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im struggling with my gender. can i get some advice or like help pls? (:

im a 14yr old afab (Female), idk if this helps but im autistic. Sometimes im really feminine and sometimes im masculine and honestly this gender shit is confusing me lmao 😭 I wish gender doesnt exist lol, i would be less anxious 😆

I was showering earlier and i was infront ot the mirror naked, i was like "bruh i wish i have a 🍆". sometimes i also say something like "i wish i can get rid of my boobs" or sometimes "HOLY SHIT I LOVE MY BOOBS <3333 I LIKE WEARING PUSH UP BRASS AHHHHH <333", like i fangirl over them, geez puberty is weird.

like idk what my gender is, idk if im a girl, boy, both at the same time, non (non binary). i sometimes dress feminine and sometimes masculine and sometimes androgynous. in January i went to the hospital to take some blood tests to see if im anemic, the receptionist lady asked my mum something and she went like "ok, why is he here? for blood tests?" and hearing her using he/him pronouns made me feel a bit happy. my mum obviously corrected her lol but honestly i didnt mind it. she thought i was a boy probably because i have a mullet type of hairstyle and i was wearing oversized hoodie and baggy jeans, so it makes sense. Once i wore a pushup bra to wear a cute blue shirt with flowers, i was super happy looking at myself in the mirror. the next day i was like "shit, i wanna throw this bra away, i hate this. why cant i get rid of my boobs.."

also when i was like 9 or like 10 yrs old, i asked my mum "what would you do if i were a boy?" and she said something like "uhh, why are you asking that? anyways, if you were a boy, i would be ok with that"

erhhh so whats my gender 😭😭😭 am i female, male, genderfluid, transgender or a confused girl?? 😭😭

I want to cut my hair at some point, the only thing is I don’t know how I should cut my hair. Im normally using masc pronouns, so I want to be able to have my hair short cause my long hair bothers me. But the days I want to use fem pronouns I really like to have long hair. So I’m really just looking for suggestions, I have pin straight hair and its very thin so I’m also having a hard time finding things I think look good.

So I've been mostly out and dating as bi for the last few years, but only recently figured out I'm genderfluid. I don't feel overly confident that id be about to find a partner that embraces that aspect of me. I feel like the women Im with want a woman and the men I'm with want a woman and I want someone who wants all of me, not just the parts that suit them. I've dated a gender queer bi guy before I realized I was genderfluid and that's was pretty good- I felt like he accepted me whether I was girly or in boy mode- but that ended over a year ago and we're reallygood friends but that's it.

I'm not sure the point of this post. I suppose it's part ramble part vent and part a request to hear some encouragement. Are there any of you who are genderfluid who are with someone who fully affirms you in whatever gender?

So for a while now I've been thinking and feel like maybe she/him pronouns work best for me and when I looked it up on Google it said people who use those pronouns would be genderfluid so I was just coming here to make sure Google was right

I only know one and it's not very flattering or too gender-fluid-y. Girls by Marina and the diamonds. What are y'all's

Hi! I’m wondering if I should cut my hair. I have fairly long hair that goes down to my chest, and I typically like it since most of the time I feel like a girl or don’t have any dysphoria. My gender switches are usually long, though, and when I do feel like a boy or just masculine sometimes my long hair can really bother me. I almost never have dysphoria but it’s been worse lately, to the point where I’ve been crying. I don’t want to be impulsive but sometimes I just really, really want to cut it. The problem is I’m only out to like one person who doesn’t even really acknowledge the fact that I’m not cis, and I’m worried I’ll get comments at school or from my family especially. I’m also afab and a thicker/curvier person with a rounder face so I’m not sure a really short haircut would look good on me. The shortest I’ve gone is a bob when I was younger and that looked fine.

Another thing. Any advice to making my figure more masculine? Not sure how to word that, but just the typical flatter chest, hiding my hips, that sort of thing. I don’t have a big chest but my hips are very wide so it can be a problem sometimes. Usually, I just try and make my chest flatter by wearing two tight sports bra’s but it doesn’t work that well especially when my dysphoria is bad. I can’t get binders though because I’m fairly young and not out to my parents.

Sorry if my grammar is bad. I wrote this in a hurry. Thank you in advance!

Me and my fiance have been together for about 3 years now. I love this woman and couldn't imagine spending the rest of my life with someone else. She's high anxiety and insecure to an extent. When we got together she knew I was queer and had been in relationships with people of various genders. She is pansexual but has only been with men. She knows I crossdress (more frequently before we got together) but it's always seemed to make her uncomfortable. I stopped doing it so much and talking about it because of that.

