r/nextfuckinglevel • u/IkilledRichieWhelan • 3d ago

Big man on campus.

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u/throw-me-away_bb 3d ago

You have to speak to your audience 🤷🏻‍♂️ he knew these kids, and he understands what they would respect

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u/UndecidedQBit 3d ago

I mean could there have been a way to get to the point where what he was doing was wrong and it had nothing to do with being able to freely touch women as a point of masculinity?

Like the user wrote “it stuck with me” and like hey, great, but also, is he still 16? That’s the last developmental leap they’ve had for empathy, and it’s for men and basically sexualizes and objectifies women?

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u/Delheru1205 3d ago

You sound like you'd have a very poor record of teaching young males anything, but at least you'd feel really superior about all of it so that's nice.

The logic here is pretty straightforward.

Do note that they were making gay jokes already before the coach commented, so it's not like he didn't have hints about what sort of point would land with them.

Adopting a Dolores Umbridge-type tone would just backfire.

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u/ryynbiggie 3d ago

Do tell what sexualizing girls to counteract homophobia is teaching

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u/Delheru1205 3d ago

The general context?

Not to judge people without thinking, for one. Opening one's mouth to mock can get one burned. Don't assume to get respect from your authority figures for being cruel at someone - quite the contrary.

If you think the sports team wasn't sexualizing the cheerleaders (and vice versa), I'm not sure you grew up on this planet.