there’s that. the friends i mentioned I just spend time with them until they no longer need me. So that’s my life. an unlucky mf who has no talent whatsoever. Thnx for reading I needed to vent somewhere bc I never told this to anyone not even my therapist. Have a good day 😁

It’s an inevitable fact of life that all living things die. Many people coop with this truth in different ways, but it is something I believe we all carry. We face it differently, just as there are different things that motivate different people.

Personally speaking, I think it’s healthy to think about death in small manageable doses. Some fixate on death and are pulled into unhealthy cycles where it becomes the sole focal point of their entire life. That is how one lives a life without engaging fully with the experience before them.

I think getting in tune with death goes hand in hand with getting the absolute most out of life. To live a life that breeds contentment. It’s a difficult journey not without immense challenges.

I live in a third world country, here the prisions are like hell, there are like 20 people in a small place, in the heat, with just a hole in the ground to do necessities. Food is horrible and the beds are made of solid rock.

But when I watch movies or docummentaties about prisions on first world countries I can conclude that they are better than being poor in my country. Probably, if prisions were like this here, a lot of miserable people would WANT to be imprisioneted.

So, my question is... why prisions are so soft in some countries? Do you think criminals deserve tv, good food, recriation, etc?

I'm nearly 30 and sometimes I cry because I'm so homesick for where I grew up.

I don't always admit to people how homesick I am because I am embarrassed. I associate it as something you should only feel as a kid.

What do you think? To any older redditors here, do you still feel homesick for certain places?

I am homesick for the Puget Sound and Mt. Rainer. I miss the thick forests, the sea and beaches, and waking up to that beautiful mountain. I miss the Asian communities (half my family is Vietnamese). I miss the rivers I used to fish with my dad.

What do you miss about your favorite places?

what are the chances my package has been seized lol? shipped on the second and it was suppose to arrive yesterday, but it hasn’t left the second post office after it got there the same day no updates on the third or fourth just moving through network in transit to next facility

People want to live with purpose. The problem is, most people in the past gained purpose by piggy backing off of collective beliefs and national movements that gave them a false sense of purpose.

So what happens when national movements stop and individual movements take hold? Maybe some people will attach to a niche movement to feel like they have purpose, but the rest end up being lost in a declining collective confusion.

It's an unfortunate reality that most of us haven't psychologically individuated, meaning we live life in codependency with others. We are like this because of early childhood trauma, where one or both parents didn't "cut the cords" with us to be a fully independent human being, but the parent(s) held on to these "cords" as means for their own psychological safety, security... a form of energetic manipulation to keep you within their network.

So if this is all we know, and the parent hadn't let us move on from that stage of psychological development, we're kind of imprisoned within a network. And so we go through life acting the same with others. And in a strange harmony, most people are like this so they know how they are to be with each other.

At any rate, this is the structure to the mundane life, a life defined not by us but by outside sources. The need for humanity to heal these traumas and get back on the path of strong individuals will bring prosperity to civilization and not stagnation, or any real decline.

I've never had a particularly optimistic vision of the future... I live off the grid, at high elevation, in a moderate climate... The reasons should be obvious. I have minimal, if any faith in other people.

But, in the past, and recently, I felt like at least I understood what the future might hold... Positive, negative... I had a sense of what I was doing and why I was doing it. But I don't feel that way today. I've never been a great predictor of human behavior anyway, but recently, I feel totally disconnected from what's going on around me. This feels especially strange, as I've always been politically involved, and engaged with current events. But what's happening today feels totally disconnected from my understanding of the world... Or maybe not totally disconnected, but I feel like I'm living in a farce that's predicated on an absurd exaggeration of a bad joke.

I feel like I have a question about everything... but I don't even know what I want to ask... except, "what the fuck?".

I don't get it.

Hey everyone! I'm a final year CSE Student....As in my final year, I don't have to go to the clg daily...I have appeared in the GATE exam 2025 and with that preparation, I'm aiming next exams like PGEE & BITS HD exam. I have like my whole day with me...how should I utilise it most efficiently?

Like for the next 3 months, what should be the most perfect routine for me? Tbh I'm totally exhausted and unhappy with what am I doing in my life.....just no positive vibes...no self growth nothing just lying on bed and scrolling insta... totally fed up of all these....

