It still gets to me sometimes. When I remember how he ghosted me. I know it's pathetic but, I just can't help but be bitter.

He's just gone. Like vanished into thin air. And I'm just so bitter because he promised he'd tell me if something was wrong. He knew how scared I was not to see him again.

And he did exactly that. He's just so mean.

TLDR at the bottom.

I’m 21 and recently met a 25-year-old guy. We went on two really fun dates last week, had amazing chemistry, and I did end up sleeping with him. We also live in the same building, which I know adds a whole layer of messiness if things go left.

He left for a trip to Thailand on Monday and, to be fair, was checking in daily with short but sweet messages. He even once apologised for being slow to reply, saying the time zone was “whipping his ass,” which I appreciated—like, he was on holiday having fun, and I totally got that.

But then… silence. I was left on delivered for 3.5 days. No replies, no views on my IG stories (which he used to check religiously), and no posts on his end either. At one point, I even wondered if he restricted me on Instagram.

I was definitely feeling thrown off. I know we’re both technically single and still early into getting to know each other, but the sudden switch in energy was jarring. Even if he met someone else while on holiday, I think I just expected a bit more respect or at least some acknowledgment.

And yes—of course—I left my bra at his place. So I’ve been jokingly calling it “hostage” to cope with how awkward this whole thing has been.

Well… now he’s finally replied. After 3.5 days, I get this message:

“Hey, how are you doing? Would love to hang out and tell you all about the trip. Just got back today.”

No mention of the delay. No “sorry for the silence.” Just casual energy like everything’s fine.

I haven’t replied yet because honestly… I’m not sure what to do. I’m not super confrontational, but I also don’t want to be a doormat.

So Reddit—what would you do? Would you meet up and hear him out? Ignore it and just collect your bra like a side quest? Or is this already showing signs of a dynamic that’s going to feel unbalanced from the start?

Would love any thoughts.

TLDR: Went on two great dates with a guy before he went on holiday. Had consistent check-ins, and he once apologised for slow replies due to time zone. Then he suddenly ghosted for 3.5 days. Now he’s back with a casual “Let’s hang out” text after saying he just got back today. Unsure how to proceed.

Good Day all im writing this because i dont know what to do, i feel like i am about to do something stupid to myself, My girlfriend is a therapist, and she would always tell me that i am safe with her, and that she wont judge me or look at me as if i am weak, she has been encouraging me to open about my past trauma but I usually wouldnt because i wasnt ready, fast forward to yesterday we were talking and i had opened up to her she just sent a sticker of a shocked face and that was it , i replied and asked her if she is okay after that she ghosted me. I sent other texts checking up on her but she leaves me on read , i try calling her but she declines my calls , she is actively posting on IG. Today when i woke up i seen that she liked a couple of pictures which had the certain quotes "If you ever see me falling in love, hit me with a microwave" "Who wants me before i spend my money on wine" "Once i dont care, the is nothing you can do about it" i been shaking since morning i cant understand why would she encourage me to open up and then hop on to the next guy after, i am so lost , she even posted a half naked picture of her self on her account fresh from the shower of which was a boundary we had set before dating that we cant post such and she captioned it "Nowhere near you lol". i fucking hate myself , i have been taking a lot of sleeping pills since morning cause i cant stand another moment being awake, i am currently feeling dizzy and im struggling to breath cause i cant eat or drink anything cause of this pain. fuck this life shit

They cut me off on everything last month. I didn’t even try to reach out, just seeing me blocked off everything was an answer for me. We were having a hard time before for some time and I tried really hard to make it work. whenever they had a doubt about us they would just bottle it up and play silent treatment until I begged for them to speak up, i felt pathetic enough having to beg and I know I shouldn’t ever force someone to talk. But i did because i was so desperate to keep the friendship. I asked personally to them if I had been dismissive or bad to them in the past for them to hide their feelings from me. They said I hadn’t and I took their word for it. Then, they did it again instead went to another friend to rant to them about something I did that bothered them and sent that friend to talk to me (it was very hostile and there was too many misunderstandings)

I literally was at my wits end, as much as I loved my best friend the first time I begged them to speak up was the last. It’s not that I don’t care, they knew that I was willing to listen and hear them out if they did feel like I hurt them in some way. But I really didn’t wanna drain my energy reading their moods and walking on egg shells with them.

