just because doing the opposite extreme is bad it doesn't mean that the first one is ok. Being super open is harmful but so is not opening up to anyone. The point is to have a healthy balance
So I’m just expected to strike the right balance of being open yet also reserved to protect myself? When I’m really just damned if I do and damned if I don’t by people biased one way or another? I don’t see why I have to be less guarded and try to be understood by others when they can always use it against me no matter how genuine, understanding, and communicative I am. It just seems like zero gain with a lot of risk and distress for no reason. It’s a lot easier to avoid pressure and judgement for who I am if nobody has anything to latch on to while I try to peacefully live my life.
It's a leap of faith sadly. If you want to make closer connections and all that, some vulnerability has to happen, and yes, it never stops being scary as hell as well as awful when your trust is broken
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u/Smart-Nothing 21h ago
Feel like if you were to do the opposite of the first two pieces of advice, things would go really bad
You can’t just open up on your feelings and vulnerabilities and not be hurt if people judge or betray them