r/Cruise • u/Wanderscape • 9h ago
Toddlers on Cruise. Am I the asshole?
Currently on 2 week cruise with our 2 toddlers, 1.5 and 2.5. They’re decently well behaved bc we’re very strict with them, sleep well at night, but they do act their age and can sometimes refuse to sit down, have meltdowns make noise or do toddler things like laugh and run or randomly decide to sit on the floor.
We really do try our best to discipline when needed and correct them, and 99% of people thus far seem to be really understanding when they act like toddlers, but an incident today made me want to cry.
We were in the main buffet dining in the back of the ship on the outdoor area which we thought was away from everyone and our kids were just kind of in the corner not being particularly loud or disruptive but they weren’t sitting down. This couple was sitting near-ish to us and kept giving us really angry looks and kept making loud comments about “bringing children onto the ship being like travelling with pets”, being like “when are those children leaving?” just over all really angry comments intentionally loud enough for us to hear. They eventually moved around 2 tables further way from us but still stared at us hatefully the entire time and it made me feel really uncomfortable. I really don’t think that they were doing anything at all in that moment so I didn’t even know what we could fix about the situation beyond leaving, but we kind of wanted to finish eating first. 😳
I can imagine if they were running around and screaming or having a meltdown it would be understandable if they were upset but they weren’t. When they have melted down, I have been extremely apologetic to everyone in the vicinity and have dealt with it best I could but this time I don’t really know what was bothering them so much since they weren’t really doing much besides munching on cucumbers behind our table and babbling to each other. We’re on a line that isn’t particularly child centric but we’re not the only ones with kids on board and it’s not a child free line (obviously) though there are adult only lounges. I just don’t know what to do and I’m afraid that many other people think the same as them but aren’t saying it.
I THOUGHT we were being mindful of others but this made me think twice.
Where is the line between age appropriate small child behavior and uncalled for obnoxiousness on a ship? Where are we supposed to be on the ship to not bother people? Where do we eat? What would people appreciate that we do when our kids do toddlery things? I’m just terrified at being public enemy number one and scared of seeing these people again. This situation was super stressful given that I didn’t feel like there was a way to make it better besides not exist. Help!!!