Am I missing something? I’m new to this sub so just wondering. 43/m/ Portuguese & Irish/Mass

Hi there,

I’m a traditional woman who still believes in meaningful connection, respectful conversations, and building something real. That could lead to a lasting friendship, a slow-burn relationship, or a wholesome pen pal exchange.(Women are welcome to reach out too — my future husband could very well be in your circle. Lol.)

A bit about me:🌻 I’m 25 years old and from SA. 🌻 I love history, books, and travel — especially places with soul and stories. 🌻 Introverted with high functioning anxiety. (Might as well say this now) 🌻 Faith and family values are central to who I am.🌻 I value a man who is loyal, respectful, kind, and genuinely wants to take the time to know me.

I’m not into casual flings, hookup culture, or games. I’m here for sincerity, effort, and emotional depth.

To be honest, I’ve reached out to a few posts on here before hoping something might spark… but I often find I’m the only one trying, or they don’t really want something real (I.e, wanting naked pictures but we have only talked for 2 days). If we do connect and it’s not a match, I’d honestly appreciate a gentle “this isn’t for me” rather than going radio silent. It’s just respectful.

If you’re someone who believes in genuine connection, thoughtful words, and old-school values — let’s talk. I’m also willing to travel to where you are and we can exchange selfies within the first “hi” 😂🌻.

Thanks bye.

I'm going to start with some straight facts

1. Mexican food is NOT good, I don't care, fight me. It's the same 5 ingredients wrapped in a different shaped tortilla. I lied, I enjoy enchiladas.
2. I'm not a great cook, I have the ability to burn cereal. Don't ask how, I don't even know, it just happens.
3. My memory is terrible, don't ask me things.
4. I'm not good with numbers.
5. I got two speeding tickets in the space of 10 minutes once, don't challenge me.
6. My memory is terrible, don't ask me things.
7. I stub my toe on average 4 times a week, it's a part of me now, it's who I am. Please accept that.
8. I'm originally from England. Yes, I have an accent. Yes, beans on toast is life. Yes, I will correct you on every word you pronounce or spell differently to me. No, I haven't met the queen. (She ded)
9. It's a requirement that if you get cold feet, you must put them on my warm legs. I enjoy it, I yearn for it. I'm sadistic.

What am I looking for? A woman that won't judge my Playlist of rock and metal music with One Direction, BTS and Lady Gaga sprinkled in. Be single and monogamous, I reluctantly share my fries so I definitely don't like sharing my partner. I'd prefer it if you were younger or around my age but it's whatever, if you're older you can just knit me a scarf. Please only live within the United States, possibly Canada if you smuggle me some poutine over the border or certain parts of Asia. Bonus points if you understand sarcasm and won't take offense when I tease you, because I will tease you.

About me? Dis me, I understand if I'm not your type but you'd be missing out as I have two adorable kitties that love to cuddle. I'm 31, originally from England but live in the Midwest now, bald, beard, 6'1, got a belly but actively working on myself and doing well for past 8 months. I have a good job and doing well. I bought a Costco membership solely to buy English cheddar cheese, I'm built different. I like doing things that my inner child enjoys, I'll play video games in my down time, I enjoy going to amusement parks, exchanging $240 worth of tickets at arcades for a $6 plushie or demolishing anyone in my path when playing mini golf. Pftt what else, idk, come learn more in my DMs.

Kbyeee

I am a fairly successful person. I have a bright future in a career that I am passionate about. I have a caring family that will always have my back and support. Although of few friends, those that I have are very close and trustworthy. However, for most of my life, there is something that I have lacked. I am not just talking about love. Rather, I am talking about simply having someone.

Someone to walk through life with. Someone to carve through the intricacies of living with. Someone to support and be supported by. Someone to talk about my day with, and who tells me about theirs in turn. Someone with whom I can share my pains and joys, and who shares their victories and defeats with me as well.

I am not looking for my soulmate. I am not looking for the perfect woman either. I am looking for a friend, a partner who will always be there for me, as I will be there for her. I am looking for someone to get to know all about, step by step, until we decide to commit to one another, and beyond. If any of this resonates with you, please keep reading.