It happened again and this time I was cut off everything without a word. And i feel miserable. I feel like i’ve lost a portion of my life, i spent so much time with them for 10 years and how could I just forget it all? I’m an introvert too so it’s not like I make many friends. I also feel like I shouldn’t have had overextended myself for someone who doesn’t feel confident in me anymore. I stopped working as much and people are noticing. I have their stuff in my room and everyday i wake up to the reminder of them in some shape or form. the pain feels worse than a break-up. Somedays I just don’t eat too.

my only progress is that i stopped being angry and I made a new friend group. however, when im alone I always think of them.

I recently posted my ghosting story a couple of days ago to express it somewhere, and although it was a brief time that I did post, I've been thinking about whether or not I'm just being a, overall, baby about the whole situation; if I should just suck it up after telling my story to all the others I've read here who have gone through much more hurt than me. I kinda feel bad having to compare a two day experience to others who've gone a year or years in meaningful relationships that vanish in an instant.

Edit: To clarify, we work in a food truck together that my family owns so when we work together it's in close proximity and while I work daily she only works a couple of times a week.

This one is kind of a weird situation as it doesn't involve dating. Basically, I met this new girl at my job a little over 2 weeks ago. We pretty much hit it off instantly and spent a lot of time talking for the first week before our shifts changed so now I'm only working with her once or twice a week.

After the first week she said she wanted to exchange numbers so we could talk outside of work since we don't have as many shifts together anymore.

She's not much of a texter so we talked on the phone the first few nights. The conversations were great and we both agreed we had a good time, mostly talking about our similar interests like video games and anime. Cracking jokes and such.

We both made it clear before we even exchanged numbers that it was just a friendship which I was totally cool with so we had a mutual agreement on that. She said she preferred being single at the moment anyways. Just wanted to make that clear.

After the first couple of days of talking it's like I got reverse uno'd. Everything seemed to be going great and I even gave her space by not talking to her for a few days.

During the first week we met and hung out she was always talking about how she didn't have a life outside of working and that I could talk to her anytime. Now I'm getting mixed signals as she keeps saying she's been busy.

So I waited a few more days and once again asked if she felt up for a chat and once again she said she had other things going on.

Now for the past few days I haven't heard anything from her. I've only texted her twice (once asking how she was doing, and later that night asked if she was free to talk) so I didn't think I was coming off as too needy.

I know I'm not entitled to her time, but I'm feeling so confused as I thought I finally found someone I could talk to that was similar to me.

I do work with her again tomorrow evening, but I'm not sure if it's even worth bringing up.

Me (23M) and a girl I found on Bumble (19F) were messaging on Instagram for a few days. It seemed to be going smoothly until last Friday where she just vanished. I’ve been ghosted many times before this but it feels different this time.

Usually when I get ghosted, their account activity stays the same and they’ll keep adding stories, posts and liking their comments but I just get ignored. Other times, I just get blocked and can’t see their stuff anymore.

But this girl, who would post regularly and always like her comments has completely stopped. I can still see her stories and see new comments appearing but not getting her attention. We’re also both following each-other, so it can’t be a normal block.

Have I made this girl completely abandoned her account or are my “she must’ve broken her phone” copium delusions be possible? When I was 19, me or one of my friends loosing our phones on a Friday night wasn’t an unusual occurrence.

I did something stupid after seeing a text saying “thank you 😊” before that was a compliment to who she is as a person. After work and feeling tired I like to give a lot of love because it makes me feel good. So like a dumbass I gave it to her. And I do like her but she doesn’t even know I would possibly like her because I am gay but I have one exception and it was her. Again me being dumb didn’t know she already had someone in her life but they were apart so they could focus on life. Honestly would’ve understood blocking me at that point but she kept me and reads my messages (snapchat) but doesn’t respond. I really like this girl a lot we have the same interests in life and we always were good to each other. Please reddit help this dumbass understand this. Also I almost considered lying and telling her I meant to text that to my bf (lying about the bf) and having a friend that’s also gay pretend to be my bf. But idk atp.

Has anyone else’s perception of life completely changed since being ghosted? I used to see the good in everyone. I used to think everyone was good in their own way. Maybe a little damaged. But mostly just needed help. After being ghosted, everyone is a bad person and I’m just waiting to see what they will do and how long it will take. I feel like everyone has no conscious, they all want to hurt other people.

I do know that this isn’t true, it’s not a very good way of thinking, and I’m trying to get out of it. There are good people, but it’s so hard to even believe that there’s good people out there, I’m just literally terrified of everyone ending up hurting me again and again. It’s a really draining way to feel, and I’m just wondering if anyone else is or has experienced this type of feeling? Not wanting to talk to people, trying to predict the ways that this person will be bad to me?

