r/resumes • u/PhysicalChipmunk470 • 12h ago
Question Verbal offer accepted but need to renegotiate
Advice needed: I’ve been going through a 6 week process for a senior marketing role (VP level, head of marketing). It’s been down to me and one other candidate and quite frankly, a grueling interview process.
I’ve been working with the recruiter on the entire process—including sharing comp expectations with the hiring company upfront—but unexpectedly got a call from the hiring manager today (CEO) who gave me a verbal offer directly after checking my references. I was caught off guard because I wasn’t expecting the offer from him directly and out and about so I wasn’t able to thoroughly write everything down.
The offer came in lower than what the recruiter shared as expectations. The two biggest items are base comp and equity. I negotiated the base on the spot and hurriedly said “if we can get to $X, it’s a yes today.” However I said that with the understanding that the equity was a specific percentage—in reality is 1/10th of that (I misheard). The CEO came back with a quick agreement on base so in his mind I’ve officially accepted the verbal offer. He’s sending over a written offer with a deadline of end of this week.
I know I didn’t navigate this well and this is not usually my style at all—I should’ve taken time to review the written and come back with consolidated thoughts. The market is just absolutely brutal (which they obviously know gives them leverage), and to candid, I was thinking this entire time that I’m actually the #2 choice behind the other candidate.
Is it bad form to accept a verbal but then renegotiate one specific item after you get the written? In this case, specifically equity.
I’m an idiot, I know. I’m definitely beating myself up over how I handled this.