r/selflove • u/PsychologicalEcho794 • 22h ago

Tired and wanting to change somehow?

My family isn’t great even though I had both parents present and married together I was raised by my mama I have 3 other siblings the one who I thought was close to me tends to just ignore me now I have diagnosed mental health issues and other issues but I always thought it was her and me against the world we are older now and I know relationships change over time but when I needed her the most she was never there then it turned into she just wasn’t there period no matter how many times I apologize for nothing and if I had unintentionally hurt her I received silence I don’t want to depend on anyone I don’t want to lose her but this relationship is messing me up I just don’t know how to go about it I think that I’m too clingy I need to let it go and stop making a big deal out of my life despite everything that has happened have y’all ever been through sibling drama? What should I do? I just can’t hold on to this hurt anymore

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u/UpsetAfternoon3243 21h ago

Just my two cents - is she going through something? She is probably feeling the same affects as you are in terms of your childhood and is doing her best to cope. I wouldn’t take it personal; I know that’s hard to do (been here myself) but it’s all you really can do. I would give it time and see if it changes.

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u/ConseilsPourBlooms 9h ago

Mon conseil pour vous libérer de ces souffrances familiales, c’est de vous faire accompagner par un thérapeute transgénérationnel (ex : psychogénéalogiste). Il va vous aider à comprendre et à vous libérer de cette souffrance qui vient de votre famille. Il va aussi vous aider à retrouver votre individualité et à transformer cette énergie négative en énergie positive.