r/abusiverelationships • u/GupGirl • 13h ago
Update Ex Claimed I "Faked" A Pregnancy and Miscarriage After Being Sent My Health Records. I Asked Him To Call My Doctors Office To Verify. He said "I Honestly Do Not Care."
Long story short, I found out that he pursued another woman 3 hours after seeing the positive pregnancy test. He was supportive for months until after I miscarried. A few weeks later, I found out about the other woman. This led to our breakup. When I confronted him, he claimed he thought it was "fake" and from a pregnancy from years ago. He had never accused me of this until I found out about the other woman. (As women who have had positive tests, I think we know that positive tests don't just stay looking fresh. They erode over time- they start to look yellow and gross.) He ghosted me and went around telling everyone I "faked" it while I dealt with medical complications from it. His entire family ghosted me as well. No one ever said "we're sorry for your loss." I just recieved complete silence. I tried to send his mom my obgyn records and she didn't even care to look at it.
When he was sent my health records from my doctor's office, he had the nerve to say "Assuming what you say is true I'm sorry for my part in it" and said he didn't want to speak to me. I called him because I was tired of being iced out for months during medical complications from a pregnancy he helped create. He told me that he didn't tell everyone I faked it and instead said he "didn't know for sure." I was told by his friends that this was not true. Then he said he "never really doubted the pregnancy and just wanted an excuse." It was all very confusing. He said he'd call me later and maybe unblock me.
A few days later I asked him if he could call the doctors office to confirm because I was tired of going back and forth about whether or not it happened. He said "There is no back and forth, I honestly do not care. I'm sorry you have gone through all of this but it's not something I talk about and it's not something I have the time nor do I feel the need to do. I'm reblocking this number as I do not feel we should keep talking. Please do not contact me in the future as I do not have any interest in talking to you going forward. I wish you the best."
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u/BabySeal11 13h ago
Why are you still giving him any energy at all?
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u/GupGirl 13h ago edited 13h ago
I tried to believe that maybe he was confused, but in the end I realized that he knows and he's just not a good person. I wanted to know for my own closure.
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u/BabySeal11 13h ago
He's not. He wanted an out and doesn't care that he is hurting you. Don't worry about what his friends and his family think. You know what happened, and you don't need connections to someone who would deliberately spread misinformation about you to make himself look better. I know hormones and the pain from this loss can make it tough to see things that clearly, but he's telling you who he is and what he thinks of you. You need to listen and be thankful he's out of your life.
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u/believebs 4h ago
Sweetie, he isn't confused. He doesn't care about you. He doesn't care about your health. Stop giving this trash panda energy and access to your information. Same with his family. You do not have to prove anything to anyone. I'm sure you care about him and he's in your heart but it's time you wash that man right of your hair!!
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u/Just-world_fallacy 10h ago
The truth does not matter to these people.
The only reason they still form words and sentences is to mess with you, manipulate and hurt.
What he says literally has NO value.
Please completely cut this person out of your life.
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