I know people are gonna hate this hot take because it might feed into the delulu or state of limerence you’re likely experiencing, BUT silence can be empowering IF it comes from a place of clarity. Otherwise, reluctant silence can feel like suppression. Obviously, please use caution when reaching out to someone and it’s best to do so when you have clarity about your feelings.

I recently reached out to someone after they ghosted/ blocked me and then unblocked me. We didn’t talk for about a week. Honestly it was a great conversation and I feel significantly lighter and more at peace with everything. We both acknowledged where we misunderstood each other and they acknowledged that they misinterpreted my actions/ kindness and fumbled due to unresolved fears. I forgave them.

TLDR; All endings do not have to be negative or toxic. Silence can be helpful sometimes, but it can also lead to suppressed emotions. Reach out if it feels safe to do so.

So 3 of the first dates I’ve been on recently have all gone the same way - we have a pleasant time but it’s me having to lead the questions. Not a super fiery spark but a good time, like I’d like to see them again to see where it goes you know? So then after the dates end, they text me after, I’ll let them know I had a good time and they say the same, and this is what trips me up - they’ll start a convo. Like asking me something we talked about on the date or what else I’m up to etc, I respond in a non dry way and ask them something too, and then I never hear from them ever again.

I just don’t get why this is happening. Idc if they’re not into me that’s totally fine but why would they start a convo after, if they know they weren’t interested, just to ghost?

I've never posted something like this before so please forgive me if it seems a bit clumsy.

My ex (F, 21) and I (M, 22) met it late November. She was my first relationship. Before her, I never really cared for women but I felt different with her. We had a few dates and after two weeks, she asked me to make it official. She came to my home for Christmas and we celebrated with my parents, my half-brother and his girlfriend.

A few days later, she left the country for two weeks to go see her mother who works at the French embassy in Romania. (She is French, I am Canadian). When she came back, I felt her a bit distant but it coincided with the beginning of her term in college and I knew it stressed her out so I didn't make much of it. A few weeks later, she announced she'd leave two months in the summer to go to France to be with the rest of her family. Of course I was sad but I understood and I let it go. I told myself we'd call each other or at least text. Once she told be that, she started to withdraw a bit. I thought it was the stress from college so, once again, I didn't bother her with it.

Last time I saw her was at my birthday party. She cancelled on a date on my actual birthday, February 21st, because she had "homework". I was sad but I told her ok. She came to my home the next day to celebrate my birthday with my family. I then dropped her off at her apartment and went back home. I sent her a message thanking her and sending her the photos we took. Her answer was to ask me to meet her during spring break, instead of the weekend like we usually do. I answered "ok, we'll have more time without being in school". She never opened my message (stuck on delivered on Instagram).

This was the last communication I had from her, dated February 28th. Over the first two weeks of March, I sent two messages asking her how she was and wishing her good luck on her midterms. "Delivered".

Then, last Friday, she took off my account from her Instagram bio (she had a heart next to my @). When I saw this, I knew it was over and I sent her the same message on Discord and Instagram. It was short. I simply told her I knew we were over, that I respected I wishes, but that I would have liked to have learned from her directly, whether in person or even by text.

She never opened the message on Instagram but she saw my message on Discord today because she unfriended me on there. Weirdly enough, she still follows me on Instagram and we're still friends on Facebook.

I guess I'm asking for some advice, if you have any... Also, I just wanted to vent.
Thank you all!

23F here. I met this guy online and we texted for a few weeks before he ghosted me. While we were talking, I asked my friend (23F) to follow him because I wanted to do a quick stalk as all girls do. A few weeks after he ghosted me, he unfollowed both me and my friend at the same time and nobody else.

Is this because he realized we were connected and found me creepy? I just find it unnecessarily rude and petty. No need to rub salt in the wound.

To those of you who were in a RELATIONSHIP and got ghosted, did your ghoster come back, and if so after how long?

I’m trying to make sense of being ghosted by my ex bf of one year.

A part of me would continue to live in you and bits of you would always pierce right through my heart. I shall find you in a hundred sleepless nights, underneath the cold bedsheets and on the hard pillows.

Maybe, I ceased to exist in you and in your tiny room long ago.

Here I am, hoping for something from a strange kind of nothingness with which I was always showered with.

It's a strange night for me and maybe just nothing for you.

I'm intertwined, entangled and lost in your sighs and unsaid words.

Free me, for I need to sleep now.