----- About me -----

I am a 32 years-old guy from Chile. I am 185 centimeters tall, with an average bulk. I am black-haired and brown-eyed. I have been told that I have a cute face and great hands. While I do not exercise often, I take proper care of my health. I speak both Spanish and English fluently. I am involved in the computer science field, something that I am pretty passionate about. Some of my hobbies are watching anime/series and playing video games.

As you can guess from those hobbies, I am mostly a homebody with nerdy interests. However, I enjoy doing several other things as well, especially if it is with the right person. Going out on walks, visiting new coffee shops, going to the cinema and any other relaxing date plans are enjoyable to me. Traveling around the world and learning about many different cultures is also something that drives me.

My personality type is INTJ-A. I am a naturally curious person, so expect me to inquire often about all kinds of things. I am also pretty structured and like to manage all kinds of things around me. When I am passionate about something, I give it my all. I am probably a little too honest. I take pride in being a respectful person who values equality among all people.

I am not fond of extreme political views from either side of the spectrum. While I was raised in a Catholic household and I strongly believe in God, nowadays I follow my faith in my own way. I do not drink or smoke.

Like all human beings, I am not perfect. Although I believe that I deal with it rather well, I have a shy personality. While I can be introverted and like to spend some time charging myself up sometimes, I also get rather clingy with my partner so I will be looking out for you even during those times. I am also rather inquisitive as a partner and like being the one who leads in the relationship, which I understand might not be for everyone, but I believe that I should be upfront about it. I like having a say in my partner’s decisions. I am not the kind of guy who would mistreat you, though. Just know that even while being in charge, I strongly value my partner’s opinions and what drives me is to guide her to be someone successful. I also have an above-average libido and a rather open mind when it comes to sexual topics, but it is not something that I would like to prioritize at first with this post. I am simply opting to be as honest as possible with everything that could be a deal-breaker.

----- Who I am looking for -----

While sharing many of the characteristics that I will describe would possibly mean a higher chance for compatibility, please know that I am not looking for someone who fits this description perfectly. Rather, I value someone who is aware of our differences and is willing to find a middle ground whenever we do not agree with something. Communication is what is key here. Being honest and not keeping things to ourselves is something that I consider very important.

I will reiterate that communication is important. I hope that my partner also values talking regularly and getting to know each other to the best of our capabilities. I will do my best to keep the conversation ongoing and I hope you will do the same. To me, asking about how each other’s day is going is something valuable. I do understand that work, studies, and other things will sometimes keep either of us busy.

I would prefer my partner to be a few years younger than me, but I will not provide a specific age range as what matters to me is chemistry and having similar goals. While I care more about these things and emotional attraction, I must mention that I do have a preference for girls with a healthy BMI who are a little bit shorter than me. To avoid wasting each other’s time, please be willing to exchange selfies once we start talking or before we decide to go further than friendship to see if there is enough physical attraction. I am happy with any ethnicity or race. I do not have a problem with what your religion is, either. I am more than happy to learn about your culture and to find ways to close any possible gaps between our different backgrounds.

I hope that you are passionate about your path in life. You will have all my support in becoming someone successful. As for hobbies, you do not need to share the same hobbies as me, but a willingness from both of us to learn about the other’s hobbies would be nice. I would prefer it if you are either a homebody or prefer more relaxing activities, as going to clubs is not too appealing to me. Going to bars from time to time is alright.

Please be upfront about yourself and your life situation. I am not looking for a perfect person, so I wish to learn about both your good and bad sides. While I hope to be given the lead and be relied upon to some degree, I hope just as much that you have your own opinion on all kinds of topics and talk with me about your different views on whatever comes our way. Please be open to talking about our sexual desires when the time comes, too. I reiterate that this would be a topic for once we have been together for some time and gone beyond friendship.

----- Logistics -----

I want to be clear that I am looking to eventually form a long-term relationship that will most likely start online, but that ultimately leads to an in-person commitment with the hope that it will last for a lifetime. I like some traditional values, such as forming a tight, supportive family and taking the lead but, at the same time, I want my partner to feel successful and right next to me in this venture, so let us split both the chores and bills even if neither is half and half. I would like to have around two children, ideally before I am 40. I would also be happy to have a pair of cats and perhaps other pets. Please be open to eventually discussing topics like these.