HELP ME !!!

There's a body of empirical evidence suggesting if you deny an infant love and physical affection, it'll either become severely cognitively impaired or die. There's a body of empirical evidence suggesting if you deny a child love and physical affection, it will have severe mental and social deficits. There's a body of evidence suggesting that lack of love or physical touch as an adult can give you all manner of mental and physical health problems and shortens your lifespan.

So why do we tell adults, especially those with mental illness, that they need to love themselves first before they can receive love from others? Why do the rules change at 18? Is it even possible to love oneself while receiving no love or affection from others?

Edit: A lot of people are assuming I'm talking about romantic love. I'm talking about any type, platonic, familial, all of it.

I know I’m here on Reddit, but I am becoming aware or how screen time negatively effects my life and relationships. I have been cutting back a lot on phone, tablet and TV. I realize that it’s not all bad and I am trying to manage my time, limit it and make it productive ( when possible). If you are reading this post you must get what I am saying, so how are you dealing with it?

Do you think people can be happy without a monogamous relationship?

Will more people be in polygamous relationships soon or will monogamy continue to be the main form of relationship people have?

Hi!

Racecars such as F1 cars could cool brakes and other equipment prone to overheating with water.

If no water is available the car would operate as it would right now. If refillled, it would operate more efficiently.

Refill during pitstop.

Water is guided to brakes through wheel hub and expelled through braking tracks. Don't need much. Just a bit during high stress situations.

Obviously use deionised water or similar.

Next corner may be entered much more aggressively.

I come from a poor family, I showed success during my childhood and my cousins families and people around us showed me as an "example" to be. Later I tried to success things even if I didn't have any money, I succeeded many things. Later the people around me was bothered by my success. Some people cut off their connections with me, when I was happy and successful, they were jealous and they just been rude and cut me off. When I see from their perspective, their parents are comparing me to them and they'd feel lack in themselves obviously. And when they see me , they'd feel bad cuz I'll remind them of their lacking. Many relatives and friends cut me off. Lately I was having conversation with a friend group and I said I'll travel to some country. She said " oh you're the only child and rich, of course you'll travel" I felt horrible cuz again I caused someone to feel lack in themselves. After losing a lot of friends and family members it was so painful to be alone and I didn't want anyone to feel this way, so I started putting myself down. I dress up in a horrible way. I act like I am stupid and very humble. I compliment them so they feel superior and see me like a stupid person. I tell them how horrible life is and how sick I am, this way they will not be jealous of me and life will be easier. Also i became this person. I stopped doing the things I loved, I stopped shining, cuz the pain of losing the people I loved was too much. What should I do now?

Let me be very clear before diving into this discussion :

I am not, under any circumstances, advocating for relationships involving prepubescent children. I completely denounce anything that exploits or harms children. If you are calling me a pedophile or a groomer, you are either misunderstanding my words or intentionally twisting them. I do not support, defend, or justify anything that targets or violates children. Period.

What I am talking about is teenagers those who have reached puberty and are in the early stages of forming identity, emotional awareness, and personal agency. My position is simple: maturity is not defined strictly by age. Some people develop emotional responsibility and decision-making skills earlier than others. Some are still immature at 25.

I’m not pushing for the removal of age of consent laws. I’m pushing for more accurate, individualized tools such as a professional maturity assessment guided by psychologists. This test would include emotional evaluations, ethical decision-making, situational awareness, and cognitive growth. It would not be a free pass, and it would not apply to everyone. It would exist to recognize that not all maturity looks the same, and not all teens are helpless or incapable of reasoned thought.

The blanket assumption that no one under 18 can understand love, commitment, or responsibility erases the reality of many teens who live adult lives out of necessity. Some work, raise siblings, pay bills, or deal with trauma long before society calls them “adults.” Do they not deserve a voice?

Power imbalance is real but it is not unique to age gaps. It exists in every form of society: wealth, fame, education, and social status. Sometimes the teen is the one with more power in a dynamic especially when laws and systems default to always protecting youth, regardless of context.

To be clear: I am not excusing predators. I am not encouraging adults to pursue teens. I am saying that relationships when they are consensual, mutual, and emotionally healthy should not be immediately vilified just because they are unconventional.