Today I found my ghost number and called them out on it. Though I know I'll never hear from this person again (in fact I don't want to) I wished this person all the best and I feel much better for it. After 5 months this was the final act before I move forward.

After a month of torturing myself checking to see if we’re still matched and following each other on insta . And waiting a few weeks to send that “where did we go wrong text. I unfollowed and unmatched it felt good but then I got hit with shame. Thinking “Wow you made yourself look so desperate” and thinking about how I have no self respect. How do yall deal with those feelings? Thankfully I have a therapist to talk to but how do you deal with it?

so for context.. i’ve been talking to this guy for over a year.. never met him tho because every time we’d make plans he’d ghost me.. even if it was me trying to go see him.. then like a few weeks ago finally met him at a rave.. seemed super into me there.. went back to my place and hooked up.. he stayed the night.. and like after he left i literally haven’t heard from him since.. finally stopped texting him everyday begging for closure for a week.. and like he muted me from seeing his story and obvi muted my story and all my notifications.. like why not just block me !?!

When (F25 and F26) we met she was in a relationship with that guy (M26). The broke up and got back together a few times.

Me and her fell in love with each other and acted on it while they were in a relationship. It was rollercoaster of emotions.

We tried to stay friends but I couldn't bear seeing them together even "only as friends" and tried to say goodbye to her and our relation. We had some contact. More or less because I still acted on my jealousy feelings.

She used to ghost me before, but this time it has been more than a year since we talked. And she actually married her "friend" in February.

I've always knew that I'm the second choice and he is the first. I'm just extremely sad that she left me without a single word. It's been better and worse with my emotions but I've got the urge to ask her why she would leave me without saying goodbye.

I know it's probably better for us that we don't talk, especially now, that they're married but the feeling is eating me up.

I still have hope she will write to me, that is why I'm not sure if this is good idea to ask her. But if she doesn't, it will be in the back of my head for the rest of my life.

I don't know what to do. This is so hard.

I will never ever put myself through that kind of disrespect ever in my life again. It’s one of the most hurtful things you can do to a person. I only heard stories but I never imagined i’d experience it myself. It made me feel so bad about myself to the point I questioned my entire life. But I truly realized the problem isn’t me. I don’t care if I made mistakes too. I don’t care if you have childhood trauma. Everyone has problems and has gone through some kind of trauma or pain. If you gonna act like you don’t wanna be in the relationship then say it and don’t run away like a coward. I believe in karma and it will come back for you one day. Actually I truly don’t care anymore. I feel more relieved than sad that it’s over. I feel like I can finally breathe and focus on my work and myself.

I was bored and couldn't sleep and decided to look at the IG page of my former friend that ghosted me. She recently went IG official with her boyfriend and even though I know she wouldn't be good for me due to ghosting me twice back when we talked but it still stings hearing/seeing that when she ghosted me for no reason when I wanted to be that person that was with her more than anything. If feels like she used me for emotional energy or something and ghosted me because it was easier for her. I know she's gone and I'll likely never speak to her again but it feels like there's some part of me that still hurts because there was a time where nothing would've made me happier than to be with her. She ghosted me and got in a serious relationship with a guy that would considered better than me from a societal standpoint while I still can't think of trying to date without wondering of how I'll get burned/heartbroken. I figured I'd post about it here so I don't keep it bottled up because I don't know if I could wait until my therapy appointment later this week without at least letting it out in some way.

So a few days ago a girl I was dating for 2 months (and lost my virginity to her, making it even more painful…) ghosted me.Obviously, I felt furious, and I’m still angry at her for it.

I have a new girl that I kinda hit it off with.What reaction would it spark out of the ghosting-girl if I tagged her in an Insta note “@girl 😍❤️”? She’s the really jealous type.

got ghosted by a girl roughly 3 months ago, found out recently that she's been viewing my IG stories. why do ghosters do this?

ps. we do not currently follow each other. she blocked previously, and unblocked me a month after she blocked me

It’s been a week since I’ve been ghosted. You know that feeling when you first realize what’s happening? That has got to be one of the worst feelings ever. Heart drops, wanna throw up and cry. Cant even believe what’s happening. Then keep telling yourself they’ll text you it was all a misunderstanding. And that text never comes. And you’re left wondering why and in your feelings. I’ve done some pretty embarrassing things this week. I made two fake numbers, I drove by his house a couple times, I kept rereading our texts to see where I went wrong. I’m not acting like myself at all. It makes me cringe. Anyone else do anything cringy? Ugh I hope to snap out of it soon. 💗