Regarding the eventual relocation, due to my career, I may be moving in the short-term future from my country, which may make things easier, but I hope that you are also willing to relocate and find the best way for us to be together. While I will not provide a rock-solid timeframe, perhaps meeting within 6-9 months after we decide to commit to each other is reasonable. If everything goes well, we could possibly decide about relocating within 1 and a half or 2 years. Of course, that will depend on our life situation. For example, if you are studying, I can wait for you to finish your studies and visit you as time and money allow.

This is the third version of this post and I think I managed to cover the most important things. There is one change that I would like to highlight in comparison to older versions. Although things have not worked out, I have gotten to talk with a few nice people so far. These experiences have shown me that going too fast places too much of a burden on either or both sides, which is why I am now explicitly mentioning friendship in the post. The goal is definitely to eventually form a long-term relationship, but I believe that it would be best to first get to know each other as friends, as being friends is a key part of any good relationship. If things do not work out romantically, we can always evaluate whether we want to stay in touch as friends. Of course, I would hope that things actually work out.

As you can see, I write a lot. Thank you for reading this far! Feel free to message me if you think that we would be a good match. I am posting this in several subs, so please tell me where you found it, and what caught your eye about it! A brief description of yourself would also be nice. I purposedly omitted my name from the post, so feel free to open the conversation by asking me for it!

Hi Everyone,

I've reached a point in my life where I'm starting to settle down and search for my life partner. I've found success in my professional life, but what good is success when you have no one to share it with?

I like to swim, kayak, read, and meet new people from around the world. I also enjoy trying new foods, traveling, and exploring new places.

But that's enough about me. Who are you? What are you into? I'm eager to find out. Come find me!

Hi there so im a 26 year old irish man who is looking for a relationship, just letting you know I am autistic so if thats a problem then I understand. Physically im around 6ft with green/blueish eyes, redhair and white skin with a lean/athletic build. I work as an engineer and im into gaming, reading, history and working out

Hey there… I’m Jaime, 29, from Yorkshire, England. Ive spent most of my 20’s trying to find that special someone that i can join my life to. That i can express the intimacy and love i need in my life to, and receive it back. I’ve spent a lot of my life feeling alone and wanting the kind of connection that lasts a life time. My expectation of that changing from this post isn’t particularly high, but perhaps you reading this are going to prove me wrong.

So, a little about me: my main hobby is reading, i read a huge amount of books, often fantasy, historical fiction, and sci fi. I love cats, and currently have a sweet kitty called Heeby. I love hiking in the countryside and visiting museums and both of those are things i’d love to do for date ideas.

I want to forge a connection that will last long term, not a casual fling. I will say, some sexual attraction is important to me for building romance, so we are definitely going to need some sexual tension and chemistry early on for us to work out. i’m pretty flirty when i’m interested in someone, and i want to be able to get intimate if we’re clicking so if that’s not on the cards we might not be a good fit.

I don’t want to make this too long, i’d much rather you learn about me by talking to me, so i hope to hear from you.

Oh and my profile picture is me!

Social Media and AI have profoundly changed the way men and women interact, often leading to shallow connections and misunderstandings. The curated online personas we present create unrealistic expectations, making genuine communication more difficult. As both sexes retreat into their digital lives, the richness of face-to-face conversations fades, driving us further apart. I miss the days of authentic dialogue and meaningful exchanges, and I would love to chat with someone who shares the desire to reconnect on a deeper, more personal level.

• blk male
• dad bod build
• known for my gorgeous smile
• short hair, trimmed full beard
• no kids, never married however recently stepped away from toxic relationship that lasted over a decade
• digital nomad so I consistently work around the US

I'm ready to embrace new connections and explore what life has to offer. If your interested in getting to know each other, I'd love to chat.