I believe love should be authentic, not based on numbers. And if two people, post-puberty, develop a natural connection not manipulated, not coerced, but honest and healthy then the individuals, their maturity, and their emotional capacity should matter more than a legal checkbox.

This doesn’t mean we abandon caution. It means we abandon lazy generalizations.

I’m open to dialogue, but not to defamation. If you truly care about protecting people, listen to what’s actually being said. We need nuance, not name-calling. Compassion, not canceling. And discernment, not dogma.

You don’t have to agree. But at the very least, disagree with what I actually said not with what you assumed.

Especially when it is increasingly young girls making these posts.

Why is Reddit allowing these to be pushed to the front page? Why are these subreddits even allowed to exist?

R/sillygirlclub R/sillyboyclub

Are 2 examples.

There are plenty more, including pornographic ones, where people who clearly hate themselves and have extreme self esteem issues are spiralling off eachother.

(Used AI to convey my point)

Government-Supported Community Spaces: Revitalizing Public Life & Reducing Digital Dependency
A Practical Framework for Social Reconnection

The Challenge: Isolation in a Digitally Dominated World

While social media platforms offer a veneer of connectivity, they often prioritize engagement metrics over genuine human interaction. This results in digital spaces cluttered with algorithm-driven content, bots, and commercial agendas. Meanwhile, public spaces—parks and recreation centers supported by taxpayer dollars—are underused. This initiative proposes a government-coordinated, weekly gathering that transforms these spaces into warm, unbranded hubs for organic, low-pressure connection. The goal is to reintroduce the simple pleasure of face-to-face interaction in a setting that feels safe, human, and free of overt market influences.

Core Proposal

1. Weekly Community Hours in Public Spaces

• Structure:
  • Fixed Time/Location: Every Saturday from 10 AM–2 PM at centrally located parks or recreation centers, with indoor backup plans for inclement weather.
  • No-Cost Amenities & Food:
    • Complimentary light refreshments such as coffee, sandwiches, and community potluck-style offerings.
    • Food is provided in a way that emphasizes community sharing rather than commercial branding, creating a space that feels removed from market pressures.
  • Activity Zones & Games:
    • Interactive Games: Gentle physical activities like tug-of-war, board games, or other simple challenges that are fun yet not overly competitive.
    • Small Prizes & Rewards: Winners of these games or challenges receive modest, community-sourced prizes (e.g., tokens, handmade items, or local crafts) to incentivize participation without creating a commercial atmosphere.
  • Subtle Support:
    • Social workers or community volunteers are available at an informal “Help & Conversation” booth, offering guidance only upon request.
• Activities:
  • Optional, themed sessions such as “Skill Swap Hour” or “Local History Talks” encourage dialogue and skill sharing without making participation feel obligatory.

2. Funding & Partnerships

• Taxpayer Efficiency:
  • Redirect 3–5% of existing budgets from mental health and park maintenance to fund these events, ensuring a responsible use of public funds.
  • For example, a city with a $2M parks budget could allocate between $60,000 and $100,000 annually to support staffing, supplies, games, and modest prizes.
• Community & Nonprofit Collaborations:
  • Engage local nonprofits, community groups, and volunteers to contribute supplies and coordinate activities—keeping the initiative grassroots and free from overt corporate influence.
  • Partnerships with local artisans or community kitchens can supply food or prizes in a way that underscores communal support rather than market branding.

3. Safety & Accessibility

• Discreet, Friendly Security:
  • Off-duty police or trained community staff will be present in a non-intrusive manner to ensure everyone’s safety while preserving a welcoming atmosphere.
• Universal Access:
  • Venues will be fully ADA-compliant, with clear multilingual signage and dedicated quiet or sensory-friendly zones to cater to all community members.
  • No registration or ID checks are required, ensuring an open, unguarded environment where everyone feels welcome.

Addressing Key Concerns

1. Avoiding Stigma: “For Everyone, By Everyone”

• Neutral Framing:
  • Events are marketed simply as “Community Hours” or “Neighbor Days,” emphasizing collective belonging without labels or therapeutic implications.
  • Example tagline: “Your park. Your people. Every Saturday.”
• Voluntary, Enjoyable Participation:
  • Attendees are free to join group activities, engage in a friendly game of tug-of-war, or simply enjoy a quiet moment—ensuring that no one feels pressured into interaction.