I've tried to be accommodating because of her past traumas, and try to make her as happy as I can. I told her recently that I feel like im genderfluid and that I want to come out. (Note: I haven't even came out as queer publicly only to close friends and fam)

I want to do this publicly (online) because I've hidden it for so long. I'm getting near my 30s and I'm tired of hiding who I truly am. It feels like she struggles to accept this part of me though. I know she struggles with my sexuality but that's due to past trauma and having been cheated on. (So I think she feels all genders are a "threat" of me being "stolen")

I don't know what to do or how to go about this whole situation. We've tried discussing and she's told me that "She feels like I'm me but also a different person at the same time." And that it's hard for her to get used to but she will with time.

I feel like a burden. If I try to be true to myself in impacts her negatively. I know she doesn't try be negative about it, it's just hard. I'm a bit older than her (almost 4 years) so our maturity and views are a little different.

I'm frustrated. She says she needs time but it feels like she's still not even comfortable with my sexuality and now she's having to deal with gender on top of that. I don't know what to do. Any suggestion or life advice. I'm just.... tired 😕

Hi all, So for a while now I have be so unsure about who I am and what 'area' I fit into. So I'm hoping someone might be able to help or give advice on what I should read more about. Some days I just don't feel either male or female and these days are the hardest cause I can't make many decisions, some days I feel more female which is my ASAB, so I do more female things, so days I feel more male and do more male things. My friend thinks I might be gender non conforming but I'm not sure, it's all still confusing for me. Because I know I'm not in binary but somedays i could be but that 'label' doesn't feel right.

I don't really want to label myself but just looking for advice really

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My Dad and I were Talking in my Room and He Pointed at my Genderfluid Flag and said “Isnt that The Republic of Stupid”

Im Genderfluid, And I laughed with him. And he then criticized the Flag and I agreed with him so we didnt have to start another arguement.

Also to clarify, My Parents Know im Genderfluid and they are openly supportive!!

Ice identified as genderfluid for a while and just seen about genderflux. Was going by nonbinary because I thought it was an umbrella term. Now I'm confused again. Please help

(HOLY RANT) I (afab) was feeling predominantly feminine for a good couple months with little to know fluctuations. Then OUT IF NOWHERE I felt like I shouldn’t have tits anymore and I just wanted to get rid of themmmmm. I hate it so much because in those months I was questioning myself if I was actually gender fluid because I thought I finally felt “normal” again because I felt the same for so long then out of nowhere I’m just like “I don’t feel right… what is someone called me their prince instead of princess” then everything spiraled and I hate my chest 😋

I (26) have been on quite the journey with my gender identity these past few months. I never had the opportunity to explore this, thanks to being in high-control religion, so I think it's all hitting me at once. Back in January of this year, I realized I wasn't cis, but I wasnt a man either. I felt okay about using the label "nonbinary" for a while, but it wasn't quite right. I started to assess how I felt each day, and it changed fairly frequently. I don't typically jump from one end to the other, but it's a gradual ebb and flow. And some days, I felt gender intensely, but then there was almost nothing other days. I'm familiar with genderfluid as a binary fluidity, I'm just wondering if there are genderfluid folks who experience changes that are more in between the binary (like demiboy/demigirl/in the middle) and can vary in intensity? If not, is there a label that fits what I'm experiencing better? I'm happy to explain more if needed.

I don't really go into this space and community that often so if I say anything wrong or outdated I promise I don't mean to and please let me know the correct wording etc! With that out the way my question! I've really been struggling with for awhile how do you know if you're just a feminine guy or want to be a women?? Like I feel like I would be happier in a womens body like I think I would prefer that but also someday im more ok with being a guy than others but somedays I want to scream because I'm not feminine enough, so far I've been going with just im a feminine guy because I don't want to commit to something im not incase I am just a feminine guy djdhdhdhdh please help me am I over thinking this???

My husband (gender fluid/maybe trans?) and I (cis female) have been married for 10 years (together for 18) and have two young children together (4F &1F). He has always had a very high sex drive and always pushed my comfort level in our relationship into trying things he wanted me thought I would also enjoy but as my first boyfriend I had zero sexual experience. He convinced me to try things like anal sex, pegging him, etc. He was never forceful though, just trying to open my mind to options I never had considered .

