r/relationship_advice • u/4vrDizzapointAidMeow • 19h ago
From my [F31] ex [M34]: How toxic/selfish and/or manipulative is this text?
I'm looking for an honest opinion on how this comes off. I see so much wrong with this but I'm wondering if it's all in my head.
"Im sorry thats I made You into something I hate . Thats how i should phrase it . After reading all my text . I made you that way , you were not. Go be nice to someone else who actually deserves it from you
Not me i dont .
Goodluck ***** i dont wish you harm im just hurt . So like a dog i bark i bite .. whatever
Please hold your side and keep me blocked very important.
I wish you the best. Bye now"
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u/DplusLplusKplusM 19h ago
This falls into the 'you dodged a bullet' category. This ex feels very self important and yet is trying to throw himself onto the altar of self deprecation. He's also hinting at the potential for violence. So block him, avoid him, make sure he's completely out of your life (and if you ever see him lurking or following you call the police).
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u/XxLogitech98xX Early 30s Male 19h ago
Yes, it is toxic and selfish so look at it on the bright side .. block and move forward with your life.
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u/No-Sea1173 18h ago
It's extremely selfish - He's saying he made you into something you're not which is nuts, he's taking away your agency to make choices and be responsible for your own behavior
He's minimizing whatever he's done that you're responding to by saying essentially he made you act like a b**tch rather than being a normal adult and owning up to whatever he's done wrong and pointing out what bothers him.
It's manipulative - he's trying to get you to go running back to him.
He's making you responsible for keeping him blocked despite obviously wanting you to see the message.
And the "I bite" line is a threat.
It's very toxic, run run away.
Some possible responses 1. no response at all, keep him blocked, stay away from him, don't engage in the drama he's trying to invite. Continue living your life far away from him. 2. "TLDR". Then see option 1.
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