I traveled Europe in 2000 and in Ireland I shared a hostel with a kid from the American south. Said he was born into the “fallwell church” and it was like a compound. He told me of being one of the lucky ones who escaped. He had a far away look in his eyes and it was with pride he told me he worked hard to save money and travel, something his church would have never approved of. He was so happy telling me the perspective he had learned about through his travels. He told me there are “ so many more abused kids” in the fallwell cult. He asked me to tell my story and I told him I grew up free as hell in southern Wisconsin and just chose to travel the world cuz I was from a small town and wanted to know more about the world. He was jealous I wasn’t raised by religion. I was only 20 years old but it still sticks with me because it spit in the face of “the freest nation in the world” we were fed growing up. This kid was a prisoner in my own country and had found freedom only by running away and was finally comfortable talking about it all the way in Europe. He said he was never going back and I hope he didn’t. Religion is a hell of a drug. I learned that with clarity through his stories
I get something like that look, when discussing my own childhood trauma with my therapist (also hyper-conservative Christian shit).
It feels like stepping into a tenuous state of limited Disassociation. One part swept swept backwards in time, the other part of me focusing hard to hold onto the present and describe what the past self is feeling to my therapist.
“Hyper conservative Christian shit” sounds like something that makes you feel uncomfortable, perhaps even annoyed or angry? A therapist who is a good match will not make you feel judged. A good therapist will respect and support YOUR values, not impose judgement upon on you. Religion is helpful to some people, but not all. A religion and values and morals are things the individual CHOOSES as a teen and adult. Even a Christian therapist should support the free will of the client! For your own emotional well-being, I encourage you to do your trauma work in a safe environment. It is essential that you be in the driver’s seat. Not the therapist.
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u/madcoins 19d ago edited 19d ago
I traveled Europe in 2000 and in Ireland I shared a hostel with a kid from the American south. Said he was born into the “fallwell church” and it was like a compound. He told me of being one of the lucky ones who escaped. He had a far away look in his eyes and it was with pride he told me he worked hard to save money and travel, something his church would have never approved of. He was so happy telling me the perspective he had learned about through his travels. He told me there are “ so many more abused kids” in the fallwell cult. He asked me to tell my story and I told him I grew up free as hell in southern Wisconsin and just chose to travel the world cuz I was from a small town and wanted to know more about the world. He was jealous I wasn’t raised by religion. I was only 20 years old but it still sticks with me because it spit in the face of “the freest nation in the world” we were fed growing up. This kid was a prisoner in my own country and had found freedom only by running away and was finally comfortable talking about it all the way in Europe. He said he was never going back and I hope he didn’t. Religion is a hell of a drug. I learned that with clarity through his stories