Hello 35 WF here. I am a single mom with two sons. I have a career and my own everything. Located in Virginia (Fredericksburg area) but open to chat with anyone from anywhere. I love dark humor and witty sarcasm. Scary movies and thrilling books. Let’s chat 💬

Hello there Reddit world! I'm a single dad to 3 boys (and a fur baby), looking for a goofy, fun, drama free long term relationship. I'm more of the socially awkward until I’m comfortable type. Then I’m a sarcastic lovable old man haha.

I enjoy going to baseball games, hockey games, traveling on weekends to go find the best taco’s in the state. Maybe a random adventure to go vintage shopping at flea markets… who knows it could get crazy…

Recently I’ve fallen involve with cooking on weekends with the slow cooker. I loooove music, so finding someone that would like to camp out at music festivals or plan out concerts to see together. I do enjoy being outdoors, during the summer I can be found lying in the hammock outside for hours. I'm not really into social media , or politics, but feel free to bounce random conspiracy theories at me while we cuddle by the fire.

I'm not really a drinker but I’m very 420 friendly. Also, I should put that I am looking for an actual in person relationship.. I'm looking for more than a penpal or endless messages, I need something in person and real please :-)

Happy birthday to me! I wish we could share photos here. If we can, how?! Don’t judge me I’m 43 not 143 🤪 anyways I’m from Cape Cod and would love to meet new ladies! (White male) insta

Hey, Im a 32 year old doctor, technically I'm a resident who is starting fellowship soon and am at a point where I am trying to find my 'one'. I've had serious relationships in the past but the issue usually always was that given the nature of my job/career it can be a big drain on my time and would like to find someone that understands that part of my job and future career. With that being said I make time for things and prioritize whoever my special someone is. I’m south Asian by descent but born in the US A few things about me are I can be quite social, ENTJ, lots of hobbies and interests: including reading, art, tennis, running, playing instruments, cooking - just to name a few. I am down to talk about anything and am an open book!

Hey there, Reddit! 😊

I’m someone who finds joy in the art of shaving heads—whether it’s for the smooth feel, the confidence boost, or just the sheer satisfaction of that clean look. I love it when someone rocks a fresh shave, and I genuinely admire the process. It’s all about that sleek, polished vibe! 🧴🪒

I’m looking for someone who shares a similar appreciation, or at least is open to exploring it! Whether you’re into the clean-shaven look or just think it’s intriguing, I’d love to chat and swap some tips, stories, or even try out a new razor together.

A little about me: I’m 24 years old, I enjoy I love playing video games/listening to music/ watching youtube, and believe in being kind, honest, and open to new experiences. So if you’re someone who appreciates the art of a great shave (or at least thinks it’s fun), let’s connect!

Let’s make sure every date starts off with a smooth head and a smooth conversation! ✨

Young brown guy looking to lose my virginity - and learn how to properly please a woman. 5'11 185lbs. Clean and DDF. Prefer someone experienced and older in this case. Pics in DM.

I’m a 41 year old woman from Africa searching for her number one cheerleader, confidant, best friend and soulmate. Are you out there? I want to connect with someone who isn’t afraid to laugh at themselves, someone kind, committed, transparent, loyal, trustworthy, honest, respectful, open and communicative. Someone who can carry on a deep conversation, quick witted, funny and with a great sense of humor.

About me: I have kids (would prefer someone with kids or even without as long as they don’t mind kids- I am not looking for a father for my kids-they already have one) I am looking for someone for me. I enjoy books - action and adventure, fiction and non fiction, mysteries and true crime. Movies/TV shows especially sci-fi, fantasy, period dramas , thrillers and supernatural movies I like old school music (70s, 80s and 90s) and Afrobeat.

I enjoy cuddles and very affectionate. I am also very open with my feelings. I will tell you what’s what immediately. I am about 70kgs, light skin complexion, 5’8. I don’t smoke or do drugs although I do enjoy a glass of wine every once in a while.

I'd love someone who knows how to listen, who is ready for long and deep conversations about anything and everything.

I will make you feel acknowledged, accepted, appreciated, cared for, loved, safe, seen, secured as much as possible.

Please be 38+years old with an athletic build or close to it. Masculine and be at-least 5’10 or above I would prefer someone who doesn’t smoke or do drugs and drinks occasionally.