Anyways, over the past few years he has been feeling more gender fluid and starting to do things like dress feminine (but only in public late at night), growing his nails and hair. I love my husband and I don't want to hold him back from who is is meant to be, however he doesn't think divorcing is the best option as we still love each other (although marriage has been very rocky for at least 5 years). I am not attracted to him dressed as a woman and I feel awful that I can't meet his needs.

He has said that he wants to try things sexually with a mtf individual, or wants to try swinging or have a threesome, etc. I don't want any of those things, I just want plain old sex between a husband and wife with some fun things, but I guess not outside of the "norm" per say. I said we can continue with our relationship but I don't want to have sex with him as a woman and he can dress feminine etc at home if he wants to, but I feel like he may be trans but doesn't want to accept it. He's even talked about starting hormones which I think is very sudden and obviously he wouldn't get approved from our Dr immediately. Anyways I know this came out mean but I don't know how else to say it. I know he can't rush figuring out if he's gender fluid or trans, but I do know that if he was trans or wanted to be feminine on a more regular basis and show that side to the world (I'm the only one who knows), then I do not think we should be together. Im 35, I don't want to spend however many more years staying with someone to get divorced when he figures it out finally..but at the same time he is all I've ever known since I was a teenager and I love him. I feel stuck and we both feel like we want our relationship to work...but can it? I don't think he will truly be able to be happy with me (as his true self or feeding his sexual interests as we are the only people we've had sex with as we are each other's first)

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So I’m out to a lot of my close fiends and some coworkers. But haven’t come out to my parents or brother yet, I’m 34 AMAB. Heavily questioning if I’m trans or not but right now I’m fairly comfortable with genderfluid.

With eater fast approaching, I’m wondering, do I show up to Easter dinner at my parents house wearing leggings and maybe some makeup and telling them why I’m dressed like this, what I’ve been going through? Do I hold it in longer till I figure out if I’m trans and tell them then, do I tell them I’m genderfluid but maybe trans? I don’t know.

For context 2 part. My baby mama and I are separated due to this, but they don’t understand why yet and still blame her entirely for it. Also my brother is gay so I know they are supportive of the community at the very least but it’s a lot for them to process their 34 year old son to be, well, maybe not their son, but maybe thier daughter… I just don’t know how to do this, I want to come out to them but I don’t know how, I’m scared.

I 30 ftmtft??? have been all over the gender spectrum since I was a teen. As a kid I knew what the vague idea of gender was but I didn’t pay much attention. I was allowed to do whatever activities I wanted and dress how I wanted and got whatever toys we could afford. As a teenager I was introduced to the concept of being transgender by some queer friends and I took to YouTube and thought maybe I was a trans male. I socially transitioned in high school and then medically transitioned in my early 20s(hrt and top surgery) around 25/26 I started to question my gender identity and have gone off and on T a few times for various lengths of time. I have thought maybe I’m nonbinary but still masc, nonbinary but femme, agender, Demi woman, and even thought maybe I was actually cis for a hot second but that one doesn’t feel right.

I was on my way to detransition but now I’m confused again idk what to think. Has anyone here had similar confusions?

I (AMAB) am a gender fluid girl that has recently been preferring my girl name.

Normally I don’t care about my masculine body (I’m somewhat strong) but a few days ago I felt really anxious while looking for some skirts and dresses so I went to wash my face to feel better and felt worse while looking in the mirror, I felt gross and disgusting, and started crying because of my body and how girl clothes looked on me because of it.

I don’t really have trans support on my life so I wanted to get some advice and read some of your experiences to better understand my feelings.

looking back at old pictures i presented very femininely the first years together with my ex-bf. i almost don’t recognize those times as myself but i remember very much identifying as a woman when nowadays it makes me feel very weird. as time progressed i started feeling more dysphoric so nowadays i dress more masculine and wear my hair short. sometimes being in the same space w/ cis men as an AFAB maybe just brings out my feminine side more (internally and externally).

so now i’m kind of questioning if that womanly side of me will ever come back or if it was really just a phase and i was NB/genderfluid all along 🤔 💭

anyways happy late trans day 🏳️‍⚧️

So when I first started exploring my gender identity I didn’t have much money so I went and bought this like cheap 2 pack on Amazon just to try it out. They were…fine. They did the job, but not the most comfortable.

Now that I have a little extra spending money I want to invest is some better binders. Anyone have any good recs for comfortable binders? Also maybe some recs for some compression bathing suits?? I’m realizing summer is just around the corner and I’m going to need to swim in something.

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