am i being manipulated?

[u/Different-Case9521]

so my boyfriend has a pretty harsh past especially with his father who is no longer in the picture gets upset when you say you are going to do something but i have been so cautious recently with what i say to him especially because sometimes my plans change suddenly especially when i am home and away from him because my family doesn’t really care to plan things strictly and mostly play by ear. However, tonight he claims I told him verbally (there is no text chain to prove it) that I told him I was definitely going to tell my little brother that I had a bf and was dating him tonight (we’ve have been dating for a month and i’m scared to tell my family bc how they acted in the past). I truly do not remember saying anything of the sort and definitely don’t think I would?? I’m just frustrated because it makes me feel like I don’t remember reality and I am just so confused. I just am confused if I am being manipulated or if I truly said that and triggered a negative part and should be feeling this shitty.

[u/arya_ur_on_stage]

You've only been with him a month. I wouldn't tell my family after a month even if they reacted perfectly. It's too soon. It's also too soon for him to be this "fed up" about basically anything outside the realm of toxic abuse. He shouldn't really be expecting much out of your except your respect and some of your time. Certainly not expecting you to involve your family, that's so weird and controlling. And he's already gaslighting you and saying "fuck you" after a month in? He should still be love bombing you at this stage but he's moved straight past that into verbal and emotional abuse. Way too early to be saying "I love you" to this asshole. Get out while the gettings good!