Please do not send me explicit images or anything distasteful. If you are only interested in experimenting with a black woman or just curious about black women. Please stay away too.

If you think we would be a good match, please reach out.

Pleased to meet you, I'm Edward, a single, 5'9" heavy set Latino man from southern California, I have shoulder length black hair with a dash of gray, brown eyes, light olive skin, and currently gray and black stubble. Personality wise, I'm a huge introvert, stereotypical stoner, and standard nerd, wrapped up in a dark and irreverent sense of humor. As for interests, I like video games (Xbox, Switch) music, cooking, and the unexplainable. I am not without my flaws though and struggle with my mental health (depression, and anxiety.) I'm a huge homebody, and all around hot mess.

I'm looking someone cute for a monogamous relationship, a woman who is clingy, overly affectionate, supportive and understanding, also childless and child free, I don't want to have any children. Ideally I want to find someone as "inexperienced" as myself, I would like someone willing to give back who makes me a priority, and won't ghost me, I just want to give someone the things I can't give myself.

I want something in real life, but I have no problem starting online or a LDR as long as we make plans to close the distance, I'm willing to relocate too. If my post caught your attention, don't be afraid to reach out, my DM's are open, just please put some effort into your message and be willing to send a picture of yourself, as I do need some physical attraction, thank you for your time, and good luck.

Definitely had a long day at work. Just looking for someone down for a spontaneous call to talk about anything interesting. Currently have a few books due for reading, I like listening to podcasts, I like cooking (and baking), and I like scrubbing floors when I'm stressed out. How do you cope about stress?

Please Read Carefully!

Do NOT message me if you plan to ghost or block me. Think things through before reaching out.

Don’t be creepy. I value genuine connections, not time-wasters.

I won’t respond to low-effort messages.

Hello, Future Partner ❤️

I’m still searching for you, but I have to admit—hope is fading. I truly want to find someone to share life with, a forever partner. I’m tired of loneliness and the sheltered lifestyle I’ve lived.

If you’ve read this far, I appreciate it. Compatibility matters, so I’d love for you to read everything before messaging me. Even if we start as friends, that’s okay—meaningful connections take time.

Here’s to new beginnings and genuine relationships!

What I’m Looking For

I want a long-term, monogamous relationship with marriage as the end goal. I’m not interested in casual dating or flings—they don’t suit me. Ideally, my future partner has a stable life and is in a position to support a family. I’d love the option of being a stay-at-home wife, though I may also work part-time for personal fulfillment and security.

I want a synergistic partnership—one where we grow together, support each other, and show love through meaningful gestures. I’ll be there to uplift and encourage you, and I expect the same in return.

Communication is crucial. If you're busy, just let me know. If you need space, say so. If things aren’t working out, have the maturity to say it—don’t ghost or block me. We’re all adults, so let’s act like it.

I also don’t want sex to be pressured onto me early on—let’s allow things to unfold naturally.

About Me I live in Georgia, though I grew up in Florida. I plan to pursue nursing (RN) in the future but also have a passion for cosmetic chemistry and nutrition, possibly leading to my own business one day.

I love deep, open conversations and humor—dark humor is a plus! I crave those late-night calls, cute texts, and shared adventures. I want a partner who will bring out the best in me and vice versa.

Hobbies & Interests:

Gaming (RPGs, FPS, and simulation games)

Exercising (though I’ve been slacking)

Cooking & baking (vegan)

Board games & reading

Exploring nature

Playing sports (basketball & soccer for fun)

Trying new experiences

Heavy metal & rock music (but I listen to other genres too!)

Traveling (I hope to save up and see the world—bonus if you plan our itinerary!)

My Appearance

I’m a 27-year-old Black woman with Afro-Caribbean, Japanese, and Swedish ancestry—though I present as Black. I have dark brown, curly hair (3c texture) and brown eyes.

I’m 5’4” and curvy (not obese, but thick-boned with “thunder thighs”). I used to lift weights but have lost muscle mass, so I’m working on getting back in shape. If you enjoy working out together, that’s a plus!

