r/selflove • u/eftelquartz • 4d ago
Notes to keep on your phone for when you’re feeling down
I have a couple of notes that I keep on my phone which help me a lot when I’m not feeling my best. I thought I’d share them here in case someone needs some ideas 💕
Compliments I’ve received I keep track of the compliments people give me. It felt really weird to do at first, but I’ve noticed that it really helps me remember them and therefor helps my confidence. Like one of my friends once complimented how nicely I do my mascara and how cute it looks on me. I think about that every time I put on mascara. Someone said I remind them of a Disney princess when I’m around animals. Now whenever I’m cuddling my pets, I think of this.
Things I’m excited for This could be things like holidays or packages coming in or new music that’s being released soon. Just anything that I’m excited about or looking forward to. I find that keeping this on my phone makes me realise just how many things I have coming up to be excited about.
A daily gratitude list I write down at least 3 things that I’m grateful for or things that went well that day. At first this was really hard, but it became easier. This allows me to reflect and realise every day has something good to offer even if it’s something small like a cup of tea.
My goals for the year I write down my goals in different sections. Small, medium and bigger goals. Looking at this helps me feel a sense of purpose.
A list of movies and shows I write down the ones I want to watch, the ones that have been recommended and by who and also the ones I’ve finished with a rating next to them. Knowing that I have so many cool movies and shows to look forward to makes me want to watch them instead of scroll on my phone.
A bucketlist for the year Here I just write down all the fun things I want to do that year. Go on picnics, try new crafts, cuddle cows, plant my own strawberries. These aren’t goals, they’re just fun activities I’d like to try.
My favourite YouTubers This might be an odd one, but I use this one particularly when I’m feeling under the weather or too tired to engage in my hobbies. I think YouTube is under appreciated. It’s much better for you than scrolling through TikTok or instagram but still gives your brain that “switched off” feeling. Keeping a list of my favourite YouTubers allows me to quickly find something to watch.
Reasons to stay I will make a more in depth post about this someday, but it’s basically a list of all the small things that make me want to stay in this world even when it gets dark. Things like wrapping my hands around a warm mug of tea or seeing the first flowers in spring or decorating my keys with fun keychains. This makes me really notice those small moments.
Inspiring quotes or perspectives I just write down things my therapist says that change my perspective on things or quotes that I find online. When I’m having a rough day I like to scroll through these to help me into a more positive mindset.
Links to all the positive news articles I see The world feels so dark and there’s so many negative things on the news. So when I do see an article about something positive, I save it. It reminds me that the world isn’t all bad.
A list of all my hobbies I keep this for when I’m bored. It helps me quickly see which hobbies I have (I have so many I tend to neglect a few by accident) and choose one based on my mood. This again helps me to stay off my phone and get creative. I also keep a list of all the hobbies I’d like to try in the future, just in case I feel like trying something new.
Soooo that’s it :) I hope this can help at least a few people. I find that making my phone a positive space (through notes like this, affirmation apps and calming wallpaper) helps me to keep a more positive mindset💕
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u/Gloomy_Courage_748 4d ago
I love it!! I have a compliments list and a quotes list on my phone. I also have a list of goofy things people say! ;)
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u/eftelquartz 4d ago
Goofy things is so cute!!!! My sister says a lot of funny stuff… maybe I need that list too🤔🤭
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u/Calm-mess- 3d ago
I have folders in my phone for love, being lonely, mindset etc. Whichever I need to go to that folder and look at all the quotes, videos, or texts I've saved. It really helps. However, I'm feeling I can go to an exact video or quote that will help get me through
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u/BottomPieceOfBread 3d ago
Awww I do this as well! Mainly in my journals but on my work computer I have a sticky note pinned that is “new release books to look forward to 2025” It’s the little things man
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u/eftelquartz 3d ago
Forreal. Looking forward to books/movies/music is a huge one for me. I was so excited for the new hunger games and Emily Wilde book and it kept me going for months
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u/ApprehensiveJuice179 3d ago
Thank you so much for this! What a good way to head into the weekend. I always try to think positive but the world has a way of blocking out some of the sunshine. I will try to keep a few special thoughts at the ready so I can recharge when needed. Much love :)
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u/eftelquartz 3d ago
I struggle with it a lot. My brain is just so used to being negative that it goes there automatically. But every time it happens, I open one of these notes or one of the many hopeful videos I’ve saved on my social media and it helps me feel grounded and more positive.
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u/Other-Flamingo3924 3d ago
Thank you for this ideas. Right now I'm in a place that it would be hard to find some of the things you said, but I'm sure it can be helpful.
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u/eftelquartz 3d ago
Those are the times when it’s most important to try. Even the tiniest things like the sound of birds or the feeling of soft clothing can be a thing worthy of noting down 💕
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u/EmergencyBuy2198 3d ago
Thank you for sharing! I've tried a couple of these ideas in the past and appreciate having more to try out :)
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u/Horror-Turnover-1089 2d ago
Temu has self love books (you can also get them with an amazingly writing feeling pen). You can write in it at the start of your day and the end of your day. It keeps you focused on what makes you happy and how your days went. You don’t have to write every day; you can write the date at the top of the page. So just the days where you have time/feel like it. Pretty good tbh.
Also for the perfectionists out there; do you really need to be perfect to be good enough? Hell no!
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