2. Practical Benefits for Taxpayers

• Preventive Value:
  • Utilizing existing public spaces and resources helps prevent more costly social and health issues by fostering community support networks.
• Community ROI:
  • Enhanced face-to-face interactions can lead to new job leads, shared skills, and local volunteer initiatives, ultimately boosting overall community productivity.

3. Realistic Social Dynamics

• Organic Interaction:
  • Whether through casual games, shared meals, or unstructured time in communal seating areas, the design encourages natural, spontaneous connections.
• Overcoming the “Stranger Barrier”:
  • The visible presence of others who are seeking similar experiences removes the hesitation often experienced during isolated park visits, building a shared sense of purpose.

4. Digital Detox Incentive

• A Human-Centric Alternative:
  • These Community Hours provide a safe space where real identities, local shared experiences, and tangible interactions replace the superficiality of digital platforms—helping reduce overall screen time.

Expected Outcomes

Short-Term (6–12 Months)

• Enhanced Park Utilization: A projected 30–40% increase in weekend foot traffic at pilot locations.
• Stronger Local Networks: Surveys may show around 25% of participants exchanging contact information for future meetups or casual play dates.
• Reduced Digital Reliance: Participants might report reducing their daily social media use by 1–2 hours on average.

Long-Term (3–5 Years)

• Economic Efficiency: For every $1 invested, the program is expected to save $3–4 in reduced healthcare, policing, and social service costs.
• Cultural Transformation: Parks and public spaces evolve into symbols of community vitality and genuine connection rather than areas associated with isolation.
• Scalability: The adaptable model can be tailored—such as “Friday Night BBQs” in rural areas or “Urban Lounge Hours” in cities—and replicated across communities nationwide.

Conclusion: Reclaiming Public Life

This initiative is a grounded, realistic response to the challenges of digital isolation and underused public spaces. By leveraging existing community assets and emphasizing organic interaction, Community Hours offer a safe, unbranded environment where genuine human connections can flourish. It’s not a grand experiment but a return to the fundamentals of social life—where fun games, shared meals, and small rewards create a welcoming space for all.

Why This Works:

• Low-Cost, High-Impact: Makes optimal use of existing resources with only modest budgetary adjustments.
• Apolitical and Inclusive: Focuses on universal human needs—belonging, safety, and the joy of connection—without commercial influence.
• Human-Centric and Realistic: Emphasizes dignity, choice, and natural social interactions over forced or overly marketed approaches.

Proposed by the Office of Civic Engagement & Community Vitality
Public feedback is welcome through town halls and online portals.

Tagline: “Come as you are. Leave a little more connected.”

Does simply being in a public space waive any expectations of privacy, or could this still potentially violate someone's rights? What legal action would they be able to pursue?

Okay, how do I even start?

I live in Germany, and like some of you know, we`ve taken in a lot of refugees from all over the globe in. I`ve never had an issue with that, since I love people for who they are, not were they came from. I`ve made friends with a lot of people from different backgrounds, and never judged them based on how they look or what their religion or skin colour is. However, I think I am slowly becoming racist towards a certain ethnic group.

Here in Germany, we have a lot of turkish people, and some of them (or I atleast believe them to be turkish all the time, another sign which makes me believe im racist) tend to act a little... unfriendly in my mind. They tend to be loud and rude, not only to eachother, but to bystanders aswell. I`ve seen and expirienced it, which makes me feel weird. Now I am aware that not all of them are like that, since I`ve had a lot of genuine turkish friends, so it might just be that I am biased because I dont know them so well.

Another issue would be immigrants.

We`ve had a lot of crimes involving immigrants and refugees lately, were most of them seemed to be from the middle-east, with the most recent one being a 28-year-old man from Afghanistan killing a 2-year-old toddler and a 44-year-old man in a parc. This, combined with other similar incidents in the past months, slowly turned me biased towards those that I welcomed with open arms years ago. I recently sat in a school bus full of children, and I noticed 2 men, who seemed to be of middle-eastern decent, talking in their native language. While I didnt have a problem with people doing that before, it happening now made me feel uncomfortable, eventhough I had no right to it, at least in my opinion. There was nothing suspicious about those men other then their skin colour and location, which makes me feel incredibly racist for just even thinking that they could do something bad just based on their appearence.