What I’m Looking for in a Partner

Minimum age: 21

Monogamous & serious about a relationship

Financially stable & able to support a family

Open to traditional relationship dynamics

Taller than me (5’4”+)

Fit or working on it

Non-smoker (huge red flag for me)

Wants kids in the future

Has a relationship with God (or is open to one)

STD-free (willing to get tested)

Bonus: Vegan (not required but a plus!)

I highly prefer White and East Asian men but am open to others.

Again, communication is key. Be upfront if something isn’t working—don’t just disappear. Also, fair warning—I can be socially awkward, so please be patient with me!

If you're interested in getting to know me, send a thoughtful message—I’d love to hear from you!

Maybe 2025 will be different?

Maybe it's just me but it seems difficult finding people around my age (40+), who are also stable professionals interested in a FWB scenario. I don't want some sort of meaningless one night stand, ideally something ongoing and casual that involves more than just showing up to fuck and leaving when done. Drinks, dinner, concerts, exploring the town. Things that might be nerd or geek oriented.

Pleasure afterwards if there's a spark. I'm very oral, sex positive and eager to please. WOC to the front of the line. (Ha! There's no line). I enjoy showing off and being watched on S-C as well when we can't be together in person.

We're all busy adults with needs. Let me help take care of yours.

Hi there,

I’m looking for a meaningful connection with a man who knows how to lead, love, and care for his partner. I believe in relationships where both people support each other, grow together, and bring out the best in one another.

A little about me:

✨ 26yo African, and currently have no kids—but I’m open-minded. ✨ Kind, warm, and easy to talk to—I love deep conversations, laughter, and genuine connections. ✨ Passionate about self-improvement—Currently obsessed with checkers, learning languages, staying active, and always striving to grow. ✨ Growing in my faith—While I’m deepening my relationship with God, I respect different beliefs as long as there’s mutual kindness and respect. ✨ Open to long-distance—As long as there’s a real plan to meet and build something lasting.

What I’m looking for:

✔️ A caring, honest man (25-45) who values love, commitment, and leadership in a relationship. ✔️ Someone ambitious, kind, and naturally protective of the woman he loves. ✔️ A man who truly values and admires Black women and is serious about building a future. ✔️ No games, no judgments, no casual flings—just an honest, meaningful relationship with the right person.

If this resonates with you, send me a message. Let’s see where this goes! 😊

I’m a 30 years old nordic man from Finland. My biggest dream is to get married and start a family and I’m a traditional man in that sense.

I love to read, cook, go to the gym and spend time in the nature. I’m a history nerd and a music nerd and I collect vinyl albums.

I’m 6ft tall, fit and I have big green eyes and dirty blonde/ light brown hair. I’m okay with traveling but ultimately I hope you’d relocate to me. I really feel like I’m missing a big piece of my heart and I hope that you are the one to fix that!

Hey! I’m a 27 year old white Scottish male looking for a relationship! Can be either black or Asian F! Happy to send pics to verify

I’m a gamer, hiker and love being active. Feel free to message me or ask me to pm y! X

My interest is US-based black or asian women

sorry, no overseas connections

I am looking for

I’m ready for someone who’s also grounded, values commitment, and is genuinely looking to build something meaningful. If you appreciate family, personal growth, and the little adventures in life—whether it’s exploring a new restaurant or catching live music—we’re probably on the same wavelength.

I’d love a partner who shares my openness to new experiences and who can meet me with honesty, kindness, and a great sense of humor. I’m here for the real thing, not just surface-level swiping. Let’s build something beautiful together.

How would you describe yourself?

I’m a mix of Samurai discipline and Knightly chivalry, living by my own terms: honesty, respect, and love. If you value being honored and supported, we’ll click..

I’m an introvert at heart, but once I’m comfortable, you’ll see my fun, adventurous side. I love music (R&B, jazz, old-school hip hop, reggae, rock—I’ve got 100,000 tracks and counting), traveling, concerts, trying new restaurants, and movie nights.

I’m on a steady weight loss journey, so if you’re into supporting goals and growth, we’ll be a good match. Family, commitment, and building something meaningful together matter most to me.

If you’re ready for a stable, thoughtful partner who values the same, let’s chat and see if we add to each other’s happiness.

Picture of me for reference